FabSwingers.com forum: jealousy from fb couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've found lately that single guys I talk to regular are having problems with clingy women that they play with regular

I've noticed this with 5 couples of late. I don't think jealousy and possessiveness has any place in swinging but really why do women that have teamed up with guys get so possessive.?

Do others find that play couples are more hassle

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are fb couple, no jealously though, we are both free to play with who we please, but agreed when we play together to play with new friends rather than those either of us have already played with.

Works for us

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it is one of the saddest things to witness in swinging: either in clubs, forums, chat and verifications

screams a need for some self respect

but hey..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It really is sad. I've seen a few women marking their territory as it seems in the forums etc.

To be honest though I do feel sorry for the guys they should just put the women straight.

One thing I've noticed is if they have separate singles profiles that normally the woman's states all over it about playing as a couple. Yet the guys doesn't mention it. Checked several today

Yes I am bored but lol

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We met a couple of ladies a while ago, 2 singles that had paired up (as they tend to do), with a _iew to an mfff, one of the ladies blatantly fancied the pants off angel and the other was having a serious bout of the old green eyed one. Suffice to say no mfff materialised......the mff on the other hand was very exciting

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The moment jealousy kicks in a "couple relationship" it is time to take time out and reflect on what is going on. The life style is not suitable for people who are going through difficult patches in their relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

I think women marking their territory are hiding fact they have feelings for guy involved.

I'm opposite I like to hear details of Wills meets, as he does mine.

I have a bit of forum banter with Will, but that's all it is, banter.

It's when you see all the we are getting married posts, women, like you say suddenly no longer playing alone, that's when problems arise.

I think if they are looking for boyfriends they should use a more appropriate site, but that's just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

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Spot on. And sometimes it is at subconscious level and when jealousy occurs it is one of the first signs of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

I agree but from exp know that fb couples can work as long as those involved are straight and upfront from the start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

Yeah I think so to. I to be honest won't play with couples apart from genuine ones as worry about my poor bunnies

Although I do think the guys need to be honest with the women rather than leaving them to their delusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

Yeah I think so to. I to be honest won't play with couples apart from genuine ones as worry about my poor bunnies

Although I do think the guys need to be honest with the women rather than leaving them to their delusions. "

That's true, if a guy knows his fb is developing feelings he should be honest and cut ties even, as should the female, she should be honest too,

For us it's all about sharing, and sharing stories, as well as having fun together, but we know its just fun, neither if us want the relationship route. Me (Sarah) my last relationship was over 8 years ago, not interested in relationships, don't want one, like my life exactly how it is, though I appreciate there are many women on here, that hanker after a relationship and think this site is best way to get it.

We have had a female check this acc out today several times, her profile blatantly states she's here to find a full on boyfriend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It does work other way around too. I get messages asking could I just swing with them.

I've also had regular partners get all clingy. So I have just cut them off.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I've found lately that single guys I talk to regular are having problems with clingy women that they play with regular

I've noticed this with 5 couples of late. I don't think jealousy and possessiveness has any place in swinging but really why do women that have teamed up with guys get so possessive.?

Do others find that play couples are more hassle

Cali"

maybe you are only hearing it from one half of the couple.....

there are always three sides to every story, theirs, the FB's and the truth.. normally somewhere in the middle.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I tend to mostly go on what I see as well. But of late have had a few warnings from couples like I mention.

Sometimes I do think that maybe the men let the women be as they are till it starts affecting them to much. Maybe they like it.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples. "

As nearly the first sentence of your profile states you are a human too you must be including yourself in that particular statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

As nearly the first sentence of your profile states you are a human too you must be including yourself in that particular statement.

That's why it's got "for the most part"

I look human, I speak like a human, but my soul is not, I don't feel human inside, people baffle me with the things they do and "civilisation" to me is not a better way of life at all, longer maybe, better no way, we need to go back to the better days, hunter gatherer party round a fire, howl at the moon, paint/tattoo faces/bodies. Back to basic, back to releasing the animals within as all. Back to the freedom we should all enjoy, you think your free you all do but It's just an illusion.

Destroy everything and start fresh.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples. "

I thought emotions were what separated humans from.other animals? Why ignore what is part of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

I thought emotions were what separated humans from.other animals? Why ignore what is part of you

Emotions are responsible for a lot of evil. So I think that it's sometimes best to leave them be. I locked mine away now.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

As nearly the first sentence of your profile states you are a human too you must be including yourself in that particular statement.

That's why it's got "for the most part"

Destroy everything and start fresh."

