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By *rogal OP   Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Hey, we were recently having a social with another couple and having a great laugh and could feel there was a chemistry and attraction there.

However, both couples found it difficult to naturally move the social into play (We have since arranged a second meet).

We were thinking, any hints and tips on how to transition from two couples having a fun night to two couples having a very fun night

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as moving to sex when you are dating. Just suggestiveness, maybe some "innocent" touching, going in for a kiss, that kinda stuff.

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth


"Same as moving to sex when you are dating. Just suggestiveness, maybe some "innocent" touching, going in for a kiss, that kinda stuff. "

I was so nervous on my first meet, we was chatting away when his wife went to the bathroom he said go on then kiss her, so I met her on the way back kissed her and went from there.... Yes its that initial step

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same as moving to sex when you are dating. Just suggestiveness, maybe some "innocent" touching, going in for a kiss, that kinda stuff.

I was so nervous on my first meet, we was chatting away when his wife went to the bathroom he said go on then kiss her, so I met her on the way back kissed her and went from there.... Yes its that initial step"

I met with a cuckoldress for a social coffee once. Her other half was sat at the table next to us. As we left ,she was saying she liked assertive men. I said "A bit like this?" l, pushed her against the wall outside and kissed her deeply right in front of her cuck. She really liked that, and was texting me after but then her cuck started messaging and their stories didnt line up and alarm bells rang.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

It depends on the situation, for us. If it's in a club then it's easier and usually a case of 'we're going to go see what's happening in the playrooms if you fancied joining us?'. We find it's open ended and leaves them room to say no, just go and watch or to pick a bed with you.

If it's in Costa then obviously there's some extra hurdles You can either end things there and treat it as a social before following it up online a little later. Say how you really enjoyed their company and felt the spark. Then look to arrange a play date.

If the social is near your house / hotel room / local club then then you have the easier option of suggesting you move things 'somewhere a little more relaxed'. Again, it's open ended and leaves them the option of bailing for some reason.

One good tip we found is to give the other party some time alone to talk about you. Both nip to the loo or the bar so they can do the 'so what do we want to do' chat without being put on the spot when you ask.

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By *rogal OP   Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"It depends on the situation, for us. If it's in a club then it's easier and usually a case of 'we're going to go see what's happening in the playrooms if you fancied joining us?'. We find it's open ended and leaves them room to say no, just go and watch or to pick a bed with you.

If it's in Costa then obviously there's some extra hurdles You can either end things there and treat it as a social before following it up online a little later. Say how you really enjoyed their company and felt the spark. Then look to arrange a play date.

If the social is near your house / hotel room / local club then then you have the easier option of suggesting you move things 'somewhere a little more relaxed'. Again, it's open ended and leaves them the option of bailing for some reason.

One good tip we found is to give the other party some time alone to talk about you. Both nip to the loo or the bar so they can do the 'so what do we want to do' chat without being put on the spot when you ask. "

Thanks! This is some great advice. I think the issue we had was we never had a chance as a couple to discuss how we were feeling until after we left their house so neither of us wanted to make the leap

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


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Thanks! This is some great advice. I think the issue we had was we never had a chance as a couple to discuss how we were feeling until after we left their house so neither of us wanted to make the leap "

Having a team-talk is really important isn't it With us, we've talked through so many scenarios and the kinds of people we like and our put-offs, we generally know what the other is thinking. We've also mastered the art of having a full conversation purely through a quick look

If you do get the chance for a team-talk, be bluntly honest with each other. We have a rule where it's either yes or no. No 'I don't mind' or 'I will if you want to'. That way you're confident in where your partners head is at. Both of us need to be 'hard yes' otherwise we make our excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Thanks! This is some great advice. I think the issue we had was we never had a chance as a couple to discuss how we were feeling until after we left their house so neither of us wanted to make the leap

Having a team-talk is really important isn't it With us, we've talked through so many scenarios and the kinds of people we like and our put-offs, we generally know what the other is thinking. We've also mastered the art of having a full conversation purely through a quick look

If you do get the chance for a team-talk, be bluntly honest with each other. We have a rule where it's either yes or no. No 'I don't mind' or 'I will if you want to'. That way you're confident in where your partners head is at. Both of us need to be 'hard yes' otherwise we make our excuses "

Yeh making space to have a quick catch up helps but can sometimes be hard so we sometimes have a sign for each other.

Took a lot of misunderstandings to get there though and they still happen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on the situation, for us. If it's in a club then it's easier and usually a case of 'we're going to go see what's happening in the playrooms if you fancied joining us?'. We find it's open ended and leaves them room to say no, just go and watch or to pick a bed with you.

If it's in Costa then obviously there's some extra hurdles You can either end things there and treat it as a social before following it up online a little later. Say how you really enjoyed their company and felt the spark. Then look to arrange a play date.

If the social is near your house / hotel room / local club then then you have the easier option of suggesting you move things 'somewhere a little more relaxed'. Again, it's open ended and leaves them the option of bailing for some reason.

**One good tip we found is to give the other party some time alone to talk about you. Both nip to the loo or the bar so they can do the 'so what do we want to do' chat without being put on the spot when you ask. ** "

** This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like the idea of going with the flow, but if everyone is anxious/awkward it can be a blocker.

Maybe just being open, and inviting to the bed etc is the best way

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