FabSwingers.com forum: Instant Turn offs?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are hypocrites.

They have no profile pic but will only chat message back if a face photo has been sent.

Their profile description is just a big list of dislikes.

The ones that have only boobs, dicks and pussy in public album but don’t expect dick pics sent to them.

The ones who message back with two words or ask a question in reply to a question.

Women who don’t keep up with basic hygiene and smell.

Women who are willing to sleep for a 420 session.

People who I meet at clubs and are not on fab to give me a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swearing unnecessarily and people who come across as angry just from their profile/bio lol.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Messaging me first time when they obviously haven't read my profile.

So by extension, the 'Hey' or 'Meet now?' messages.

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By *y naughty hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

Guys sending dick pics as an opening message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The shortening of words to ‘txt’ talk along with the constant use of ‘hun/babe/darling’.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The shortening of words to ‘txt’ talk along with the constant use of ‘hun/babe/darling’.

This!!

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Instant turn off in messages is when they call me a lady.

Also text talk.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

blank profiles, fake profiles, no photos, too many genital close ups,

messages with little content like FAF, WUU2, Hi, HRU? etc

when it's obvious they haven't read the profile and ask for single meets or can I pretend to be mum/sis/auntie

men who want to cross dress to meet us

No thanks.

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
over a year ago

south coast IOW

"Guys sending dick pics as an opening message. "

This is an instant turn off for me too. I also hate any profile that has just dick pics so you can’t see any body shape or anything about the person. To me that is saying ‘hi I’m nothing but a dick’. Not a great way to introduce yourself.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Genital piercings

Dick cages or whatever they're called

Close ups of dribbling cocks or gaping/damaged arseholes

Hairy beer guts

Manky Y-fronts

The "bed wank" pic

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By *ommyTighMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Request for face pic in first message - despite them having none

Big lists of do’s n don’ts

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

People who have there location name as “near you” or “sexland”

Hi or what you doing messages

Dick pics (especially with a toilet in the background)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pics

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Dick pics

Vag pics

Arsehole pics

Rudeness

Arrogance

Poor hygiene

Suit and shoes with no socks

Random household objects/veg inserted pics.

Mrs

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Seeing "kissing is a must!" on profiles or words to that effect. It's someone basically trying to impose their kink onto you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dick pics

Vag pics

Arsehole pics

Rudeness

Arrogance

Poor hygiene

Suit and shoes with no socks

Random household objects/veg inserted pics.

Mrs "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match "

bad hygiene /catfish /not looking like pics/porn star moves - meets

profile is wyut dick picks - pics of them with someone copy and pasted messages,same pics sent loads times, no face pics pics with toilet in background

i met a older man who looked nothing like his pics so coped with a coffee ( we had chatted on phone and got on ) but he questioned me on my hair colour and pierced nose

he also said kinkiest thing he had done to him was a bj in the bath

lots of timewasters on here it kind of ruins it for the good ones

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By *heerFlirtMan
over a year ago

Quite near Bath usually

Bad decor or dirty/untidy rooms in the background of photos

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Loo picture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The shortening of words to ‘txt’ talk along with the constant use of ‘hun/babe/darling’.

This!!"

U ok hun?

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match "
socks and feet, saggy anything, untidy rooms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women in flat shoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The arrogance of a conspiracy theorist!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"Seeing "kissing is a must!" on profiles or words to that effect. It's someone basically trying to impose their kink onto you."

Or it’s someone just stating their preference so people can choose if the person is compatible or not with that type of play

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

Self-pity/self-victimizing/self-hate and blame shifting

We all have insecurities and we think more people should be open to sharing their feelings but it makes for terrible pillow talk

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Anything gaping

Also using the 'respond in private' option on a forum post to hit on you / send dick pics.

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

People simply say

“I’m in”

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Better shut the fucking door quietly on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 17/01/23 09:18:12]

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West

Those huge, detailed fantasty stories, that go into toe curling detail.

