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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset

seem quite a few of my message's lately are asking this question ...

it has to be looks first but by all means not the only thing i look for but i see others say looks dont matter but surely the do ?

for me i have to be sexually attracted and that starts with looks then personality i could not have sexual fun with someone i dont see as sexually attractive but there seem alot who can and do...

so how does it work for you looks or personality..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Looks do matter but personality and being a decent person wins over a pretty face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

If you look at my profile, You can see I need to rely on my personality

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Personality

I can fuck a pretty thing for the sake of it now and again.

I find more fun and attraction in people who genuinely interest me as people though. As long as the aesthetics aren't an absolute no thanks then the person underneath is far more important to me.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Looks.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Looks."

No personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an element of both! Looks are what attracts I suppose and personality is when keeps them coming back?

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Looks are a good start but let's be honest, someone could be the hottest ever but if they've got shite chat, they aren't likely to play with us.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seem quite a few of my message's lately are asking this question ...

it has to be looks first but by all means not the only thing i look for but i see others say looks dont matter but surely the do ?

for me i have to be sexually attracted and that starts with looks then personality i could not have sexual fun with someone i dont see as sexually attractive but there seem alot who can and do...

so how does it work for you looks or personality..

"

Definitely looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say looks give a first impression but personality wins all the time.

I can't let a hottie close to me if they're not nice.

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax

Obviously you have to see the attraction in looks first...as that's usually the first thing you see...

However the best looking people can have ugly personalities..

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By *angOnBunnyCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Looks are a good start but let's be honest, someone could be the hottest ever but if they've got shite chat, they aren't likely to play with us.

C x"

Yep, agreed. Some initial attraction needed, but if we don't get on, we're not getting it on

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Definitely personality because looks fade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks to a lesser degree, what I manly what is someone with the right personality , someone that understands what it is I want and need.

I manly get are guys offering me the exact opposite it a big turn off.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford


" Looks to a lesser degree, what I manly what is someone with the right personality , someone that understands what it is I want and need.

I manly get are guys offering me the exact opposite it a big turn off. "
WOW you are stunning xx

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Depends on the context! If it was a partner, Well a good personality is just as important as looks. Looks fade but good personality is forever! If it's casual sex the personality doesn't matter as much? However a good vibe does make it rather more fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks.. don’t need a personality when you’re fucking lol

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By *xpandmyhorizonsMan
over a year ago

Co. Antrim

For me there needs to be a physical attraction but no point in being gorgeous if your personality sucks

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By *YDB75Man
over a year ago

East Yorkie

If its looks…then im buggered here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its looks…then im buggered here "

Got to believe in your self

Mate

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle


"For me there needs to be a physical attraction but no point in being gorgeous if your personality sucks "
Agree! A pretty face is destroyed by an ugly personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seem quite a few of my message's lately are asking this question ...

it has to be looks first but by all means not the only thing i look for but i see others say looks dont matter but surely the do ?

for me i have to be sexually attracted and that starts with looks then personality i could not have sexual fun with someone i dont see as sexually attractive but there seem alot who can and do...

so how does it work for you looks or personality..

"

Yeah on the surface. Whats the point beyond, be asked here many times over,more than been bent over a barel. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends."

Too fucking rite! Who needs and wants friends!

I put a bag or pillow over the head, if they ask for anything beyond a rite shagging!

Got some vetted by my Pa just in case they had feeling or caught any feeling. Not into that Malarkie!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you look at my profile, You can see I need to rely on my personality"
dont worry too much pal. They think your tall dark n handsome!

Repping londom 007. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks.

No personality."
looks, hooks,crooks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends.

Too fucking rite! Who needs and wants friends!

I put a bag or pillow over the head, if they ask for anything beyond a rite shagging!

Got some vetted by my Pa just in case they had feeling or caught any feeling. Not into that Malarkie!' "

Are you d*unk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There has to be an element of both! Looks are what attracts I suppose and personality is when keeps them coming back?"

Science say its looks in 30 secs. And back for more,2nds,3rds,moresome's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends.

