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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset

a straight forward question for couples how are you set up as a couple ? are you 50/50 on everything ..are you male led couple or are you female led couple ?

me well we were a very 50/50 couples until over 5 years ago we then became cuckold and ever since its been female led ..

there seems to be far more male led couples than anything else??

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By *helby_335Couple
over a year ago

Aberaeron

50/50 but I (wife) tends to do messaging especially during day when he's working

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably slightly more male led but definitely 50/50 in decision making x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say we were 50/50 in general, but when it comes to Fab, it's me who does most of the chatting but Mr reads everything and occasionally chips in

Mrs

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By *oxyandFunCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

50/50 always, though as with the couple above, I tend to do the majority of messaging. Socials and meets are always a 50/50 decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% female led

Mrs xx

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Mainly female lead... he doesn't really pay much attention to fab during the day but will sit and have a look with me some evenings

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’d say that I K (the male) look on FAB more often than C. I tend to organise surprises for C too.

But we both chat to any potential friends and normally take them into Telegram so we can all chat together.

Nothing worse than only one of a couple chatting so we don’t do it. We are both meeting so we both chat and get to know people.

K

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess we are possibly the norm here. gent always leads the chat here but we always agree together who we want to meet and what kind of sensual or kinky fun we want to enjoy next.

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

100% percent female lead on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

male until connection then both

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

50/50 I'd say, for fab the Mr would probably say it's more me I think.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female led on Fab with all the chats. He generally can’t put up with the ‘challenges’ that come with ‘fabmin’.

Everything discussed and agreed on though and if we’re both not totally on board then it doesn’t happen.

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By *ORBCouple
over a year ago

Dundalk

We haven't had any play meets as a couple yet for personal reasons but we both have singles profiles and this profile is 50/50 in everything we do through fab.

Every decision is a joint one and we just take turns responding to messages or posting in the forums.

We wouldn't have it any other way.

RB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say we’re 50/50 in general on here. We do like getting a group chat going so all can be involved as much as they’d like

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire


"I’d say that I K (the male) look on FAB more often than C. I tend to organise surprises for C too.

But we both chat to any potential friends and normally take them into Telegram so we can all chat together.

Nothing worse than only one of a couple chatting so we don’t do it. We are both meeting so we both chat and get to know people.

K"

Pretty much the same as us but we chat on WhatsApp l.

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

We 50/50 but having seid that it's most up to the wife as to who we play with but I happy with that as there as to be some spark between them as we like mfm

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By *eardAndBoobs69Couple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire


"I'd say we were 50/50 in general, but when it comes to Fab, it's me who does most of the chatting but Mr reads everything and occasionally chips in

Mrs "

Same as us

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By *ikingandMaiden2Couple
over a year ago

Mid Cornwall, South West

50/50 for us, just find it all runs smoother that way.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We are a 50:50 couple for sure. I certainly do most of the "Fabmin" but apart from that, it's definitely an even split.

C x

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By *forfuntimesCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

When on Fab it is 99% male led as Mrs does not have any patience in dealing with most of the idiotic messages we get...

However, when it comes to prospective playmates, either through Fab or when we are out in Gran Canaria (or elsewhere) - we are definitely 50/50 in all our choices etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talk it over and make a decision together only way to be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely 50/50 although female always gets the final say

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By *andaloriansCouple
over a year ago

Malvern

I lead our but c has her own profile that she runs.

S

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

99% led by me (Ruby). Mr does log on and reads all the messages and we fully discuss everything but he is very happy to leave all the messaging and chatting to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am surprised to see how many are 50/50 or female lead

We are definitely male lead, it was my idea to come on here so it is me replying and looking for new ideas etc but we are agreeing on more now so hopefully we will be 50/50 too soon!

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn

Male lead with regards to chatting and seeking. But 50/50 on deciding who we meet

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

Definitely female led in the bedroom and our sex life, but him more in real life as love and trust him

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

62/38

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread … great question and great to understand the Hotwife … couple scenario a little more .

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

We tend to chop and change, it's mostly Alyson doing the chatting because she's amazing at the banter/flanter....but I will pipe up sometimes, so....70/30 in her favour...roughly

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"When on Fab it is 99% male led as Mrs does not have any patience in dealing with most of the idiotic messages we get...

However, when it comes to prospective playmates, either through Fab or when we are out in Gran Canaria (or elsewhere) - we are definitely 50/50 in all our choices etc"

Pretty much this for us too

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By *untogetherCouple
over a year ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

Definitely 50/50 with us being on Fab and discussion on potential interaction with others. Although the wife is generally the one who takes care of messaging and has the final say on meets as I always want her to feel comfortable. We never take one for the team as they say.

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By *randMrs397Couple
over a year ago

durham

I do most of the messaging and wife reads everything and occasionally replies but when it comes to lifestyle decisions it's a 50/50 and both have to agree on everything before doing anything.

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By *helamontsCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Initial search / contact by male.

50/50 on all decisions.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

50/50 here as a rule

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

As someone who joins couples, you have to respect what they both comfortable with, 50/50 is normally the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50/50 for us and no taking one for the team either haha we like to both be 100% on the same page when it comes to making a decision

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By *oots11Couple
over a year ago

wirral

50/50 we would never organise with out both of us happy and agreeing ??

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close


"50/50 we would never organise with out both of us happy and agreeing ?? "

100 % us

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Probably 60/40 in hubs favour but he's never steered me wrong

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

50/50 its an adventure together

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By *otlWelshCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

50/50 all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off looking for single men to join us now a year later we’re looking for couples so it’s 50/50

With the occasional man and hopefully women join us for a threesome

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By *tarburst babydollMan
over a year ago

Dingwall

100% female led on here in terms of messaging and forum posts but when anything peaks my interest meet wise the hubby gets involved and it is 50/50.

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By *inojCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Admin 90/10 male (love the term "Fabmin"used earlier)

Decision making on potential meets based on attraction 100% female

Final selection on meet after discussion 60/40 female

Profile content selection and approval 80/20 female

Love of the lifestyle 50/50

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

When we were swinging as a couple it was

Admin 95%male

Decisions 80% female

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