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if only my partner would swing......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

draws up the chair sits back with a cuppa and a kit kat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass the popcorn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried talking to your partner?

This subject comes up a lot from time to time.... Maybe show her your profile on here... See if that gets her juices flowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you tried talking to your partner?

This subject comes up a lot from time to time.... Maybe show her your profile on here... See if that gets her juices flowing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So find a partner who is into swinging or stop playing behind your ladies back, it's disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"draws up the chair sits back with a cuppa and a kit kat

"

I'll join ya. Will bring a packet of Penguins......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this "

It's great isn't it... Seems to be a trend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

"

Perhaps if you are so in love you should accept thats what she feels like at the moment and do everything in your power to make her feel secure in that love and who knows, like me, once she feels that she may be secure enough to experiment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another single guy with amnesia about having a girlfriend!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I think your partner might find it a pain in the ass when she is in love with someone and faithful to then and then finds out he is looking for casual sex on a swinging site!

Don't get me wrong, I have played with my share of attached men but I dislike it when guys play the woe is me card.

If you love her and want to do this with her then talk to her about it but if she really isn't in to it then you will either have to live with that and carry on playing behind her back, you will have to be prepared to accept the consequences of this choice. Or you can decide that a life with her and now casual sexis the best life for you.

QWhatever you decide I wish you well.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

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any pain in the rear can be resolved with more lube and poppers....

your pain maybe resolved by some maturity as to what you want... swinging as a solo behind your partner's back and that is your choice, teaming up with a fem and swinging as a couple behind your girlfriends back...

or honesty with your girlfriend and then take it forward from there and what will be, will be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So find a partner who is into swinging or stop playing behind your ladies back, it's disrespectful."

Couldn't have said it better!

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By *eavensent78Couple
over a year ago

west mids

Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx"

actually, you are right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx"

Mine knows but don't want to play herself, although we have ventured together. She says it's just not for her, so I've backed off from asking. Maybe she'll change her mind one day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps if you are so in love you should accept thats what she feels like at the moment and do everything in your power to make her feel secure in that love and who knows, like me, once she feels that she may be secure enough to experiment x"

Couldn't agree more ! Pay all the attention youre giving Fabs to her and talk about her fantasies etc and build on new ones together !

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I was in love with my last girlfriend, she wasn't a swinger, I suspended my Fab account while we were together (although I was cynical enough not to delete it).

I honestly could not of been on here cheating without her knowledge and then claimed to be in love with her. I don't even understand that

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx"

It says on his profile that she doesn't know he is on here.

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx

It says on his profile that she doesn't know he is on here."

I think he probably changed it since he first posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"draws up the chair sits back with a cuppa and a kit kat

I'll join ya. Will bring a packet of Penguins......

"
and ill bring hobnobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

find out how much she loves u back when u tell her ur attempting to 'swing'

or just stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If either of us didn't want to do it anymore we both would stop. Thta is what being a couple is all about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx

It says on his profile that she doesn't know he is on here."

Then he HAS changed his profile; because I looked before I posted and it did not say that when I posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I've seen his girlfriend on a separate profile lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The profile must have been updated since I first looked. At least the OP is being upfront on here about his gf...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

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Have you tried asking her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So find a partner who is into swinging or stop playing behind your ladies back, it's disrespectful."

Agreed.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this "
the profile says this dont it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The profile must have been updated since I first looked. At least the OP is being upfront on here about his gf..."

Not upfront with gf though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this the profile says this dont it? "

It does now apparently

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx

It says on his profile that she doesn't know he is on here."

also says 'at least i'm honest'..

ooh ironic also..

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Can't see the bit where he says he is doing anything behind her back just that she is not in to swinging lets give him the benefit or the bought and say she knows but don't want to get involved xx

It says on his profile that she doesn't know he is on here.

also says 'at least i'm honest'..

ooh ironic also.."

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

Have you tried asking her?"

no time..

too busy on here to communicate whom he actually is..

will end in tears if she finds out its been over a year since the profile was set up..

(to be fair he does'nt say how long they have been together)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this the profile says this dont it? "

It does now, but it didn't when the earlier comments were made

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It's strange really that it's always blokes trying to cajole a Female partner into swinging, and seldom the other way round.