Too fucking rite! Who needs and wants friends!

I put a bag or pillow over the head, if they ask for anything beyond a rite shagging!

Got some vetted by my Pa just in case they had feeling or caught any feeling. Not into that Malarkie!'

Are you d*unk? "

Sssssssshh'. Had a cheeky swiggy!!

Wink wink wink!always fooking D*unk me. Originally from stirling me. Eye!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks are a good start but let's be honest, someone could be the hottest ever but if they've got shite chat, they aren't likely to play with us.

C x"

Good Boat race ,, zipped Gobn, who cares that statts show!

All about shut up shagg away!'

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By *oingfishingWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool

"The prettiest people do the ugliest things".

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Are you d*unk? "

Unfortunately I think that's just who he is all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously you have to see the attraction in looks first...as that's usually the first thing you see...

However the best looking people can have ugly personalities..

"

How do you mean? You have confused me. Do explain? Very interested.

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By *ools1964Man
over a year ago

Swadlincote

As far as a shag arraigned through this site goes I'd say looks, but if you're talking relationship then personalty takes priority, the big problem though is what one looks like oneself, I don't consider myself a handsome man, this probably explains why I've never shagged a good looking woman,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Looks to a lesser degree, what I manly what is someone with the right personality , someone that understands what it is I want and need.

I manly get are guys offering me the exact opposite it a big turn off. "

What is it that you really want then.

Most men wish they could blooming mind read!'lol would that not be a huge help!

Or you could send smoke signals as hints!

Wimk wink wimk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Looks to a lesser degree, what I manly what is someone with the right personality , someone that understands what it is I want and need.

I manly get are guys offering me the exact opposite it a big turn off. WOW you are stunning xx"

Whos got the hots heh. I must say upfront! Man out me own heart rite there!

. I could not do that, not even on a keyboard!'

Toooo shy!

Abit tippisys!'

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By *eartsmanMan
over a year ago

southeast , midlands, southern France

Looks every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks.. don’t need a personality when you’re fucking lol "

Close the eyes tight shut,when the clamps on, cant see anything on the home rum!! Lol

Hick hick hick!!

Couples shandies lads .drink up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be an initial attraction but that then moves to can they hold a conversation and do you feel at ease with them which for us is a deal breaker and really important.

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By *arl JamesMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


""The prettiest people do the ugliest things". "

Is that Kanye?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If its looks…then im buggered here "

Dont be like that fella. Your mum will be well upset now!'

All mem are blooming studs handsome. Tall dark n redheads!'

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It starts with a physical attraction. How can it not, be it in person or via here it’s the appearance that first draws you in.

But the personality makes the decision for me. It’s not just about the sex, it’s about being comfortable in someone’s company, laughing and joking throughout or simply lying in bed panting heavily and chatting away whilst waiting to recover and play again

Just my opinion though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""The prettiest people do the ugliest things". "

Ugly ugly uggy uggy uggy!

.. where did you get your info from?

Are your pretty??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks.

No personality."

I have no personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the both of us, mutual attraction is the most important thing- that could be looks, personality, whatever. Depends on the person/couple and whether or not we feel some kind of click

Mrs

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Personality, as looks can go.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Personality

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset

so ladies who say personality how would you feel if you found out the guy who playing with you did not fancy you ?

if im playing with someone then looks first but we all know thats not all of it good looking people can be assholes too but i could never go with anyone i dont at least sexually fancy and id want the same in return id be pissed of if i was a anything anywhere statistic there has to be attraction but its not the only thing

lots of great answers above and of course we are all right because we are all doing our own thing

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge


"Looks do matter but personality and being a decent person wins over a pretty face."

Good to hear but with your looks I’m sure you get enough offers to be able to choose personality too! Lol

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I only want to fuck people where I like both... Only one of them and it won't work for me

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"so ladies who say personality how would you feel if you found out the guy who playing with you did not fancy you ?"

Generally, if someone isn't into me then the engagement needed to get to that stage never quite connects.

