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"Ahh, the old "I can't come from a bj" ploy. Do people still fall for this? LMAO" Please do explain how it is a ploy. | |||
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"No I can't say it is because the aim of a BJ ain't always to completion but a part of lots of foreplay. But if that has been the aim then I wouldn't know because I've never not managed it even with the guys who claimed they couldn't!!!" Haha, I know exactly where you're coming from. I've had girls who've said exactly the same; 'I've never, not been able to make a guy come, from a blowjob'. Then, they say; 'until I met you, that is!' ![]() | |||
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"So, following on from a previous thread... I'm interested to know, is it disappointing, or a let down in some way to you, if a guy is unable to come from a blowjob? " I think most guys are the same, i need Kim or whoever to wank me hard while sucking up near the end. If a lady was just to suck i would be there all night lol! John | |||
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"Ahh, the old "I can't come from a bj" ploy. Do people still fall for this? LMAO" No ploy, whatsoever. I've no issue at all, with admitting I've never come from a blowjob, alone. | |||
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"So, following on from a previous thread... I'm interested to know, is it disappointing, or a let down in some way to you, if a guy is unable to come from a blowjob? I think most guys are the same, i need Kim or whoever to wank me hard while sucking up near the end. If a lady was just to suck i would be there all night lol! John" 'All night' - yeah, been there many a time! They end up getting bored with lock-jaw! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I have no problem cummin from a bj. It just depends on how good she is and if I can feel teeth. That puts me off." 'How good she is' ????? ....... I think more men would get more pleasure if they actually told the lady what they enjoy, so many techniques and so many likes and dislikes. .....oh and by the way, my man loves the feel of my teeth running along his hardness, so - each to their own i guess. | |||
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"Likewise, I've never reached orgasm from a blowjob, even the ones I've particularly enjoyed. For methough, great oral isn't about climaxing, but rather getting you relaxed and in the mood for the sex itself." Very true, so many get hung up on the end product that they forget about the fantastic journey getting there ( was trying to think of the nicest way to put it lol ) | |||
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"Likewise, I've never reached orgasm from a blowjob, even the ones I've particularly enjoyed. For methough, great oral isn't about climaxing, but rather getting you relaxed and in the mood for the sex itself." I do agree, there, but I would like to come every now and again from it. Just once, would be lovely. ![]() | |||
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"I have no problem cummin from a bj. It just depends on how good she is and if I can feel teeth. That puts me off. 'How good she is' ????? ....... I think more men would get more pleasure if they actually told the lady what they enjoy, so many techniques and so many likes and dislikes. .....oh and by the way, my man loves the feel of my teeth running along his hardness, so - each to their own i guess. " Yeah. I've had some dire attempts at it. Just bobbing your head up and down and not using the tongue is criminal. As is going extremely fast like you want it over and done with. Teeth for me is turn off. | |||
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"A few women i've been with have been a bit upset as a result, which is why i'm always upfront about not being able to cum from one, so they don't think it is an issue with their "skill" or technique. I remember putting up a thread a few months ago and was surprised at how many guys were in the same boat as me." Interesting you said "a few women I've been with have been a bit upset, as a result'.... | |||
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"Likewise, I've never reached orgasm from a blowjob, even the ones I've particularly enjoyed. For methough, great oral isn't about climaxing, but rather getting you relaxed and in the mood for the sex itself. Very true, so many get hung up on the end product that they forget about the fantastic journey getting there ( was trying to think of the nicest way to put it lol ) " Of course, the feeling of an orgasm is amazing, especially if you're penetrating a woman at the time, but thats just the icing on the cake - the real joy of the experience should be the kissing, touching and rhythmical fucking of the sex itself. | |||
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"I feel I'm missing out. ![]() I see it as part of the same oral/ gushing / squirting / vaginal orgasm scenario - some people do, some people dont. But in my experience the more you make an issue of it the less likely it is to happen. But when you stop making an issue of it, somethimes it pops up when you least expect it.... ![]() | |||
