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Wanking ruining your sex life?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story

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By *earded_delight2022Man
over a year ago

telford

I had this issue post seperation. I was loving sex and masturbating lots but couldn't cum from sex. I eventually sorted it by not playing as much xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanking is my sex life, it’s ruining my words per minute though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wanking is my sex life, it’s ruining my words per minute though. "
ditto. Although my kinetic watch is so super charged I'm running my house off it, and my Fitbit says I'm walking five marathons every day.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I like it and I wank once a day

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Happily doesn’t seem to be affecting me. I’m still a randy old b**tard whether on my own or in company. Prefer the latter though!

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By *orksguy1965Man
over a year ago

Howden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wanking is my sex life, it’s ruining my words per minute though. ditto. Although my kinetic watch is so super charged I'm running my house off it, and my Fitbit says I'm walking five marathons every day. "

I believe we’ve just found the fix to the cost of living crisis, energy bills are now in hand, literally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story "

I find the more I get myself off, the more orgasms I want and the easier it is to cum when having sex. However- if I'm a bit stressed or anxious, I definitely find it harder to cum. Maybe you've stuff on your mind thays stealing your orgasm...

Mrs

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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago

Wherever I lay my hat


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story

I find the more I get myself off, the more orgasms I want and the easier it is to cum when having sex. However- if I'm a bit stressed or anxious, I definitely find it harder to cum. Maybe you've stuff on your mind thays stealing your orgasm...

Mrs "

I'm the opposite. The more sex I have, the more I sex I want. But.... When it comes to orgasms I find that if I have gone without for a while, when I do cum the build up and intensity is incredible.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

nae danger.

I'm possibly strange as when comes to sex I can't have enough but when comes wanking maybe once a month if I cba more likely to bore myself to sleep

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

I have moments but wank daily usually. I love it !

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London


"I'm the opposite. The more sex I have, the more I sex I want."

That’s how it is for me too. And I’m the same with most things. Food, drink, socialising, work … (Addictive personality, anyone?)

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story

I find the more I get myself off, the more orgasms I want and the easier it is to cum when having sex. However- if I'm a bit stressed or anxious, I definitely find it harder to cum. Maybe you've stuff on your mind thays stealing your orgasm...

Mrs

I'm the opposite. The more sex I have, the more I sex I want. But.... When it comes to orgasms I find that if I have gone without for a while, when I do cum the build up and intensity is incredible. "

Yes true about craving for more and more sex....but my orgasms just don't seem to work if I cum too much that week myself. It seems like my body just likes me doing it! Lol

As if I don't play with myself and just let my lover do it, my pussy behaves so much better lol

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story

I find the more I get myself off, the more orgasms I want and the easier it is to cum when having sex. However- if I'm a bit stressed or anxious, I definitely find it harder to cum. Maybe you've stuff on your mind thays stealing your orgasm...

Mrs "

Humm, usually I generally just focus on the moment when I have sex unless it's terrible lol

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'm the opposite. The more sex I have, the more I sex I want.

That’s how it is for me too. And I’m the same with most things. Food, drink, socialising, work … (Addictive personality, anyone?)"

I definitely don't have an addictive personality. Take it or leave it kind of person with most things apart great sex, mountain biking, great food and travelling. I get bad withdrawal symptoms if I don't get them things in my life

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Lay off flicking the bean for a week before a meet see how that goes.

It's could be psychological, putting too much pressure on yourself.

Maybe you have become desensitized,do you watch porn when you wank??

Or perhaps you are craving more than just a fuck and need someone who is going to make love to you rather than just a fuck.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Lay off flicking the bean for a week before a meet see how that goes.

It's could be psychological, putting too much pressure on yourself.

Maybe you have become desensitized,do you watch porn when you wank??

Or perhaps you are craving more than just a fuck and need someone who is going to make love to you rather than just a fuck."

Nope it's neither of them things....I think I'm just all wanked out, leaving nothing lol

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Lay off flicking the bean for a week before a meet see how that goes.

It's could be psychological, putting too much pressure on yourself.

Maybe you have become desensitized,do you watch porn when you wank??

Or perhaps you are craving more than just a fuck and need someone who is going to make love to you rather than just a fuck."

This comment made me think of Tina Turner song 'Whats love got to do with it, nothing but a second hand emotion' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story "

It could be a form of desensitisation as you can orgasm whenever you want, whereas if you hold off until you have a session with someone else, you'll be saving all of that naughty energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have similar problem OP, if I wank to

much I struggle during real sex, the whole experience takes a while longer, I will orgasm in the end but takes lot longer, so the cure is les wank more real sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story

It could be a form of desensitisation as you can orgasm whenever you want, whereas if you hold off until you have a session with someone else, you'll be saving all of that naughty energy."

Kinda embarrassing, but I'll share it cos of the discussion. I had a meet once with a couple from here, and because it was near to when the pandemic occurred with the whole isolation thing, I would watch some porn and get myself off a few times during the week. Soon as we decided to meet up for a threesome, we all got acquainted and chatted for a bit, all was good, and then everything moved towards getting into the bedroom for some fun as the sexual tension was killing us all haha. Once we all stripped off and got into bed, I struggled to stay hard during the session. Now I don't think at my age, I should have any form of erectile dysfunction cos of the successful playing before the meet lol. Which tells me, it must of been the amount I was masturbating that desensitised my cock during the session at the meet.

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By *an from UncleMan
over a year ago

ml1


"I had bit of a dry spell where I wanked alot. Then had a fab date, seen him several times before but this time, for the life of me, I just couldn't orgasm from anything he did to me. So wondering if all that wanking in previous days leading up to meeting him ruined my pussy? true story "
apparently there supposed to be a learned behaviour thing with masterbation so, if you use a tight grip or toy or posision then after a while it becomes the only way to get off hope this helps ps make appointment with my receptionist for your next consultation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this!

Sometimes the endless stream of twitter & porn particularly when your not feeling as confident or there is other stuff going on can cause havoc with my sex life

I do no fap to “reset” and try and only watch porn that makes me feel good and enjoy

Also flashlights and toys can help mix it up a bit!

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By *ackbydemandMan
over a year ago

Leicester

I've indirectly heard of this, where sustained overuse of a doxy has overstimulated them to point they can't climax through natural means. Sure it can be frustrating and orgasm is nice, but it shouldn't stop you from experiencing the pleasure of bring licked, touched or fucked.

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