FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just having a bit of a rant, lol really don't get the amount of people on here who won't play with married men, correct me if I'm wrong but isn't that the idea of swinging?

My wife and I joined fab together and have swung together, but she has now found a couple of regular FB's and we are both very happy with that, I still like to meet different people, I don't want to create a profile on my own as my wife like to log in and use the account for chatting, and don't want to pretend to be single man some what defeats object of swinging!

Any ideas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with what you are doing. Some people are just idiots. Find the nice ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just having a bit of a rant, lol really don't get the amount of people on here who won't play with married men, correct me if I'm wrong but isn't that the idea of swinging?

Any ideas?

Just crack on buddy - I wouldn't worry to much about what people on here think about anything. It's your own choices and life that really matter.

All of the above could be explained on a new profile - with a link to your 'couples' profile, as some sort of 'proof' (although that shouldn't really be required.

In any case good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have a single profile not a couples one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we both have singles profiles as well as this couple profile. We simply explain how things are in the profiles and point people to the other profiles. We also are happy to speak to anyone who wants extra 'proof' although so far this has not been necessary

Ignore the idiots who judge married men (its happened to me too) and concentrate on the nice people on here of which there are many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused-easily done I know!, your profile is a single male not a couple. Your text changes from I to We and you refer to a bi lady then your wife but it isn't clear if it's the same person.

Advice would be to make it clear your wife.is happy with you playing solo and whether there's a way that potential playmates can check that out.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Totally agree with you me and wife swing together and sometimes we have fun alone depending on our work ,we have three guys lined up who she plays solo with,so I know she is safe,harder finding single fems or other couples to play with husbands alone .as they think I am cheating,in the three years we have been swinging,I have found only one wife to play solo with,apart from her husband being on phone as we played. Have played solo with women at party's and clubs .once they have spoke to wife

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Well your dead straight about it on your profile, so that is good.

It's tough for even us single guys to find a lady on here, so I guess add another thing some women have a problem with and it's just that bit harder.

Maybe put a bit in your profile saying your wife would like to meet any of your potential playmates for a social as well? That way they know it's all as open and honest as you say.

Good luck with your search.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

apologies OP... I misread your original post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time I would knowingly meet/play with a married guy is if I could have a social meet with both of the couple first and discuss it with both. X

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By *yggeCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

Your profile is up front . We get very suspicious of singles approaching from couples profiles for one simple reason. There is an element of fake or 'wanking' profiles on here that never intend to meet. Our play time is valued and any complication that presents it self on initial contact (not verified etc) is _iewed as making it more likely to be let down or 'tricked'. The only one that looses out is us as they have had there kicks, we are sat in the pub alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP does have a good point to make in that there are some odd balls on here who just pretend to be a couple to attract single fems; so its probably true that others are a bit septicticle

My ex and i where a swinging "Bi" couple and played alone but with separate profiles and a couples profile; less confusion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women just blackball the entire group because of one or two idiots that literally are married men cheating behind their partner's back which obviously crosses a morale boundary.

However they are missing out on decent guys who are attached but have their own single profile. This is a right ballache for guys in a couple situation where the Mrs is having the time of her life and the poor guy is lucky to actually get a reply to a message. "I don't do married guys" is then the patronising punctuation mark that women don't even realise and also hypocritical as it's been pointed out seeing as most of the guys from couples profiles that they've slept with are probably married

My own situation hasn't had that much of an effect on me being able to get meets. Both me and the wife are on here separately as singles. We've never swapped as a couple. Still live together while going through divorce(amicable). Kind of a different situation but we're not cheating behind backs and we're splitting anyway.

The biggest hinderance in meeting people, moreso dating sites because i'm an honest sort, is actually getting people to realise i'm telling the truth about my situation. Luckily i've had a number of really good friends wb and fb's but they were mostly dubious to start with because of the number of complete fuckwits who are cheating behind someone's back and then lying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just my personal preference not to play with the males of couples, nor men attached and playing as a single/ playing solo. I wouldn't play with a married woman without meeting with her partner to verify he is ok with her meeting other women.

The same as I turn x amount of single men down, and I choose not to find a fb for the sake of creating a couples profile. Its my preferences now.

For me, I like meeting with singles, I dont want to be treading on someone elses toes, and have (sorry to say) seen more domestics within swinging than I want to remember, now my choices reflect that.

There is a wealth of single men on here, so when you're joining that crowd, the pure numbers mean you will find it harder to find a match I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile is up front . We get very suspicious of singles approaching from couples profiles for one simple reason. There is an element of fake or 'wanking' profiles on here that never intend to meet. Our play time is valued and any complication that presents it self on initial contact (not verified etc) is _iewed as making it more likely to be let down or 'tricked'. The only one that looses out is us as they have had there kicks, we are sat in the pub alone! "

Thanks for reply, I do get and understand you, but just get a bit frustrated sometimes lol. I really enjoy playing with couples, but do find it frustrating especially as I have been verified on my own.

Oh well I'll keep plugging away until I find a nice couple.

Xxx

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"really don't get the amount of people on here who won't play with married men, correct me if I'm wrong but isn't that the idea of swinging?

Any ideas?

that's 'your' idea of swinging, others will differ and at the end of the day why not accept that rather than 'rant' about it..?

you wont ever change other peoples preferences and choices, and nor i expect would you want to..?

any ideas? ..concentrate on that which you can effect and enjoy..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"really don't get the amount of people on here who won't play with married men, correct me if I'm wrong but isn't that the idea of swinging?

Any ideas?

that's 'your' idea of swinging, others will differ and at the end of the day why not accept that rather than 'rant' about it..?

you wont ever change other peoples preferences and choices, and nor i expect would you want to..?

any ideas? ..concentrate on that which you can effect and enjoy.."

It was meant as a tongue in cheek 'rant' to start a debate.

Looks like it worked, thanks for your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes its a bit stupid when i met men with my wife we only met bi married men , they are the ones who will not go mouthing off two other people mates etc about what they are up to because their married so they are the most discreet even though we hardly ever did bi again they are not going to tell the guys in the pub the next week they fucked my wife while suckng my cock, they have to much to loose so the people that wont meet these guys are not thinking straight

again just enjoy and go for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess some people feel they have the right to play with single guys if having a 1-1 meet, rather than one half of a couple, just simpler that's all, means I don't have to contact a 3rd person for validation!

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