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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys?

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I need to attend one of these surprised I haven't so far .. think it's because I have a Visio in my mind of how it would be and it's probably nothing like that haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

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My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats better then being seen with a lovely ladie for the night I'd prefer to go with someone to be honest and if we don't click enjoy the night and then make sure the ladie gets home safe, hopefully make it a regular thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party "

Personally my own imagination led me to think it'd be - kinda seedy, sticky floors, dodgy old blokes & seedy looking women loitering in dark corners waiting to pounce (a bit like inner city casinos).

But surprisingly not?!... More a cross between a nightclub/leisure centre

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Whats better then being seen with a lovely ladie for the night I'd prefer to go with someone to be honest and if we don't click enjoy the night and then make sure the ladie gets home safe, hopefully make it a regular thing"

See I'm worlds apart from this.. i wouldn't want or need anyone with me I'd just want to turn up have a filthy night .. and go

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party

Personally my own imagination led me to think it'd be - kinda seedy, sticky floors, dodgy old blokes & seedy looking women loitering in dark corners waiting to pounce (a bit like inner city casinos).

But surprisingly not?!... More a cross between a nightclub/leisure centre "

Intriguing.. where was the venue held what sort of establishment ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party

Personally my own imagination led me to think it'd be - kinda seedy, sticky floors, dodgy old blokes & seedy looking women loitering in dark corners waiting to pounce (a bit like inner city casinos).

But surprisingly not?!... More a cross between a nightclub/leisure centre

Intriguing.. where was the venue held what sort of establishment ?"

I've only attended one local to myself so far. But looking to venture to another this month (total novice )... But from what I've seen, I really like the environment... I think more folk should try before dissing it from what's sometimes said on here though. There seems to be a high prevelance of men who run a mile from the idea when suggested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A high amount of men seem unable to go out by themselves and not just to swingers clubs.

They need the comfort blanket of a tribe (the lads!)

Confidence seems to waver for some when faced with single entry.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party

Personally my own imagination led me to think it'd be - kinda seedy, sticky floors, dodgy old blokes & seedy looking women loitering in dark corners waiting to pounce (a bit like inner city casinos).

But surprisingly not?!... More a cross between a nightclub/leisure centre

Intriguing.. where was the venue held what sort of establishment ?

I've only attended one local to myself so far. But looking to venture to another this month (total novice )... But from what I've seen, I really like the environment... I think more folk should try before dissing it from what's sometimes said on here though. There seems to be a high prevelance of men who run a mile from the idea when suggested "

If it's genuinely that good I would go to one never really looked into them.. need to know more about them like do you have to book sign up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could put a word on it

I only get away for freedom in being able to do such things

Leisure is fine its a bit more 'personal comfort' or accommodative if it fits

Arriving with female isnt too bad if you meet one there it can change

If it stinks there u might leave early or there's too many guys

Wouldn't mind dashing into France camp naturist

Personally I think

People possibly no smoking

Outdoors or

Hot sexy-able indoors

Then see if we make it for the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some will want the woman as sex bait. Couples swapping.

Most people in general would rather not go alone to pubs, cinemas, restaurants, holidays. I don't think it's at all surprising that some men don't want to go alone. Going with a man friend to a Swingers club - some people would assume they are bisexual.

Same as if a man has a veri from a man, he clearly fucked him. They can't possibly have just chatted.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys? "

The disproportionate cost of entry for single men v’s couples or single ladies.

No guarantee of sex

Most clubs limit the numbers of single men, and some events bar them completely

If they have no social skills they will be left alone all evening!

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Also some think they'll look like a loser if they don't have a woman on show.

Which is daft, because we all know that 90% of single men at clubs have a woman at home.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Also some think they'll look like a loser if they don't have a woman on show.

Which is daft, because we all know that 90% of single men at clubs have a woman at home. "

Fuck knows why they would think like that insecurity maybe or shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also some think they'll look like a loser if they don't have a woman on show.

Which is daft, because we all know that 90% of single men at clubs have a woman at home. "

So do women not play with single guys at clubs incase they are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also some think they'll look like a loser if they don't have a woman on show.

Which is daft, because we all know that 90% of single men at clubs have a woman at home.

So do women not play with single guys at clubs incase they are married "

We don’t the question.

Not our business.

Polite chat, some flirting and maybe more.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1


"Also some think they'll look like a loser if they don't have a woman on show.

Which is daft, because we all know that 90% of single men at clubs have a woman at home.

