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Increased chances due to verification?

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By *ansteel OP   Man
over a year ago

Durham

Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

You won't be immediately dismissed as often, but don't worry, it will still be hard work

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I appreciate veris. It helps reassure me that the people I'm meeting will turn up and gives me an idea but I don't put all the weight into them. They're very helpful and give you an insight.

I'm more likely to meet people with a few veris and be more flexible with the meets but have understand how hard it is to get verified on site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"

It will attract some and put off others.

Overall it's likely to have no effect on you getting future meets.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Verifications could help as they'd help people build up a better picture of you plus, they'd give some indication of your reliability (possibly).

But... don't get too many as some will consider you to be a right slag and avoid you like the plague

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Verifications could help as they'd help people build up a better picture of you plus, they'd give some indication of your reliability (possibly).

But... don't get too many as some will consider you to be a right slag and avoid you like the plague "

Pmsl, the double edge sword that is veris...

Op fab is fab, just do you be respectful kind all of that, and you'll be fine

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Personally I like to see at least one veru so I know it's someone who actually follows through and turns up at least. But everyone views them differently.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

I'm not sure it really matters being a single male on here, getting people to actually engage in the initial chat is the hard bit I'd say. If you're a genuine guy who is respectful and patient then and can hold a conversation I'm sure a meet will materialise.

Happy that you got a meet with the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not much different. People either want to meet you or they don’t. The majority don’t look at verifications; yeah I want to meet him because they couple did…

All verifications do is say you showed up for those who left you one.

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By *arried-BBW-LookingWoman
over a year ago

fun town

I think it will definitely increase people’s interest in you, it shows you’re not a dreamer or a time waster, as for me being a female before I had verifications guys would sometimes assume I’m a male xx

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By *ansteel OP   Man
over a year ago

Durham

Thanks guys for your opinions. I guess, judging by the comments, everyone has a different view on veris. I will see how it plays out for me. Fingers crossed lol

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We wouldn’t meet anyone that isn’t verified, guessing there are others that have this view and wouldn’t think there would be many who wouldn’t meet somebody who did have one, so I’d go with it will help for more meets.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Veris act as another filter for us, if they're really graphic it's a turn off. However, what one person likes another may not so sometimes as mentioned above they're a double edged sword...

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

The vast majority of our no-shows have been unverified single guys. We break the rule every so often for a particularly hot looking guy, only to get stood up again.

So from our perspective, having verifications shows that you've turned up for meets, so they make us more likely to want to chat and see how it goes.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite ridiculous that some people won't meet someone with no veris. I wonder how they get through life constantly needing someone else to baby sit them and hold their hand!

Everyone starts with no veris. Everyone is a real person.

Pathetic really.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"

It will slightly increase your chances, though don't expect the meets to come in big numbers. The verifications (genuine ones, not pretend!) are more important for couples and women, as there are an incredible amount of fake profiles.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria


"It's quite ridiculous that some people won't meet someone with no veris. I wonder how they get through life constantly needing someone else to baby sit them and hold their hand!

Everyone starts with no veris. Everyone is a real person.

Pathetic really."

Really? How rude are you?

We just don’t want our time wasted by someone who decides to set a profile up just for a giggle when there’s plenty of people that are verified we could meet. Understand people start with none but they can get them through a club or someone else can take the chance on them first like yourself who perhaps as more free fab time, just not something we have been prepared to do and yes everyone who sets up on here is a real person but some are a person pretending to be someone they are not.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

We tend to only have a latest veri published, too many and people assume you'll meet them because you've met others, and none seems to mean people think you're fake lol.

Glad you had a great time, but wouldn't focus too much on veris x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see guys who are meet verified as less likely to time waste, and who are more likely to turn up.

However personality plays a bigger role

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It's quite ridiculous that some people won't meet someone with no veris. I wonder how they get through life constantly needing someone else to baby sit them and hold their hand!

Everyone starts with no veris. Everyone is a real person.

Pathetic really."

I just wish all females and couples on here shared you view. Sadly most won't entertain anyone who dosnt have meet verifications. When people won't meet anyone without verifications, how are you supposed to get the verifications needed to get a meet.? Its a vicious circle on here.

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire


"It's quite ridiculous that some people won't meet someone with no veris. I wonder how they get through life constantly needing someone else to baby sit them and hold their hand!

Everyone starts with no veris. Everyone is a real person.

Pathetic really.

I just wish all females and couples on here shared you view. Sadly most won't entertain anyone who dosnt have meet verifications. When people won't meet anyone without verifications, how are you supposed to get the verifications needed to get a meet.? Its a vicious circle on here. "

After previous let downs and a couple of meets that were a complete waste of time we decided to not meet anyone without verifications again. You could always try going to a club or a social to get verifications.

