FabSwingers.com forum: Bi message from Straight Profile

By *zlak OP Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

Just my opinion btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I get it lots.

There are many that hide their sexuality for a variety of reasons.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It occasionally happens, every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, all the time. I try not to get too hung up on the sexuality label. If someone’s interested, they’re interested.

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By *zlak OP Man
over a year ago

Norwich

"Yeah, all the time. I try not to get too hung up on the sexuality label. If someone’s interested, they’re interested."

Yeah fair point

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I agree that it’s wrong for a straight guy to be sending messages to bi guys with a view to a sexual meet.However as a straight guy I also feel it’s wrong that a bi guy should message me asking if I want a sexual meet or am l fab straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s interesting eh? I’ve messaged many a ‘straight’ guy asking if they’re up for a meet simply because I’ve had messages from many a ‘straight’ guy asking the same.

Personally, I’m flattered if someone’s interested in me, regardless of their sexuality, I can’t imagine people being annoyed by it (but I’m probably biased).

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By *rinwin69Man
over a year ago

STOCKPORT

It's just a label, but I do wish people could be a bit more open, but understand why they feel they cant be, still seems as though it's much more acceptable for a woman to be bi or curious without comment! All that said have had some great meets with "straight" guys from here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep we certainly do too.

Some have said they put straight for the male as other couples won't play with them even if they want to play straight because the male is bi.

Miss S x

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I've had messages from "straight" guys. I try not to judge but I do ask why their profile is labelled as such.

Homophobia is real and some people don't want to face it.

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been very tempted to change mine to straight to escape the clutches of unicorn hunters

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

I'd say about 4 in 5 of the messages I get are from 'straight' guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. And "straight" guys watching my cam who have blocked bi males. It's pretty pathetic, tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile says no straight or bi curious but the messages still arrive, its like nobody reads profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our profile says no straight or bi curious but the messages still arrive, its like nobody reads profiles."

I am totally shocked by this revelation…

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By *ere70Man
over a year ago

Rovinj Istria

in my opinion many of "straight" guys are bi, and if they state on profile they are bi, get rejection from couples cause lot of them dont want to play with bi men ( guess girls are greedy for cock and dont want to share)

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By *ere70Man
over a year ago

Rovinj Istria

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By *ere70Man
over a year ago

Rovinj Istria

"Our profile says no straight or bi curious but the messages still arrive, its like nobody reads profiles.

I am totally shocked by this revelation…

realy? me too

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By *ang average kinkMan
over a year ago

Farnborough

"Our profile says no straight or bi curious but the messages still arrive, its like nobody reads profiles."

My profile says bi curious but some have said they would class me as bi.

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By *N4funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Met and played with some guys who are Bi oral only, we find it fun in a 3some as the guys have no hange ups

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I’ve been very tempted to change mine to straight to escape the clutches of unicorn hunters

I've seen a few women put straight

couple of times ,but then have pics of them with ladies .Do you think that's why they put straight?I am actually straight but used to get couples winking and messaging me so it doesn't seem to work.I block them now .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Common thing on fabs happens all the time x

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

Just my opinion btw"
i get about 6 messages a week from STRAIGHT guys,, when i tell them i never meet straight only bi guys they say they are bi but if they put bi on their profile they never get to meet females,,, there is a local couple near me who say on their profile they dont meet bi guys,,, but i know 4 guys on their veri list who they have met who are bi top guys,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best ones are the profiles of guys who state they are 100% straight, genuine, honest and trustworthy….

Somewhat at odds with their other profile on FG with graphic veri’s from other men.

My partner spots them all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, comes with the territory. Block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are usually time wasters after pictures to have a wank over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are usually time wasters after pictures to have a wank over"

All they ha e to do is ask and say that. Not a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are usually time wasters after pictures to have a wank over

All they ha e to do is ask and say that. Not a problem"

Now here’s my issue… if that’s all they want, why not just go and look at porn? There’s far better looking dicks / guys on the rest of the internet than on here.

I just don’t get why they need to bother the folk who are actually trying to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone explain what am I

So always have preferred women. I don’t think about men when fantasising. But I don’t mind when in threesome with a couple if the guy wants to give me oral or she wants to DVP. I don’t oral guys nor have I been involved in any intercourse with men .

What am I straight, bi, bi curious , no idea ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They are usually time wasters after pictures to have a wank over

All they ha e to do is ask and say that. Not a problem

Now here’s my issue… if that’s all they want, why not just go and look at porn? There’s far better looking dicks / guys on the rest of the internet than on here.

I just don’t get why they need to bother the folk who are actually trying to meet."

My guess is access to reality as opposed to some online e or movie star

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone explain what am I

What am I straight, bi, bi curious , no idea ? "

Who cares. Honestly it realky doesn't matter. Forget societal norms and lice for you the way you want to

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

From what I can tell there are two things happening.

1) Guys with straight on their profile message other men for meets / sex chat / etc. These are the so-called "Fab-Straight" brigade. Bi or gay guys who are in the closet; to others, to themselves, or both.

