FabSwingers.com forum: Six Months On Fab And Not A Single Reply To A Message

By *alleyDave OP Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

So, six months on fab, and despite sending well thought out, respectful messages, I'm yet to receive a single reply. Yes, I know its a buyers market where couples and women are concerned, and yes I know they receive hundreds of messages from us dreaded single guys every day, but I would really value advice on my profile and any constructive criticism from couples and single females on where I am going wrong, or any advice on my profile.

I've looked at loads of male profiles on here, who have been a member for less time I have, and they have loads of meet verifications. Is it because I have a flabby dad, or does my profile need some attention.?

All criticism welcome.

Thanks

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Keep plugging away you get a reply soon

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By *yourselfMan
over a year ago

Heworth

Pretty standard really.

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By *poutsMan
over a year ago

Tain

Rookie numbers I've been here 3 yrs ???? but course I won't get a reply if I never msg anyone ??????

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

I don't know anything about your dad, but how would he feel about being called flabby?

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

You have a verification. How did you get that without a message

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

"You have a verification. How did you get that without a message"
good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel the need to state that 'Gym bods aren't natural'?

Your profile seems quite defensive about your body type. You have mentioned your Dad Bod on several occasions. If you're really not bothered then own it and genuinely don't worry what others think.

Otherwise, I'd possibly keep a couple of photos up but vary them if you can..

Good luck, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you feel the need to state that 'Gym bods aren't natural'?

Your profile seems quite defensive about your body type. You have mentioned your Dad Bod on several occasions. If you're really not bothered then own it and genuinely don't worry what others think.

Otherwise, I'd possibly keep a couple of photos up but vary them if you can..

Good luck, OP.

Own the shit outta my dad bod, how about some naked twister....

Op your working magic here, no replies to any msg, but you have a veri, that is some voodoo shit right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know anything about your dad, but how would he feel about being called flabby? "

First thing I thought

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By *eedsmale36Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"I don't know anything about your dad, but how would he feel about being called flabby? "

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not surprising in the slightest.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

It’s always been tough for single guys on Fabs.For what it’s worth I feel the best way for single guys is to attend socials and clubs be friendly and social leave verification for who you meet and hopefully they will leave a verification for you.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

The negativity towards people who look after their body is very unappealing. I'm not a gym bunny, none of my current partners are gym bunnies, but none of us have to put other people down to feel good about ourselves.

The pictures are fine but not very exciting.

If I had a message off you I'd glance at the profile and either send a no thanks or just ignore.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Keep plugging away you get a reply soon "

First sign of madness... Repeat the same thing and expecting a different outcome

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Although I can't answer your question OP consider the odds when sending messages as most, if not all people will look at your profile, which is honest. Some people won't fit your age range, some won't like a dad bod, some won't like bi, some won't live close enough as you can't travel, some won't match your interests etc. This means the pool of interested people gets even smaller so the right people will take time but would be worth waiting for.

As a side note, if single males think they are "dreaded" then why be here?

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"The negativity towards people who look after their body is very unappealing. I'm not a gym bunny, none of my current partners are gym bunnies, but none of us have to put other people down to feel good about ourselves.

The pictures are fine but not very exciting.

If I had a message off you I'd glance at the profile and either send a no thanks or just ignore."

This 100%. I'm definitely not a gym bod but I wouldn't "slate" any other body type in my profile as it gives the wrong impression.

I prefer photos where someone is smiling and as your pics are public why not put a happy smiley one up as your profile pic?

A few amendments and keep going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're banging on about your body and gym bodies far too much. It takes up most of your profile text

Your photos are all the same.

Take your t-shirt off. Show off the body that you're so proud of.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You’re very defensive about your dad bod, and think that gif some reason a beer belly is natural but a gym body isn’t? It’s not how ‘god’ made you, it was you who decided to pour the beer down your neck and not exercise enough, not ‘god’.

I’ve not god a gym body either but I take care of myself, and don’t have a beer belly. The point is you can choose what you do with your body, and it’s the way it is because you choose to have it that way, just as all the gym body folk choose to have their body.

You come across as really not very comfortable in your skin I’m afraid, maybe you need to work on that if you want some replies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the messages you're sending aswell..."spread 'em , ... not going to work, neither will boring or copy and paste messages, I read their profile and majority of the time you can pick something out as a conversation starter

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't get a lot of messages but I look at a profile before I even open a message from someone new. If the profile doesn't appeal I either say no thanks or ignore depending on the message.