If I feel like someone isn't into me in any respect, then it doesn't go as far as play.

Part of personality for me would include enough honesty and openness for them to say they're not that into me physically if I was getting the wrong idea.

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends."

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By *oupleformeetCouple
over a year ago

london


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends. "

Mmmmmmmmm

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By *burns7Man
over a year ago

walsall

Tbf everyone is looks first I guarantee that, personality comes when talking

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By *ontVellaCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Personality every time for me (Mrs). You can be smoking hot but if you’re overly cocky or have the personality of a wet fish it won’t do anything for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seem quite a few of my message's lately are asking this question ...

it has to be looks first but by all means not the only thing i look for but i see others say looks dont matter but surely the do ?

for me i have to be sexually attracted and that starts with looks then personality i could not have sexual fun with someone i dont see as sexually attractive but there seem alot who can and do...

so how does it work for you looks or personality..

"

Both would be great but if I had to choose then it would have to be looks!

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Looks are what invites people in

Personality is what keeps them there.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

personaltylooka can grow on you

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Personality every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone with a good vibe

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"Someone with a good vibe "

My vibe has multiple speeds..

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By *weetkitten65Woman
over a year ago

Halifax


"Obviously you have to see the attraction in looks first...as that's usually the first thing you see...

However the best looking people can have ugly personalities..

How do you mean? You have confused me. Do explain? Very interested.

"

Exactly as I say someone can be good looking to someone but when you talk to them their personality can be ugly as to things they say that you don't find attractive

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Need to be looks the personality can grow on someone

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"Need to be looks the personality can grow on someone "

Or not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter.. at the end of the day it all leads to one thing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A Great body preferably some body hair and a big dick I don’t care about personality I’m here for sexual pleasures.

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

Personality , drive intelligence and a great sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As far as a shag arraigned through this site goes I'd say looks, but if you're talking relationship then personalty takes priority, the big problem though is what one looks like oneself, I don't consider myself a handsome man, this probably explains why I've never shagged a good looking woman, "

Jools jools jools!!

Come on now dont be going saying it like that here, being hard on yoyrself bareing your ill fate of results here. Your choice though,i take my hat off to you for honesty!

they dont take prisoners hère,or do they? Ive noticed ive been named and çalled a " D*unkard " now!! Spitefull nameing calling label openly here,it is an attack like any other towards a persom which is me,because of not agreeing or understanding a viewpoint of mine i shared on a post!

Time tells all. Names are names heh lol.

I advise that person ,pls stay in your lane,and do your own what suits you, let me stay in my lane.

I have no gripe nor grind on you no hate nor malice. Stop it all now!!

All that is pokeing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you d*unk?

Unfortunately I think that's just who he is all the time."

Stop the assueming now,and stay in your own lane, no more to say between us. please.

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By *eepingItKinkyCouple
over a year ago

reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A Great body preferably some body hair and a big dick I don’t care about personality I’m here for sexual pleasures. "

to the point,transparent!!

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By *eepingItKinkyCouple
over a year ago

reading

We’ve got both. Fortunately it’s Angel who got them xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality every time "

Many debate and beg to differ on that viewpoint, as a drvebÿ Mac's. Looks are the way to go. So trends are powerfull and numbers & statts show the heavy populas.

I think to my understanding!! Sugar n spice all tingeys nice it means for a just legovers its looks!

Man ive been liveing under a rock me!! Lovl.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Got to be both, I can't sleep with someone I find ugly just because they have a nice personality and I can't sleep with an absolute prick because they are hot.

Mrs

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live


"For me there needs to be a physical attraction but no point in being gorgeous if your personality sucks Agree! A pretty face is destroyed by an ugly personality. "

I totally agree with this

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Looks attract me personality keeps me attracted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For me there needs to be a physical attraction but no point in being gorgeous if your personality sucks Agree! A pretty face is destroyed by an ugly personality.

I totally agree with this "

But it can show with time. We mostly see and go for the looks.

Esp on apps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks get my attention, personality keeps it.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"Looks get my attention, personality keeps it."

