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By *exy_couple_now_manc OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oldham

When you were new to swinging, how did you feel if your partner pushed the boundries a little too much my hand did you tell them during, after or never?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't answer from personal past experience. But if it was me I'd definitely say something. If boundaries have been agreed they need to be respected. Things can happen in the heat of the moment. But you need to discuss it to know if you are happy to now move your boundaries. Otherwise things can go sour. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We discussed our boundaries before we decided to go into this and we have both respected them since ( we still talk about them as the more we delve we have found some boundaries changing ) think communication is the key to a successful meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we discuss them all the time and it depends on the boundary and how far it is being pushed because no matter how much you talk about it beforehand if you involve a third, fourth or more party things will happen in the heat of the moment that you hadn't expected. Anything that I think "ooo I didn't think I'd like that but actually it's not too bad" I let it go and discuss afterwards, things that I think "yuck" I say straight away if it's happening to me or if Mr N is having it done to him or doing to someone in both cases and the same goes for him. Sometimes you notice something and think you don't want it to happen again too.

Total honesty and trust is the only way this kind of will ever be successful

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By *exy_couple_now_manc OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oldham

That's how we have been since we started 1 year ago and it works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We set the boudaries before meets, and stuck to them... Afterwards talk talk talk, and set new ones if we were comfortable with new ones!

Best advice, NEVER stop talking, and be honest to each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had our boundaries broken once....

After every thing had finished my husband went out for a cigarette she followed about 5 mins later saying she was going to get some air.....

Found her snogging his face off in the shower....

Had a big wobble and nearly gave up playing after nearly 7 years of playing together....

They boundary that was crossed was i wasn't told what they were going off to do.

We have very few rules but one of them is we tell each other if we are going off to play

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

You do need to agree on what boundaries you both have & stick to them.

John was asked by 2 ladies to go back with them for a 3-some & he said only if he could fetch his wife, the 2 ladies felt awkward & left but 4 years later we met one of them through this site so anything you do can come back & bite you on the arse if you do something wrong.

She thought him mad at the time but also sweet because he wouldn't play without me, i don't mind him doing separate rooms or playing with someone if i know about it.

Stick to the guidelines you set yourself & swinging can be great fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the one boundarie we said we would never break was that we would never play in separet rooms that was untill i had to take an urgent phone call from one of the kids so had no choice but to leave the room but was still in ear shot to hear Jane playing and now Jane plays 1 on 1 all the time when playing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had discussed our boundaries and agreed what was acceptable, but as previously mentioned in the heat of the moment Mrs T overstepped the boundary, but I didn't mention it until after when we were on our own. We talked it through and managed to compromise. At the end of the day things happen that are unexpected you just gotta deal with it as long as you talk and sort it out then hopefully there won't be any issues.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We set the boundaries before we started, soft swing until we were both happy. When we went "hard" we didn't agree about it beforehand, we were swapped in a playroom and she just rolled a condom onto the man she was with and climbed onto his cock, so he got a condom on and fucked the man's partner. Not something we could really discuss under the circumstances! It was the right time for us both though.

Other than that temporary one, we don't really have any boundaries we need to observe.

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