FabSwingers.com forum: Finding it hard to meet females

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Struggle to find a female to play on here :/

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Women who meet couples are pretty rare. They're a not too keen on being referred to as 'females' by all accounts and from what I've read even less keen on being the person who helps the woman in a couple explore.

They're referred to as unicorns because of their scarcity and the unique place they occupy in the swinging world.

You might find that a club scenario gives you the opportunities you're looking for.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate your feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In over 4 years of fab we have never been successful meeting a female for MFF via Fab. That's with Mrs KJ been fully bisexual and skilled / experienced.

We have enjoy some amazing MFF but it's been at a swinging club or at a private swingers party.

If you want to gain some experience with a women then you would have a greater chance of that happening if you did it in a foursome meet with another couple or via a 1 on 1 meet with a female (your partner not present).

Good luck on your journey x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

It may help if you show more of the male on your profile

I'm not your target audience,but bi Fems can afford to be v choosy as most of site want one.They'd need to see and be attracted to both people in a couple,if you both want to play .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you spoken to Martin?

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By *ipseyTwoCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

Why not focus your search on building friendships with couples? That way you could explore MFF with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking for profile advice? I believe we're not supposed to give it unless explicitly asked...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We don't have any issue meeting women, we don't actively search though, we make friends and go from there, from your profile it maybe worth adding some photos of the Mr the ladies will want to see him too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may help if you show more of the male on your profile

I'm not your target audience,but bi Fems can afford to be v choosy as most of site want one.They'd need to see and be attracted to both people in a couple,if you both want to play ."

So true

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

We have the opposite problem. Bi females have been much easier for us to find than bi males. There is sheer mass of men but a decent bi male who can accom or is openly bi and not hiding is far more trickier in our experience. I do find though just chatting and seeing works, you win some you lose some. Focus on enjoying the ride instead of chasing the fantasy, you find so many fun experiences that way xx

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

I've just set up my own single fem profile but it's mainly to meet single fems at the moment to explore my bisexual side....that's not to say in the future that I wouldn't meet couples. But equally it's difficult to meet a single female on here for our couples profile xx

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

unicorn is such a yuk word for what is simply a bi woman ... and many single women hate the term too ..

female ? is anything in the mammal /animal index

when we first started this scene it was easy to find single women who played with couples however as the years have gone on its now one of the hardest meets to find ..most dont want to be a toy or there simply for the male half to watch .. or male dominated couples

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Personally we wouldn’t use the phrase unicorn unless the lady liked it herself, it’s kind of impersonal to be ‘hunting’ a person to satisfy your own desires (I’m sure OP doesn’t feel that way to be clear x).

Better to think what you can offer and what she would like to try as well. Makes for a much more sexy and satisfying meet xxx

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

This is something we have also wanted since we first started swinging, but despite having a pretty solid profile, with pics (including face pics) of us both, wanting to form a good friendship between all three of us, wanting to develop a solid three way connection (ie - all involved together...not just an experiment/show for the man) we still haven't found what we're looking for

On Fab and across various other platforms in over two years (as well as club visits) we have managed ONE social with a woman....ONE. So it is very difficult for some couples unfortunately, despite best efforts...

We keep hoping tho

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Struggle to find a female to play on here :/"

snap! Im not without offers, but it's complicated why I can't meet at present

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

Ok so I am what you would refer to as a “unicorn”.

Your pics are rubbish, there are none of the man whatsoever. Just one cock pic.

I want to see full body shots so I can make sure you aren’t fat. I want to try and get an idea that you are a genuine couple.

Your profile is all about what you want. What about what you are offering me?

I’m afraid that if I got a message from you I’d open your pics and then just ignore you.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"This is something we have also wanted since we first started swinging, but despite having a pretty solid profile, with pics (including face pics) of us both, wanting to form a good friendship between all three of us, wanting to develop a solid three way connection (ie - all involved together...not just an experiment/show for the man) we still haven't found what we're looking for

We keep hoping tho

This is great profile. (Not for me tho) but you have loads of pics of both of you. Your profile text is fun and upbeat. I could see myself having a laugh and feeling comfortable in your company.

Others would do well to look at yours!

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By *razy ShenanigansCouple
over a year ago

Chelmsford

We keep hoping tho

This is great profile. (Not for me tho) but you have loads of pics of both of you. Your profile text is fun and upbeat. I could see myself having a laugh and feeling comfortable in your company.

Others would do well to look at yours!"

That's a lovely compliment! Thank you very much

it portrays us pretty perfectly we think....it's nice to know things are in order on our page

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

people like window shopping...

single females are looking for potential husbands , an alternative dating site .

clubs are the best place to meet the opposite sex ..

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Your pics aren’t very female enticing - you have nothing of the male other than a cock pic.

You make it sound like you just want to try out another female rather than become friends and it then potentially lead onto something more.

We’ve been very lucky in meeting a few females and it’s through both of us engaging with them and also making them feel like a human being rather than a mythical creature just being used for our pleasure. It’s a three way mutual experience where we all get something from the relationship.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"people like window shopping...

single females are looking for potential husbands , an alternative dating site .

clubs are the best place to meet the opposite sex ..

Wtf. I’m looking for a husband ? How did you work that one out

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We've been here 4 years and it is very very hard for us too especially locally. Just persevere and don't let it ruin those sexual fantasies

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By *iss R. BelleWoman
over a year ago

Farnborough

I’m a bi woman but I’m not looking to meet couples. However if I was looking to play with a couple some of the things I would look for:

Good pictures showing the whole body of both male and female.