You should change your name to Neo ........ The Matrix springs to mind!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

I thought emotions were what separated humans from.other animals? Why ignore what is part of you

Emotions are responsible for a lot of evil. So I think that it's sometimes best to leave them be. I locked mine away now. "

Mine have been locked away for a long time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of FB couples, one party is often looking for more and that is where the jealousy arrises from.

I agree but from exp know that fb couples can work as long as those involved are straight and upfront from the start."

I think its a very sad thing to see in clubs and forums and via messaging etc.

I think problems occurs when one or both of the parties are not honest with each other and may meet without the other one knowing. If you decide to pair up then admit that you are or aren't going to be playing separately also.

To be honst and upfront from the start is the way to go. I'm sure some men will promise exclusivity just to gain access to club nights or more regular meets etc.

When one of a couple is getting clingy or stressed and upset then its a lack of communication between the two of then and both are responsible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

As nearly the first sentence of your profile states you are a human too you must be including yourself in that particular statement.

That's why it's got "for the most part"

Destroy everything and start fresh."
lol That's like the call of a hunter , lol Bit like Brave-heart , lol

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

There is nothing worse than insecure people playing as part of a couple we have met a few and then had all kinds of problems after from them including one couple who constantly split up and get back together who started what could only be described as a witch hunt for me after she got so jealous of her man despite the fact I played with her and so did Sir.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

As nearly the first sentence of your profile states you are a human too you must be including yourself in that particular statement.

That's why it's got "for the most part"

Destroy everything and start fresh.lol That's like the call of a hunter , lol Bit like Brave-heart , lol

I'm William Wallace Mad Max style, LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found lately that single guys I talk to regular are having problems with clingy women that they play with regular

I've noticed this with 5 couples of late. I don't think jealousy and possessiveness has any place in swinging but really why do women that have teamed up with guys get so possessive.?

Do others find that play couples are more hassle

Cali

maybe you are only hearing it from one half of the couple.....

there are always three sides to every story, theirs, the FB's and the truth.. normally somewhere in the middle....."

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By *artsnikCouple
over a year ago

wortley

we are a couple and we know what we like and only do what we like luckily we like to do the same things and find the same things Horney think it all goes wrong when one finds one thing horny and the other finds something different Horney we always have a rule that if something does happen that the other does not like then no falling out we just don't do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a guy before and had some great fun with him even took some pics of him playing with me for the collection , Put a couple of them on my profile then his FB saw my verification for him looked at my pics only to recognise something he was wearing and went mental at him even asked me to delete those pics so she wouldnt be able to see them again she was that wound up.

Eventually i decided it was better not to meet him again than have her ranting at him about meeting me never understood people getting jealous about a bit of fun when we are all here for the same thing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is nothing worse than insecure people playing as part of a couple we have met a few and then had all kinds of problems after from them including one couple who constantly split up and get back together who started what could only be described as a witch hunt for me after she got so jealous of her man despite the fact I played with her and so did Sir. "

ouf!

I just think fb's if they have feelings should make it well known, or forever keep them out of what they do together.

I just hate that kind of drama happening over something as basic - although it always takes two to make a row.

I mean.. If your partner was trying new clothes on in a shop in your presence, you wouldn't get jealous of the clothes, would you? Others are just a transient accessory in just the same way.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ouf!

I just think fb's if they have feelings should make it well known, or forever keep them out of what they do together.

I just hate that kind of drama happening over something as basic - although it always takes two to make a row.

I mean.. If your partner was trying new clothes on in a shop in your presence, you wouldn't get jealous of the clothes, would you? Others are just a transient accessory in just the same way.

Wolf

Unrelated to the post, but just wanted to say find your posts informative, helpful and non critique towards other users

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of you Humans can't keep your emotions in check, Simples.

I thought emotions were what separated humans from.other animals? Why ignore what is part of you

Animals have emotions.

Humans have logic and possible thumbs.

What really separates us from the "animals" is that we excel at killing our own kind for stupid reasons, they also take 99% more than what they put back into the planet, humans think they have a right to everything and this planet is their's, this mentality coupled with an ever growing population, dwindling resources and space is what's going to destroy all humanity.

the judge dredd universe is our future.

If you could go back and show someone in 1880 how we live today they would never believe it, what we see as sci fi today becomes fact tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy isn't only confined to F.B relationships.

We've seen it within married couples too, primarily from the women, at clubs and house parties.

XXXX

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"...

Humans have logic and possible thumbs.

...

Most humans have actual thumbs!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Jealousy isn't only confined to F.B relationships.

