FabSwingers.com forum: Single males

By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

My advice to all single males would be stop posting & moaning or complaining about not recieveing messages or getting ignored when you send a message. That's the nature of fab. Some people like you and some don't. It's the same in real life. I'm sure you like certain women or have a 'type'. Not everyone is going to like you nor are you going to like everyone. Its just human nature.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

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By *ansteelMan
over a year ago

Durham

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Just to confirm I’m getting this right. Your hoping that others will post below best ways to navigate through fab and how they managed to get verifications?

Although your post is intended to advise just that. You even took it upon yourself to start this post when nobody had sought your advice personally.

A very strange post from a self proclaimed expert lol

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

It's not always as simple as going to a club.

That's fine if there are clubs in your area but there are no clubs in Ireland at all where you can turn up uninvited.

The few that do exist only open once a month or so for event nights and are by invitation only so that option doesn't exist here.

In regard to advising everyone to stop moaning about their experiences, those who do this have little or no interest in being advised so it will fall on deaf ears.

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Just to confirm I’m getting this right. Your hoping that others will post below best ways to navigate through fab and how they managed to get verifications?

Although your post is intended to advise just that. You even took it upon yourself to start this post when nobody had sought your advice personally.

A very strange post from a self proclaimed expert lol"

I'm not an expert at all. Still very new to swinging, I Just wanted to try and help some males get information and advice on how to get verifications and start there fabbing experience.

Some have been on here for a long time and write posts about not getting any luck.

If other males write how they started there fabbing experience and how they got verifications it could help them.

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"It's not always as simple as going to a club.

That's fine if there are clubs in your area but there are no clubs in Ireland at all where you can turn up uninvited.

The few that do exist only open once a month or so for event nights and are by invitation only so that option doesn't exist here.

In regard to advising everyone to stop moaning about their experiences, those who do this have little or no interest in being advised so it will fall on deaf ears. "

Yeah I get its hard if you live in a place not near any clubs.

Maybe look for a meet or organise your own one?

I'm not an expert, just want others to know you can do it if you try. Which leads me to your next part about falling on deaf ears.

People who want to get verifications will at least try and do something about it and not flood people's inboxes and then write a post complaining about it. But maybe if they had a nugde in the right direction, or advice from males who have been in their shoes. It might help?

Is this not a community of like minded people ? We should try and help each other out, if and when we can. No?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"It's not always as simple as going to a club.

That's fine if there are clubs in your area but there are no clubs in Ireland at all where you can turn up uninvited.

The few that do exist only open once a month or so for event nights and are by invitation only so that option doesn't exist here.

In regard to advising everyone to stop moaning about their experiences, those who do this have little or no interest in being advised so it will fall on deaf ears.

Yeah I get its hard if you live in a place not near any clubs.

Maybe look for a meet or organise your own one?

I'm not an expert, just want others to know you can do it if you try. Which leads me to your next part about falling on deaf ears.

Is this not a community of like minded people ? We should try and help each other out, if and when we can. No? "

That would be just like giving profile advice which if everyone followed the advice given would result in lots of generic box ticking profiles.

You can take a horse to water but you can't make it drink.

Other people's experiences will have little or no influence at all because they are unique to them.

It's all down to the individual and their level of patience.

What works for one person may not work for anyone else.

Advising them to arrange a meet isn't much help really if they aren't verified and no one is willing to turn up because of that fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I actually prefer single males

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

This, this and more of this. However OP, numerous people have tried to steer single guys to success and it falls on deaf ears..... Guess we have fake ass porn to thank for men's shoddy opening messages, expectation of sex because this is a "sex site" and the self righteousness.... Once men realise that the majority of women appreciate effort than maybe things will change until then I'll carry on with our incessant deletions of "hi", "you OK" and "I'd love to be balls deep in that" messages

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Browse the site and see what others are doing, what you maybe doing wrong

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Plenty of men have luck on here. The ones who don't are usually the ones with generic profiles and use the scatter gun approach with messaging.

Nothing you said OP is anything that hasn't been said before. You didn't even mention making an effort with their profile which to be fair is the first thing a lot of women look for when they get a message off someone new.

As for getting to clubs a lot of people don't live near clubs and may not want to go to one alone anyhow. The same for mngs and a lot don't invite unveried and and unveried man trying to set up his own will most likely be completely ignored. .

