FabSwingers.com forum: Nasty messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time, I'm not sure what the motive is but it's a sad thing to actively go out your way to upset someone. Most of the time it just rolls off my back but if I'm having a bad day, that shit hurts. All we can do is report and block I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Happens all the time, I'm not sure what the motive is but it's a sad thing to actively go out your way to upset someone. Most of the time it just rolls off my back but if I'm having a bad day, that shit hurts. All we can do is report and block I guess."

Yeah exactly.. don’t let them upset you though it’s just their sad insecurity’s coming out.

I actually kind of Pitty them that they have to stoop so low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before anyone asks. It wasn’t me

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

It’s a safe way of being a complete coward and wanting to have their moment of coward power with no threat of a comeback.

Some complete idiots on here but some great people too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone asks. It wasn’t me "

Why is that something you are prone to doing lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s a safe way of being a complete coward and wanting to have their moment of coward power with no threat of a comeback.

Some complete idiots on here but some great people too. "

That’s very true…well at least I can say I’ve brightened his morning up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before anyone asks. It wasn’t me

Why is that something you are prone to doing lol

yes during my free time, I send myself nasty messages to remind me that I drive a Kia ceed

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

I tend to think that people who do this are very unhappy and are desperate to get rid of their feelings.I also think it must be awful to be them.I don't like the behaviour of people like this but I do try to understand them a little.

Mike

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Before anyone asks. It wasn’t me

Why is that something you are prone to doing lol

yes during my free time, I send myself nasty messages to remind me that I drive a Kia ceed "

I have absolutely no idea if that’s a good or rubbish car

but shame on you for sending yourself nasty messages

I will stick up for you and say be nice and leave him alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I tend to think that people who do this are very unhappy and are desperate to get rid of their feelings.I also think it must be awful to be them.I don't like the behaviour of people like this but I do try to understand them a little.

Mike"

I completely agree, he is more to be pitied he is just a sad pathetic man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send me their profile and I will have a little chat with them….if they don’t like what I say then I will organise a meeting with them (no name calling allowed…fisticuffs only)…£2 pay per view…all proceeds go to the good people of UKRAINE x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Haha now that’s a good way to make money for a charity

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By *etterdays2021Man
over a year ago

PETERBOROUGH

Some people here are proper shallow and when they don't get their way get nasty...at least they show them true selds befire meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some people here are proper shallow and when they don't get their way get nasty...at least they show them true selds befire meeting "

The thing is we didn’t reject them lol it was a random message of someone who stays 500 miles from us. Maybe just doesn’t like Scottish people

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South East

Sounds like a pathetic twat, who probably deserves some pity. (But not a lot). I did wonder if it was someone who thought they recognised you? But probably difficult from your pics. ( very hot btw)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like a pathetic twat, who probably deserves some pity. (But not a lot). I did wonder if it was someone who thought they recognised you? But probably difficult from your pics. ( very hot btw)"

No my face pics are private so don’t know how he’d know I was ugly

thank you

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

It seems to be a go to for a lot of people when we knock them back. Some are fine with it, others it seems to flick a switch in them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems to be a go to for a lot of people when we knock them back. Some are fine with it, others it seems to flick a switch in them"

Yeah but I could understand if we spoke and I was rude to him but he just randomly sent it. He must have seen our profile and though right I’m going to give it to them

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South East

"Sounds like a pathetic twat, who probably deserves some pity. (But not a lot). I did wonder if it was someone who thought they recognised you? But probably difficult from your pics. ( very hot btw)

No my face pics are private so don’t know how he’d know I was ugly

thank you

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. Lol. I certainly didn’t mean to imply that. I can’t see your face but I bet it’s gorgeous!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Just imagine him.....

Brian is 40 (lives with his mum), unemployed and sits at his pc wearing y fronts that he's had on for a month and with a pair of her dirty knickers on his head.

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

I think it just says a lot about them. They probably just have that message saved and send it out to lots of people at the same time. Report them and move on.

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, thete are some really unpleasant people in this world. Sad, pathetic individuals, leading disapointing lives, envious of others whose only way of making themselves feel better is to put other people down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just imagine him.....

Brian is 40 (lives with his mum), unemployed and sits at his pc wearing y fronts that he's had on for a month and with a pair of her dirty knickers on his head.

That’s definitely the image I have of him now

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Yes it's rare but it happens and this is an added bonus of having a single account to, so they do get a reply...mwaahahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it just says a lot about them. They probably just have that message saved and send it out to lots of people at the same time. Report them and move on.

Red "

Exactly… done and done.. just having a giggle about it

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Yes it happens

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes it's rare but it happens and this is an added bonus of having a single account to, so they do get a reply...mwaahahaha

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That’s a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have noticed a real spike in abusive messages recently. It happens at least daily now.