We've seen it within married couples too, primarily from the women, at clubs and house parties.

XXXX"

Yes but from proper couples i can understand it. As they have feelings for each other. Fuck buddy couples are just teaming up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Humans have logic and possible thumbs.

...

Most humans have actual thumbs!

Predictive text lol

Chimps also have them but they are not as long, they have longer fingers and shorter thumbs which makes it very hard for them to use tools the way humans are able too.

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Tbh we have only had mishaps and bad experiences when we've met or arranged to meet fb cpls....got to the point now where we'd rather not bother and stay clear of them....

but as with everything in life each to there own...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy isn't only confined to F.B relationships.

We've seen it within married couples too, primarily from the women, at clubs and house parties.

XXXX

Yes but from proper couples i can understand it. As they have feelings for each other. Fuck buddy couples are just teaming up. "

I get this, isn't the point of a FB is to have good sex without the emotional stuff.

If you grow deeper feelings towards your FB shouldn't you talk about a committed relationship and about what you both want from it, failing that, call it a day and go elsewhere.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I remember years ago in chat people creating single profiles to try and catch their play/permanent partner out by asking for them to play on their own... or sending messages to see if they would play without the other knowing.

think it is real trust issues and for a few it was better for one partner to agree to swinging together to know who their partner was playing with, rather than not know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Jealousy isn't only confined to F.B relationships.

We've seen it within married couples too, primarily from the women, at clubs and house parties.

XXXX

Yes but from proper couples i can understand it. As they have feelings for each other. Fuck buddy couples are just teaming up.

I get this, isn't the point of a FB is to have good sex without the emotional stuff.

If you grow deeper feelings towards your FB shouldn't you talk about a committed relationship adnd about what you both want from it, failing that, call it a day and go elsewhere.

Exactly what should happen of one person develops feelings

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By *anSusieCouple
over a year ago

Midlothian

meeting FB means for starters:3 diarys to match up.....than more often than not @ partys:fem "claims" male + not really up for sharing....or fem gets so d*unk he has to take her home early b4 he could have any fun @ all.

We found it less hassle playing with ppl in a relation ship.Thats not to say that some do understand the meaning of buddys + have great NSA fun,just not the norm from what we've seen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best way to stop clingy women is to cover them in butter oil first.

you can slip off later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found lately that single guys I talk to regular are having problems with clingy women that they play with regular

I've noticed this with 5 couples of late. I don't think jealousy and possessiveness has any place in swinging but really why do women that have teamed up with guys get so possessive.?

Do others find that play couples are more hassle

Cali"

seriously? only women?

I've been single 4 years and happy to stay that way, i have no intentions of getting into a relationship and never given anyone any problems who i meet, however i cant say the same about all the men i have met.

Men get possessive with women they meet too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Men get possessive with women they meet too

I totally agree.

You know I am proved today that this happens.. as I noticed a FB couples status today accusing the male half of cheating.. its a FB couple.. he cant cheat..

I rest my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a particular reason why I sometimes avoid profiles if I think they are more looking for exclusivity..more often than not, its onesided.

said in another post exclusive FB cpls...fucking ridiculous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I avoid getting into this because it normally comes out after one or two meets that they want me to meet just with them..

Nooooooooooooo Sorry not going to do that.. we are two seperate people that happen to meet as a couple from time to time..

Maybe it should be called something other than FB couples... maybe Fuck partners.. or something else.. as I think that over time people just get to emotionally involved.. or most people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can a FB cheat? I don't understand, surely a FB is a FB and not a boyfriend and thus cheating is not possible.

Me thinks perhaps there's more to this than meets the eye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*and some comments like:

"if ur sleeping ur way around the site"-really none of ur business what I do before or after we have met

"looking for regular..not one offs"-well sherlock/sherlockette-I wont know that till we have met and shagged..if I really wanted to play it like that I'd have a promise ring and wait till my wedding nite before fucking u..oops..making love

and really sorry if this offends...its my opinion:-

single woman,-"I meet who my master decides"..I steer clear EVERYTIME on this..everytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*and some comments like:

"if ur sleeping ur way around the site"-really none of ur business what I do before or after we have met

and really sorry if this offends...its my opinion:-

single woman,-"I meet who my master decides"..I steer clear EVERYTIME on this..everytime.

I think it is important for people to make distinctions between real life partnerships and fuck-buddy relationships. Although none of it is our business I guess. I think though one demands a 'mind yer own' approach. The other probably the same but its abt sex and thats it really.