2) Guys with Bi or Gay on their profile message other men with Straight on their profile because they fetishise playing with actual, fully straight men, but in all likelyhood only ever find success with Fab-Straight men, or bi-curious men.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I get quite a few messages from straight guys looking to meet. Many of them fully Bi as their profiles on Fab Guys show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I can tell there are two things happening.

This.. end of

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By *yintotryCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

We understand why, some couples and ladies won't need bi/ bi curious guys, but if we can take the hit, so should they. Sooooo we block them.

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

A lot of men won't put bi on their profile as they think it will stop women from being interested if they see it.

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By *irexMan
over a year ago

Hertford

Lots, but I’ll have to check if I’ve got bi on my profile - my bad;/

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By *wimmingbadgerMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Constantly get messages from straight guys with no pics on their profiles, I just block them all now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of men won't put bi on their profile as they think it will stop women from being interested if they see it. "

But the deceit of this is worse. Its not fair on the other party not to have all the information to make their decision

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By *illie99TV/TS
over a year ago

Central Scotland

probably at lest 50% of the guys messaging me are straight, or at least they claim to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree that it’s wrong for a straight guy to be sending messages to bi guys with a view to a sexual meet.However as a straight guy I also feel it’s wrong that a bi guy should message me asking if I want a sexual meet or am l fab straight."

You can use filters to stop men from messaging you you know

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By *unnyandDi68Couple
over a year ago

LEIGH

Why is everyone so worried? We believe this is a sex site, not a dating site. Each sexual act is not categorised by a sexuality. We swing as a couple who would only have relationships with the opposite sex. And we meet similar couples. Is DP polyamorous? Is anal sex Gay?

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Remember, there's "straight", and there's "fab straight".

Despite sounding similar, they are quite a number of differences between the two.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Also happens the other way around as well, where gay/bi men send random messages to straight profiles. Probably turns them on messaging people who would not be interested in them sexually.

I know plenty of gay men & "straight guy lust" is very much a thing among many of them.

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

Just my opinion btw"

Yeah I do and to be fair I’m fine with it. They have their reasons why they want to shield themselves and I completely understand why. I don’t think of it as lying anymore than anyone’s else I’ve chatted with and held things back until we’ve chatted a bit and have a connection. There few instances I can actually think of tbh where that doesn’t happen so why should this be any a bigger issue than the multitude of fetishes people open up about once they know they want to chat more

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Hubby is straight on ours because too many people from his job are on fab just to perv and doesn’t want the attention at work, already had one weirdo try something

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Why is everyone so worried? We believe this is a sex site, not a dating site. Each sexual act is not categorised by a sexuality. We swing as a couple who would only have relationships with the opposite sex. And we meet similar couples. Is DP polyamorous? Is anal sex Gay? "

This is my thinking exactly!!! Why does it matter?

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By *iscreetMan_UKMan
over a year ago

nearby

I’m gay and clearly states that on my profile.

More than 50% of my inbox is from people who identify, on here at least, as straight.

Bi, bicurious and gay are the minority.

Sometimes it’s horny people that want a chat, so it’s “any port in a storm”, some people who are just starting their curiosity journey, some people who are deeply closeted, some people who are bi but don’t broadcast it because it puts women off and then there are some that are clearly actually as gay as they come but have straight on their profile because it makes it easier to pick up other straight or bicurious guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hubby is straight on ours because too many people from his job are on fab just to perv and doesn’t want the attention at work, already had one weirdo try something "

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

The amount of messages bi guys or couples get from men that start with ‘I know it says straight on my profile but I’m actually bi’ you should probably cut them some slack.

Purely from anecdotal message experience straight guys are in the minority on fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get messages from guys that state in there profile they are looking for TV & TS amongst others things . But they put in there status straight, when you ask them about it, it obviously a mistake and swear blind the are straight.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

Just my opinion btw i get about 6 messages a week from STRAIGHT guys,, when i tell them i never meet straight only bi guys they say they are bi but if they put bi on their profile they never get to meet females,,, there is a local couple near me who say on their profile they dont meet bi guys,,, but i know 4 guys on their veri list who they have met who are bi top guys,,,

There are couples on the forums who insist they only meet straight guys, one look at their verifications however shows them to be mistaken.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We should take the labels off everything.

Imagine what fun it would be if you fancied beans on toast and opened two tins of dog food and a tin of carrots before you got to the beans

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

The amount of messages bi guys or couples get from men that start with ‘I know it says straight on my profile but I’m actually bi’ you should probably cut them some slack.

Purely from anecdotal message experience straight guys are in the minority on fab."
. I am happy to cut them some slack as they perhaps think nothing ventured nothing gained.I am happy to be in a minority on Fabs as I am on Fabs on my terms

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

You can use filters to stop men from messaging you you know"
. Yes I know but there are some genuine straight guys that may want to organise a 3sum or gang bang and are looking for single straight guys so I keep the filters open.

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By *atfuckerbristolMan
over a year ago

Wells

To be honest I’m just happy to receive a decently written message, with more than ‘how’s u?’ in the subject line.