The men who have luck on here don't need tutoring anyhow. They know how to speak to women and how to act and to put effort in.

And it's not a one way is the right way. People look for different things and people on here so there is no guarantee of anything even if someone gets veried it doesn't mean they get a gold card then to the fab meets. It's still the same thing just you have a Veri now and some more people might chat or ignore you than before.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

stop giving advice and let us see the real them that way its a easy filter and if you think its just single men who are a pain then your very very wrong for me as single or our couples profile its other couples or the male half of couples who are most likely to be assh*les

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can those of us who don't want to meet still moan about not getting meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Thanks for the advice op...

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Just to confirm I’m getting this right. Your hoping that others will post below best ways to navigate through fab and how they managed to get verifications?

Although your post is intended to advise just that. You even took it upon yourself to start this post when nobody had sought your advice personally.

A very strange post from a self proclaimed expert lol"

Tbf I agree mostly with the OP.

Fab messages don't always come across as intended.

Most are the usual dic pics and or wanna meet now

So no wonder single fab guys winge they not getting the responses they desire.

As a fab single female I'll likely speak for a majority of fems on here, meting inclusive people at clubs and socials is fair More better than the typical stereotypical fab chat message .

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"It's not always as simple as going to a club.

That's fine if there are clubs in your area but there are no clubs in Ireland at all where you can turn up uninvited.

The few that do exist only open once a month or so for event nights and are by invitation only so that option doesn't exist here.

In regard to advising everyone to stop moaning about their experiences, those who do this have little or no interest in being advised so it will fall on deaf ears. "

Its not easy going to a club of ypur married and your wife doesn't know.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Why wouldn't OP drop in woth some words of wisdom. Perhaps OP has fathomed out his ideals for meeting folk

I've never and won't meet direct from fab because most of my messages I get are not what I consider as real

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Why wouldn't OP drop in woth some words of wisdom. Perhaps OP has fathomed out his ideals for meeting folk

I've never and won't meet direct from fab because most of my messages I get are not what I consider as real "

Well luckily plenty of women do meet from fab. You don't speak for the majority on here,no one does. Everyone does fab their own way and that's why fab works for so many people who look for different things on here.

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By *iren!Woman
over a year ago

leeds

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Great advice.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

"Why wouldn't OP drop in woth some words of wisdom. Perhaps OP has fathomed out his ideals for meeting folk

I've never and won't meet direct from fab because most of my messages I get are not what I consider as real

That's me told then

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Thanks for the advice op... "

Haha....

You sir, have a very good profile, I might use a few of your lines

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"Browse the site and see what others are doing, what you maybe doing wrong "

Good advice.

BTW your profile is very good too. Might steal a few lines from yours aswell lol.

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"stop giving advice and let us see the real them that way its a easy filter and if you think its just single men who are a pain then your very very wrong for me as single or our couples profile its other couples or the male half of couples who are most likely to be assh*les "

Yup, very true!

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

"My advice to all single males would be stop posting"

I'll give it a try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another post where advice is given and people just want to invalidate.

Should be a fun one. *Grabs popcorn*

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

The ratios on fab are so screwed (against single males) that you either just need to accept it and take it as a bit of fun, or go somewhere else.

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By *ris GrayMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Can those of us who don't want to meet still moan about not getting meets? "
no sorry moan about the weather

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By *omblingFreeCouple
over a year ago

The Village

The OP seemed to have honourable intentions but has run up against a wall of people with no community spirit, a pessimistic view and lots of smugness. I don't comment often on these forums because there's rarely any conversing going on, just very opionated people taking it upon themselves to disagree with every tiny thing. If you got nothing constructive to say then don't bother to get your qwerty out.

Mr.

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

Well, it's more straight forward and obvious than people want to let on. It's all about box ticking.

So, are you attractive ?

Do you have a fit body?

Can you accommodate?

Do you have pictures ?

Have you verifications ?

Are you under 40 ?

The rest I'm afraid are just lucky enough to slip through the net.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"The OP seemed to have honourable intentions but has run up against a wall of people with no community spirit, a pessimistic view and lots of smugness. I don't comment often on these forums because there's rarely any conversing going on, just very opionated people taking it upon themselves to disagree with every tiny thing. If you got nothing constructive to say then don't bother to get your qwerty out.