They're sent as the first message, most likely sent to every woman who is online at the same time as the sender.

They make me heave.

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"Guys sending dick pics as an opening message.

Maybe not. But an honest appraisal of the sitch in many cases!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Anyone verified by or associated with certain individuals.

Anyone constantly whining about drama that they themselves have created.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match "

A huge amount of usernames, it doesn't matter how good looking you are or how magnetic your personality, you're unlikely to be able to make up for having the username 'luvacumdump' or 'DominatorXXX69'.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Also, people whining about never being able to get meets, or how bad their life is. Pity fucks are not hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men offering sensual massages

Men saying 'meet now?'

Guys having sex still in their socks

Toilet pics

Messy bedroom pics

Bundle of messy pubes

Needy men, whingers

Genital piercings

Bad breath

Covers the most common ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men offering sensual massages

Men saying 'meet now?'

Guys having sex still in their socks

Toilet pics

Messy bedroom pics

Bundle of messy pubes

Needy men, whingers

Genital piercings

Bad breath

Covers the most common ones

If this is common , Gosh don’t wanna know where you live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men offering sensual massages

Men saying 'meet now?'

Guys having sex still in their socks

Toilet pics

Messy bedroom pics

Bundle of messy pubes

Needy men, whingers

Genital piercings

Bad breath

Covers the most common ones

If this is common , Gosh don’t wanna know where you live."

I'm not taking about my husband

I can't believe anyone on fab hasn't come across at least 5 of the above. Often in the same profile

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
over a year ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Seeing "kissing is a must!" on profiles or words to that effect. It's someone basically trying to impose their kink onto you.

Or it’s someone just stating their preference so people can choose if the person is compatible or not with that type of play "

I hear that, but I feel like certain actions shouldn't be imposed as a pre-condition of meeting. I can't make up my mind if I want to kiss someone or not until I'm face to face with them & assessed the situation. To me it's like someone saying "eating my ass is a must"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Use of the word “woke”.

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By *issBlackedCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"mmmmmmmmmmm"

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By *ab FunstersCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"The shortening of words to ‘txt’ talk along with the constant use of ‘hun/babe/darling’.

This!!

U ok hun?

As above...it really grinds my gears..especially hun...grrr

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

""mmmmmmmmmmm""

Oh 100% this.

I don't think I've ever read it without instantly hitting the delete message button.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match "

Profile - literacy that look like it was written by a five-year old; racial/regional discrimination.

Message - as above for literacy.

Meet (home) - kids at home, even if they're sleeping in their bedrooms

Meet (anywhere else) - d*unkenness, arrogance, conspiracy theorists/anti-woke brigade.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who eats with the mouth open, or has not had a wash

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bad decor or dirty/untidy rooms in the background of photos

Absolutely. Not the 'hotel room, clothes everywhere' untidy.

But the rooms at home where tidiness/cleanliness obviously isnt a priority.

Unhoovered carperts, lots of crumpled clothes on the floor.

And some people just look....well...dirty/unhygenic.

Also, reading certain peoples attitudes/comments/beliefs in the Forums.

As quite a few people say, "this thread is a great filter".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judgemental people. Instantly think the can read you or know you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello all,

Blue Mondays almost done but to keep myself entertained I'm intrigued - what's an instant turn off on here, be it on a profile, in a message or on a meet?

Bonus for funny stories to match "

Filthy houses on pics! Sky remotes next to cocks, a million cock pics on profile.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Men offering sensual massages

Men saying 'meet now?'

Guys having sex still in their socks

Toilet pics

Messy bedroom pics

Bundle of messy pubes

Needy men, whingers

Genital piercings

Bad breath

Covers the most common ones

Absolutely the ‘sensual massage’ thing, why are so many men obsessed with wanting to give everyone a massage?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Absolutely the ‘sensual massage’ thing, why are so many men obsessed with wanting to give everyone a massage?"

Probably living in the hope that "one thing will lead to another".

