FabSwingers.com forum: Questions for couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey, we're new as a couple so have some questions....

1. We've noticed about 85% of couple profiles only actually have pics of women on them, maybe with a single dick pic if you're lucky lol. Due to this, how on earth do you find couples to speak to you may both be interested in? Atm I'm (her) not really seeing how we can find a couple we're both interested in if there are no men on profiles.

2. Following on from Q1, do people actually find a couple they're both interested in that are both interested in them (the statistical possibility of this seems slim) or is it more that one of you finds someone and the other one just goes along with it?

Still working out the logistics of how it all works. I'd prefer to meet at clubs but it seems people often already know who they're meeting before hand.

Thank you for any tips!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what is being looked for. We only have pictures on my wife on our profile as I (the male) am not looking to have sex with other females/couples so what would be the point of adding pictures of me?

Couples do find other couples all the time on here but when you have four different people then it is always going to be harder to please four than three. Just a question of finding the right ones.

People are all different in what they want. That is the beauty of it.

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By *bflirtyCouple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

We have face pice of both of us as it means people won't even make contact if we aren't both their cup of tea which we think is better than facing a "no thanks" after sending a face pic of me after being tempted by the pics of Alicia. We ask in our profile that anyone messaging sends face pics or we probably won't reply. We've been upfront so let's play fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on what is being looked for. We only have pictures on my wife on our profile as I (the male) am not looking to have sex with other females/couples so what would be the point of adding pictures of me?

Couples do find other couples all the time on here but when you have four different people then it is always going to be harder to please four than three. Just a question of finding the right ones.

People are all different in what they want. That is the beauty of it."

Ah, well I thought having a couples profile meant you were a couple looking to play with someone together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as we are a couple and I will always be with my wife if she meets anyone what would category are we, couple or single?

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By *andotherjCouple
over a year ago

wetherby

Finding a four way match is, as you say, more unlikely than a pair of singletons matching, however it does happen

The approach we adopt is to tightly specify what we want and set up the filters not to accept what we don't want.(males etc). If you do that you will find lots of people disqualify themselves leaving you with a greater density of hits.

It works for us!

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Patience is key.

… or just mainly meet singles, that’s our approach.

If the right couple come along we’re all for it

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

We haven't met anyone apart from socially but we have pics of both of us partly to give people an idea of what we both look like but partly because we just like taking pics together and don't give much thought to how others view them.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It's frustrating as a straight woman who is half a couple .we have plenty of us both on ours.

I get it if only the woman plays ,but when they both seek to play with women or couples it makes sense that there's pics of them both .

On our joint profile I won't engage with profiles full of just the woman anymore.We have in the past and then I finally see the male there's been no attraction to him.

Of course people can put whatever they choose on their profile before anyone starts that.However many couples asking how to meet ladies on forum often have just the woman in their pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a couple who play with couples and singles.

We have a few pics of Mr on here but mostly me (Mrs) as … well, lingerie is nicer to photograph and I’m probably a bit happier in front of the camera than he is. No reason for that, he’s super sexy, just for some reason we tend to take more pics of me.

We probably meet more single gents through here than couples even though our preference is couples. I don’t think pics alone can tell you what you need to know in the couple dynamic so we tend to meet couples in clubs. Totally agree that it’s difficult to find a four way where everyone clicks and everyone is attracted to who they might be playing with.

What I will say is that two of my most favourite men from couples that we have met absolutely would not have been flagging on here as someone I would be interested in from pics alone. So these days we tend to go with the flow!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We'd say only about 1 in 10 couples that we've chatted to has worked out where we all fancy each other. It's probably the most frustrating thing about being on here.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Hey, we're new as a couple so have some questions....

Still working out the logistics of how it all works. I'd prefer to meet at clubs but it seems people often already know who they're meeting before hand.

Thank you for any tips!

Clubs do seem to be easier,as you can see everyone & chat together

We've kept our single profiles as most couples seem to want some fem to fem play & I'm straight.Then as others say getting 4 way attraction isn't easy at all.

If my partner and I want to meet together we'll use clubs .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, well I thought having a couples profile meant you were a couple looking to play with someone together. "

Not necessarily, you’ll find there are many different couple dynamics on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a mix of both as to us finding both people in another couple attractive is important, we won't even consider profiles that only have the female in them, maybe a bit harsh but it's something we use as a filter.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Depends on what someone is looking for personally we don't have any dick pics either public or private as it's not overly relevant as if we are interested and they are interested then we can see about the relevant real life seeing of it lol. We do have a couple of pics of hubby but it's usually him taking the pics lol and we always insist on a social first to see if there is any chemistry for us both as we won't take one for the team as some call it. Either we are both happy and eager to play or neither does

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