Your profile is full of negatively and knocking other body types would make it an immediate no reply for me.

You use your body type as an excuse why you don't get meets but it's probably more your negative attitude is the issue and that shows in your profile.

Be proud of the body you have,plenty of women aren't into gym bods so using that as an excuse is a line people tell themselves when they have no luck on here. The same as penis size,age and a plethora of other reasons that people point at others rather than look inward. And yes it's a hell of a lot harder for men on here to get meets and I'm sure it is discouraging but at the same time plenty of men have luck on here. Usually the ones who don't constantly moan about how tough it is.

You say you have not had one reply on here and yet you have a veri so I don't know how that is possible.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Hi OP, most of what I came here to say has been covered. And, of course, I’m not your target audience! But:

Wide array of pictures but by the time I get to the 5th one it all feels a bit samey. And smile!! Faces light up when people smile - think of who you’d like to be around. You are saying to the world - this is what I’m like.

Lose the negativity. Your profile reads a bit ‘sad sack’. Again, you are advertising yourself to the world. Be fun, interesting, appealing and positive.

You come on the forums a lot to post negative comments. People remember this (I did) and will avoid you. Turn that around and have a laugh/get involved. It won’t make couples jump into bed with you, but you’ll be noticed for the right reasons.

Keep in mind that you are after something pretty specific. You are bi, which isn’t for everyone. You want a fully bi couple, within a certain age range, no doubt within a certain radius (even if you are prepared to travel, most have a reasonable radius to protect their time). This has made your pool of potential suitors smaller than average. Not a criticism in any way, just to highlight it.

Finally, you’re a single guy on fab! Depending on so many factors you can’t control like age, location, other preferences and desires, you are always fighting to get noticed. I know you’ve been here six months, but in fab terms that’s infancy.

Be patient, be positive, be you. It will happen

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I never got a single reply still don’t the best way is to just go to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have a verification. How did you get that without a message"

Hahaha. Op, you’ve been rumbled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can count on one hand how many times I’ve been replied to off people who are t in the forums. I do t quite know what that says, but I stopped sending 1st messages now. Save my energy for those who do want to talk or meet up.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

I like your profile, though maybe you shouldn't be so self-deprecating. Why not tell the reader more about your positive and strong points, and what you're looking for?

Stay humble, but at the same time, be honest and sell your strong points! Good luck.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"I can count on one hand how many times I’ve been replied to off people who are t in the forums. I do t quite know what that says, but I stopped sending 1st messages now. Save my energy for those who do want to talk or meet up.

Ditto. Dont keep sending to randoms it's a soul destroying passtime. The last 6 months should have given you all the experience you need to know. Change something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto. Dont keep sending to randoms it's a soul destroying passtime. The last 6 months should have given you all the experience you need to know. Change something. "

Absolutely. It’s a different ball game out of the forums!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

OP, I finally got round to reading your profile and can say that we wouldn't have replied to a message from you. The frequent mentions of your self-perceived less than perfect body are extremely off-putting.

Then I looked at your photos and it carries on!

And, for future reference, they hardly qualify as man boobs. Trust me, I could fucking feed you with mine!

I would suggest that your photos, entire profile and (apparently) your general attitude all require a bit of a rethink if you're hoping for more success on here.

- Jack

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Why not try going to a club,

even if you don't find what you're looking for at first

it gets you known amongst fellow swingers in your area

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

God didn't make you overweight or give you a beer belly, that was your choice. I am overweight, I call myself fat and it is down to me, I don't blame others.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Some interesting wresting responses. Wonder how similar they'd be if it were a bbw starting the thread.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"Some interesting wresting responses. Wonder how similar they'd be if it were a bbw starting the thread. "

I’m not entirely sure that matters. Pretty much everyone above has been helpful and constructive, suggesting a more uplifting approach. I don’t think gender or actual weight has come into it.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Some interesting wresting responses. Wonder how similar they'd be if it were a bbw starting the thread. "

My response would be exactly the same I don't change my replies on here based on gender.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

No idea darling your pics and profile look OK. Maybe try a few local socials.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

No idea darling your pics and profile look OK. Maybe try a few local socials. "

What this lady said - group socials are a blast.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

OP your body not even that bad tbh.

Still there's plenty time between now & the summer to get it sorted. Start getting on it ASAP if it's causing anxiety for you.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"Some interesting wresting responses. Wonder how similar they'd be if it were a bbw starting the thread. "

If half their profile was slating people who look after themselves my comments would be the same.

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