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By *illloganMan
over a year ago

Essex

I can confirm, a veri has no effect moving forwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh hard mode pt2

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By *ansteel OP   Man
over a year ago

Durham

Thanks for all the feedback. Guess it goes to show, everyone is different and all have their own preferences. Keeps it interesting xx

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By *N4funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read "

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us.

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us. "

Can get verified via cam rooms pal and/or going to a club. Personally I got photo verified straight away and lucky my bestie who introduced me to here left me my first initial verification. But to o.p it don't instantly make your meets increase there's people with fully verified profiles that aren't actually who they say they are etc

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By *ames250122Man
over a year ago

Worcester


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"

Not sure to be honest. I personally don’t take any interest in them when looking at others profile and have never been interested in receiving them either as it between them and me. The only one I asked for was from Xtasia so people know I’m real, after that I always thought it doesn’t matters?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"
It will be exactly the same lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"

So have you had more luck since being verified? I had men with loads of verifications message me, if they're not my type then verifications don't really mean a thing to me. But generally I wouldn't meet anyone without a verification unless he comes across amazing

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us. "

I got the most traffic when I joined, litterly over 300 messages every day for months and I didn't get my first verification which was cam chat until i was 6 months on fab. So you can be verified easily if you're prepared to cam chat with someone.

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By *al69Man
over a year ago

Stanford, Thurrock, Essex


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us.

I got the most traffic when I joined, litterly over 300 messages every day for months and I didn't get my first verification which was cam chat until i was 6 months on fab. So you can be verified easily if you're prepared to cam chat with someone. "

I'm prepared to cam chat, but my requests fall on deaf ears/eyes.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us. "

As has been said try get yourself to a social event and meet other fabbers, if you want veris that's where you will likely get one or two from. Other than that attend a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If an unverified profile messages us. Mr politely declines and Mrs ruthlessly declines. Tell them to verify and then we can chat. Regardless of how good looking they are.

Verifications out the males pretending to be a couple and picture collectors and in general proves that you actually exist.

That's how we see it. Not verified, jog on.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Problem is that on fab even fake verifications exist. I have come across profiles that have claimed to be couples that are verified but whose pics are all taken from other websites. Clearly the verification process isn’t foolproof.

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

Will definitely help people build up a better picture of you. Along with a well written profile should really help you.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"I'm prepared to cam chat, but my requests fall on deaf ears/eyes"

Cam veris mean nothing to us...could still be a fantasist just looking for cam fun and never leaving the house for a proper meet.

(Bry)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I think being veri'd can help a lot with some people. They want to know you're a person and some how that green tick gives them validation you're an actual human and not a monkey who has managed to craft a basic profile after a decade of typing.

I also think veris can cause a lot of grief amongst people. Some people won't meet you if you've met someone. Lamppost piss. Oneupmanship... it all happens. So... yeah, maybe it'll help OP. It depends.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

a veri can decrease your chances as well alot of people will look at your veris and judge ..like whom you've been with ...bi sex ...if you've been with a group / gender they dont like or a person they dont like ... if your veri is a cam one most will totally ignore them or social after social and no real meets ..people will judge so much can be worked out by a veri ...

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By *ctionman11Man
over a year ago

maldon

I agree some can be a put off. It on the whole at least a meat verification shows you are real and not fake.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

some will also use you veris to play games i said no to one guy who then went on to threaten people who veried me ? hence i no longer show mine unless someone ask if there was interest

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By *ctionman11Man
over a year ago

maldon


"some will also use you veris to play games i said no to one guy who then went on to threaten people who veried me ? hence i no longer show mine unless someone ask if there was interest "

Yeah I know what you mean. Lots of weirdos on here

Why threaten other people. Jesus what’s that all about.

Some people just can’t take rejection

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I have met several people who weren't veried and I've never had any stand me up either. I probably would meet an unveried person again but I do have them blocked from messaging me so I'd make first contact.They are only blocked as an extra filter to keep my messages low.

Yes I read others veris but there is no veri that would entice me to meet anyone if I'm honest.In fact they sometimes can have the opposite effect when I see they are veried by someone who I know courts drama on here.Its easier to avoid meeting them to avoid any drama that could happen after.

The only thing they are handy for is to see if someone shows up and what they seem to expect from any meet. But one person's dream meet is someone else's nightmare so they really should be taken with a pinch of salt.

Op I don't know if they would help you get any more meets. You may be able to chat to a few more people but it's doubtful they will open the floodgates of fab meets for you.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us.

I got the most traffic when I joined, litterly over 300 messages every day for months and I didn't get my first verification which was cam chat until i was 6 months on fab. So you can be verified easily if you're prepared to cam chat with someone. "

And there you have it the answer..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx"

If you hide your verification summary they won't know if you've met 1 or 1,000 people.

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

Had no luck getting meets with veris so went to a club had a little luck but that’s only because we chatted for a while first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If an unverified profile messages us. Mr politely declines and Mrs ruthlessly declines. Tell them to verify and then we can chat. Regardless of how good looking they are.

