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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

New to all this where do I start? Messaged about 50 people with no reply’s, not sure where I’m going wrong ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post the message you sent all of them and I will assess it for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Get ya dick out hahaha am only joking. Just a general message like what else am I supposed to say

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"New to all this where do I start? Messaged about 50 people with no reply’s, not sure where I’m going wrong ??"

Messaging only the people who genuinely interest you and that you match the stated preferences of would likely yield better results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get ya dick out hahaha am only joking. Just a general message like what else am I supposed to say"

Generic cut and paste messages are not going to grab people's attention. Many women on here will receive dozens of those a day.

Have a look at their profile, pick something out and make it more personal. People appreciate a bit of effort.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Message people your actually interested in, make the message interesting and show you've read their profile.

Maybe add a little more to yours it's difficult to tell anything about you.

Mrs

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"New to all this where do I start? Messaged about 50 people with no reply’s, not sure where I’m going wrong ??"

I haven't sent 100 messages in total in 6 years here and you've sent 50 in 4 weeks.

Be a sniper not a tail gunner.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Well, your status certainly isn't going to help OP, that's a great way to alienate all women regardless of their size.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Well, your status certainly isn't going to help OP, that's a great way to alienate all women regardless of their size."

Also contradicts your bio of meeting any size...

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

"New to all this where do I start? Messaged about 50 people with no reply’s, not sure where I’m going wrong ??"

Probably many people that you messaged, get similiar messages from other people or they get a huge amount of messages.

Try to read the profile first, see if anything catches your eye that you guys would be a good match.

50 messages in few weeks seems excessive.

Maybe change your profile a little bit, add more info, pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 in a week?? You need to up you game, cut n paste to everyone at least once an hour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing I would suggest that you're 'getting wrong' is to do with your expectations.

Most of those who you message will check out your profile before they even think about opening any message you may have sent them, so make sure it is the best it can possibly be.

Next, you have to consider that those you are messaging might simply just not fancy you.

Just because this is a swinging site, doesn't mean that everyone shags everyone or that there are hundreds of women gagging for it that they'll sleep with anyone who asks.

In fact single men outnumber women by over 100 to 1 so they can afford to be choosy (the women, not the men)

No one is obliged to reply to your messages.

Think of all those takeaway menus that come through your door. You didn't ask for them. I'm pretty sure you don't phone them all to say 'no thanks'

You've been here just 4 weeks.

Most men can wait over a year to get their first meet. There are some people who have been on here for a few years that still haven't managed to find someone willing to meet them. That's just how it is.

Oh, and you might want to have a look at that status you've posted. Try reading through it again and realise what you're saying to people.

Surely you're aware of how sensitive some women are about their bodies. That's bound to be putting off a lot of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, your status certainly isn't going to help OP, that's a great way to alienate all women regardless of their size.

Also contradicts your bio of meeting any size..."

Agree with this as well as the serial killer fascination

lol

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Delete your account

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your status you have put up has instantly put me off.

No need to put others down it’s not going to get you anywhere.

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By *es_salopesCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Your profile speaks volumes about exactly why people would never want to meet you.

Serial killers/1 aweful mirror selfie/welding is life/Liverpool FC (any sports team) is life/aweful status/copy and past messages

All are red flags and are probably very useful to make sure no one goes near you at all

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