FabSwingers.com forum: Club 'safe' word

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you have a safeword for clubs?

It's easy on the couples bed or in the orgy room for things to happen which are on the hard 'no' list, dark lighting, multiple bodies and horny people all over.

Ours is watermelon and we've only used it once, Penny was laid on the bed being enjoyed by multiple people when a French guy walked in, jammed a dry finger up her arse and sent her hanging from the ceiling.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Nah safewords are for pussies!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no is no its the only safe word i use and in a club and the other person not listening ill shout it if i have to no is no end of

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"Do you have a safeword for clubs?

It's easy on the couples bed or in the orgy room for things to happen which are on the hard 'no' list, dark lighting, multiple bodies and horny people all over.

thats sexual assult op no consent was given shold have reported it to the club

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"no is no its the only safe word i use and in a club and the other person not listening ill shout it if i have to no is no end of"

This.

Unless you have a particular type of relationship where safe words are part of your day to day play.

If you don't feel comfortable saying no in a club, you probably shouldn't be playing in a club. Things will happen, and you need to be confident to say no when needed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"no is no its the only safe word i use and in a club and the other person not listening ill shout it if i have to no is no end of

This.

Unless you have a particular type of relationship where safe words are part of your day to day play.

If you don't feel comfortable saying no in a club, you probably shouldn't be playing in a club. Things will happen, and you need to be confident to say no when needed. "

The use of a safe word allows us to stop our play and leave the situation without incident or scene, we don't need to drill down and find out exactly what happened in the middle of a crowded room and we have only had to use it the once, hopefully never again.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

"no is no its the only safe word i use and in a club and the other person not listening ill shout it if i have to no is no end of

This.

Unless you have a particular type of relationship where safe words are part of your day to day play.

If you don't feel comfortable saying no in a club, you probably shouldn't be playing in a club. Things will happen, and you need to be confident to say no when needed.

Interesting. I guess if it works for you, but if someone does something which causes you to need to use it, I'd hope they get reported to the club.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

No but if things start going sideways the phrase.

What the fuck are you doing work well...

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Do you have a safeword for clubs?

It's easy on the couples bed or in the orgy room for things to happen which are on the hard 'no' list, dark lighting, multiple bodies and horny people all over.

Bloody hell, Penny is a better woman than me because I'd have ended up getting thrown out

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish

I think it's a great idea. No works well for non-consensual touching but we're pretty new to this and a private way to say "I suddenly need breathing/thinking space" is smart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have a safeword for clubs?

It's easy on the couples bed or in the orgy room for things to happen which are on the hard 'no' list, dark lighting, multiple bodies and horny people all over.

thats sexual assult op no consent was given shold have reported it to the club "
absolutely this!!

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

We don't have a safe word, but we do have a funny story about one.

A few years ago, we arranged to meet another couple at a club. We arrived a little late because of traffic, so we found them and introduced ourselves as soon as we arrived. After chatting to them for a while, I said we were going to grab a coffee. This was a polite way of saying we needed to use the toilet after a long journey, plus put our bags in a locker, etc.

We queued for a coffee, then returned to where we left the other couple. They were no longer there.

We spent some time looking around the club, but didn't see them again that night.

Next day we send a message, and they replied they thought 'getting a coffee' was code between us for not being interested in them. So they left!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have a safeword for clubs?

It's easy on the couples bed or in the orgy room for things to happen which are on the hard 'no' list, dark lighting, multiple bodies and horny people all over.

That’s plain inconsiderate! He could have at least lubed it up with an onion.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

Safe words are not necessarily used in play.

Sometimes if a couple is approached by a male in the club and either the husband or wife isn’t particularly interested in said male they can use a safe word to let their spouse know their thoughts and swiftly move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No but if things start going sideways the phrase.

What the fuck are you doing work well...

This

Miss S x

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

No really should be the safe word anywhere, perhaps turning things on its head, maybe if you inclined to say No when you mean yes, then you need to find a different passion word.

Oh she kept saying lemons I thought it was her shopping list....

No is no, What's wrong with saying that, apart from its universal in expressing disapproval.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How would the Frenchman know a shout of "watermelon" means "stop" ?

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

To true give the French man a break people

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By *edWitch0000Woman
over a year ago

worthing

"How would the Frenchman know a shout of "watermelon" means "stop" ?"

I assume it's code for her partner to step in?

We don't have a code word but I think it's a good idea. I'm quite capable of stopping something I'm not enjoying but when you want to be polite and not offend people but also want to stop whatever you're doing partners need to know what to be alert to.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I think the biggest point to be taken from this gents is that no or a safe word shouldnt be needed... Manners and respect and consent should be used at all times. Any lady just because she's in a club doesn't make her available, in the same way she isn't in a pub / nightclub or tescos!

No is also no.

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

"Nah safewords are for pussies!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"How would the Frenchman know a shout of "watermelon" means "stop" ?"

It's a word for the husband to remove the French man's finger out of said hole.

Are safe words not for BDSM rather than sex?

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

In a club we’d use “no”. There’s no confusing that or saying stop.

If it interrupts everyone then so be it. I think it’s good to highlight if someone has overstepped a boundary.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Are safe words not for BDSM rather than sex?"

That's what I thought. I enjoy CNC role play where I say 'no' and 'don't' as part of the game but we have a word where I really mean stop. In a club I just say no or stop if I'm not happy with something. Then it's clear for everyone.

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

We will say "I need a drink of water" to each other so that we can then both walk away.

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By *rNightMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Years ago me and my gf always agreed that brushing the end of our own nose with our thumb was an indication of it’s time to leave when visiting someone’s house it at a party. When we started to get into this lifestyle we naively agreed on the same course of action. However we quickly discovered it was impractical when faces a buried in laps or we were out of sight due to bodies lol

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