We are one of those couples where if the message is well thought out enough, but it’s a no, we’ll reply politely and tell them ‘thanks for a lovely message, but not for us.’

Just yesterday evening one such guy became abusive, with real targeted hateful comments. We blocked and reported, and he started again from another profile, moments later with vile shit that Pumpkin is already insecure about. It completely ruined the social she was heading out for.

Does anyone know if anything actually happens to profiles that are reported?

I know it’s petty, but after having just dealt with cyber bullying incidents at work, I felt like making another profile, arranging meets with some of these people (it’s not just guys), and taking a bat.

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully not had a bad word directed towards me

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"Just imagine him.....

Brian is 40 (lives with his mum), unemployed and sits at his pc wearing y fronts that he's had on for a month and with a pair of her dirty knickers on his head.

You have a vivid imagination! Think there are a fair few Brian’s out there!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have noticed a real spike in abusive messages recently. It happens at least daily now.

We are one of those couples where if the message is well thought out enough, but it’s a no, we’ll reply politely and tell them ‘thanks for a lovely message, but not for us.’

Does anyone know if anything actually happens to profiles that are reported?

B x

I was thinking the same does reporting actually do anything?

I’m really sorry this has happened to you both but please don’t let it ruin your fun.

Obviously they must have liked you or they wouldn’t have messaged in the fist place. Just sounds like they can’t take rejection very well and make themself’s feel better by putting others down.

I’d just look at it like they are more to be pitied . Your pics and profile are lovely so they’re talking rubbish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them? "
It’s the same type of people who like to vandalise, trying to fathom is simply a waste of time. Rather than block which gives them a buzz, why not a form of shadow ban where you can divert their messages into a different folder that admin can read. Let them continue to write their crap, let them get more annoyed you’re not replying and unaffected.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

It sounds like a very conflicted individual - attracted to you, but overwhelmingly guilty at the same time.

Probably a Catholic priest...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It sounds like a very conflicted individual - attracted to you, but overwhelmingly guilty at the same time.

Probably a Catholic priest..."

Haha luckily for us we aren’t religious then

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them? It’s the same type of people who like to vandalise, trying to fathom is simply a waste of time. Rather than block which gives them a buzz, why not a form of shadow ban where you can divert their messages into a different folder that admin can read. Let them continue to write their crap, let them get more annoyed you’re not replying and unaffected."
that be be great if you could do that

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've had a few of them over the years and if just makes me laugh that someone is that sad and pathetic that they have to do that. At the beginning it use to upset me a bit but now I couldn't give a fiddler's about it.Why would I care what some random twat who I would never meet anyhow thinks of me . They are just sad individuals who are cowards at the end of the day,the same as those who you say no thanks to and they get abusive back calling you all sort of names but yet they forget they messaged first trying to get you to meet them . And I have to say it is not always men who do it women and couples can be just as bad with abusive messages on here I have found.

It is a rarity that it happens to me mostly due to very tight filters. But they just get deleted, usually unread when I see anything like abuse on a message now .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a few of them over the years and if just makes me laugh that someone is that sad and pathetic that they have to do that. At the beginning it use to upset me a bit but now I couldn't give a fiddler's about it.Why would I care what some random twat who I would never meet anyhow thinks of me . They are just sad individuals who are cowards at the end of the day,the same as those who you say no thanks to and they get abusive back calling you all sort of names but yet they forget they messaged first trying to get you to meet them . And I have to say it is not always men who do it women and couples can be just as bad with abusive messages on here I have found.

It is a rarity that it happens to me mostly due to very tight filters. But they just get deleted, usually unread when I see anything like abuse on a message now ."

Couldn’t agree more.

We’ve just updated our filters so hopefully will help. But if not then if that’s how they want to spend their Saturday morning let them get their wee thrill for the day lol

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

I blame it on vegetables shortage and cost of living so they have all go crazy

But unfortunately the reality is to mai people what we do is not the norm.

Society has been programmed to think it should be a one to one relationship so we get judged to be all sinners.

Or it could be just some internet troll in his 40's single and living at home with parents still, wanking off over pictures on here and getting frustrated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was probably some teenager getting his kicks.

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By *oupleformeetCouple
over a year ago

london

There is a difference. No one wants Nasty messages but we get off on men telling Sarah what they really think and wanna do. Anyone else the same?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I blame it on vegetables shortage and cost of living so they have all go crazy

But unfortunately the reality is to mai people what we do is not the norm.

Society has been programmed to think it should be a one to one relationship so we get judged to be all sinners.

Or it could be just some internet troll in his 40's single and living at home with parents still, wanking off over pictures on here and getting frustrated

Haha very true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a difference. No one wants Nasty messages but we get off on men telling Sarah what they really think and wanna do. Anyone else the same? "

That’s a completely different subject all together lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It was probably some teenager getting his kicks. "

Definitely someone getting their kicks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a difference. No one wants Nasty messages but we get off on men telling Sarah what they really think and wanna do. Anyone else the same?

