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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been wanting to get involved in the swinging scene for years and finally took the plunge to find somone to have these experiences.

Problem I'm finding is that I can't even get replies from anyone.

I would like some advise on how I can improve to try to get a reply at least. One thing I won't do is lower myself just for a verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been wanting to get involved in the swinging scene for years and finally took the plunge to find somone to have these experiences.

Problem I'm finding is that I can't even get replies from anyone.

I would like some advise on how I can improve to try to get a reply at least. One thing I won't do is lower myself just for a verification"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If you are messaging people you are interested in any would you need to say you wouldn't lower yourself for a verification anyhow. And why even say that I can't see anyone expecting anyone to lower themselves anyhow for one.No one would want to be used just so you can get a veri on here. And veris don't mean a lot it just means you may be able to message more people who may or may not reply to you.

As for getting no replies that can be disheartening but it means they are not interested in you. I don't get many messages so that is not why I don't reply to some people who message me. I don't reply because of a few reasons usually it's a faf type message it's crude or I have looked at their profile and it doesn't appeal or sometimes I'm just too tired to bother or a status or something they put up puts me off. There are a lot of reasons why I may or may not answer a message.

There is no easy solution to getting replies on here. You could try the forums and try and get better known but only a tiny percentage of fab uses the forums. Your bio says you were on before and back for more fun so if that's the case you must have had answers and veris the last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a club or use the chat rooms. If using the chat rooms, go for the ones that have only like 60 people in it. Get talking to people that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post a whiney status update for guaranteed success!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try a club or use the chat rooms. If using the chat rooms, go for the ones that have only like 60 people in it. Get talking to people that way."

Have tried the chatrooms before but I'll give that a go again thanks!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you are messaging people you are interested in any would you need to say you wouldn't lower yourself for a verification anyhow. And why even say that I can't see anyone expecting anyone to lower themselves anyhow for one.No one would want to be used just so you can get a veri on here. And veris don't mean a lot it just means you may be able to message more people who may or may not reply to you.

As for getting no replies that can be disheartening but it means they are not interested in you. I don't get many messages so that is not why I don't reply to some people who message me. I don't reply because of a few reasons usually it's a faf type message it's crude or I have looked at their profile and it doesn't appeal or sometimes I'm just too tired to bother or a status or something they put up puts me off. There are a lot of reasons why I may or may not answer a message.

There is no easy solution to getting replies on here. You could try the forums and try and get better known but only a tiny percentage of fab uses the forums. Your bio says you were on before and back for more fun so if that's the case you must have had answers and veris the last time. "

Reason I said I wouldn't meet somone I'm not attracted to is in response to lower my expectations (but this was in another thread before i posted this one). I wasn't being a dooche I wouldn't do that to somone anyway

I was on the site before as a couples profile. We did have a meet but tbh the guys photos didn't match to the person (outdated) so it never happened again. Think it is disheartening me as after that it just seems people like him who are dishonest seem to get on. Maybe I'm wrong just trying to get some advise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Post a whiney status update for guaranteed success! "

Beat me to it! sarky twats!

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Definitely try clubs and socialise with no expectations. Meeting people face to face in an environment that’s suited to what you want will open doors to swinging - it definitely worked for me.

Fabs is great for all kinds of different reasons for different people but if it’s not working for your specific search then definitely try new ways.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try clubs and chat rooms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Definitely try clubs and socialise with no expectations. Meeting people face to face in an environment that’s suited to what you want will open doors to swinging - it definitely worked for me.

Fabs is great for all kinds of different reasons for different people but if it’s not working for your specific search then definitely try new ways.

J "

To be honnest I have thought about trying a club in the past, might give this a go. Thanks for the suggestion

Don't think I have expectations from anyone though. Just really annoying not to even get a response from 99% of people

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent


"Definitely try clubs and socialise with no expectations. Meeting people face to face in an environment that’s suited to what you want will open doors to swinging - it definitely worked for me.

Fabs is great for all kinds of different reasons for different people but if it’s not working for your specific search then definitely try new ways.

J

To be honnest I have thought about trying a club in the past, might give this a go. Thanks for the suggestion

Don't think I have expectations from anyone though. Just really annoying not to even get a response from 99% of people"

I know the feeling and it can be frustrating and demoralising. Honestly do try the club scene. You’ll meet people that are on fabs which will change how you use the site and how the site works for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I know the feeling and it can be frustrating and demoralising. Honestly do try the club scene. You’ll meet people that are on fabs which will change how you use the site and how the site works for you.

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Demoralising 100%

Thanks for the suggestion though I really do appreciate it. Hope I can get myself into one.

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Post a whiney status update for guaranteed success! "

Agree this always works! Negative status updates will definitely help success on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find having to ask for advice in an open forum usually helps. Makes people realise how demoralised I am and makes them reach out.

I tried it in a pub once, sat there for hours trying to chat to people and when no success I stomped out and shouted “why won’t anybody talk to me” it worked, I had loads of people telling me to shut up and one lovely old granny in the corner told me to dry my eyes and fuck off.

Hope this helps

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath


"Post a whiney status update for guaranteed success! "

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
over a year ago

Haywards Heath


"One thing I won't do is lower myself just for a verification"

Go on, you know you want to join the rest of us pond life.

Lower your standards and you'll always look up to people.

Hi down there!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"I find having to ask for advice in an open forum usually helps. Makes people realise how demoralised I am and makes them reach out.

I tried it in a pub once, sat there for hours trying to chat to people and when no success I stomped out and shouted “why won’t anybody talk to me” it worked, I had loads of people telling me to shut up and one lovely old granny in the corner told me to dry my eyes and fuck off.

Hope this helps "

That's a very good way of putting your point across there

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


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I know the feeling and it can be frustrating and demoralising. Honestly do try the club scene. You’ll meet people that are on fabs which will change how you use the site and how the site works for you.

Demoralising 100%

Thanks for the suggestion though I really do appreciate it. Hope I can get myself into one."

OP, you are in the west Midlands, swingers club central so you have plenty of choice. I've been going to clubs and parties as a single and in couples for many years and long before being on Fab. The Internet isn't the solution, get yourself out there and enjoy the world of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be what they're looking for.

Seriously, this question comes up on an almost daily basis.

There is no magic formula - as such.

Many men join fab on tge assumption that it's full of women and couples who will shag anyone and that will beat a path to tgeir door, when it just isn't.

Single men outnumber women by at least 100 to one.

Anyone you message willcheck out your profile before even thinking about reading your message.

You could have the best written profile, a good selection of pictures, but if you're not what they're looking for or they don't find you attractive, it just ain't gonna happen

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Patience is a virtue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs and social events are the way forward for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely try clubs and socialise with no expectations. Meeting people face to face in an environment that’s suited to what you want will open doors to swinging - it definitely worked for me.

Fabs is great for all kinds of different reasons for different people but if it’s not working for your specific search then definitely try new ways.

J

To be honnest I have thought about trying a club in the past, might give this a go. Thanks for the suggestion

Don't think I have expectations from anyone though. Just really annoying not to even get a response from 99% of people"

On a website where there's at least 100 singles males to every 1 couple or single female then getting a reply of 1 out of 100 messages sent makes a little more sense.

As others have said changing your expectations has nothing to do with lowering standards it's simply understand the facts of the website i.e 100 - 1 ratios the fact that the sites rules state no reply is to be considered a no thank due to the volume of messages single women and couples can get.

Naughty builder Ashley posted on one of your 2 threads in 6 years he has had 2 meets via fab messages. He has also attended clubs and socials which enabled him to get involved in the swinging scene.

KJ

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