Face pictures in a first message.

Social people who attend local socials or clubs as I like the social aspect of swinging and would expect a social meet before play to check chemistry is there.

Verifications showing on profile rather than hidden so I get an idea of previous meets.

Profile text that shows what I could expect from a meet and to check sexual interests match up.

I’m not an experiment for someone to try out and would not meet a couple where the woman is bi-curious I couldn’t imagine anything worse than starting a meet and the woman decides she’s not into it.

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By *rstokeloverMan
over a year ago

kidsgrove

You’ll struggle to find anybody on this site !! Last couple of years it’s really gone downhill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people like window shopping...

single females are looking for potential husbands , an alternative dating site .

clubs are the best place to meet the opposite sex ..

Women are looking for husbands ? On fab swingers? ermm no

But I agree clubs are great for meeting I would never meet a couple from fab but have played In clubs

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"You’ll struggle to find anybody on this site !! Last couple of years it’s really gone downhill "

Speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bisexual woman, the last thing I want to feel is that I’m part of a couples experiment to see if the wife likes it. Even more so on a private meet.

Very few bi women would be interested in this.

We all start somewhere and you’re far better going to a club where there’s less pressure and experience some flirty 1-1 interaction with another woman to see if it’s for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. It is difficult meeting genuine bi ladies on here, I have been lucky in finding some real gems but they are few and far between.

Clubs and social events are the easiest way I find.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your feedback xx

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I have spent 3.5 years looking for a couple to meet but have never found one on here or elsewhere online (though have through parties). These are the main reasons:

1. Uninspiring profiles often with pics of just the woman. If the guy is visible it is often just his cock. I want to know what both the man and the woman look like.

2.When pictures are shared, I may be attracted to the man OR the woman. Very rarely both in the same couple.

3.The woman needs to be bi not bi-curious. I don't want to be a teacher; a bucket list fuck or someone that a young, inexperienced and insecure woman thinks is a safe bet for a first FFM experiment as an older woman.

4.If the woman is straight then I have no interest whatsoever. Just not enough cock to go round!

Couples therefore need sufficient veris for me to be confident that they are legit and not time wasters.

5. Messages from a couples accounts are often as dull as those from single guys and not worth a reply. (Maybe because it is just a dude!)

6.When convos do strike up they have always fizzled out quickly. I absolutely take some responsibility for this but as the 'unicorn' (I'm not mad about the term either) I would hope for a bit more effort than repeated hey/hi/ how's you/alright hun.

Disillusionment has set in and for these reasons I would only chat to couples in exceptional circumstances rather than have my time wasted.

Wishing you luck in finding what you are looking for tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree. It is difficult meeting genuine bi ladies on here, I have been lucky in finding some real gems but they are few and far between.

Clubs and social events are the easiest way I find."

Whenever I chat to guys they can’t believe that women struggle to meet other women on Fab.

Tbh I think it’s probably the hardest connection to make

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I agree. It is difficult meeting genuine bi ladies on here, I have been lucky in finding some real gems but they are few and far between.

Clubs and social events are the easiest way I find.

Whenever I chat to guys they can’t believe that women struggle to meet other women on Fab.

Tbh I think it’s probably the hardest connection to make

I'm not into women ,but every 2nd woman says they're bi /curious.

I do wonder how many are saying it for their men ,rather than actually wanting to meet other women.

If they were all as bi as they claimed ,surely it would be much easier for ladies to actually meet each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not into women ,but every 2nd woman says they're bi /curious.

I do wonder how many are saying it for their men ,rather than actually wanting to meet other women.

If they were all as bi as they claimed ,surely it would be much easier for ladies to actually meet each other."

And therein lies the problem.

I’m not interested in bi-curious women. They are usually just dabbling and indeed say it because their other half gets off on the idea of watching two women before he joins in.

They have no intention of ever meeting on a 1-1 basis.

Usually a pillow princess as well so any interaction is unsatisfying.

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent

"I agree. It is difficult meeting genuine bi ladies on here, I have been lucky in finding some real gems but they are few and far between.

Clubs and social events are the easiest way I find.

Whenever I chat to guys they can’t believe that women struggle to meet other women on Fab.

Tbh I think it’s probably the hardest connection to make

Agreed

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Whenever I chat to guys they can’t believe that women struggle to meet other women on Fab.

Tbh I think it’s probably the hardest connection to make

I recently set up a profile to meet single ladies for dates and naughty fun, it has indeed been surprisingly difficult!

There seems to be lots of fake single women accounts, given that fact maybe people may think the same about me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently set up a profile to meet single ladies for dates and naughty fun, it has indeed been surprisingly difficult!

There seems to be lots of fake single women accounts, given that fact maybe people may think the same about me xx"

There are, however it’s usually very easy to spot them. Men are so bad at keeping up the pretense of being a woman.

These profiles usually go UNLOS very quickly too! x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Probably because you called them self entitelled and stated you wouldn't look twice at most in the street, might be a little tricky after that.

Mrs

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

There are, however it’s usually very easy to spot them. Men are so bad at keeping up the pretense of being a woman.

These profiles usually go UNLOS very quickly too! x"

Normally when they are very keen to meet!

What does UNLOS mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally when they are very keen to meet!

What does UNLOS mean?

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