That’s a completely different subject all together lol "
That is all party’s involved giving each other pleasure if that’s your thing.. which is exactly how it’s supposed to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have noticed a real spike in abusive messages recently. It happens at least daily now.

I work with young vunerable teens and in the last 2 years there's been rise in the young males with low confidence, anxiety and under enveloped social skills been drawn to the incel culture and community, there's 1 main site that I cant name here as I'd get banned.

Anyway part of my role involves research and I was surprised to see a thread about Fab on the incel site. The hate, misogyny and threats of wanting to do violence in the thread was stomach churning. They worship spree killers like Elliot Rodgers and Jake Davison.

They will post about the violence they want to do to someone but at the end of each post "in video game" as if that covers them somehow.

Anyway it's a deeply disturbing culture they have some warped views about men been cucks and it has its own language and terms e.g chads, gigacuck, betabux, blue pilled, black pilled etc.

A few weeks ago I put together a report for my team who work with 14 - 18 year olds and it's been shared with other local authorities and schools.

Anyway I was surprised to see a thread about and attacking Fab. I've no doubt given the size of the incel community on the site that some will have signed up to send the types of abuse OP has experienced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them?

I would say that they have got fuck all going on in their life.. been rejected on here a number of times.. I call them small minded twats.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have noticed a real spike in abusive messages recently. It happens at least daily now.

They will post about the violence they want to do to someone but at the end of each post "in video game" as if that covers them somehow.

Anyway it's a deeply disturbing culture they have some warped views about men been cucks and it has its own language and terms e.g chads, gigacuck, betabux, blue pilled, black pilled etc.

A few weeks ago I put together a report for my team who work with 14 - 18 year olds and it's been shared with other local authorities and schools.

KJ"

That’s horrifying

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I got a message a few weeks ago from a bloke with just cock pics ,saying my underwear was vile and how dare I post pics of it.

I think it's because he didn't like that my profile said I wouldn't respond to profiles full of cock pics .I just found it funny to be fair ,he'd blocked me before I could reply .

It says much more about them than you op ,I'd report the profile ,you still can even if they've blocked you .

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By *ustful_connectionCouple
over a year ago

cornwall

Yep, I got a random one, asking for meet etc to then turn around and say my husband isn’t the best of looking….erm ok not everyone is attracted to everyone but no need to be mean about it, I felt pretty shit about it for a while! But I just ignored message, blocked and moved on! Other than that everyone seems pretty nice!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's obviously from some entitled loser who can't take being rejected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Pot, kettle, black….

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

It’s already difficult enough on here, not sure being a prick will help the chances of a meet, so don’t really understand why anyone would send nasty messages tbh

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By *k98765Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

Just a sad lonely jealous person don’t stress feel sorry for them xx

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them? "

If someone feels the need to be so rude and then blocks you before you could reply then I'd say that tells you all that you need to know about them.

Some people should not even qualify for the term human.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

people assume its just loser's who send them ...its not ive had them from some very well know forum guys too ...

i report and block but i also screen shot the message and the users profile as they often rejoin and try again ... its jealousy on a massive scale they are jealous of what your getting ... and its not just men ... i have a female friend on here whos being ripped apart by 2 other women and a couple whom she turned down on club nights in the west midlands ... she had to drop her profile and start again just because she said no thanks ??? so anyone can get abusive its not a male only problem ... i just dont see the point what a waste of energy

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

I got the end solicited message by young woman asking my age so tell me to read my profile I just replined 68 she messaged me back and said Gross that's like doing with my grandpa and when I went to reply she already blocked me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking questions then blocking

Op you’re hot asf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My openness on here about my sexuality sees me recieve my share of nasty messages

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By *yorks4couplesMan
over a year ago

doncaster

"Hey everyone, just got a random messge of someone out the blue asking why me and my husband are on here? And is it because he doesn’t satisfy me and that he’s spineless and I’m very ugly

then blocked me lol

I actually found it quite amusing that someone woud go out of their way to send a message like that. My question is do people like this get off on being abusive to each other?

Luckily we are very secure in what we do and it didn’t bother us but some people can be so nasty but wondering is it a horrible kik for them? "

Cant handle rejection sad fuckers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the messages there definitely are some total idiots on here but there’s also some lovely people and they definitely outnumber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cannot see the point, Why cant everyone just be nice???

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

There is a lot of people on here just for trolling others.

It’s endemic on all social sites

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a lot of people on here just for trolling others.

It’s endemic on all social sites "

Yeah we have definitely noticed that a lot people are just on here to be horrible.

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By *uriocoupleCouple
over a year ago

rayleigh

Keyboard warriors, wouldn’t dare say it to your face!

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