Mr."

I only ever offer constructive advice. As can be seen in other posts the op has decided that the way forward for him is to borrow lines from other people's profiles.

This is a similar approach to the hundreds of other advice threads that either ask for or offer advice.

There is very little point in creating a persona based on other people and their experiences if you present a completely different image in person.

As well meaning as the op may be, his target audience, who often put more negative than positive energy into their profile don't really want to listen to advice on the forums.

If they did there wouldn't be a problem because there is at least one of these threads everyday and at least two complaining that nothing is working.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

Just to confirm I’m getting this right. Your hoping that others will post below best ways to navigate through fab and how they managed to get verifications?

Although your post is intended to advise just that. You even took it upon yourself to start this post when nobody had sought your advice personally.

A very strange post from a self proclaimed expert lol

Tbf I agree mostly with the OP.

Fab messages don't always come across as intended.

Most are the usual dic pics and or wanna meet now

So no wonder single fab guys winge they not getting the responses they desire.

As a fab single female I'll likely speak for a majority of fems on here, meting inclusive people at clubs and socials is fair More better than the typical stereotypical fab chat message . "

All of the above hits the nail on the head, sound and good advice to follow, if you have no clubs near you be prepared to travel, go to social gatherings. Certainly don’t type with cock in hand.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Mr."

I agree, and for clarity I agree with all the points the OP makes.

But I also like to have fun around here, because if people don't seem fun then... really, what's the point y'know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

I have read these posts and think there must be something to them as it is an everyday occurrence.

What I took from these posts and the replies is to not involve myself, if people can be so nasty to others using a keyboard how would they treat me face to face in a club or social, plus I would need to pay some kind of membership and other fees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice op...

Haha....

You sir, have a very good profile, I might use a few of your lines

Steal away op, just remember to reference me correctly, I like apa 6th edition lol..and I'll send my bank details for royalties

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

the op has decided that the way forward for him is to borrow lines from other people's profiles.

It was a joke fella, lighten up!

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Thanks for the advice op...

Haha....

You sir, have a very good profile, I might use a few of your lines

Steal away op, just remember to reference me correctly, I like apa 6th edition lol..and I'll send my bank details for royalties "

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

What I took from these posts and the replies is to not involve myself, if people can be so nasty to others using a keyboard how would they treat me face to face in a club or social,

I'm learning on the job. Lol

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"Well, it's more straight forward and obvious than people want to let on. It's all about box ticking.

So, are you attractive ?

Do you have a fit body?

Can you accommodate?

Do you have pictures ?

Have you verifications ?

Are you under 40 ?

The rest I'm afraid are just lucky enough to slip through the net."

This works !

Box ticking to whom you want to attract is key.

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"The ratios on fab are so screwed (against single males) that you either just need to accept it and take it as a bit of fun, or go somewhere else. "

Boom !!!

Hit the Nail on the head

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By *ertfordshiremale OP Man
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Mr."

Thank you sir

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I thought I would write this as I see a lot of posts from single males on here moaning or complaining about not having any luck on this site.

I've been on here before as a couple and now here as a single male.

The best advice I can give you is to go to a club or a meet up.

There's plenty of local meet ups,(if you look in the forum you will find them) where you can go and meet like minded people, have a drink & talk about things as well as get a verification or two.

Or you could do I what I did and just go to a club. I went the other night and got 2 verifications from people I met & spoke with.

I'm hoping other people will post below about the best ways to navigate through fab. And how they managed to get verifications.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

It’s a good advice but you’re not supposed to tell everyone

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Browse the site and see what others are doing, what you maybe doing wrong

Good advice.

BTW your profile is very good too. Might steal a few lines from yours aswell lol.

Welcome hopefully it does you more justice than it has me jk

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I went to clubs and didn't get any verifications. You're not guaranteed anything in this world and spent alot of money trying

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

From my perceptive on fab, poor profiles and messages are the biggest turn offs for me. There's rarely a profile I think wow I really want to meet this guy. Most sound either arrogant, too sex craved, dull or just not my type

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By *eadjeyecMan
over a year ago

Bucks/London

I totally agree OP. I got my first from a club visit, not a guarantee but I find it does make it more likely. I need to visit the clubs again but life has been getting in the way

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