FabSwingers.com forum: "pushing boundaries"

By *illlogan OP Man
over a year ago

Essex

We see this term used a lot here, but what does it mean to you personally?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I'm a weird bitch. I like my boundaries. I'm happy with where they are. So anyone who claims they want to push them, well, they can fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality "

Exactly that you don't know you don't like it until you've tried it....

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By *MandMMCouple
over a year ago

Welwyn

If people want to push their boundaries, that's all good. But pushing others boundaries isn't on

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

"I'm a weird bitch. I like my boundaries. I'm happy with where they are. So anyone who claims they want to push them, well, they can fuck off

This all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should always make sure you know each others boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a weird bitch. I like my boundaries. I'm happy with where they are. So anyone who claims they want to push them, well, they can fuck off

This all the way"

Completely

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Always respect others boundaries and expect same in return.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

"I'm a weird bitch. I like my boundaries. I'm happy with where they are. So anyone who claims they want to push them, well, they can fuck off

exactly this!

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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

"We see this term used a lot here, but what does it mean to you personally? "

I have some hard non negotiable limits which should never be pushed. I do however like trying new things and as a fan of the sub world I like to keep my mind open to new experiences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This phrase makes me itch. No i don't want my boundaries pushed

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

"I'm a weird bitch. I like my boundaries. I'm happy with where they are. So anyone who claims they want to push them, well, they can fuck off

This all the way"

Yeahhh

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

The only person who gets to push my boundaries is my Dom and that's only because I trust him and have been meeting for 4.5 years.

Anyone else has to be willing to respect my boundaries and if they don't then we don't meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much to push if I’m honest…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushing boundaries … isn’t that what Swinging is ??

Enjoying all and more as often and with whoever we choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's when men lead with when they're outside my age range and think they're special enough to change it.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

As we have found, each individual cpl will probably have different boundaries, however after some really good meets the so called bounderies are cuming down

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By *ewsexycplCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

For us it's about moving forward from stuff we are comfortable with. This last week we've done this... By first of all having Mrs E licked out by a woman and then fucked by another man! What boundaries are next.... DP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t mind pushing past my own boundaries as and when the times right.

Big red flag when others try especially when guys say “Oh I bet I could get you to change your mind”

Errrr NO!

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By *winging_couple300Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Pushing our own boundaries are perfectly fine, wouldn’t dream of imposing our will on others.

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

For me it’s just being open to understanding or exploring what this lifestyle might entail.

Personally for instance I’d never been with a woman as her partner watched. And then I was lucky enough to experience it. I’ve never been to a club, I think that would be interesting with the right person/people. So for me it’s taking an interest, listening to interesting people and seeing if anything sparks an interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clint Eastwood said it the best.

"A man's got to know his limitations."

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality

Exactly that you don't know you don't like it until you've tried it...."

There are things that I just don't like the idea of. That's enough to make me never want to try them

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality

Exactly that you don't know you don't like it until you've tried it....

There are things that I just don't like the idea of. That's enough to make me never want to try them "

I would agree with this, there are certain things that don’t interest me. There are things however that I’d never heard of, thought about or realised were possibilities. And I guess that’s what it means for me.

Interesting topic however as I realise it can be interpreted in a bunch of different ways so I think my vocabulary will change as a result

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

It’s doing the things that are out of our comfort zone. How else do you get to develop new tastes and interests? X

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

Galway

I like to agree on the boundaries before play starts. That way, there's no tears.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

"Pushing our own boundaries are perfectly fine, wouldn’t dream of imposing our will on others."

Couldn’t agree more

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I (female) don't really like the praise "Pushing Boundaries" what boundaries are you trying to push? It's the same as 'I am open to anything"?? Really are you??

I am not that kinky and I can think of one or two things that you are most likely to say no too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It means disrespectful people.

Often men who say they know I'm gay but it doesn't bother them, they will fuck/ lick me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality

Exactly that you don't know you don't like it until you've tried it....

There are things that I just don't like the idea of. That's enough to make me never want to try them "

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

If you're happy for others to push your boundaries, then they're not really boundaries are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy for others to push your boundaries, then they're not really boundaries are they?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people want to push their boundaries, that's all good. But pushing others boundaries isn't on"

I think it depends on the context, obviously it can be taken too far. But I haven’t regretted having my boundaries pushed by someone, and I wouldn’t know enjoy some of the things I enjoy the most now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you're happy for others to push your boundaries, then they're not really boundaries are they?"

Damn this does make a lot of sense, for some it’s a very hard line. For others it’s more the edge of their comfort zone.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I suppose the real difference here is what people consider a boundary.

Anything I have established as a boundary I do not want pushed.

If someone suggests something that hasn't occurred before that I hadn't particularly thought about and sounds fun, that's not a boundary to me, just something new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a boundary is something I put up that is not to be pushed. It's a hard NO

How do I try new things ? With ease I try lots of things these aren't boundaries to me.

In the kink scene we use the term hard limit which means no, never, red, don't push , don't ask.

Then you have soft limit which is a no but open to discussion usually with a trusted person.

I just hate the idea of someone wanting to push my boundaries I find it really fucking creepy. We all have personal tastes and preferences.

Do I push myself out of my own comfort zone yes I do but on my own terms or under the guidance of a trusted person who knows me and my limits

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"If someone suggests something that hasn't occurred before that I hadn't particularly thought about and sounds fun, that's not a boundary to me, just something new."

Exactly!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Pushing boundaries has different meanings in different contexts.

I am personally very happy with the boundaries I have and anyone trying to push those wouldn’t be given much of my time or energy.

I prefer to “explore limits “ than push boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its clear we all have different definitions of boundaries lol

There's things we would never do, things were uncomfortable to do but willing to try and things we do a lot and are happy to try

My point is that the things that fall in each area for me today are not the same as 10-15 years ago and a lot of that is because other people have pushed me to try things

But I get why some people don't like that and want to do it themselves

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By *illlogan OP Man
over a year ago

Essex

"If you're happy for others to push your boundaries, then they're not really boundaries are they?"

This was my trail of thought which is why I made the post to get some different perspectives on it

Some interesting answers, definitely seems to be a few different definitions to it

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

I have boundaries that are absolute .. they are immovable .... often get people telling me I must be boring if I wont do xyz .. I am happy being boring then

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

Boundaries are what I put up to keep myself safe so a stranger offering to push them without any knowledge of what they are or who I am is to be avoided.

Perfect filter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london

"For us it means going outside our comfort zone, doing things that we need a little push to move from fantasy to reality "

Exactly this too for us

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

It almost makes me think that that person is likely to ignore your boundaries to do what they want, in the name of "helping" push their boundaries

LvM

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exploring & finding boundaries is different to hitting/ pushing/ crossing boundaries. Some are open to & like the exploring, others don't.

But when someone says pushing boundaries, I usually think they mean the former & its just slightly bad choice of phrasing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It almost makes me think that that person is likely to ignore your boundaries to do what they want, in the name of "helping" push their boundaries

LvM"

Find that those people cross boundaries by ignoring the persons profile content before they send the first message, in most cases!

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