FabSwingers.com forum: Would a "safe" person meet a "Bareback"?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There's a significant amount of controversy surrounding bareback and staying sexually safe with condoms. Both groups are strongly opinionated and that's fine.

Here's a genuine question - would a play safe couple/individual still be happy to play safe with a a known barebacker or would they completely rule them out on sexual health grounds???

Discuss.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a significant amount of controversy surrounding bareback and staying sexually safe with condoms. Both groups are strongly opinionated and that's fine.

Here's a genuine question - would a play safe couple/individual still be happy to play safe with a a known barebacker or would they completely rule them out on sexual health grounds???

Discuss....."

What's your view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Except for my wife I only play safe. Would I meet someone who doesn't but is playing safe with me, probably yes although it would depend on the person to a degree. If they were on here every night saying come unload in me and leave well then I would have major reservations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't, even if they say they've been tested, they could have played after getting tested,

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By *ebootCouple
over a year ago

Telford

I’d argue there are those that play bareback who are safer than those who use condoms, and think they are playing safe.

So in answer to your question OP, like all things in how we play, it’s a situational choice for us.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

As long as they don't think they're going bareback with me it's whatever.

Also disagreeing with the barebacks are safer. I use condoms and get tested regularly. I know people who go bare with someone new every week and haven't bothered to get tested in years because "barebacks are safer" so obviously they dont need to because everyone else must be. I've given up trying to reason that one out.

Everyone is free to make their own decisions about the risk profile they adopt. And everyone is free to withdraw consent if established boundaries can't be adhered to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope!

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I personally wouldn't want to, even though I use protection for all oral as well as penetration because I wouldn't want the risk to other partners or to myself.

However, I don't tend to ask if people do particularly in clubs so I make sure that I can reduce the risk as much as possible.

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By *ewisbi76Man
over a year ago

west edinburgh

"Here's a genuine question - would a play safe couple/individual still be happy to play safe with a a known barebacker or would they completely rule them out on sexual health grounds???"

Barebackers can and do meet safe. most people are happy to meet as long as you arent doing anything risky, but what can be an issue is other people going through your feedback and not believing you had a safe meet with someone whose profile only shows bareback.

Also sometimes someone will be "safe" and say no bb on their profile, but then a year or two later they have a change of heart and suddenly are heavily into BB and youre still linked to them by feedback.

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

Tend to steer clear of those that say they play safe.

Why would anyone want to meet barebackers when they are trying to be safe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the person. Depends on the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BB only for me.

I avoid safe-sex-only types, but it certainly isn't the other way around despite what their profile says, believe me

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Yeah I mean if she’s super hot

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

If we're playing safe it's of no concern to us.

Though we probably wouldn't consider them for the preferred playmate program.

The amount of pearl clutching that goes on here about bareback is insane. We play safe, but we don't play the 6 degrees of jizz that some people seem to.

"Sorry, it's just not safe to meet, you once met with someone who once had sex with someone whoes friend once had a ripped condom. Too dangerous"

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By *ubwife4uCouple
over a year ago

Kent

If the guy says he only does BB then he is not for us as we don’t. Therefore we wouldn’t meet him for fun. We wouldn’t want him to have to do one thing he is not happy with any more than we would change our preference to suit anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably would as long as it was absolutely clear that they would play safe with me. I can’t control what people do outside of their time with me and to be honest I’d probably trust someone who was upfront about it more. They’re more likely, I think (but could be wrong) to take testing etc more seriously. Don’t know , just my two cents

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By *itonthesideWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Its an odds thing … condoms aren’t 100% effective but if i meet 5 people with protection and person B meet 5 without then when it comes round to person 6 i have a lower chance of something slipping through if they generally wear condoms than i do with person B who normally that barebacks

If i see bareback photos on profiles it turns me off anyway

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers

"I probably would as long as it was absolutely clear that they would play safe with me. I can’t control what people do outside of their time with me and to be honest I’d probably trust someone who was upfront about it more. They’re more likely, I think (but could be wrong) to take testing etc more seriously. Don’t know , just my two cents

This! We used to be ultra cautious not meeting people who were openly playing unsafe on here. However we are now older and wiser and realise fab is only a fraction of the puzzle of everyone’s lives. None of us know what others do on or off the site. We will meet anyone whether they play safe or not but are clear pre meeting that we only play safe

Xxx Missy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quite a variety of answers then. Looks like the majority by a hair is that they would meet, circumstances considered but only on a safe basis which seems pragmatic.

Our view FWIW is you actually cannot in any way prove that any individual you have sex with has or has not got an STI so vanilla rules apply. Safe only unless you become in a relationship with a person and have a very high degree of confidence in them not having something they can pass on. Only time I ever got an STI was from my now ex wife in what was apparently a monogamous relationship

Testing regularly for personal piece of mind as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always practice safe sex with a condom because as STIs, I dont want to get a woman pregnant even if shes on a pill or not

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

We zero problem with BB people and if there attractive pass a the vibe check and will to play safe with us all good..

Risk of std is low in the UK but we are a high risk group so be careful people..

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

South Essex

Each to their own, but we wouldn’t play with a couple that play bareback.

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By *ilks xXxWoman
over a year ago

East Mids

No I wouldn’t….

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

"I wouldn't, even if they say they've been tested, they could have played after getting tested,"

Pretty much this ^ x

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Safe is best in the scene some risk it but I won't unless it's with a long term partner who I know plays safe with others

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