Exactly

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

It needs to be both for me but funnily enough I have neither myself.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"It needs to be both for me but funnily enough I have neither myself.

"

Erm disagree there pics are lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It needs to be both for me but funnily enough I have neither myself.

Erm disagree there pics are lovely "

Men are visual are thet not?

Lady knws herself well to make that statment .

But for somebody else to find and be the beholder of her and her beuty fully.

??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks every time to get us talking but it's the personality that will then get us naked.

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

What's between the ears is sexier than what they look like !

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering


"What's between the ears is sexier than what they look like ! "

Mind you if they have the full package then........Woo Hoo

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I bit of both, but personality goes a long way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it truly was personality than I would be having sex 400 times a day.

Need to be attractive enough to the other person for them to want to find out about your personality.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Definitely looks for swinging. If they have a great personality we may become friends, but in the first instance that's not what we look for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's between the ears is sexier than what they look like ! "

In theory or practise?

What are the facts around all this?

Just brain storming really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it truly was personality than I would be having sex 400 times a day.

Need to be attractive enough to the other person for them to want to find out about your personality. "

Nicely put and stated.

Explained well and more understandable to the commom folk.

What is not my Type? ,

When women usually reply back with on here? And other wise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely looks for swinging. If they have a great personality we may become friends, but in the first instance that's not what we look for. "

Could friends first not lead to more?

Or sex attraction first? Then mabye based on personality, friends later after sex. That is a one sided point of view?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"Definitely looks for swinging. If they have a great personality we may become friends, but in the first instance that's not what we look for.

Could friends first not lead to more?

Or sex attraction first? Then mabye based on personality, friends later after sex. That is a one sided point of view?

"

What????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely looks for swinging. If they have a great personality we may become friends, but in the first instance that's not what we look for.

Could friends first not lead to more?

Or sex attraction first? Then mabye based on personality, friends later after sex. That is a one sided point of view?

What????"

Read it again.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Looks have to initially attract me ,ie I have to like their face.

A good personality and sense of humour does help yes ,but if there was no other attraction then it wouldn't happen .

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Personality

I can fuck a pretty thing for the sake of it now and again.

I find more fun and attraction in people who genuinely interest me as people though. As long as the aesthetics aren't an absolute no thanks then the person underneath is far more important to me."

Pretty much this for us.

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By *xxmale76xxxMan
over a year ago

inverness

I've met women (not on here) in everyday life. And never really looked at them twice. Until I got to know them a little. And found them to be incredibly attractive! So personality for me is a winner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've met women (not on here) in everyday life. And never really looked at them twice. Until I got to know them a little. And found them to be incredibly attractive! So personality for me is a winner!

"

Cant beat in the flesh meets, it is what it is.

On the inta net too much time gets wasted ping ponging and the rate of flakeing is 99%. Sucess rate tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. I don’t have a face mask for people but I do have Amazon prime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on the amount of people I've interacted with it's all about looks and even the people who say they want conversation often don't sp very much looks based on Fab. I prefer personality but like a few have said, it's a sex site so people are not here to make friends.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Something has to entice me to try that pizza (or whatever food) so I would say there has to be an initial desire to do more e.g. try a piece.

But the flavour or lack of would determine if I eat the meal or not... irrespective of how hungry I might be, there HAS to be some substance!

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By *ean counterMan
over a year ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering


"What's between the ears is sexier than what they look like !

In theory or practise?

What are the facts around all this?

Just brain storming really. "

I've been with some stunning ladies who were pretty crap in bed so looks don't mean a great deal to me.

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By *lue morphoCouple
over a year ago

North West

Personally definitely!

No good story ever started with we fucked this really physically attractive person who was boring with no personality

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By *ilkstressWoman
over a year ago

Drasnia

I'm greedy, I want both looks and personality. On here, someone's words are going to grab my attention first. If they have no personality or brains, that is reflected in their messages. But if they send me an interesting message, then I'll start to chat to them and will at some point ask to see what they look like. I like both physical and mental attraction, I think having both can make things more intense.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Looks come into it for initial attraction, but ultimately personality and a great sarcastic sense of humour is way better.