So do women not play with single guys at clubs incase they are married "

I don’t really care if they are in a club. I don’t ask.

I wouldn’t however choose to meet married guys. Too much drama.

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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By *hiversMan
over a year ago

Dinas Powys


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys?

The disproportionate cost of entry for single men v’s couples or single ladies.

No guarantee of sex

Most clubs limit the numbers of single men, and some events bar them completely

If they have no social skills they will be left alone all evening! "

All of this - although it should go without saying that even if you go with a female it shouldn't be taken as a guarantee of sex

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier."

Amen to that

I have been to clubs few times but always with friends ( cpls or f)

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I think there's a fair few guys who'd feel self conscious about going out solo- until you've been to a club you don't fully realise that it's a different environment to say going the pub or nightclub alone. In a regular environment (pub/bar) a guy being on their own could be judged as being a bit sad or a billy-no-mates whereas there isn't the same judgement in a swinging club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier."

Who the heck would go to a pub alone and just stand around.

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier.

Who the heck would go to a pub alone and just stand around.

"

I guess someone who is:

a: not a natural extrovert

b: someone who is surrounded by groups who are talking and there is no natural way to start talking to them

My point isn’t that you turn up and stand around like a wall flower all the time - it was answering the OPs question why you would want to go with someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oooh! Do tell what you think it'd be like in your head?... I only state from my own experience it was nothing like I'd expected

My expectations would be high I'd expect everyone naked people fucking next to me people getting sucked off just a filthy sex party

Personally my own imagination led me to think it'd be - kinda seedy, sticky floors, dodgy old blokes & seedy looking women loitering in dark corners waiting to pounce (a bit like inner city casinos).

But surprisingly not?!... More a cross between a nightclub/leisure centre

Intriguing.. where was the venue held what sort of establishment ?

I've only attended one local to myself so far. But looking to venture to another this month (total novice )... But from what I've seen, I really like the environment... I think more folk should try before dissing it from what's sometimes said on here though. There seems to be a high prevelance of men who run a mile from the idea when suggested "

I've attended on my own and no problem. Chatted to some lovely people and had a play... Happy days.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Because its ridiculous what a single guy is charged to enter, if he can even get in. If you go as a couple, rightly or wrongly, pretending, its a lot of cash saved.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

At some clubs it can be £60ish for single guys or £20 for a couple.

If you have a FWB it can be nice to do that kind of thing together, ostensibly as a couple.

It’s reassuring to have company when you’re going out anywhere, let alone a swingers club. Especially if they’re first timers or socially anxious.

Maybe the woman is experienced or well connected. The man will benefit from introductions.

Men might feel they will be ignored by couples or will be the wallflower. Maybe they think by attending as a ‘couple’ they will be more socially accepted.

I’ve been a couple of times on my own and had no problem chatting with folk, but it was a more fun night when I went with someone.

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By *aximum_funMan
over a year ago

West Herts

I've been to one club night, went myself to the preceding social, chatted to some nice people and left when I realised that I was just wandering around by myself without talking to anyone.

I'm not naturally one for breaking in to groups of people so I did find it difficult to get into conversations, that's just me.

Having been to a club it once I'm more confident about doing it again.

At a club, like on here, don't expect anyone to throw themselves at you just for existing, you'll be golden.

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By *xhibitionistbenMan
over a year ago

Ware / Kings Cross

I went as a single guy to Vanilla Alternative, and can see why it would be offputting if you go alone and aren’t very outgoing. I was feeling brave that day so spoke to the biggest loudest group and realised how amazing, welcoming and friendly everyone was - especially if you go in without an expectation or entitlement to play with whoever you talk to.

But I can see the cost barrier, and can see that people may want to go with someone to play with in case they are too shy to jump in the deep end and talk to people

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

My only major foray into proper swinging clubs was a weekend in Torquay half a lifetime ago. Some of it was ok but mostly I was treated like something they'd stepped in. One woman did strike up a conversation before her boyfriend quite obviously just placed himself between us with his back to me.

Based on that I would never go back to any form of swinging club. I can get treated like dirt for free.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to attend a club alone, but nerves and anxiety/social anxiety gets the better of me. I guess going with someone helps to give you a bit more confidence and motivation, in my opinion.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"My only major foray into proper swinging clubs was a weekend in Torquay half a lifetime ago. Some of it was ok but mostly I was treated like something they'd stepped in. One woman did strike up a conversation before her boyfriend quite obviously just placed himself between us with his back to me.

