FabSwingers.com forum: Gay men

By *parhawk2 OP Man
over a year ago

Erith

My profile says I’m straight so why do I constantly get gay men messaging me?

Each to your own boys no judgement here I’ll politely reject their offers

But never do I get women message me unless I message first, why?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Maybe they like your pictures. You can block men from messaging you know

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By *parhawk2 OP Man
over a year ago

Erith

Don’t want to block men as I chat to anyone

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Simple equation really:

Male promiscuity

Many males not being as straight as they claim (for many social reasons and taboos)

Wishful thinking

Unsolicited homosexual advances

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"My profile says I’m straight so why do I constantly get gay men messaging me?

Because they get turned on by your profile pic ?

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"My profile says I’m straight so why do I constantly get gay men messaging me?

Each to your own boys no judgement here I’ll politely reject their offers

But never do I get women message me unless I message first, why?"

Male entitlement.

Our profile says we don’t want straight men, they still contact.

Our profile has age limits, they still message.

Our profile says we don’t ‘meet now’, they still try and get us too.

Society has told men they can override someone’s preferences or requests if they’re charming or persistent enough.

Think about how many Rom coms when the hero keeps trying it on with the girl and, shock horror it pays off!

So what have they to loose by contacting you?

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Don’t want to block men as I chat to anyone "

Merely our thoughts, there's a relatively obvious motivation for most people being on here, so if we were to unblock single guys we'd be ready for those kind of messages as they'd be understandably under the impression we may be..

In honesty when we have dropped that filter the majority were polite and a pleasure to receive.

But were blocked as we weren't looking for that before taking a break and we don't like to waste people's time if they feel we may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says I’m gay yet I constantly get straight men messaging me.

It’s just how fab rolls.

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By *parhawk2 OP Man
over a year ago

Erith

You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message? "

Maybe they don't feel from your profile they would have enough in common with you or don't feel that you would be a good match.

Your profile is your shop window in order to attract people and get them to message, maybe it set out in a way that attracts men more than women, although there are a lot more men on the site than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile says I’m gay yet I constantly get straight men messaging me.

It’s just how fab rolls. "

Same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message? "

Because they’re not gay men. Stop fighting it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message? "

Probably 90% of women and couples don't ever message first. They get loads of cock in their inbox so they don't need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message? "

I’d suggest a few reasons

Given the ratios on here they don’t need to. Their inboxes are already full of messages every day.

Messaging immediately gets you past their filters.

A lot don’t like cock pics at all let alone as an avatar.

They prob find that simply saying hello is taken as tacit agreement of a meet and then have to block men who can’t have a conversation.

This probably isn’t an exhaustive list ..

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

So much dishonesty on people's profiles on this site.

Fab straight, fab bi, fab single...

And people don't read profiles.

Just block and move on.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message? "

Because you have a cock as your avi. The majority of women just pass on by profiles with this. It’s just a reality on sex / swing hookup sites like this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve explained why men message.

Why do the women not message?

Because they’re not gay men. Stop fighting it!

Lol. Simple really.

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

Probably because a lot of straight men on here are not straight in private messages so they shoot their shot.

Take it as a compliment

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By *aldoniaMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I get loads of men whose profile says ‘straight’ asking to suck my cock….. so the straight status on a website like this means nothing.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

This is our stock answer to guys who list themselves as straight but claim to be Bi in messaging!

Being open and honest about sexuality is very important to us.If you’re one of the mostly men who list themselves as straight, but claim to be bi; have a long hard look at what you’re doing. While it sucks that some women and couples won’t meet bi guys, due to outdated assumptions, lying to get sex does nothing to improve this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get loads of men whose profile says ‘straight’ asking to suck my cock….. so the straight status on a website like this means nothing. "

Sneaky

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