Ultimately, you could be the most greatest looking person in the world, but is your personality does not attract me. There is simply no point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best combo would be to have a pretty face and personality together but if I had to choose then it would be personality over looks to some degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks every time.

I'm here to fuck, not make friends."

Think UNOS fell for somebody’s personality

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I go for personality.

She'll need one to sleep with me.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Personally. Looks fade but a personality will last a lifetime

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By *oingfishingWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool


""The prettiest people do the ugliest things".

Is that Kanye?!! "

Yep hahaha x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Looks

If you're not very nice I don't care how bad or good you look also if I don't like how you look no personality in the world will make me find you sexually attractive.

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent


"For me there needs to be a physical attraction but no point in being gorgeous if your personality sucks "

Exactly this

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

It has to be both...can't just put shopping bag over his or her head I need to be able to have a laugh and have to be physically attracted to them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks attract us, personality gets us naked.

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Jordanhill / Scotstoun

Personality, which in turn increases attractiveness.

Someone who is drop dead gorgeous but has no personality soon loses my interest.

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By *umblefunMan
over a year ago

London/ South West (Devon, Somerset).

It has to be a bit of both. Everything is a compromise, so even if I don’t think she is drop dead gorgeous when we meet, things may still progress if there’s a spark of personality. Likewise if she is drop dead gorgeous she’s going to have to have an awful personality for me not to want to have sex with her.

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By *akingHayCouple
over a year ago

Mayfield

We're not looking for relationships, just for fun. So looks (well physical attributes) are the most important initial factor for us in terms of us wanting to meet someone, however a shit personality will make us not want to meet. What we've tended to find is that the guys who are good sexually also tend to have good personalities, and they're the guys we tend to have repeat meets with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately personality. Looks are for me unimportant

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

looks on fab. always looks I go for personality will come through in a vid chat or not

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

Both in equal measure and weighting.

A good personality will make a playmate half as physically appealling twice as much fun to play with.

A smoking hot playmate can, up to a point, get away with a lack of personality.

Where things go really wrong is where they lack either. Or one has such a huge deficit as to make the whole thing unviable.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I'll take a healthy measure of both. A great personality can make someone more attractive. Likewise a terrible personality can make a model look hideous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's between the ears is sexier than what they look like !

In theory or practise?

What are the facts around all this?

Just brain storming really.

I've been with some stunning ladies who were pretty crap in bed so looks don't mean a great deal to me. "

Looks are a mere shell and coating!

The mind and heart_emotions/thought process ,eye contact listening skills,body language are far way superior traits that make up the cocktail of Communications!

Yet the whole trent of just looks Narrative is the table that is laid out and pushed for the very short term!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both in equal measure and weighting.

A good personality will make a playmate half as physically appealling twice as much fun to play with.

A smoking hot playmate can, up to a point, get away with a lack of personality.

Where things go really wrong is where they lack either. Or one has such a huge deficit as to make the whole thing unviable. "

All , and people wish to put up with,and how selective and allowances they give to and whom!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both"

I agree

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

got to be both,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There definately has to be an attraction there but personality is definately important

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Looks always come first as we see with our eyes.

Natural looks win hands down and then if there is a connection, see if their personality matches.

If not, adios.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be some of both, and it’s good that not everyone is attracted to the same things. Attraction to the whole person is ideal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks every time, has to he attraction but if regular playmate both is important.

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

Personality shines through especially for a regular partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'd about the Person not looks for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality shines through especially for a regular partner "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks

It’s a sex site the personality comes after.

No one here is meeting because of personality to start off with.

However there are quite a few here who don’t care what looks look like to get a verification. Sad but true. And men pretending to be a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brain!!!

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By *agic Mike70Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

Beautiful eyes does it for me every time

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By *uffnmuffCouple
over a year ago

London

Both

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

A mix of both

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By *riental_brit_studMan
over a year ago

London

Personality, with a naughty smile, sparkle in their eyes and a dirty mind.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Personality above all else, a laugh is important. We don’t go of looks in general.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Personality always and has to be that one person not the whole of fab

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Looks not going to waste time on some body who not ringing our bell.

