FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

When you see single men profile

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let's try and establish what is it that ladies looking at the most and what's matters on men profiles and what completely not...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ladies, please help us here

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Women are people. People like different things

Put your self forward, remember it's an uphill battle with the ratio of men to women on here. No effort tends to mean no returns.

But there's no catch all.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I see your point of view but obviously few other opinions would be appreciated

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

I look for face pics , nice smile and that they have hair. don’t really read the profile text as always mostly a load of bollox. I then look to see if they are bisexual. And go from there

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anchester_gentMan
over a year ago

Manchester/ Cheshire border

I’m not a woman (obviously) but based on the comments of many ladies and couples I’d say the following are useful things to bear in mind:

- Photos are important, but they don’t need to show your face. Just shows you’re happy to make the effort.

- Verifications - from meets, not just webcam. And then ladies will often click to see if you verified the people who verified you.

- If you say you can’t accommodate it suggests you’re married or living with parents.

- Site supporter pass shows you’re serious about all this. After all - it’s a fiver for 2 months.

- Some well written text on your profile which doesn’t just suggest you’re looking for a woman with a pulse, but says what you’re after, what you can offer and why you’re not the same as every other guy on Fab.

- Similarly a profile that ticks every single interest and has an age range up to 99 will suggest an air of desperation….

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Profile text that suggests you're friendly, interesting, and considerate. (Show you are, don't tell us you are)

Photos that show a little bit of creativity and personality

Verifications - at a minimum, you've met people who've lived to tell the tale

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you very much

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for something different. Photos of nice eyes or hands, sexy but tasteful body pics (maybe partially dressed in a suit with open shirt) so not everything on show.

And I look for a good bio. Someone I think I could enjoy talking to before anything else! That’s just me though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immyg88Man
over a year ago

Wrexham

Just wanted to read tomorrow.

Good topic

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single guy I look forward to the replies

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Been on here a while now and I am quite discerning.

An interesting and thought out profile pic, not yet another dick pic. I’m not offended or disgusted by them it’s just boring and I don’t do boring.

A bio that shows some personality, perhaps some humour, that isn’t all about what you want (couples can be bad for this too - like “seeking a unicorn to fulfil our fantasy” erm ok and sod what I might enjoy?), but what you have to offer too - but be honest (and this applies to honest to oneself) you are unique so don’t try to be like all the others who are “amazing at oral” (rarely true). I personally tend to think if you include your phone number here you lack common sense and discernment yourself. Snapchat makes me think immature, no stamina. 420 friendly or similar I am not interested in.

Comments along lines of “at the very least have the good manners to reply if I message you” - instant delete/pass from me. There’s very good reasons why women don’t reply to every message. If you’re getting butt hurt over that, you come across as entitled and poor at accepting the word no. Both of which make me feel unsafe and totally turned off.

Profile pic gallery should be artistic, interesting (not 100 dick pics) and show some effort. It’s not hard even just with a phone camera to take great pics. Make them b&w, use lighting to your advantage, show who you are, perhaps hinting at a hobby interest or occupation, vary the clothes, background etc. Use props.

IF there are other people in your pics and especially videos, ensure you have their consent & give them anonymity.

Personally if you’re playing bare we aren’t going to meet ever.

Certainly not flaccid cock over toilet bowl

Veris - cam aren’t worth the paper they aren’t printed on I’m afraid. If you’re struggling to get that first one get yourself to a social there’s usually one near you.

Statuses - avoid negative statuses, they make you look bad not others, don’t put others down and that includes being derogatory to one group to enamour yourself with another. I’m a bigger woman, but you being insulting to slimmer women isn’t going to fly.

Be aware if you cannot accommodate that’s going to look problematic to many women.

I think that’s everything

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *luffy FairyWoman
over a year ago

west LDN

Most important thing for me is a face pic which I understand some people are being discreet but at least send one with the message you send

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for getting involved

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

nope let people do there own profile the way they see fit .... why ?? ... well thats easy its the best filter there is on fab ... people who cant be bothered or say the wrong things or rude abusive in anyway why would we want them to change that to something they are not ?

in my opinion profile advice should be banned but we are lucky in that we can see whos seeked advice as they all have similar profiles ....people should be themselves so other can make a informed decision ...after all no one knows you but you so why ask stranger for advice when they dont know you ??

#justmyopinion

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Let's try and establish what is it that ladies looking at the most and what's matters on men profiles and what completely not..."

I go straight to the height without even opening the message

If he is over 6 ft , i then look at what area he is from

Then a face pic

In that order

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Humour firstly for me as this sparks my interest..

Obviously have to find them physically appealing too...so some teasing pictures...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"Humour firstly for me as this sparks my interest..

Obviously have to find them physically appealing too...so some teasing pictures..."

And a face picture..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton


"I look for face pics , nice smile and that they have hair. don’t really read the profile text as always mostly a load of bollox. I then look to see if they are bisexual. And go from there "

Exactly this for me too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No face pics

No cock pics

No veris showing

Some profile text or pics that I find interesting

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nope let people do there own profile the way they see fit .... why ?? ... well thats easy its the best filter there is on fab ... people who cant be bothered or say the wrong things or rude abusive in anyway why would we want them to change that to something they are not ?

in my opinion profile advice should be banned but we are lucky in that we can see whos seeked advice as they all have similar profiles ....people should be themselves so other can make a informed decision ...after all no one knows you but you so why ask stranger for advice when they dont know you ??

