FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago

Wisbech

Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

At first we found it a little demoralising but now it's water off a ducks back for us

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm not for everyone and everyone's not for me. It's the way of the world.

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By *imbob692000Man
over a year ago

fort william

You just got to get on with it and deal with it

. Not everyone will say yes. And if they say no then that means no. I have heard a few woman say it is just easier to block rather than reply so they dont end up getting a load of abuse back after rejecting people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A kid wants a shiny new toy they thrown a tantrum , realise they can't have it and move on , they don't take it personally. Kids are smart

Refuse to label it as rejection. It is most probably a compatibility issue not personal dislike.

If some one rejects me I immediately lose interest because why the fuck would I want to be with someone who doesn't enthusiastically want me. Just no

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Ah once it's happened a few times it gets easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less

Miss S x

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By *ldFashionedGentMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I think many have given similar opinions. But don’t view it as rejection. If they’re not as enthusiastic as you are it wouldn’t be a great experience so nothing lost. We all like what we like and sometimes we’re simply not someone’s cup of tea.

That may be due to pics, it could be something in the profile or it could quite simply be that they’re not feeling it or in the mood at that particular time.

It helps me to remember as a single guy that women and couples here receive a huge amount of attention so just be sure to enjoy the connections you are lucky to make

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Generally, I only really really want someone once I've got to know them. In the getting to know them I tend to get a fairly good grasp of whether or not they're into me at all, and if they're not, I don't find myself that drawn to them. I wouldn't want to be with someone who didn't want to be with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm average looking so I know I'm not going to attract the women that I like, I can easily take rejection on the chin and move on.

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By *arpus67Man
over a year ago

nottingham burgh le Marsh

Wait until you are the wrong side of 50, you will get use to it lol

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

As others have said, if someone isn’t interested then stuffem! Easier said than done, I know. Bear in mind also that their online persona may well have been completely different in real life so, chances are, you’re not missing what you think you’re missing.

Imagine walking into a busy bar and chatting to everyone you fancied. How many do you think would be interested in you based on first impressions? It’s the same here only magnified exponentially.

You’ll only be attractive to a few of the people to whom you’re attracted. Add in supply & demand, preferences, age, location and message content, you’re only ever going to click with a tiny minority.

The sooner you become at one with all the above, the sooner you’ll resolve your conflict with rejection.

Best of luck OP!

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Ah once it's happened a few times it gets easier."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Water off a ducks back now. Never going to be for everyone.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

rejection is part n parcel of the scene as a whole online / clubs / parties / dogging ..everybody has a preference and an attraction

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Move on to the next and don't give it a second thought x

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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago

Northwich

I (he) can honestly say I have never been rejected by a woman but then again, that was always in the real world, and my wife has a 100% hit rate also.

As a swinging couple, we have only ever been approached by woman twice but that was the other half of couples we have met and the lady's were clearly the swinging driving force.

Men and women having problems getting together is a 21st century problem, because people think that the Internet is the solution, whereas really its the problem!

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

You get used to it, and don't give it much thought after a while.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't see it as anything important easy to say fine as we can't always make each other happy

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

When u can accept failure or no, then life is easier …. Or the old terminology “shit happens”

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Move on to the next and don't give it a second thought x"

But if it's third time lucky then what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept there responsibility thank them for having the decency to reply and don't ne a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?"

You've only just figured it out, do you mean here in fab or in real life ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s harder if you have an underlying insecurity as you then tend to think that’s the reason for the rejection. That in turn just exacerbates things in one’s mind.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Obviously takes all sorts and very hard to get across your real persona in a few lines of text and a piss poor pic! If they can’t see past that they probably don’t deserve you anyway! And of course….plenty more fish etc.!

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Cant believe it’s a problem you’ve ever had!!!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Learn to let go of someone rather than be clinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not normally personal.

Deep breath and onto the next.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

After the first few hundred times you get used to it.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You can't have someone that doesn't want you. So it's understanding that it's not just about oneself

Never had an issue

But most of my friends are female away from the site and at times wish it's was more but I respect our friendship

So maybe consider respect

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Ah once it's happened a few times it gets easier."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been turned down more times than a thermostat... you get used to it

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By *ozzy4Man
over a year ago

When you have a face like mine you get used to it, even the tide wouldn't take me out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?"

I'm a professional...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?"

Only message the ugly desperate ones.

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By *enxxxxx30Woman
over a year ago

all

just move on, dont think about it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Think you need to order some thicker skin off eBay.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you need to order some thicker skin off eBay.

The mr "

How much do you weigh?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Most men on fab aren't good at dealing with rejection. Most get aggressive or ignore the rejection and try again a week later. When i get rejected, I make an excuse for them and just think it wasn't meant to be and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea. Rather be with someone who wants me more than i want them rather than the other way round.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?"

I think maybe you’re investing too much in something before there is something.

Rejection as you mean isn’t something that happens to me. I’ve never been rejected by a woman. That doesn’t mean women that I like the look of all wanna fuck me, far from it !

But I wouldn’t get to the point of rejection , I would read the signals and not get invested

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Think you need to order some thicker skin off eBay.

The mr

How much do you weigh?

About 18 stone I think. Why ?

The mr

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

You don't really have a choice, you just have to deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think you need to order some thicker skin off eBay.

The mr

How much do you weigh?

About 18 stone I think. Why ?

The mr "

Sounds slinky to me

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

I don’t think this site is the place to frequent if you can’t handle rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think this site is the place to frequent if you can’t handle rejection. "

Pfft! It's the Internet. I doubt anyone cares.. And of they do? They might need a word with themselves

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Think you need to order some thicker skin off eBay.

The mr

How much do you weigh?

About 18 stone I think. Why ?

The mr

Sounds slinky to me

Slinky

I’m definitely not that flexible

The mr

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?"

Ruin their life for fun and profit!

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

Just move on, its that simple

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just figured out I’m not good with rejection when it comes to women I REALLY want. How do you handle it?

Only message the ugly desperate ones.

Members of the Marty Feldman lookalike club.

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