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By *abasaurus RexMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"

so how does it work for you looks or personality..

"

There absolutely has to be a basic level of attraction. After that, it’s personality all the way! It’s really attractive when someone’s quietly happy and confident in who they are.

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By *isser36Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast


""The prettiest people do the ugliest things". "

For the road to riches and diamond rings! Haha Kanye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think looks is the higher percentage of why people show an interest to begin with.

But I've also sent a message to a profile because her bio was exactly what I was looking for and it made me laugh out load and she just sounded like someone I'd get on with, she had no profile picture but sent 1 private with a message and if I was to base it on my type I'm attracted to and not her bio I probably wouldn't have messaged .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both.

Pumpkin has to be physically attracted initially to be interested. However she doesn’t know if she wants to fuck someone until she’s met them in person and chatted.

That’s what socials are for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think looks is the higher percentage of why people show an interest to begin with.

But I've also sent a message to a profile because her bio was exactly what I was looking for and it made me laugh out load and she just sounded like someone I'd get on with, she had no profile picture but sent 1 private with a message and if I was to base it on my type I'm attracted to and not her bio I probably wouldn't have messaged .

"

Did you fuck her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality. We meet people not the body they are wrapped in xxx

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Personality definitely as its the people you are meeting not there body

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Personality wins out every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The body is mere shell really!!

Manys light is not there!!

Sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Both.

Pumpkin has to be physically attracted initially to be interested. However she doesn’t know if she wants to fuck someone until she’s met them in person and chatted.

That’s what socials are for "

110% cant beat the real face to face meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think looks is the higher percentage of why people show an interest to begin with.

But I've also sent a message to a profile because her bio was exactly what I was looking for and it made me laugh out load and she just sounded like someone I'd get on with, she had no profile picture but sent 1 private with a message and if I was to base it on my type I'm attracted to and not her bio I probably wouldn't have messaged .

Did you fuck her? "

Did she fuck you?? Lol

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me

Personality over looks ever time for me, sexuality starts in the mind and personality is the public projection of the mind.

Obviously, like anyone, there are certain visual things that get me hot under the collar (and hot when I’m not wearing it too ) but a “hot” person with no personality can leave you feeling nothing

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

100% Personality!!!

Not going to meet with anyone I don't connect with, no matter how physicaly attractive they are. If I can't engage with them mentally then the sex would be no more fulfilling than a wank or a sex toy.

Conversely I may not be attracted to somone physically when I first see or meet them. But then develop a connection and find myself incredibly aroused by the sensuality of their mind and the compatability between us.

So looks are probably even less important than clothes, as far as I'm concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality over looks ever time for me, sexuality starts in the mind and personality is the public projection of the mind.

Obviously, like anyone, there are certain visual things that get me hot under the collar (and hot when I’m not wearing it too ) but a “hot” person with no personality can leave you feeling nothing "

Some would fuck anything just about alive.

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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago

where the world takes me


"Personality over looks ever time for me, sexuality starts in the mind and personality is the public projection of the mind.

Obviously, like anyone, there are certain visual things that get me hot under the collar (and hot when I’m not wearing it too ) but a “hot” person with no personality can leave you feeling nothing

Some would fuck anything just about alive. "

Their choice not mine. I’m sure when I was younger I might’ve been the same, but as I’ve matured I’ve understood what really makes people sexy, and what turns me on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personality over looks ever time for me, sexuality starts in the mind and personality is the public projection of the mind.

Obviously, like anyone, there are certain visual things that get me hot under the collar (and hot when I’m not wearing it too ) but a “hot” person with no personality can leave you feeling nothing

Some would fuck anything just about alive.

Their choice not mine. I’m sure when I was younger I might’ve been the same, but as I’ve matured I’ve understood what really makes people sexy, and what turns me on "

I knw. Wisdom teaches much.

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