FabSwingers.com forum: Why lie about cancelling a meet!

By *ommyTigh OP Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Massive frustration is when someone lies to you about why they can’t or no longer want to meet? You know the, an emergency has come up so leaving town etc yet an hour later they’re on-line half a mile away!!!!!

It’s ok to say, I’ve changed my mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally for us

I wouldn’t give a reason ……

I would just say I needed to cancel . Which we have had to do very recently .

I don’t think anyone owes anyone an explanation when they cancel but I think people worry / panic about cancelling or saying they changed their mind so they make up an excuse !

I wouldn’t take it personally

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By *ommyTigh OP Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

And you know what

I need to cancel is better than b.s. - you don’t owe anyone anything

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I think it depends on the circumsrances. If the other party has booked a hotel or airbnb then it is positively churlish to ghost them or just say "I cancel" because, to use a Fab cliché, "Because they can"

Surely to get to the point of meeting someone for sex you must have formed some form of link or relationship? Doesn't that require some respect for them in your actions?

Do you have to give a reason? I think it helps but please be honest. With the site full of timewasters it is important that legitimate folk act with a certain amount of respect towards those they were going to meet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

They're just being polite

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

Very annoying when this happens... Especially when you've spent the morning shaving yourself to absolutely perfection and popped a pill.

Now you're left sitting there as smooth as a wet seal with a raging erection that won't go down!

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I've had two instances in a week with cancelled meetings.

Last weekend I had arranged to meet a guy at a club. I hadn't decided to go until he mentioned he'd booked a room and I could stay with him, I could have a drink then. Anyway I arrived at the club, checked my texts to see if he was already there, only to discover a text saying his car had broken down on the way.

I went into the club anyway, over an hour's drive so why not. While paying so get in I thought I'll book that room that's now vacant. Only to be told everyone that booked a room had turned up???

I arranged a meeting for last night but wasn't feeling well so yesterday morning I had to cancel, I didn't give a reason, just said sorry I can't make tonight. By the time he replied asking why, I'd tested positive for Covid, not 100% sure he believed me though.

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