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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Why is it that sometimes you talk for a while, plan a meet and I doesn’t happen?

I know the options are endless but if you’re getting on and set a date why pull out without notice? I understand things happen but would it not be right to message the person

Or sometimes it feels you get stung along as an option incase you’re needed

I’ve been lucky and had quite a few meets but when you turn others down for someone that doesn’t show it’s kind of gutting

Is this a regular thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately we have came to accept it been part of the experience. Happens probably half of the time for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it’s a regular thing.

Life on Fab I’m afraid. Doesn’t make it right of course.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I've had this happen. I find you can get a lot of momentum in the chat, and then once you've lost that momentum it's hard to get back.

I've had more success with spontaneous, started talking today and then planned for the evening or next day that the ones I've had to wait for. Although my brain hates last minute meets as I like to ensure everything is set prior.

But, you gotta keep preserving.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

A lot can happen from starting a chat to arranging a meet to actually meeting. People change their minds; life gets in the way; the person you were chatting with was not who they were saying they were; the person you were chatting with was just a tease, with no intention of meeting; something in the chat spook the other person off; and also the person may have had all the intentions of meeting but bottled it, nerves took over.

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By *ityguyMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I've had 2 meets arranged on fab travelled an hour to the meets and both were no shows.

Puts you off wanting to carry on but I'm sure not everyone on here is like the 2 I unfortunately arranged to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are the best way. Don't have to message endless chit that goes know where. No shows, no problem there are plenty of other to chat and play with.

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It is a nightmare isn’t it. I know things happen and everyone has a life but even just a message to say not going to make it would be fine. Like I say, I’ve been pretty lucky and only had it twice. Met some great people and I won’t let it discourage me. Hoping to meet and make some new friends here

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i cant remember the last let down i had /we had and we play often .. i do think its down to the process of picking a meet for me its very easy to spot messer / fakes or fantasist / wank material ..

the number of fake women / couples accounts is high they are run by men for whatever gain they get and there are men on here you have multiple accounts 5/6/7 ++ accounts just so they can play there online game of pissing people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had 2 meets arranged on fab travelled an hour to the meets and both were no shows.

Puts you off wanting to carry on but I'm sure not everyone on here is like the 2 I unfortunately arranged to meet."

I would strongly suggest you meet locally first.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I've had a few failed meets, the most recent, although some time ago now, I had already left to travel to the meet point, about half an hour's drive away, but then had a cancellation message with a pitiful excuse, I say pitiful because the next day I found out that he turned me down to go to a club! all the verifications he received gave it away so cut my losses and moved on

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By *assie101Woman
over a year ago

Kent


"A lot can happen from starting a chat to arranging a meet to actually meeting. People change their minds; life gets in the way; the person you were chatting with was not who they were saying they were; the person you were chatting with was just a tease, with no intention of meeting; something in the chat spook the other person off; and also the person may have had all the intentions of meeting but bottled it, nerves took over. "

That's all true and fair enough but you should still let the other know in good time. Manners cost nothing

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By *ityguyMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I've had 2 meets arranged on fab travelled an hour to the meets and both were no shows.

Puts you off wanting to carry on but I'm sure not everyone on here is like the 2 I unfortunately arranged to meet.

I would strongly suggest you meet locally first."

It's not so easy as locals don't seem to want to meet other locals plus I'm an older guy so not fir everyone

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

Yes unfortunately...makes clubs very attractive!

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

We must be the exception here. Never been let down.

We do however try to plan our meets in a club environment. Not always possible we know. But least that way if you do get a no show you have other options.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"A lot can happen from starting a chat to arranging a meet to actually meeting. People change their minds; life gets in the way; the person you were chatting with was not who they were saying they were; the person you were chatting with was just a tease, with no intention of meeting; something in the chat spook the other person off; and also the person may have had all the intentions of meeting but bottled it, nerves took over.