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"I feel I'm missing out. ![]() ![]() I knew that would come up (no pun intended). I accepted many years ago that I was 'different' in this respect. Just occasionally get reminded when I log onto Fab and people are talking about blowjobs, ha ha. I have come very close on one occasion. Even though I didn't 'blow', her technique was just, fucking amazing. | |||
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"Sometimes a guy not coming is due to them not being used to not having to 'do something' whilst they're being pleasured. If someone comes normally during penetration then the link is between physical exertion and orgasm in that case. Perhaps those who experience this could try tensing and relaxing musculature in the legs and ab areas to see if that helps whilst someone pleasures you. With practice the habit can be overcome and become secondary (or better still completely superflous) to pleasure making it a recreational orgasm rather than one that requires effort. The other potential area for problems is that the man receiving oral cannot mentally map the feelings he experiences whilst being pleasured to his own bodily perception of sensation. This is purely a case of being un-conditioned and will improve with time and experience. It's important that the orgasm received be pleasurable for it to re-inforce the experience. Those who have discussed unwanted sensations that make their experience less-than-pleasurable need an accommodating oraliste so that they can fully explore what is for them, rather than it associate as unpleasant and the orgasm be the result of frantic and painful stimulation, which then reinforces subconsciously as a bittersweet experience - you can't positively associate or reinforce positively with negatives ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Sometimes a guy not coming is due to them not being used to not having to 'do something' whilst they're being pleasured. If someone comes normally during penetration then the link is between physical exertion and orgasm in that case. Perhaps those who experience this could try tensing and relaxing musculature in the legs and ab areas to see if that helps whilst someone pleasures you. With practice the habit can be overcome and become secondary (or better still completely superflous) to pleasure making it a recreational orgasm rather than one that requires effort. The other potential area for problems is that the man receiving oral cannot mentally map the feelings he experiences whilst being pleasured to his own bodily perception of sensation. This is purely a case of being un-conditioned and will improve with time and experience. It's important that the orgasm received be pleasurable for it to re-inforce the experience. Those who have discussed unwanted sensations that make their experience less-than-pleasurable need an accommodating oraliste so that they can fully explore what is for them, rather than it associate as unpleasant and the orgasm be the result of frantic and painful stimulation, which then reinforces subconsciously as a bittersweet experience - you can't positively associate or reinforce positively with negatives ![]() ![]() Are you a sex therapist? ![]() | |||
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"Don't worry about it, it's art of the foreplay and everyone's different. I could never cum from a bj until I met this one woman who was just born to suck cock and was very perseverant, then I came in her mouth every time. You just haven't met the right bj queen." I have met the best BJ queens in the UK & they still needed to use their hand as well near the end. Guys 18-30 cum a lot quicker than older guys so we use these in bukkake films etc as its easier, 30+ upwards you get better fucking scenes as these guys last longer so age also comes into this. | |||
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" 3. is it safe to cum e.g. does this lady like cum in mouth or facials. " Feeling able or it being 'okay' to come is very important. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"So, following on from a previous thread... I'm interested to know, is it disappointing, or a let down in some way to you, if a guy is unable to come from a blowjob? " no why would i want a guy to cum just from a blow job? i suck his cock, he cums and bugger off, dont sound like a great meet to me lol | |||
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"Ahh, the old "I can't come from a bj" ploy. Do people still fall for this? LMAO" ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've had a few bj's off men and women and I've never come from it either ![]() Bet you have no problem keeping hard though,you must spend a fortune on viagra ![]() | |||
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"It doesn't bother me at all if guys don't cum from a BJ. I don't feel the need to perform like its some sort of competition. My OH can only cum from a BJ if it is very fast and doesn't let up rhythm. I can't do it for long enough because it makes my jaw ache. I prefer it more sensual than the fast headbobbing that would make him cum. The way I look at it during swinging is that if another woman can help me out with the fast strokes so I don't get jawache then all well and good ![]() ![]() Well said! | |||
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"have to say, never had one that could not!!" How do you think you'd feel, if you had one that couldn't? | |||
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"have to say, never had one that could not!! How do you think you'd feel, if you had one that couldn't?" lay down and surrender ![]() | |||