Verifications out the males pretending to be a couple and picture collectors and in general proves that you actually exist.

That's how we see it. Not verified, jog on. "
but not all people do verifications the woman/couples I’ve met only a few but they don’t

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Based on time wasters we prefer to see at least a couple of veri's for a read

But if people like your good selves won't meet unverified people, how are we supposed to get the verifications that will allow you to meet us.?

Don't forget, when you first joined Fab, you had no verifications like the rest of us.

I got the most traffic when I joined, litterly over 300 messages every day for months and I didn't get my first verification which was cam chat until i was 6 months on fab. So you can be verified easily if you're prepared to cam chat with someone.

I'm prepared to cam chat, but my requests fall on deaf ears/eyes."

You can cam chat on the general cam rooms. You don't need to find people. You're there in the group with others, some will go on cam, others just chat. Make friends there and someone will verify you.

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By *ansteel OP   Man
over a year ago

Durham

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By *ansteel OP   Man
over a year ago

Durham


"Hi. After initially finding it difficult on here due to being a single male without any verifications, also the numbers not in my favour (loads of single males).

However I met a couple last night where I enjoyed solo play with the wife whilst the hubby watched. It was a great experience and the perfect couple to partake in my first cuckhold experience.

They have since left me a verification. So the question is will this, in your experience enhance my chances of more regular meets or will it be equally as challenging as before the verification? Xx

If you hide your verification summary they won't know if you've met 1 or 1,000 people. "

For clarity I haven’t hid the verification so assume your response was not to my initial question but someone/something else?

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I like to see veris on someone's profile as it gives me some idea of if they are serious or if they are likely to either cancel or fail to show x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually try to only meet people with veris. Then you have a better idea if they're real or not.

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We don’t meet anyone without atleast three veris. Tough on guys who are struggling for meets but we have to do what’s right for us too

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Problem is that on fab even fake verifications exist. I have come across profiles that have claimed to be couples that are verified but whose pics are all taken from other websites. Clearly the verification process isn’t foolproof. "

I usually check if their verifications are written by someone verified alot. You can tell a fake from genuine

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"If an unverified profile messages us. Mr politely declines and Mrs ruthlessly declines. Tell them to verify and then we can chat. Regardless of how good looking they are.

Verifications out the males pretending to be a couple and picture collectors and in general proves that you actually exist.

That's how we see it. Not verified, jog on. but not all people do verifications the woman/couples I’ve met only a few but they don’t "

You can always ask them to write one as generally people prefer exchange of verifications as it helps them get future meets

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"If an unverified profile messages us. Mr politely declines and Mrs ruthlessly declines. Tell them to verify and then we can chat. Regardless of how good looking they are.

Verifications out the males pretending to be a couple and picture collectors and in general proves that you actually exist.

That's how we see it. Not verified, jog on. "

You say you tell people to get verified them you will chatt, but how do we get verified if a lot of people won't give us unverified a chance in the first place.?

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

From our point of view, yes. We wouldn't disregard someone because of no verification but it makes judging compatibility easier for us, especially if it's a public one.

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By *ombull15Man
over a year ago

essex

I been told a few times I had too many meets from people on herd what I does not say if I been on herd since 2015 so over the 7 years not that many

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"You say you tell people to get verified them you will chatt, but how do we get verified if a lot of people won't give us unverified a chance in the first place.?"

The only answer is either go to a club and chat to people and you'll get verifications that way, or go to a social. It's not the best answer as clubs cost a lot and there may not be any near you, and socials sometimes are closed off to people not in the circle.

(Bry)

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By *ebbie69Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes


"If an unverified profile messages us. Mr politely declines and Mrs ruthlessly declines. Tell them to verify and then we can chat. Regardless of how good looking they are.

Verifications out the males pretending to be a couple and picture collectors and in general proves that you actually exist.

That's how we see it. Not verified, jog on.

You say you tell people to get verified them you will chatt, but how do we get verified if a lot of people won't give us unverified a chance in the first place.?

"

I would suggest using the chat rooms here. Go on cam and chat away. I found it great fun and got verified at the same time. Just be patient though and be respectful of course

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich


"You say you tell people to get verified them you will chatt, but how do we get verified if a lot of people won't give us unverified a chance in the first place.?

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I use to arrange to meet unverified men who had been on a while but couldn't get a meet and 75% of the time I'd be stood up or pressured into sex before even meeting them for a social.

Still, I meet profiles with photo verification only but I never travelled until they messaged they were at the pub we were meeting at.

There are people out there, a lot is chance for meeting them, other times it's putting yourself out there for the large social events etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look at the whole package in terms of profile. Pics, write up, veris.

No veris wouldn’t mean no meet but it would perhaps give that little push if we were wavering on answering a message.

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Verifications makes no difference. If they don’t like you doesn’t mean anything how many verifications you have on profile. Still a fab virgin and gave up long time ago lol

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