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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Personal preference....

Same as every other reason people choose to meet / not meet other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No hangups here, just preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wholeheartably agree with you ....take me for instance im 99 years old and im fight the 25 years old off still ...you just cant win can you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an age preference, its simply though my experience i have found what i prefer, not just age though but other preferences too !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal choice shouldn't be allowed... if you are on a swingers site you should be up to shag anyone that wants a shag.......

Or is that just what some think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong i understand preference but it seems a lot of people assume as I'm 26 I have no experience or I'm immature.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Your age wouldn't bother me as I prefer men younger. But I'm sure most people have a preference one way or another. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just another preference. Our age range is set where we are most comfortable. Much as it might be a huge turn on, but we wouldn't play with anyone younger enough to be our kids, or anyone old enough to be our parents either! And even at 51, there are Swingers on here who ARE old enough to be our Mum and Dad!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose older guys because they're more mature and have body types shaped by their choices in life, young bodies on the whole don't turn me on, so why would i meet young guys with young bodies?

The few i may be interested in (outwith my age preference), i'm sure will find a way to get my attention!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all down to personal preference...

We have chosen our age range and are quite happy with that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I decided to go with a strict age range & age filter, to filter more messages out.

If I'm chatting with someone in a club I wouldnt ask their age.

Also I prefer older guys, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have people blocking me because of my ages.

if its a fitness thing or being able to please in the bedroom they are making a error in judgement.

which is sad because some i would love to meet and you never know?

they may think after that im a nice guy who gave them a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have an age range on our profile as its "just what we like" from our experiences.

I personally don,t think anyone should be offended or argue against whatever preferences people have, its their personal choice just the same as some guys like slim women some like the larger ladies etc etc ...its just that persons/couples choice.

As somebody else mentioned somewhere above.....just cos we,re swingers does that mean I have to have sex with ANY other swinger?? don,t think so .

( now takes a breath lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have an age range on our profile as its "just what we like" from our experiences.

I personally don,t think anyone should be offended or argue against whatever preferences people have, its their personal choice just the same as some guys like slim women some like the larger ladies etc etc ...its just that persons/couples choice.

As somebody else mentioned somewhere above.....just cos we,re swingers does that mean I have to have sex with ANY other swinger?? don,t think so .

( now takes a breath lol) "

no your right.

choice is down to individual.

but when its only a couple of years difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is just another preference that is an option on profiles! Some have specifics - others choose 18-99 (although I haven't seen many 98 yr olds on site!!)

Some are flexible and may message you themselves should they choose, but will filter incoming messages by choice.

Preferences can be frustrating at times but need to be respected!

I'm pissed off because I'm not a single bi fem!! But there's sod all I can do about that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age is just another preference that is an option on profiles! Some have specifics - others choose 18-99 (although I haven't seen many 98 yr olds on site!!)

Some are flexible and may message you themselves should they choose, but will filter incoming messages by choice.

Preferences can be frustrating at times but need to be respected!

I'm pissed off because I'm not a single bi fem!! But there's sod all I can do about that! "
lol good point.

you just have to accept some you'll not be able to meet and leave it at that regardless of how much youd like to.

im sure that works for couples and fems too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have an age range on our profile as its "just what we like" from our experiences.

I personally don,t think anyone should be offended or argue against whatever preferences people have, its their personal choice just the same as some guys like slim women some like the larger ladies etc etc ...its just that persons/couples choice.

As somebody else mentioned somewhere above.....just cos we,re swingers does that mean I have to have sex with ANY other swinger?? don,t think so .

( now takes a breath lol)

no your right.

choice is down to individual.

but when its only a couple of years difference?"

I understand your point,

We,re open minded & so if a guy contacts us and we chat etc & we get along then we are open minded to possibly still meet that guy,

Thats why we have the age range we prefer mentioned in our profile info/discussion info but DON,T have it set using the filters etc ....happy to keep an open mind etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have an age range on our profile as its "just what we like" from our experiences.

I personally don,t think anyone should be offended or argue against whatever preferences people have, its their personal choice just the same as some guys like slim women some like the larger ladies etc etc ...its just that persons/couples choice.

As somebody else mentioned somewhere above.....just cos we,re swingers does that mean I have to have sex with ANY other swinger?? don,t think so .

( now takes a breath lol)

no your right.

choice is down to individual.

but when its only a couple of years difference?

I understand your point,

We,re open minded & so if a guy contacts us and we chat etc & we get along then we are open minded to possibly still meet that guy,

Thats why we have the age range we prefer mentioned in our profile info/discussion info but DON,T have it set using the filters etc ....happy to keep an open mind etc .

"
and thats good to hear.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Most the people on here will have met quite a wide range of ages in the past and made their decision based on that. If they are of an age where they have a higher bottom age limit then there will be a reason for that and all the moaning in the world will not change it.