It is also reasonable to state you don't want to go with people who will fuck anything with a pulse. That doesn't equate to looking for an exclusive relationship. That does equate to having standards and making sure you don't go with those that have none.

I do agree that some are here for relationships. Others are here to fuck with anything that moves. Some are here to experiment. All have various reasons.

One thing for sure though. There is a real distinction to be drawn between swinging and casual sex. Books have been written on it. So its all horses for courses I guess.

I prefer selectivity. Just how I am. I don't have a sex addiction to feed daily or so. I prefer to select and stimulate then have fun. I've had a relationship with someone I met on fab but we were exclusive and that was a relationship independent of fab. The weird thing though was the amount of fuckwits who couldn't draw such distinctions. Such is life I guess. Happy New Year btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*and some comments like:

"if ur sleeping ur way around the site"-really none of ur business what I do before or after we have met

and really sorry if this offends...its my opinion:-

single woman,-"I meet who my master decides"..I steer clear EVERYTIME on this..everytime.

I do agree that some are here for relationships. Others are here to fuck with anything that moves. Some are here to experiment. All have various reasons.

One thing for sure though. There is a real distinction to be drawn between swinging and casual sex. Books have been written on it. So its all horses for courses I guess.

agree with u, however one persons standards could be something as in my opinion, as stupid as being with someone bigger in weight,or not who they class as attractive.I go into other peoples verifies only to validate if I'm unsure they are a genuine prospect for me...I have no care whos been there before me or who will go after.Unfortunately some people think they have a hold over other people and can essentially psychologically dictate who they should meet...its not them being selfless, but actually plain selfish.

I've met a variety of types of people, some I know just wouldnt meet each other for sexual fun...fair enough..but judge my play partners?-they can keep that to themselves because I dont need to hear they were better than someone I obviously liked enough to have fun with.

and hny back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've found lately that single guys I talk to regular are having problems with clingy women that they play with regular

I've noticed this with 5 couples of late. I don't think jealousy and possessiveness has any place in swinging but really why do women that have teamed up with guys get so possessive.?

Do others find that play couples are more hassle

Cali"

Personally and I may well br speaking out if turn as I don't know the other side, but married couples or people who are partners are completely different to fuck buddy couples and there is a lot of jealousy and insecurity involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Argh phone

Be and of!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I have no problems with my fb seeing whoever he likes, and vice versa. We are just mates who fuck. Simple. And we don't play together either.

Keeps things clean, tidy and straightforward. I know about his meets and he knows about mine. Not that we feel obliged to tell the other anything - who he meets, and who I meet, are our own business.

We met via a swinging site and knew exactly what it was about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play as part of a FB couple for several reasons...the main reason for us both is that we want to explore a little more and we can 'help' each other whilst still having fun. We can both play with others on our own too and we're both fully aware of that...I generally have more free time than him so I tend to play more often than he does but it isn't an issue for either of us.

As for feelings getting involved...I do care about him and am pretty sure he cares about me too, but it is in a friendship capacity rather than a relationship kind of way. Neither of us are looking for or want a relationship, but it can be nice to have someone to have a beer in front of the TV with from time to time...as well as go to a club for a night of debauchery too!

The jealousy think does baffle me on here, but it isn't exclusive to women, nor is it just amongst couples (in whatever form)...I've had single guys I've played with just once give me grief because I got a new veri a few days later. Anyone is capable of jealousy, it's just about whether we let it take over I guess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its beyond me if you have a jealous nature then this isnt the place for you..

I have a guy i have recently decided to play with and have told him he is his own person i need no explanations for anything he does and is free to do what he wants,He has said he is happy playing with me alone and tbf i am with him right now,we have a few meets set up.

But i am under no illusion that at some point in the future he may want a solo meet as may i.

I had a woman jump out of bed in a hissy fit during a meet with a couple cause i touched his cock

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"I play as part of a FB couple for several reasons...the main reason for us both is that we want to explore a little more and we can 'help' each other whilst still having fun. We can both play with others on our own too and we're both fully aware of that...I generally have more free time than him so I tend to play more often than he does but it isn't an issue for either of us.

spot on as to my fb relationship, although we have never met outside of a club.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

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Once jealousy kicks in its time to stop. As a rule I only meet single guys. However a few yrs ago I met a couple who lived local it was only drinks and chat as I'm not bi. It turns out she was lookin for a friend to do normal things ie shoppin goin for a coffee. Then he started texting askin me to meet him on his own and that his wife was happy with that. How wierd would that of been? Lol. Needles to say I declined.

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