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Hidden profiles I give no credence to.

“Club meets only”……

Those who message “Hi x” then never speak again.

Those who reply with “lol x”

“Black cock only” instant block.

“VWE only/must be at least 8 inches” etc, instant block.

“Quality not quantity” then has 4 meets per week average in their veris…..

“Not meeting” self explanatory…..

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Liars and big-headed bastards who would have you believe that they're so good, that their whole life revolves around swinging 24/7.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being pushy.

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By *arehamMan
over a year ago

handforth

Fisting

Open photos of Fanny’s and arse holes

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Graphic pics, action shots on male profiles, profile that have no pictures or bio, lots of chick shots, tx speak

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By *r.WaxMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Cuming on someone’s face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men offering sensual massages

Men saying 'meet now?'

Guys having sex still in their socks

Toilet pics

Messy bedroom pics

Bundle of messy pubes

Needy men, whingers

Genital piercings

Bad breath

Covers the most common ones

Absolutely the ‘sensual massage’ thing, why are so many men obsessed with wanting to give everyone a massage?"

Right?!

They're just asking would you like a creepy massage? Umm no I'm fine thanks. If I wanted a massage I'd go to a nice spa. If I wanted a creep I'd go to a bad bar.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

Graphic pictures. Urgh. It turns something beautiful and sensual into a circus side show. I don’t want to see your foof being ‘ruined’.

What’s a million times worse is when said gaping foof is being stimulated by the mankiest dirty fingernails in history. *shudders*

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Bury

Bad background in the picture

Dog bowls

Clothing on radiator

Cups on table

Things on the floor

Men in socks fucking women

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Cleanliness, both personal and accommodation.

Asking for face pic with no pics of their own available

Those who chat about meeting but stop chatting when asked to propose a time and place.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Absolutely the ‘sensual massage’ thing, why are so many men obsessed with wanting to give everyone a massage?

Right?!

They're just asking would you like a creepy massage? Umm no I'm fine thanks. If I wanted a massage I'd go to a nice spa. If I wanted a creep I'd go to a bad bar. "

My guess it's just a creepy way for sad losers to see a woman naked (probably the only hope for them to do so), and hope that their "wandering hands" will persuade them that they want something more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely the ‘sensual massage’ thing, why are so many men obsessed with wanting to give everyone a massage?

Right?!

They're just asking would you like a creepy massage? Umm no I'm fine thanks. If I wanted a massage I'd go to a nice spa. If I wanted a creep I'd go to a bad bar.

My guess it's just a creepy way for sad losers to see a woman naked (probably the only hope for them to do so), and hope that their "wandering hands" will persuade them that they want something more."

Yeh but it's weird because we're on a swinging site, I'd understand if they were randomly asking in the supermarket. But if we arrange to meet someone from here there's already a good chance we're going to get naked together!

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Yeh but it's weird because we're on a swinging site, I'd understand if they were randomly asking in the supermarket. But if we arrange to meet someone from here there's already a good chance we're going to get naked together!"

Exactly this, the site is about sex, the ultimate point to most meets is sex. If we’re not going to fuck you before a massage the we’re not going to fuck you after a massage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly this, the site is about sex, the ultimate point to most meets is sex. If we’re not going to fuck you before a massage the we’re not going to fuck you after a massage."

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By *heBlowinsCouple
over a year ago

West Cork

Can't we have both?? Love sex but a free massage sounds fantastic

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By *eregrinosCouple
over a year ago

chorley

Apathy.

Arrogance.

Hubris.

Poor hygiene.

Point blank genitalia shots.

Text speak lol

Pour speling.

A lack of decorum.

The list is quite long actually but those mentioned are probably at the top.

And we wonder why we don't meet many people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A messy background in a pic lol

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

Fake profiles haha

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Poorly spelled, lewd questions with ‘lol’ added at the end.

‘Fancy a fuk lol’

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By *illie fitMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Absolutely no hope for me then

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