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

"A lot of men won't put bi on their profile as they think it will stop women from being interested if they see it.

But the deceit of this is worse. Its not fair on the other party not to have all the information to make their decision"

Exactly, I always tell ladies at clubs that I'm bi when we're chatting as they may not want to play with bi men,aways best to be upfront about it.

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

We get quite a lot. Ones from those who obviously haven’t read our profile and others that straight away say they’re bi. Doesn’t bother us either way really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of men won't put bi on their profile as they think it will stop women from being interested if they see it.

But the deceit of this is worse. Its not fair on the other party not to have all the information to make their decision

Exactly, I always tell ladies at clubs that I'm bi when we're chatting as they may not want to play with bi men,aways best to be upfront about it. "

Obviously everyone is entilited to their preferences.

But I've never understood why it matters if the man is bi if its just you two 1 on 1?

Miss S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

There are couples on the forums who insist they only meet straight guys, one look at their verifications however shows them to be mistaken."

Some of the biggest anti bi male single females on the fab forums have numerous veris from "fab straight guys" who advertise as 100% straight yet are very well know regulars at the bi nights at the clubs

When a man and a women meet for 1 on 1 sex then the previous historical partners of either should have zero bearing. The only reason it does is down to laten homophobia.

I've never been with a guy ever and have no intention of doings so. However DVP and Fuck Licking are 2 acts that I love and no truly 100% straight guy would want to do those, so that's the only reason I put bi curious for want of a better option. When taking part in DVP or fuck licking we would want the other guy to have zero hang ups in terms of his sexuality so everyone is comfortable at all times. That's why labels and been honest is so important.

Hopefully, one day male bi sexuality (at which ever point on its wide spectrum that you sit) becomes just as accepted as female bi sexuality. In swinging clubs and definitely club events we have definitely moved much closer to this been the reality thankfully. However Fab still has a fair way to go yet.

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By *rickie-dickieMan
over a year ago

South Durham

I regularly get messages from men who's profile has:

"No single guys" on it.

I always answer:

"I'm a bloke."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never understand why so many straight men like eating cum

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Liverpool

Most messages I get are from straight men, or so their profile says.

Then you look at their verification and they are from men !

Be true to yourself first, before trying to bull shit others and you might get somewhere

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By *exleypeteMan
over a year ago

bexleyheath

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

Just my opinion btw"

I've met a few straight guys on here

There just wanting a blow job ,I don't verify them as they want it kept secret

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By *ill1411Man
over a year ago

Durham

"Also happens the other way around as well, where gay/bi men send random messages to straight profiles. Probably turns them on messaging people who would not be interested in them sexually.

I know plenty of gay men & "straight guy lust" is very much a thing among many of them."
yeah I've had a few of them and each to their own and all that but it makes my skin crawl when a man comes on to me, my profile says I'm 100% straight and I mean it. If a couple has a hot wife that I really fancy but a bi male I won't even message them it's just not my thing.

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By *ndi37Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Happens a lot. Also couples message, the girl is bi but the guy straight. My profile says gay. When chatting they said the guy wants to explore while the GF watches, but they never come off. Not sure if they chicken out or of its fake. More than happy for straight guys to message and meet. We all had to start somewhere. I take it as a compliment if someone of the opposite sex or sexuality messages me.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only meet bi couples and it clearly says that on our profile but we still get messages from straight couples/singles .

Even if they say they are bi if they don’t have it on their profile we won’t meet them.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Honesty is always the best policy

but do get why some people prefer not to state it for personal privacy reasons.

I read 1.3 % put bi for orientation in the last census,

it's a lot higher on Fab I'd say lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this, and it’s fine. To me it’s straight (self defining straight) guys using the relative safety and discretion of this site to explore their sexual interests. Nothing wrong in that.

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By *xstevenxxMan
over a year ago

Ashbourne

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By *unnyandDi68Couple
over a year ago

LEIGH

"Never understand why so many straight men like eating cum "

Why? Is it a diet specifically reserved for straight women? Maybe answers the 'Do you spit or do you swallow? Question

If I swallow will my actual sexuality be changed forever? Damn, what did I put on the census? Lol.

Won't go down the rabbit hole of men who have tasted their own cum..... Haha

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Is it just me or do people with "bi" on their profile get messages asking to meet from Straight profiles?? To me its lying to others??

There are couples on the forums who insist they only meet straight guys, one look at their verifications however shows them to be mistaken.

When a man and a women meet for 1 on 1 sex then the previous historical partners of either should have zero bearing. The only reason it does is down to laten homophobia.

KJ"

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Most messages I get are from straight men, or so their profile says.

Then you look at their verification and they are from men !

Be true to yourself first, before trying to bull shit others and you might get somewhere "

I do agree in part with this & think because some will hide being bi ,even some women do ,people then don't believe that someone is actually straight.many Couples seem to assume all women are bi.

My partner can be orally bi and we have this on our profile as it's best to be upfront with all ,then others can decide if they want to meet you or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing to hide you are what you are

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