That's all true and fair enough but you should still let the other know in good time. Manners cost nothing "

Couldn't agree more.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Yes unfortunately...makes clubs very attractive! "

Not for everyone, though. There will be someone posting very shortly that clubs are too expensive for men, you actually have to talk to people there to get some possible invitation to join them, have to make effort etc.

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By *andG2018Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Nottingham

We are sick of this ! Women agreeing to meet agree everything for the meet then a few days away not replying to our messages or the worst is those that disappear and then start a new profile soon afterwards . Our block list is massive lol

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By *ityguyMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"Yes unfortunately...makes clubs very attractive! "

Your probably right but clubs are not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive not been let down ive cancelled with a good reason

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think it's partly that most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. It can take some time for the dawning of reality to occur and the compatibility may be about context.

As aspects of the contexts change, the compatibility or mismatches, can become more apparent.

Some people are prepared to take risks, that may leave them vulnerable but when the reality of them gets felt, they will no longer hold their nerve.

It's abhorrent in impose situations on others that aren't fulfilled, without notice and communication.

We can't change others but can change our own behaviour and approaches to engaging with others. Learning and adapting is probably what we're stuck with. Always report inappropriate

behaviour to Admin too.

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m always polite and never put any pressure. If I’m meeting then it’s always on the woman’s terms. I seem to do a lot better with couples. I only seem to meet couples at the moment and I’m enjoying it.

I agree with you all and I get what the MM couple are saying too

When you are a day then the least you can do is message to say won’t make it. Doesn’t need to be an excuse but to let the other person know is just common decency surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's annoying when it happens, but you just have to accept it and move on

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"It's annoying when it happens, but you just have to accept it and move on "

It is. I just wonder if it was a common thing and seems it is haha

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By *eeds fun guyMan
over a year ago

yorkshire


"It's annoying when it happens, but you just have to accept it and move on "

Who would be daft enough to let an Angel like you down, they need their bumps felt!!!

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

In my experience meets tend to happen if the meet is arranged quite quickly. People who are here to chat tend not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my experience meets tend to happen if the meet is arranged quite quickly. People who are here to chat tend not to meet. "

We'd have to agree with this.

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"In my experience meets tend to happen if the meet is arranged quite quickly. People who are here to chat tend not to meet. "

100% I e found this to be very true so far

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"Clubs are the best way. Don't have to message endless chit that goes know where. No shows, no problem there are plenty of other to chat and play with. "

Yep, totally this. Way better.

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Clubs are the best way. Don't have to message endless chit that goes know where. No shows, no problem there are plenty of other to chat and play with.

Yep, totally this. Way better."

I’ve got to build the courage to go haha or someone to go with. Would love to try one sometime

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"Yes unfortunately...makes clubs very attractive!

Not for everyone, though. There will be someone posting very shortly that clubs are too expensive for men, you actually have to talk to people there to get some possible invitation to join them, have to make effort etc. "

I always prefer clubs. No fab filters so you can just chat naturally and go with the flow. Much nicer than online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we only play in clubs and don't arrange meets, the build up and anticipation is all part of the excitement, if we attend a club and its quiet we don't care as the club was the target, if we planned a meet and it was a no-show then we would feel disappointed and that the work up led to an anti climax.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"In my experience meets tend to happen if the meet is arranged quite quickly. People who are here to chat tend not to meet. "

spot on .... the longer you chat there more your going to get let down

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By *eepingItKinkyCouple
over a year ago

reading


"In my experience meets tend to happen if the meet is arranged quite quickly. People who are here to chat tend not to meet.

spot on .... the longer you chat there more your going to get let down"

This!

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'd say 90% of meets I've arranged were no shows or ghosted me. I dont read anything into it - its difficult to move from online to real life.. here its a fantasy but meeting in person, that makes it too real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a few failed meets, the most recent, although some time ago now, I had already left to travel to the meet point, about half an hour's drive away, but then had a cancellation message with a pitiful excuse, I say pitiful because the next day I found out that he turned me down to go to a club! all the verifications he received gave it away so cut my losses and moved on "

That’s so disrespectful!

