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By *outhDownsAdventure OP   Man
over a year ago

Worthing

Hey, I am a young guy, clean, healthy, literate not unattractive. reasonably well hung. but can't get anywhere! sent out loads of messages (yes, I read the profiles first and make the messages personal)

What am I doing wrong!?? I just want some no strings fun from time to time but seems single guys are doomed to sending out messages and getting 'no thanks' or deleted! how can I get involved?? help please.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"Hey, I am a young guy, clean, healthy, literate not unattractive. reasonably well hung. but can't get anywhere! sent out loads of messages (yes, I read the profiles first and make the messages personal)

What am I doing wrong!?? I just want some no strings fun from time to time but seems single guys are doomed to sending out messages and getting 'no thanks' or deleted! how can I get involved?? help please."

Have patience and don't moan nothing free comes easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient and let the meet come to you. Sending endless messages really is a complete waste of you're time

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know

OP your not young your the same age as me and you have been on the site for a year.

Perhaps you could show a face pic as you say your attractive.

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By *outhDownsAdventure OP   Man
over a year ago

Worthing

I always send face pic's with private messages...

I've been on here for over a year but not been active for 9 months, just starting again. but after the attempt time went poorly I thought I'd ask for advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going "

You will get your meet soon sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The patient approach is definitely the way to go. You have to remember that there a lot more single guys on here than women or couples, so keep the faith and you'll get your meet sooner or later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps I should have said keep your pecker up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest its pretty easy to get a meet, look who,s in your area and looking for a meet, mail then directly

Also look out for posts for parties, and socials

If they dont work go to a club,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie "
not holding my breath

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath"

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE "

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered! "

I have had a problem getting meets hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun "

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing! "

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night "

If I told you I was 39 to fit in with your age preference would it be too disappointing if I was only 9 years older?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night "

If I told you I was 39 to fit in with your age preference would it be too disappointing if I was only 9 years older?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think we all have some problems getting meets at some point and sometimes being a single female and having too many offers can also become daunting as well and makes me back off as well, the grass is not always greener I can assure you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think we all have some problems getting meets at some point and sometimes being a single female and having too many offers can also become daunting as well and makes me back off as well, the grass is not always greener I can assure you "

Not really considered that angle as the OP was coming from a point of lack of choice not too much.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night

If I told you I was 39 to fit in with your age preference would it be too disappointing if I was only 9 years older? "

I went off an old photo they had posted and the person's word and to be honest when someone turns up looking like my grandfather what am I to do?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I think we all have some problems getting meets at some point and sometimes being a single female and having too many offers can also become daunting as well and makes me back off as well, the grass is not always greener I can assure you

Not really considered that angle as the OP was coming from a point of lack of choice not too much. "

That's what I mean, there are many different scenarios to consider, and being overwhelmed can be one of them....

Nothing scares me more than having too much attention (and no I am not blowing my own trumpet)

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By *ick_u_nudeMan
over a year ago

Cambridge

My advice to O.P.: Be *very* patient and willing to put up with one or more disappointments. It is worth it! I've had only one meet so far, but it won't ever be forgotten and hoping for more. Always looking for quality meets rather than quantity.

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"

My advice to O.P.: Be *very* patient and willing to put up with one or more disappointments. It is worth it! I've had only one meet so far, but it won't ever be forgotten and hoping for more. Always looking for quality meets rather than quantity.

"

Will you be seeing the same person again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night

If I told you I was 39 to fit in with your age preference would it be too disappointing if I was only 9 years older?

I went off an old photo they had posted and the person's word and to be honest when someone turns up looking like my grandfather what am I to do?"

Help them across the road?

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I've had no meets either but now just come here for a laugh and if anyone wants to meet me I will be here but just have fun go on chat room socialise with people it's hard but just keep going

You will get your meet soon sweetie not holding my breath

Come on POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE

Something tells me getting a meet isn't a problem you have encountered!

I have had a problem getting meets hun

I can only assume that has been your choice, as I would definitely meet you given the chance. You look amazing!

No hun it was a case of the person having amnesia and forgetting they had aged 15 years older over night

If I told you I was 39 to fit in with your age preference would it be too disappointing if I was only 9 years older?

I went off an old photo they had posted and the person's word and to be honest when someone turns up looking like my grandfather what am I to do?

Help them across the road? "

tee hee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really not hard - check locals and their updates and locals looking for a meet and message them - we are meeting a guy tonight who only joined fab yesterday , he is local , can accommodate and we love newbies !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always send face pic's with private messages...

I've been on here for over a year but not been active for 9 months, just starting again. but after the attempt time went poorly I thought I'd ask for advice.

"
maybe u think ur attractive but ur not

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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago

Manchester and that's all you need to know


"I always send face pic's with private messages...

I've been on here for over a year but not been active for 9 months, just starting again. but after the attempt time went poorly I thought I'd ask for advice.

maybe u think ur attractive but ur not"

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire


"It's really not hard - check locals and their updates and locals looking for a meet and message them - we are meeting a guy tonight who only joined fab yesterday , he is local , can accommodate and we love newbies !!!! "

I've found it quite difficult myself. I send polite mails with a face pic but don't get a reply.

Patience, Patience, Patience!

Maybe it's where I am and it being a bit of a swinging deadspot, who knows.

I'm happy to travel as well.

I think a lot of people are looking for a Brad Pitt lookalike (or the present popular figure) I think I just have to find some people who are genuine and after some fun with a like minded person.

Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It's really not hard - check locals and their updates and locals looking for a meet and message them - we are meeting a guy tonight who only joined fab yesterday , he is local , can accommodate and we love newbies !!!!

I've found it quite difficult myself. I send polite mails with a face pic but don't get a reply.

Patience, Patience, Patience!

Maybe it's where I am and it being a bit of a swinging deadspot, who knows.

I'm happy to travel as well.

I think a lot of people are looking for a Brad Pitt lookalike (or the present popular figure) I think I just have to find some people who are genuine and after some fun with a like minded person.

Happy swinging!"

As long as you appreciate that just because it is a swinging site doesn't guarantee you a meet, or more, it will, in the end, I am sure, pay dividends. Just look at it in the same way as you would meeting someone in a bar or club. Unless you've got movie star looks or have the luck of the devil, you will face more rejections than acceptances. As the saying goes, " All good things come to those who those who wait."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not alone - I'm sure 90% of the men on this site have had very few meets (if any). Keep trying to meet women in the real world and consider any fun you have on here as a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is some pretty awsome women on here! Keep trying matey! Dont take it too serious and personal.. Have bantor and fun!

WASP

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By *tehalifaxMan
over a year ago

halifax

Im a 26yr old male from halifax looking for fun with couples and single ladies in and around halifax please get in touch x

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