FabSwingers.com forum: First meet at a swinging club

By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?

To single women?

Do you meet single men or couples for the first time in a house or hotel?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I only meet at clubs... x if someone didn't want to come to a club.. they aren't going to even sat hi to me

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

I saw someone's profile once that said we only arrange first meets at clubs.

Therefore, if you don't turn up we can still have a fun night.

And I thought that was quite a good point TBH.

We have met for socials in a pub, we have also met at a club and also gone straight to someone's house.

So no hard and fast rule for us as a couple.

The sad fact is a meet can turn nasty at any point couldn't it. But by meeting in a public place to start with I would say that is better somewhat as a single woman.

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I only meet at clubs... x if someone didn't want to come to a club.. they aren't going to even sat hi to me "

Thanks for sharing xx

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By *amLaraCroft OP Woman
over a year ago

London

"I saw someone's profile once that said we only arrange first meets at clubs.

Therefore, if you don't turn up we can still have a fun night.

And I thought that was quite a good point TBH.

We have met for socials in a pub, we have also met at a club and also gone straight to someone's house.

So no hard and fast rule for us as a couple.

The sad fact is a meet can turn nasty at any point couldn't it. But by meeting in a public place to start with I would say that is better somewhat as a single woman. "

Thanks for being supportive and understanding of my needs as a single woman xx

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

If it makes the person you meet feel safer then, yes of course.

Any meet, all the people involved should feel safe anf comfortable

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

My view as a single male is that if it would make a woman/couple more comfortable to meet in a club then that’s absolutely fine. Everyone’s different but like having clear pics and a detailed profile, a little effort goes a long way.

Social meets are a great way of breaking the ice , building some trust and making sure there is an attraction. A club is as good a place for that as they’re usually well staffed should you not be feeling it or feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet in clubs. Mainly for safety reasons but also I enjoy it more than being at home

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?"

Yes 100% it’s a very reasonable thing to request and we have done this ourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?

To single women?

Do you meet single men or couples for the first time in a house or hotel?"
Yes have done several times.

If it didn't go to plan you might have other options in the club too.

It is a very good meeting place, can used as a cheap hotel too as many have private lockable rooms.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

I have met guys at clubs. On one occasion it didn’t work out as he really didn’t look like his photos and was much older than he stated on his profile, so it was very awkward… I said I’d do my own thing but he kept following me.

Since then I stick to having a social at a very public place.

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By *opilotMan
over a year ago

Heathrow

Absolutely I would meet at a club. You have to put your safety first. And if they didn't turn up, then your at a club and can chat to other people

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Our only hesitation of arranging meets at clubs is we want to be free to do our own thing and not have a 3rd all night. As a single guy though, I'd be totally up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually club for first meets now. This way when I end up arranging something with a timewaster, I'm not all dressed up with no one to blow!

Very rare I'll meet outside a club first - they'd have to have veris that made them out to be Baron Von Goodinbed.

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn garden city

We would happily meet a single woman at a club. Assuming we had seen recent pics, and had chatted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Usually club for first meets now. This way when I end up arranging something with a timewaster, I'm not all dressed up with no one to blow!

Very rare I'll meet outside a club first - they'd have to have veris that made them out to be Baron Von Goodinbed."
Good phrases

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Yes it can be the ideal place. Safe with a good atmosphere and the environment to go further if both want to but also easy going with drinks and chat if there’s no attraction.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I did a first meet at a club a few years ago and was glad I did as it went very well. I think it's a good idea because if you decide you like each other, then great you can just go for it there and then, and if you don't, you can separate and enjoy the club and maybe get lucky with someone else!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy a club can be a good option for a meet. There's no obligation on either side and it can be purely social but if you hit it off then there is the option to have some fun in a private room. Good luck whatever you decide to do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been catfished 1 to many times, so for me its club meets only as plenty of people to mingle with and still have a good time if it doesn't go well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes. Part of me wishes women bring their F friends too

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Club meets only for me too. My night is never wasted/nor let down either way as I can still enjoy the night. I feel safe and also don’t feel pressured. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?

To single women?

Do you meet single men or couples for the first time in a house or hotel?"

We think meeting in clubs is less pressured for everybody and it’s our preference.

There is the mix of social and eroticism, and if you don’t click, everybody can enjoy a night out in that atmosphere, whether them find others who you click with, or whether you don’t. And it’s a very neutral environment, especially for the single lady x

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
over a year ago

here and there

We as a couple tend to meet at clubs dlfor a first meet ,that way if there's no connection/spark then the nights not wasted .everyone involved can relax and not have to worrie about who thay might be meeting

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?

To single women?

Do you meet single men or couples for the first time in a house or hotel?"
I would consider it but depends what club as to how expensive it would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is to single men and couples ?

If a single woman want to meet at a swinging club for safety reasons and feels less risky would you have your first meet at a swinging club?

To single women?

Do you meet single men or couples for the first time in a house or hotel?"

I'm yet to try a club however I'm extremely curious I just don't have the bottle to go alone and get rejected and as a man I accept the fact that my intentions for going may be shattered! But for you I think it's a good idea from what I see on here people make friends in clubs so at the very least you could do that and feel a lot better about revisiting thus taking the step to meet in other surroundings x

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

As a couple we try to encourage all our first meets (and subsequent meets actually, but especially first ones) to be at clubs.

It's a neutral location, all facilities available with the right vibe to get the juices flowing. There are, in our view, no downsides other than arguably cost and travel time. But the former is modest and the latter is a factor if they host anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally feel safer in clubs, and I can understand why others would too.

If people say no, then you just aren’t compatible. Do what’s right for you, no one else

Mrs

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

It's a great idea to be honest, for lots of reasons. As the female part of the couple talking here, if we ever split I would only ever meet in clubs.

Safety first my lovely xx

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We tend to meet at clubs, it’s a great extension to our relationship and a fun safe place for L to explore her bi side.

I (P) do tend to meet in public places to explore D/s dynamics before possibly taking the next step

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