Based on that I would never go back to any form of swinging club. I can get treated like dirt for free."

A site supporter pass on Fabs will give you that privilege too.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton


"My only major foray into proper swinging clubs was a weekend in Torquay half a lifetime ago. Some of it was ok but mostly I was treated like something they'd stepped in. One woman did strike up a conversation before her boyfriend quite obviously just placed himself between us with his back to me.

Based on that I would never go back to any form of swinging club. I can get treated like dirt for free.

A site supporter pass on Fabs will give you that privilege too. "

Wouldn't be for free though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys? "

Cost

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

There are couples out there who only look for single guys. It's not the norm, but guys, don't assume that everyone wants a couple.

I think different clubs are more suited to single guys than others.

Shhh in Newcastle for example, the layout of the bar area and tables makes it basically impossible to not share a table, so you don't have this whole "can I join you". Its just a few long tables so you don't really even need to ask, just politely introduce yourself, obviously don't just barge into a conversation.

I also think some clubs have more regulars than others which makes things more tricky.

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

For some people it is a cost issue, some clubs allow free entry for women and ramp up the single male charge to recoup some money so it is an easy way out to try and couple up. Sometimes it's a confidence thing, some men do find it daunting to go to a club on their own so easier if they have a wingchick. I've never had an issue like this as I'm very sociable and have never seen clubs as a place to worry about. I went to a club last week that I'd never been to before on my own without the safety net of having friends there and it was the same as any other night. If you take time out to be polite and chat to people it's a great experience, more people should try clubs.

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole


"OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier.

Who the heck would go to a pub alone and just stand around.

"

Had to wait around on my own in a bar last week, social meet was running late. Very awkward 30 mins, I’m a confident person but really did feel like everyone there was judging me, not pleasant.

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

The cost thing would piss me off as well. I get it, nobody wants a sausage fest but at the same time it does make you feel like a loser having to pay more.

Will definitely check out clubs at some point, IF I can even get an invite, but a private night with a couple is much higher on the list for me.

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By *aptainChunkyMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Omg, what is wrong with you men- costs, confidence, shyness... so many issues you have. Pussies

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

Im planning on going to my first ever club visit in the next month or 2 (monkey business I think) on my own.

Years ago I wouldn't have dreamed of going somewhere on my own, but I think I've reached a point in my life where I have just stopped caring about being alone in public.

Ill happily go to a restaurant or bar on my own, find a seat, grab a drink or food and just chill, read on my phone, whatever. If someone wants to think I'm a loner.... Cool, doesn't effect me, I'm doing what I want.

My plan for visiting a swingers club is to get my ticket, say hello to the hosts, take a tour round and then find a nice seat near the bar to grab a soft drink, take in the surroundings and listen to the music.

If anyone talks to me, I'll happily have a conversation about anything, if I find a chance to segway in to a conversation by adding some value, I'll do it.

I think over thinking these things cripples a lot of people in loads of situations. Just go.

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By *oulkissMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys? "

I usually attend solo, but have on occasion taken someone. I go to clubs because I love the environment and feel of the places.

Cost is a major one for some, the price for a solo guy can be 3 or 4 times that of a couple.

For me, its more fun to be with someone, to be able to discuss fantasies that could be achieved in that environment - maybe she just wants to e watched, so you use a public playroom, maybe she just wants to watch and have you there as a shield from the wanking dead...

There is also one truth to going to clubs as a bloke, if you want to be sure of fun, take someone one who wants to have fun with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op can you please state the obvious?

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By *ew2it.deCouple
over a year ago

Stoke on Trent

We would go to a club for a single guy (or 2).

We haven’t ventured yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - the issue is that it is tough being a single guy in a club and it is always nice to have someone you can talk to.

I am confident but I personally find it hard when you are between conversations and just hanging around like a spare. It is all very well and good to say “Oh just join a conversation” but the world doesn’t work that way and a single guy is often on the periphery.

Going with friends is much much much easier.

Who the heck would go to a pub alone and just stand around.

Had to wait around on my own in a bar last week, social meet was running late. Very awkward 30 mins, I’m a confident person but really did feel like everyone there was judging me, not pleasant."

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By *9funboyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I went to club play in Blackpool last year. Just on the off chance. It was super friendly. Funnily enough, it was ages before anybody started playing, but the atmosphere was really nice. People were chatty and uninhibited. I was apprehensive, but I'd certainly go again.

