FabSwingers.com forum: Autism and ADD

By *exTex OP Man
over a year ago

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I wonder if I've spotted a correlation with swingers and neuro-divergence?

Might you identify as autistic or with attention deficit with or without hyperactivity?

Do you find yourself being lost in a rabbit hole of all things 'swinging' for days on end and then have no interest later?

Or perhaps you're overeager in communicating with new partner(s) and seem intense?

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By *exy Pretty FeetCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

ADD here... Definitely have that all or nothing trait. Not just on fab but in everything. Currently battling a 'nothing' phase at work where I have a ton of things all needing to be completed within the next two weeks. Help!!

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over a year ago

"I wonder if I've spotted a correlation with swingers and neuro-divergence?

Might you identify as autistic or with attention deficit with or without hyperactivity?

Do you find yourself being lost in a rabbit hole of all things 'swinging' for days on end and then have no interest later?

Or perhaps you're overeager in communicating with new partner(s) and seem intense? "

Correlation does not equal causation or relation.

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over a year ago

"ADD here... Definitely have that all or nothing trait. Not just on fab but in everything. Currently battling a 'nothing' phase at work where I have a ton of things all needing to be completed within the next two weeks. Help!! "

I just commented on the ND thread above as I have recently been told, at 58 years old, that I am possibly on the spectrum.

Is this 'all or nothing' thing a symptom?

I spent my whole career in accountancy having cycles where I would do nothing for two weeks but then be able to catch up within a couple of days.

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By *exy Pretty FeetCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England

I just commented on the ND thread above as I have recently been told, at 58 years old, that I am possibly on the spectrum.

Is this 'all or nothing' thing a symptom?

I spent my whole career in accountancy having cycles where I would do nothing for two weeks but then be able to catch up within a couple of days."

I'm not sure with regards to those on the spectrum but it's definitely a trait many AD(H)D folks have. I think it's to do with going into hyperfocus mode but not always being able to intentionally make that switch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if I've spotted a correlation with swingers and neuro-divergence?

Might you identify as autistic or with attention deficit with or without hyperactivity?

Do you find yourself being lost in a rabbit hole of all things 'swinging' for days on end and then have no interest later?

Or perhaps you're overeager in communicating with new partner(s) and seem intense? "

Hence why we're on part 12 of the neurodivergent thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't 'identify' as autistic or ADHD -- but they are formal diagnoses I picked up late in my journey, and they match a lot of my experience of myself.

There's a stereotype of the socially awkward autistic, never getting laid, never taking care of their appearance, never going out and having that lost look in their eyes.

But it's just a stereotype and not always true.

The flip side is that neurodiversity can come with obsession and compulsion, and that sex can become a 'special interest' in its own right.

People with ADHD (either as a comorbidity or alone) tend to have fewer social issues (or have adapted to cope) and more compulsive behaviour -- add a strong sex drive into the mix and they can end up very experimental and disinhibited.

Mix that with not giving a shit about convention and societal rules, and you have a recipe for a great time.

That's my excuse anyway.

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