The OPs best bet is to look for profiles which do not exclude him, and he'll be more successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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and thats good to hear. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get me wrong i understand preference but it seems a lot of people assume as I'm 26 I have no experience or I'm immature. "

another way of looking at it is, if we were both ten years younger (ie you 16 and me 38) I could be seen as a paedophile. I know this isn't the case. It is purely my preference to meet others of a similar age to myself, similar life experience, outlook on life and in general things that connect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading back here its obvious that age is not the main criteria we used to select is it - we old fashioned fools still like to think you have to like the person first and foremost and be honest about it.

Yes we all have limits, but that's more about our morals i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS:

You either like someone and click or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!"

so just as a matter of interest whats wrong with women over 50?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have people blocking me because of my ages.

if its a fitness thing or being able to please in the bedroom they are making a error in judgement.

which is sad because some i would love to meet and you never know?

they may think after that im a nice guy who gave them a great time."

No matter how good someone claims to be in bed, unless they are attractive to me I would feel nothing but repultion if they got sexual with me thanks!

I do not find older guys attractive.. My limit is 30 but rarely go over 25 but have already stretched me limit by a few years so 30 is my cut off!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?"

I would say it is most definitely only an issue when it affects him if he has an age limit on his profile! Some people like, sheesh!

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

We have our age preferences set, and I (fem ) am the one that enforces them, very strictly. But at Chams we have met & played with people both older and younger, much to my OH's amusement

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?

I would say it is most definitely only an issue when it affects him if he has an age limit on his profile! Some people like, sheesh! "

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Hahahaha, I guess he didn't see that coming!

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We have age limits set - and they are flexible. I have played with much younger men - and have never found it a brilliant experience 1-2-1, so prefer to keep the limits In Chams I will flex them a little more either way - but there I have more nameless/ faceless/ chat-less/ group based fun so it is different to someone I am meeting 1-2-1 in or out of a club

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!"

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A girl I used to meet regularly said she'd become quite militant about her age preferences even though she was prepared to grant some latitude because if she stated a 45 minimum she'd get messages from blokes aged 40 asking what the difference was. Her point was that her ideal man was around 50ish and she'd already factored in there might be some younger who fitted the bill, hence 45 minimum and no lower, not that it should ever require explanation.

Something else that infuriated her was the fact that men constantly disregarded her stated preferences and tried to circumvent them..in her view that was worse than anything!

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!

.

A girl I used to meet regularly said she'd become quite militant about her age preferences even though she was prepared to grant some latitude because if she stated a 45 minimum she'd get messages from blokes aged 40 asking what the difference was. Her point was that her ideal man was around 50ish and she'd already factored in there might be some younger who fitted the bill, hence 45 minimum and no lower, not that it should ever require explanation.

Something else that infuriated her was the fact that men constantly disregarded her stated preferences and tried to circumvent them..in her view that was worse than anything!"

Yep - I've stated the 'ideal' on profile - and haven't built in the flexibility there, knowing full well that people will message saying 'but I'm only 4 years younger/ older'

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Mine are set because I prefer people round about my own age! I do say I will move the barriers (slightly) But some on here think that means by over 10 years - NOT, they are set for a reason.

I don't like younger than I have stated because I work with people younger and I know the conversations they have and that definitely would not suit what I am looking for

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"i have people blocking me because of my ages.

if its a fitness thing or being able to please in the bedroom they are making a error in judgement.

which is sad because some i would love to meet and you never know?

they may think after that im a nice guy who gave them a great time.

No matter how good someone claims to be in bed, unless they are attractive to me I would feel nothing but repultion if they got sexual with me thanks!

I do not find older guys attractive.. My limit is 30 but rarely go over 25 but have already stretched me limit by a few years so 30 is my cut off!"

For a minute I thought I'd typed this and forgotten I'd posted it! Haha! It's exactly my opinion. However I took my filters off the other day as occasionally, and I mean very occasionally I see an older chap who fits the bill. But I have noticed that usually it's part of a couple. Which is odd x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours really is a hangup. The thought of playing with someone younger than both our kids doesn't sit well with us. We adjust our age range every year accordingly

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!

.

A girl I used to meet regularly said she'd become quite militant about her age preferences even though she was prepared to grant some latitude because if she stated a 45 minimum she'd get messages from blokes aged 40 asking what the difference was. Her point was that her ideal man was around 50ish and she'd already factored in there might be some younger who fitted the bill, hence 45 minimum and no lower, not that it should ever require explanation.

Something else that infuriated her was the fact that men constantly disregarded her stated preferences and tried to circumvent them..in her view that was worse than anything!

Yep - I've stated the 'ideal' on profile - and haven't built in the flexibility there, knowing full well that people will message saying 'but I'm only 4 years younger/ older' "

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If you were an old bugger like me you'd be grateful for a bit of flexibility...especially getting out of bed in the morning

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Mine are set because I prefer people round about my own age! I do say I will move the barriers (slightly) But some on here think that means by over 10 years - NOT, they are set for a reason.

I don't like younger than I have stated because I work with people younger and I know the conversations they have and that definitely would not suit what I am looking for "

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!

