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By *hirdTimesACharm OP   Couple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

Hey hey guys. Mr here.

Anyone else struggle actually climaxing? It gets to a point where I feel like me old boy’s about to fall off through a mixture of friction burn and overuse. A “standard” time for me to climax can take anywhere between 45 minutes to 3+ hours, and it can get very very frustrating, especially for Mrs S.

Anyone have anything that helps them drastically reduce the time it takes to climax?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A finger up the arse at the appropriate moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A finger up the arse at the appropriate moment. "

Beat me to it

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Yup, it happens to me sometimes too. I try not to force it, make sure my partner's had a good time and just explain it's not going to happen.

Sometimes trying again in a bit works just fine

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're probably fucking too often, have a break

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am lucky if I get 15 minutes lol !!!

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By *eekyguywithglassesMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"You're probably fucking too often, have a break"

I agree! Don't have sex or masturbate for 2 weeks. After that you will be so horny you will explode as the mere thought of sex :p

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Many Men on here seem to struggle to cum and end up having to masturbate over the Lady. They seem to be doing things at 100mph which won't help. Our advise is to go slow and even slower and feel how much more the sensation is, there's a lot of nerve endings down there!

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By *opman121Man
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Bare back no problem but wrap it and struggle to climax seems to go on for ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This can happen when we have oil and lube play and penny gushes, the friction disappears and it can be tough to hit the finishing line.

Always one position that gets the job done though, penny face down with her legs together and ankles crossed, the extra friction of her bum cheeks and my balls swinging in the breeze gets the big O in no time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you on medication ? It may be one of the cause

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr has always had this problem and often needs to finish himself off.

Tbh we've not found anything that works, it's usually just finding a specific rhythm and going and going until he's ready. The challenge is keeping going and for him over thinking it

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This can happen when we have oil and lube play and penny gushes, the friction disappears and it can be tough to hit the finishing line.

Always one position that gets the job done though, penny face down with her legs together and ankles crossed, the extra friction of her bum cheeks and my balls swinging in the breeze gets the big O in no time."

This, men need friction, women need lube: just get the balance right, As for me spooning does the trick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're probably fucking too often, have a break

I agree! Don't have sex or masturbate for 2 weeks. After that you will be so horny you will explode as the mere thought of sex :p"

Answers like this really don't understand the topic and are pretty unhelpful for people that have this issue tbh

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Mr has always had this problem and often needs to finish himself off.

Tbh we've not found anything that works, it's usually just finding a specific rhythm and going and going until he's ready. The challenge is keeping going and for him over thinking it

"

Lowered t-levels don't help, the dryness caused my the menopause can be treated with lubes and stuff, the floppy penis can be helped with Viagra, but the numb penis needs help too, question is , what will bring back that sensitivity?

Think fireworks and damp touch paper. How much friction would be needed to dry it out then ignite...? Loads!

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

As a joke, I used to call fosters my viagra. I'd would literally be up all night. To the point where she would beg me to stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a joke, I used to call fosters my viagra. I'd would literally be up all night. To the point where she would beg me to stop. "

Lol yes booze does NOT help!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"You're probably fucking too often, have a break

I agree! Don't have sex or masturbate for 2 weeks. After that you will be so horny you will explode as the mere thought of sex :p

Answers like this really don't understand the topic and are pretty unhelpful for people that have this issue tbh

"

There is some truth in that, but, we need answers too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr has always had this problem and often needs to finish himself off.

Tbh we've not found anything that works, it's usually just finding a specific rhythm and going and going until he's ready. The challenge is keeping going and for him over thinking it

Lowered t-levels don't help, the dryness caused my the menopause can be treated with lubes and stuff, the floppy penis can be helped with Viagra, but the numb penis needs help too, question is , what will bring back that sensitivity?

Think fireworks and damp touch paper. How much friction would be needed to dry it out then ignite...? Loads!"

I wouldn't describe it as numb because it's sensitive, it's more that the orgasm is on top of a hill and for some that hill is much steeper and longer than others

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"This can happen when we have oil and lube play and penny gushes, the friction disappears and it can be tough to hit the finishing line.

Always one position that gets the job done though, penny face down with her legs together and ankles crossed, the extra friction of her bum cheeks and my balls swinging in the breeze gets the big O in no time.

This, men need friction, women need lube: just get the balance right, As for me spooning does the trick."

I hate lube! Women need an amount of friction too!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"Mr has always had this problem and often needs to finish himself off.

Tbh we've not found anything that works, it's usually just finding a specific rhythm and going and going until he's ready. The challenge is keeping going and for him over thinking it

Lowered t-levels don't help, the dryness caused my the menopause can be treated with lubes and stuff, the floppy penis can be helped with Viagra, but the numb penis needs help too, question is , what will bring back that sensitivity?

Think fireworks and damp touch paper. How much friction would be needed to dry it out then ignite...? Loads!

I wouldn't describe it as numb because it's sensitive, it's more that the orgasm is on top of a hill and for some that hill is much steeper and longer than others "

I would describe as semi numb...My glans is really insensitive to hot water in the shower, I can feel the pressure, but the heat I can tolerate is much higher than on my scrotum, penis or legs? This is under investigation, this coming March.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"This can happen when we have oil and lube play and penny gushes, the friction disappears and it can be tough to hit the finishing line.

Always one position that gets the job done though, penny face down with her legs together and ankles crossed, the extra friction of her bum cheeks and my balls swinging in the breeze gets the big O in no time.

This, men need friction, women need lube: just get the balance right, As for me spooning does the trick.

I hate lube! Women need an amount of friction too!

You are the first women I've ever known to say this."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes wont cum. Its not a big deal for me,not to cum. It doesnt mean i didnt enjoy it. Far far from it. Just take it as a bonus. You wont be sleeping on a wet patch.lol. (Or need a towel) private joke there.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"This can happen when we have oil and lube play and penny gushes, the friction disappears and it can be tough to hit the finishing line.

Always one position that gets the job done though, penny face down with her legs together and ankles crossed, the extra friction of her bum cheeks and my balls swinging in the breeze gets the big O in no time."

Yes i agree once the lady gets to wet us guys lose the friction. The position you use is the one i find will deffo hit the spot when you are struggling for friction.

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By *ycallMan
over a year ago

Dorking

I can take way to long sometimes, it’s annoying.

People always say that women want a lover that can keep going all night but I don’t think that’s necessarily true. It’s more like they want someone who can keep going for the right amount of time.

Personally I think that taking ages can be a bit off putting, your partner should feel sexy and taking absolutely forever doesn’t really do that. Obviously going to far the other way and only lasting a few strokes isn’t great either.

In an ideal world I like to cum just after my partner but it doesn’t always work out that way.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

It's started to happen to me more often as I rely on masturbation for relief. On the rare occasions I do have sex it can take an age or sometimes not at all. It comes from starting to rely on the "death grip" you can end up doing with masturbation. I need to retrain myself to a gentler technique

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