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"have to say, never had one that could not!! How do you think you'd feel, if you had one that couldn't? lay down and surrender ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I've met a few guys in my time and everyone of them have cum ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() I wonder if men really are better at BJs than women. I think they probably are, stronger jaws etc ![]() | |||
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"Ahh, the old "I can't come from a bj" ploy. Do people still fall for this? LMAO" Lol lol lol | |||
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"I've met a few guys in my time and everyone of them have cum ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Its all to do with technique! Perhaps we could have a competition! ![]() | |||
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"Very very rare for me to cum from a bj alone, so when it does happen its a bit of a surprise and feels bloody fantastic! " ![]() ![]() | |||
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"have to say, never had one that could not!! How do you think you'd feel, if you had one that couldn't?" I'd never, ever met a man who didn't cum from a blowjob until recently. It was a situation where we couldn't go any further than oral, so I was happy to just go down on him. After a good half hour of me sucking him off, wanking, using my tongue to the best of my ability, there was still no spunk. Not sure whether it was the situation that he was uneasy about (in the car in a semi-private place) or if he was a man who just doesn't cum from oral, but it did leave me feeling somewhat.....inadequate! | |||
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"So, following on from a previous thread... I'm interested to know, is it disappointing, or a let down in some way to you, if a guy is unable to come from a blowjob? " Strange as I have yet to find a guy who doesn't. I guess it technique. | |||
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"So, following on from a previous thread... I'm interested to know, is it disappointing, or a let down in some way to you, if a guy is unable to come from a blowjob? " I give you a little tip that might help you cum from a bj...... Get your lady friend to hold a vibrator on your balls wile giving oral and get her to wank you off wile sucking.... Also relax and dont be scared to tel her how you like it | |||
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"I am with your man, i love to feel teeth on my erect cock." I cant think of anything worse! It hurts! Iv told a couple girls off for that! Would rather keep it in my pants! | |||
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"I am with your man, i love to feel teeth on my erect cock. I cant think of anything worse! It hurts! Iv told a couple girls off for that! Would rather keep it in my pants! " Why would anyone want teeth on their cock, I hate that too! | |||
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"I am with your man, i love to feel teeth on my erect cock. I cant think of anything worse! It hurts! Iv told a couple girls off for that! Would rather keep it in my pants! Why would anyone want teeth on their cock, I hate that too!" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() Been there. Done that. Either of two things end up happening - the gentleman sausage desensitizes or the girl gets lock-jaw! ![]() | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() Think maybe that's what the posts are looking for 3rd person lol , it's a bit like saying can't cum from sex, its either psychological or just trying to punt themselves out there, xxx ![]() | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() ![]() Very true. And i'm usually bored well before that point anyway. | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() i wouldnt Im not one for a challange, if he cant come from a blow job so be it, im not kneeling there for 30 mins plus to try and do something ive already been told wont happen, what a waste of time when you could be doing something he does like | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() ![]() im the same i very rarely cum to be honest and i find nothing more boring than a guy whos determinded to make me cum when its just not happening Some people are just more sexually compatable than others, if your with someone who you connect with sexually makiing someone cum shouldnt be hard work, i can tell within a couple of minuits of a guy giving me oral if he will make me cum and if i know he wont i see no point him being down there for me to lay there faking im enjoying it and im sure men are the same, there for i would rather a guy tell me im not doing it for him than lay there letting me carry on | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() ![]() Me too. The 'feel' has long since gone, by then. I do envy guys that can shoot after minimal stimulation. I'm starting to think I've less nerve endings in the head of my penis, or something?? lol ![]() ![]() | |||
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"If i guy told me he couldnt i would persevere until he did! ![]() ![]() Trouble is, NO girl can get me off from a blowjob! lol | |||
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