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By *9funboyMan
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Im planning on going to my first ever club visit in the next month or 2 (monkey business I think) on my own.

Years ago I wouldn't have dreamed of going somewhere on my own, but I think I've reached a point in my life where I have just stopped caring about being alone in public.

Spot on. I was a bit nervous, but that's exactly how it panned out for me.

Ill happily go to a restaurant or bar on my own, find a seat, grab a drink or food and just chill, read on my phone, whatever. If someone wants to think I'm a loner.... Cool, doesn't effect me, I'm doing what I want.

My plan for visiting a swingers club is to get my ticket, say hello to the hosts, take a tour round and then find a nice seat near the bar to grab a soft drink, take in the surroundings and listen to the music.

If anyone talks to me, I'll happily have a conversation about anything, if I find a chance to segway in to a conversation by adding some value, I'll do it.

I think over thinking these things cripples a lot of people in loads of situations. Just go. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like single guys in clubs. Only ever had one issue with a single following us around. Generally find they are all very relaxed and friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Omg, what is wrong with you men- costs, confidence, shyness... so many issues you have. Pussies "

There's always one isn't there! Grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time I went to the old hellfire club in Sunbury I did it on my own on a greedy girls night.

It was a really bad choice of night - early December and bloody freezing out. There was about 20- 30 guys there and only one couple! Another couple came in, went to the couple's only section and then legged it.

A few of the guys got proper arsey about the sitch - me ? I hit the dancefloor and did what I'd do in any club I'm on my own in - I danced to 90's eclectic choons and enjoyed myself.

It's all about setting your own expectations and managing your emotions. Oh and don't overthink it! It's a social environment where all the usual rules still do apply - only naked people might be wandering around and or people in fetish gear.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I applaud any guy who goes to a club on his own. I've personally taken some of my male friends for their first club visits as I know how nervous I get going club alone so can't imagine how it is for single guys.

The costs are crazy and at least with me being with them, I chat to people and get involved so they can breathe without the added pressure of starting conversation in unknown places.

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By *dmundwilsonMan
over a year ago

Llandudno


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys? "

Maybe men are afraid of being viewed as a desperate weirdo turning up alone. Like the podt cos suggests otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I applaud any guy who goes to a club on his own. I've personally taken some of my male friends for their first club visits as I know how nervous I get going club alone so can't imagine how it is for single guys.

The costs are crazy and at least with me being with them, I chat to people and get involved so they can breathe without the added pressure of starting conversation in unknown places."

We aren't little lambykins you know? This is an environment where if you do score then there's an expectation that you'll get naked and provide a pretty good fucking experience!!! That's not for the faint hearted or those that need their hands holding I'm afraid.

Going into any social environment is my weakness but I force myself to do it because life as a hermit would be shit. Apparently in most cases I'm not terrible at it. So what if sometimes I suck? It's worth it for the one time I don't.

To coin a military phrase that's losing popularity - literally - man up and get in there and stop being your own worst enemy!!!!!

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich


"I applaud any guy who goes to a club on his own. I've personally taken some of my male friends for their first club visits as I know how nervous I get going club alone so can't imagine how it is for single guys.

The costs are crazy and at least with me being with them, I chat to people and get involved so they can breathe without the added pressure of starting conversation in unknown places.

We aren't little lambykins you know? This is an environment where if you do score then there's an expectation that you'll get naked and provide a pretty good fucking experience!!! That's not for the faint hearted or those that need their hands holding I'm afraid.

Going into any social environment is my weakness but I force myself to do it because life as a hermit would be shit. Apparently in most cases I'm not terrible at it. So what if sometimes I suck? It's worth it for the one time I don't.

To coin a military phrase that's losing popularity - literally - man up and get in there and stop being your own worst enemy!!!!!"

I get that but when I first started going myself, I didn't know how to start conversations with people or what even to expect with the club scene. I almost quit the club scene after my first club because I felt so alone and isolated.

Now I don't care, I will be on the stripper pole bruising every part of mu body thinking I'm a pro. But it wasn't until recently I discovered that was the best way.

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

OK, this is just from observation, but I think it's a bit like moving to a new town where you have no friends. The first few times you go out it's going to be excruciatingly painful, but if you keep on going regularly to the same place you'll gradually get to know a few people and it will steadily get better.

There are some single guys who seem to know everyone, and to be very popular, and apparently get a lot of play at clubs. But you have to invest a lot in "building your brand".

