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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Well me and my ex as split up now for a while dont think we will ever be bf/gf again. But she still hot for me in bedroom. And when it comes to sex and everything she's great, But when it comes to a cuddle or anything like that she does not want nothing to do with it. And I don't get or understand why ? Any ideas on this and why ? I have no ideas. And I don't want to ask and make her mad as I love all the things we still do in the bed room and don't want to mess that part up. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like she's trying to keep the boundaries between sex and a relationship. Seeing as you were recently together, she wants you to know its just sex, but nothing more.

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By *iverpoolcpl1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Sounds like for her it is just about the sex and she doesn't want to confuse thing by cuddling and being intermit

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

We still sleep together aswell sometimes. And its a good fcuk and then sleep. And I just want to cuddle her so badly. Love cuddles after good fcuk think it's good. So maybe your right and she just wants sex and nothing else then. I guess I'm lucky that's she wants that still and not cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im not a touchy feely person either, i cant be doing with being touched, cuddled or holding hands etc

Not everyone likes to be held or touched

when im having sex i love being touched obviously lol but soon as ive finished leave me alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look quite young from your pic so I would say that if you want a new long term relationship then it is time for you to move on. If she won't cuddle then she doesn't want to get close and is now a fuck buddie. All depends what you are looking for

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Not ready for another relationship ATM. And that's why I'm on here. Just after fun ATM and to meet new people and make friends. If she knew I was on here it be an end to the bed room fun probs lol and ye I'm 22 . So I just need to get out of thinking about cuddling her. Any ideas how to get out of that lol ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hug a pillow instead? :D

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Hug a pillow instead? :D "

Haha good thinking or could buy a big teddy and hug that haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you want long term. For casual sex keep on doing what you are doing and get a teddy bear. If you want a long term relationship and all that that entails then maybe take some time out and then go looking for the right girl. I don't think you can do the two together though.

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

No I would never be able to have a gf and still go see my ex for fun. That's wrong and I no some men that probably would do that but not me. I'm a nice guy just not looking for a relationship ATM tho. But I see and understand what you are saying like. Thanks,teddy it is lol aint that silly tho haha ? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seem to have come to a good decision.

Hope it works out for you.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Just my personal opinion but, for me, cuddling is a bonding thing. If me and Vince split up and carried on as fuck-buddies, I wouldn't be able to cuddle as that's where I feel I would get emotionally attached again...

Everyone's different but maybe that could be the case?

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having a cuddle after sex is def more than just fuck buddies and seems like she doesn't want that at the moment. Are you not making it harder on yourself for when you do want to move on?? It will be very hard to be able to want another relationship while your still so close to your ex.

I say give her up and find someone else to have the explosive sex with that likes to cuddle after..

Happy searching!!

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Having a cuddle after sex is def more than just fuck buddies and seems like she doesn't want that at the moment. Are you not making it harder on yourself for when you do want to move on?? It will be very hard to be able to want another relationship while your still so close to your ex.

I say give her up and find someone else to have the explosive sex with that likes to cuddle after..

Happy searching!! "

I'm not sure tbh I never thought about it that way. I just dunno I guess it will be hard. She older than me aswell and said she dont want another man or anything just wants sex

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By *emon Dodger OP   Man
over a year ago

Blackburn


"Just my personal opinion but, for me, cuddling is a bonding thing. If me and Vince split up and carried on as fuck-buddies, I wouldn't be able to cuddle as that's where I feel I would get emotionally attached again...

Everyone's different but maybe that could be the case?

- Amy. x"

Ye I think you right aswell. And I just need to get over the cuddling part. I guess I love cuddles lol. We snuggle sometimes watching a film but that's just like laying close next to each other not same as full on cuddle tho. I just need to stop thinking about cuddles i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having a cuddle after sex is def more than just fuck buddies and seems like she doesn't want that at the moment. Are you not making it harder on yourself for when you do want to move on?? It will be very hard to be able to want another relationship while your still so close to your ex.

I say give her up and find someone else to have the explosive sex with that likes to cuddle after..

Happy searching!!

I'm not sure tbh I never thought about it that way. I just dunno I guess it will be hard. She older than me aswell and said she dont want another man or anything just wants sex "

Can you really see a way that you can move on and find someone else when you still have her calling on a regular basis. Been there done that. Better to cut the cord than, in a way, holding onto hope of something more. Even though you might not think that's what your doin..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing, cuddling and holding hands both in the bedroom and outside but some people really do not like it at all. However as you and she are no longer in a relationship but still having sex, maybe she is keeping you at arms length?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If I was her this would be my way if signalling to you that our relationship was over in all but a sexual sense but you already know that.....don't you?

You have two choices I think, carry on as you are with your sexual needs being fulfilled but wishing for more or cut loose and look for the whole package. Whatever you decide good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exes as fuckbuddies is rarely a good idea.

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