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By *iking67Man
over a year ago

BP Auckland

If clubs are so much better for everyone why have the site,? Let's just turn it into a club index....

We are not stupid we know clubs exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had many let downs tbh but its part of fab its life ! I've had go cancel last min due to life !

I normally like chatting. Social then play.. but I say that.. most of the people I play regularly with now are last min spontaneous meets ! Then again not all go to plan lol

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

When I had my single female profile, I would say about 50% of meets were no show. It's one of the reasons I gave up. X

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By *aughty VicarMan
over a year ago

Bamber Bridge, P R E S T O N, Lancashire

This secret lifestyle has to come second to our ‘real’ lives.

Stuff happens, we get thrown a curved ball and the last thing we need is unraveling Fab.

Patience is key.

Don’t expect ‘insta-meet’. It takes time for both parties to find a time-slot to dive into the rabbit-hole that is swinging.

You have to take it, or leave it.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk


"I've had a few failed meets, the most recent, although some time ago now, I had already left to travel to the meet point, about half an hour's drive away, but then had a cancellation message with a pitiful excuse, I say pitiful because the next day I found out that he turned me down to go to a club! all the verifications he received gave it away so cut my losses and moved on

That’s so disrespectful! "

Yeah he was "too tired" to meet me but went to a club and played with 2 singles fems and a mf couple so wasn't very pleased

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's really annoying, I've met people for socials, then arranged a meet, and they've not turned up, one even said he was on his way... No show! Frustrating...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people agree to meet in the hope it'll prompt you to send more pics, which is what they want.

Some people arrange meets with no intent of going through with it, for the fantasy.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I do prefer club meets but I don't mind meet ups as well but it depends on the distance though. If the person lives far away, can't exactly drop everything and go (not that I havent done that before). I say it just takes more planning really. I get sometimes life gets in the way and it's unavoidable but you plan ahead so things like that can be avoidable. But from what I read of people's excuses, yeah, those people gives us genuine folks that would go the extra mile a bad name really

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

Happened a few times to us now, chatting away...date arranged...profile gone! But there you go

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford


"It's really annoying, I've met people for socials, then arranged a meet, and they've not turned up, one even said he was on his way... No show! Frustrating..."
so disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A local guy messaged us several times and asked us to meet just to verify him.

We agreed to meet for a coffee social at a mutually convenient time.

He didn’t turn up and then blocked us.

People still ask why we only meet verified men now.

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"A local guy messaged us several times and asked us to meet just to verify him.

We agreed to meet for a coffee social at a mutually convenient time.

He didn’t turn up and then blocked us.

People still ask why we only meet verified men now.

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I really don't know what to say to that.. slapping my forehead is a close one. Thats just disrespectful really.. and a waste of your time too. I don't blame you both really

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s a funny one isn’t it. I mean if you’ve been talking and made plans then I don’t see why you wouldn’t turn up. I know things happen and life etc but a message to say won’t make it would be good. Ghosting etc isn’t good though. Most of my meets have been spontaneous lately so it’s been good but the odd one you plan never goes through

Glad I’ve not booked hotels etc haha

I seem to be doing well with couples at the moment so think I’m just going to stick with that for now. Single ladies must have too many options and I do get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think nerves get the best of people ive chatted for a while before ive got to the point of yep feel ok to meet and out of the 7 ive met only 3 were awful 2 good 1ok and one we have met a few times ( chatted since oct ) im not after ons tho after reg and to see how it goes so its slightly different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely think some fancy the fantasy more than the reality... Post nut & all that

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By *_EightPlus OP   Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"i think nerves get the best of people ive chatted for a while before ive got to the point of yep feel ok to meet and out of the 7 ive met only 3 were awful 2 good 1ok and one we have met a few times ( chatted since oct ) im not after ons tho after reg and to see how it goes so its slightly different

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Yeah I’m hoping to find a regular fwb. Would be good to have a connection with someone.

I’d rather a lot of great sex with one person rather than sex with a lot of people

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