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over a year ago


"I applaud any guy who goes to a club on his own. I've personally taken some of my male friends for their first club visits as I know how nervous I get going club alone so can't imagine how it is for single guys.

The costs are crazy and at least with me being with them, I chat to people and get involved so they can breathe without the added pressure of starting conversation in unknown places.

We aren't little lambykins you know? This is an environment where if you do score then there's an expectation that you'll get naked and provide a pretty good fucking experience!!! That's not for the faint hearted or those that need their hands holding I'm afraid.

Going into any social environment is my weakness but I force myself to do it because life as a hermit would be shit. Apparently in most cases I'm not terrible at it. So what if sometimes I suck? It's worth it for the one time I don't.

To coin a military phrase that's losing popularity - literally - man up and get in there and stop being your own worst enemy!!!!!

I get that but when I first started going myself, I didn't know how to start conversations with people or what even to expect with the club scene. I almost quit the club scene after my first club because I felt so alone and isolated.

Now I don't care, I will be on the stripper pole bruising every part of mu body thinking I'm a pro. But it wasn't until recently I discovered that was the best way."

You are female! The man up comment is not intended for you at all Its meant for the guys.. In a very competitive environment you either step up or step out. No different really to vanilla dating basically.

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over a year ago

I think as a guy I am more comfortable going on my own to the bi nights. I have gone alone on other events but the atmosphere is very different. Almost intimidating

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over a year ago


"I think as a guy I am more comfortable going on my own to the bi nights. I have gone alone on other events but the atmosphere is very different. Almost intimidating"

Is that because of a predatory atmosphere?

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over a year ago


"I think as a guy I am more comfortable going on my own to the bi nights. I have gone alone on other events but the atmosphere is very different. Almost intimidating

Is that because of a predatory atmosphere?"

I hate seeing guys following ladies or couples around like they are following the pied piper. Maybe the silent weird looks etc unnerved me. I always found that it's the opposite on a bi night. Maybe it's just me

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over a year ago


"I think as a guy I am more comfortable going on my own to the bi nights. I have gone alone on other events but the atmosphere is very different. Almost intimidating

Is that because of a predatory atmosphere?

I hate seeing guys following ladies or couples around like they are following the pied piper. Maybe the silent weird looks etc unnerved me. I always found that it's the opposite on a bi night. Maybe it's just me"

Nah - it was quite predatory the night I went to one when there was only one couple there. I didn't let that get in the way of enjoying the music and venue though. Unlike the others I went for the experience not the sex.

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over a year ago


"I think as a guy I am more comfortable going on my own to the bi nights. I have gone alone on other events but the atmosphere is very different. Almost intimidating

Is that because of a predatory atmosphere?

I hate seeing guys following ladies or couples around like they are following the pied piper. Maybe the silent weird looks etc unnerved me. I always found that it's the opposite on a bi night. Maybe it's just me

Nah - it was quite predatory the night I went to one when there was only one couple there. I didn't let that get in the way of enjoying the music and venue though. Unlike the others I went for the experience not the sex."

Well thats what sets us apart i guess. The reasons we were there. Its not the sex for me but being with and around like minded people. You can be your authentic self

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By *aldboroMan
over a year ago

Leicestershire/Warwickshire Border

I would have thought cost plays a massive part in this along with limits on entry. The difference in costs for a single fella can be huge and that's if they aren't over subscribed already.

Being part of a couple makes it more affordable, gains entry to more events and has the advantage of having a person to initially chat and be with.

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By *etsplay68Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield

love going to a club as a single straight guy - having a chat and giggle and if i'm a lucky fella getting invited to join in some fun - but also enjoy meeting up with a lady at a club for a chilled out afternoon or evening of fun too - its not about anything other than some relaxed fun with like minded people

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Obviously clubs are geared more towards easier numbers entry for solo women, or couples vs lone males... But I do wonder why so many men are seeking to tag along with a woman vs attending alone? (beyond the obvious)... Too shy? Feeling unwanted? Embarrassed?

What's the issue here, guys? "

I've been to several clubs by myself; Townhouse (x4), No.3 (x3), Club f (x5), Atlantis, Club Play, Cupids, and La Chambre.

I've also been to No.3, Club f, and Chams Darlaston as a couple, and can tell you, I will always prefer to visit in the company of a female. Not because I'm too shy (I've been far more often by myself), not because I want cheaper entry, but simply because I feel more welcome, as the male half of a couple

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