.

A girl I used to meet regularly said she'd become quite militant about her age preferences even though she was prepared to grant some latitude because if she stated a 45 minimum she'd get messages from blokes aged 40 asking what the difference was. Her point was that her ideal man was around 50ish and she'd already factored in there might be some younger who fitted the bill, hence 45 minimum and no lower, not that it should ever require explanation.

Something else that infuriated her was the fact that men constantly disregarded her stated preferences and tried to circumvent them..in her view that was worse than anything!

Yep - I've stated the 'ideal' on profile - and haven't built in the flexibility there, knowing full well that people will message saying 'but I'm only 4 years younger/ older'

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If you were an old bugger like me you'd be grateful for a bit of flexibility...especially getting out of bed in the morning "

Hah! As you're only 2 years older than me, I don;t think you count as an old bugger!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are 51 and 53 and only want to meet guys from 35 to 65 we had a few meets with single young guys and they turnd up just in tracky bottems and trainers just wanted a quik shag then go but i know there not all like that. the more mature men are a lot better dress smart smell nice and even bring me flowers and wine and we can talk about things we have in comon lol ow and yes we have 3 daughters 26 28 and 31 so just would not feel right

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!"

It's all about preference mate. Some people like older playmates some younger. Some will only look for couples whilst others only wish to meet bi women/guys. Some will only play with thier own colour whilst others look for BBC.

I do see your point of view as some older folk can be just as immature as an 18 year old constantly thinking with the wrong head but going on my own experience if you wish to show you are mature then i'd suggest going to socials/munches and meeting people face to facr ratger than just via the site.

As for the post suggesting we're all swingers and should just be shagging everyone and anyone who messages, personally i think that is the wrong idea about swinging as it shows no respect for any playmates, their desires, their preferences & their choice.

Just my opinion on your post bud, hopefully it makes sense

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why are people so hung on ages?

Surely it shouldn't matter how old you are when it comes to having fun, I understand for some if they have kids my age etc. but some seem to be really obsessed even if its only a case of a year or so.

Surely we should be judged on our maturity not our age. We are not all inexperienced children!"

You tell me why people are hung up on ages. You're the one with a ceiling of fifty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?

I would say it is most definitely only an issue when it affects him if he has an age limit on his profile! Some people like, sheesh!

.

Hahahaha, I guess he didn't see that coming! "

As I stated in my original post I understand if its the fact your the same age as someone's kids etc. which is why mine is set at 50 limit as its ny parents age I just find that a but weird.

It's more about when I get an email saying I'm 2 years to young that's what I'm saying by hung up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to do with maturity, it's what's comfortable for people and a preference; mine is for people my own age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personal choice shouldn't be allowed... if you are on a swingers site you should be up to shag anyone that wants a shag.......

Or is that just what some think?"

Yes it is and mostly the 20's age group funnily enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?

I would say it is most definitely only an issue when it affects him if he has an age limit on his profile! Some people like, sheesh!

.

Hahahaha, I guess he didn't see that coming!

As I stated in my original post I understand if its the fact your the same age as someone's kids etc. which is why mine is set at 50 limit as its ny parents age I just find that a but weird.

It's more about when I get an email saying I'm 2 years to young that's what I'm saying by hung up. "

So if a 49 year old messaged you would that be weird or not weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I stated in my original post I understand if its the fact your the same age as someone's kids etc. which is why mine is set at 50 limit as its ny parents age I just find that a but weird.

It's more about when I get an email saying I'm 2 years to young that's what I'm saying by hung up. "

You have to have a cut off point somewhere though..... And just another thought, perhaps the person wasn't interested in a meet and used the age difference to fall back on? Easier than having to justify why and as you have alluded to earlier 2 years isn't too much of a difference if you fit the bill in other areas....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I stated in my original post I understand if its the fact your the same age as someone's kids etc. which is why mine is set at 50 limit as its ny parents age I just find that a but weird.

It's more about when I get an email saying I'm 2 years to young that's what I'm saying by hung up.

You have to have a cut off point somewhere though..... And just another thought, perhaps the person wasn't interested in a meet and used the age difference to fall back on? Easier than having to justify why and as you have alluded to earlier 2 years isn't too much of a difference if you fit the bill in other areas....

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a cut off yes maybe.

i would understand a guy being in his late forties feeling uncomfortable with a woman in her early 20's.

then again some would go for it.

oh i dunno. fook it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Out of interest OP, I notice you have an upper age limit of 50, does that mean preferences are only an issue when they exclude you but not when you chose them?

I would say it is most definitely only an issue when it affects him if he has an age limit on his profile! Some people like, sheesh!

.

Hahahaha, I guess he didn't see that coming!

As I stated in my original post I understand if its the fact your the same age as someone's kids etc. which is why mine is set at 50 limit as its ny parents age I just find that a but weird.

It's more about when I get an email saying I'm 2 years to young that's what I'm saying by hung up. "

Well, look on the bright side - in two years you won't be, will you...?

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