Wolf

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It is a pain when your partners sexual desires are different to your own. The way to deal with it if you want to stay together is to try and find common ground sexually.

As an aside can you not see the contradiction in the first sentence of your profile? You are prepared to be honest with strangers but not the woman you love?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's strange really that it's always blokes trying to cajole a Female partner into swinging, and seldom the other way round.

Wolf

"

Thanks because I think moat guys would jump at the chance. (pun intended).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"I love these threads

Incredible how many people will say how their other halvess do not know, and yet the profile fails to mention this the profile says this dont it?

It does now, but it didn't when the earlier comments were made "
oh rite even worse change the profile b4 the post classic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'no my partner doesn't know i am on here at least i am honest'

I've never used the word chortle but that's what i just did.

No. No you're not. Not to the person that matters anyway

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"It's strange really that it's always blokes trying to cajole a Female partner into swinging, and seldom the other way round.

Wolf

Thanks because I think moat guys would jump at the chance. (pun

intended)."

I can't type properly! I meant to say "I think most guys would jump at the chance to swing (pun intended).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"draws up the chair sits back with a cuppa and a kit kat

I'll join ya. Will bring a packet of Penguins......

"

Try biting off opposite corners on a penguin and sucking tea/coffee through it then shove the lot in your gob... heaven!

crystal

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago


"Dont you think its a pain in the rear when your inlove but your partner is in noway shape or form into the fun of casual sex.....

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1st and main rule of swinging is keep your personal problems in the closet. not a good mixture.

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By *inkyScot22Man
over a year ago

Anniesland

Somewhere out there is a forum post titled "I wish my partner wouldn't swing"... you probably wouldn't find it on a swingers site but I think you get the point...

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"...because I think moat guys would jump at the chance. (pun

intended).

I can't type properly! I meant to say "I think most guys would jump at the chance to swing (pun intended)."

Is you saying us blokes are easy?

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's strange really that it's always blokes trying to cajole a Female partner into swinging, and seldom the other way round.

Wolf

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Erm I dragged my ex husband off to la chambre after he said he wanted us 'not to see other people', back when we were dating so its not that unusual

I should prob add Ive also chatted to men on dating sites and in real life and suggested swinging to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps u need to talk to her about other naughty things, picture taking, public risk taking sex, even rating other women (my partner and I do this) maybe make some annon porn after watching some together and try to convince her to put it on a self porn website. We know a few and actually introduced another couple from one to fab. They were very nervous about meeting couples but have met similar "soft" couples for same room fun and naughty games. His mrs feels so sexy now and is hinting on trying more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We do share intrests and see eye to eye except on the sexual front we have discussed and will always nudge.

No have never physicly cheated but have c2c

Yes do like to talk and have a laugh with ppl who are as open similar minded

Yes would swing if she did

Yes have had group fun in past

No have never swung with a partner

Yes would like to build contact/friend for future if im lucky and she changes mind or if we split :-s|

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in same situation however I state it clearly on my profile as I would not want anyone to meet me unaware of this. So far everyone has been non judgemental and that's lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in same situation however I state it clearly on my profile as I would not want anyone to meet me unaware of this. So far everyone has been non judgemental and that's lovely."

I'd be judgmental if the OP had said "isnt it right that I play around on my gf, as she gives me nothing at home!"

he's only said its a pain in the neck she isnt interested lol..its better when ppl dont seek validation for deceiving a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm in same situation however I state it clearly on my profile as I would not want anyone to meet me unaware of this. So far everyone has been non judgemental and that's lovely.

I'd be judgmental if the OP had said "isnt it right that I play around on my gf, as she gives me nothing at home!"

he's only said its a pain in the neck she isnt interested lol..its better when ppl dont seek validation for deceiving a partner "

Oh i know I wasn't attacking the fella. I'm no better in fact I'm worse really because I am deceiving someone. As I say a lot of people on here have been lovely and non judgemental towards me regardless of whether I deserve it or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I give a shit what people are doing on the site, what I can't really be arsed with are the constant threads looking for validation.

OP, why are you even asking what people think? Will this thread make one iota of difference to your life choices?

Get a backbone, stop fecking whining, you have free will, if you don't like your situation - change it

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