#justmyopinion"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *anchester_gentMan
over a year ago

Manchester/ Cheshire border


"nope let people do there own profile the way they see fit .... why ?? ... well thats easy its the best filter there is on fab ... people who cant be bothered or say the wrong things or rude abusive in anyway why would we want them to change that to something they are not ?

in my opinion profile advice should be banned but we are lucky in that we can see whos seeked advice as they all have similar profiles ....people should be themselves so other can make a informed decision ...after all no one knows you but you so why ask stranger for advice when they dont know you ??

#justmyopinion"

I respectfully disagree. I don’t see the harm in more experienced swingers sharing advice and experience with newcomers or people who simply want a little help with their personal “marketing”. It’s a mutually respectful and helpful community and helping one another is part of that.

What annoys me (personally) is people who ask for advice, get loads of it (which people took time and effort to share), then simply ignore it all…..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There is no perfect profile that will help you get more meets or replies.

Everyone looks for different things.

I want a profile to reflect who the person is. Not be a generic one that they have made in order to fit the advice from others on here.

I prefer to see if someone can be bothered to make an effort with pics and write a bio about themselves and what they are looking for on here or if they think a blurry pic and ask me anything bio will work. It tells me all I need to know .

The same as when someone has a very detailed bio about who they want to meet and their kinks etc even ones I would have no interest in ,it helps me make an informed decision about whether I want to interact with them.I have seen men slated for their kinks and then change it to a completely different thing hiding what they actually want from here. To me that's worse. And it's why I don't give advice and I kind of agree with the no advice theory. It helps some mask their true selves.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

[Removed by poster at 23/02/23 10:41:57]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

The most important thing is that it strikes you as honest.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"There is no perfect profile that will help you get more meets or replies.

Everyone looks for different things.

I want a profile to reflect who the person is. Not be a generic one that they have made in order to fit the advice from others on here.

I prefer to see if someone can be bothered to make an effort with pics and write a bio about themselves and what they are looking for on here or if they think a blurry pic and ask me anything bio will work. It tells me all I need to know .

The same as when someone has a very detailed bio about who they want to meet and their kinks etc even ones I would have no interest in ,it helps me make an informed decision about whether I want to interact with them.I have seen men slated for their kinks and then change it to a completely different thing hiding what they actually want from here. To me that's worse. And it's why I don't give advice and I kind of agree with the no advice theory. It helps some mask their true selves. "

The advice I try to give isn't so specific, in the main, to remove distasteful elements. I think "kink X is bad" will make profiles more bland and less accurate - but "show your personality and think about how others see you", less so.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *J_SpiceyCouple
over a year ago

Kinky Kings Lynn

Hope you guys are taking note of all the valid and worthwhile suggestions already made.

If you are blindly sending a request to meet, send a face photo. This isn’t blind date. Without a face pic of course you will likely get no reply or delete. You may still receive no reply, but you definitely won’t without that face photo regardless of I would send one but can’t because of work. You need your face when meeting!

Don’t send dick pics unless asked.

Read the profile of those you message. It’s there for your benefit. To understand what that person or couple seek. If you aren’t compatible, no meet will happen.

If it’s clear in your message you haven’t read the bio, then expect no reply or a delete.

A decent written profile of your own, with a clothed and unclothed body shot is a good starting point.

Don’t showing wedding pix or pix of you holding a fish!

Verifications are gold dust. Go to a club (The Annex is good) or social to meet people. Be the best version of yourself and get those verifications.

You need to be patient and play the long game. Guys are two a penny but those willing to put the effort in, normally win the day.

Good luck guys.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"nope let people do there own profile the way they see fit .... why ?? ... well thats easy its the best filter there is on fab ... people who cant be bothered or say the wrong things or rude abusive in anyway why would we want them to change that to something they are not ?

in my opinion profile advice should be banned but we are lucky in that we can see whos seeked advice as they all have similar profiles ....people should be themselves so other can make a informed decision ...after all no one knows you but you so why ask stranger for advice when they dont know you ??

#justmyopinion

I respectfully disagree. I don’t see the harm in more experienced swingers sharing advice and experience with newcomers or people who simply want a little help with their personal “marketing”. It’s a mutually respectful and helpful community and helping one another is part of that.

What annoys me (personally) is people who ask for advice, get loads of it (which people took time and effort to share), then simply ignore it all…..

"

I'm not an experienced swinger even though I've been here 6 years but I've never once asked for advice because I want people to see me as I am rather than how others tell me who or how I should be.

Lots of people will be put off by my profile and approach as they are entitled to be but no-one can accuse be of trying to be something or someone I'm not.

Creating personas that people can't stand over when they actually meet others is as dishonest as borrowing pics from the internet.

There's always an argument that some people struggle to sell themselves through their profile but are much better in person.

That may be so but unfortunately that's one of the joys of online engagement.

There are many lazy profiles that don't even try and yet they expect results.

That applies to women and couples as well.

They don't make an effort with their profiles because they feel they don't have to. They know they will get lots of messages and offers regardless.

Then they pop on here to complain about the quality of messages they receive and the lack of respect and fail to see the irony.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find these threads mildly amusing.

It seems that the majority of single men who join fab are under the impression that there is some sort of magic formula to unlocking meets and that they need to tailor their profile to appeal to everyone instead of being true to themselves.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Let's try and establish what is it that ladies looking at the most and what's matters on men profiles and what completely not..."

There’s no magic formula I’m afraid, and to be honest it’s a bit off putting that you want your profile to be based on what women want (as if all women are the same) rather than who you are.

Be yourself and you won’t be setting women up for disappointment if they do choose to meet you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top