FabSwingers.com forum: Making first contact on Fabs

By *iniskirtcouple OP Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

We're ok with people who just say 'hi, how are you' on first contact.

We definitely look for a bit more signs of intelligent life once the conversation gets flowing, but we don't think it is reasonable to expect the first contact to be essay length.

What about you?

How do you make contact? With a one liner, or a few pages of auto-biography?

And how do you like to be contacted if you are being contacted for the first time? A simple hi? Or do you need more to perk up your interest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for something that shows they've read our profile but definitely agree that we don't expect too much.

Feel it's hard enough for guys here without expecting a first message to be some nuanced comedic masterpiece

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to cater each mesage to the red profile and who i see the lafie im chatting to. however lobe or short the message seems to be i rarely get a responce anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give or want an essay but something a bit more imaginative than hi how are you is appreciated. I usually open with something light, how they respond to it shows if we will get on or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We look for something that shows they've read our profile but definitely agree that we don't expect too much.

Feel it's hard enough for guys here without expecting a first message to be some nuanced comedic masterpiece

Yep - gotta show a genuine reason for interest in the people you're contacting - not just astroturfing the entire site!

Helps to show you might have a personality, not just a hardon, too.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

We don't mind the winking bit. If we like the look of a cpl we'll send a few quick introductory lines.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do read profiles and always try to show that I have read them when I message. I read some profiles and know the lady/ couple wouldnt be into me so I leave them alone. First message is always difficult though

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

It comes down to how hot I think they are. The message itself is kinda irrelevant. I'll check profile first then either politely reply, reply with intention of the conversation progressing or ignore... depending on initial message.

As for making first contact, if there's anything on bio I can include, then, great. If not, generally a simple hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile and try to include something in the message to show that. Trying to show your interests without writing too much and waffling can be hard which I also think puts people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in general, just a 'hi' is suffice enough to start a conversation i think.

but if i'm messaging, and there's something on their profile that i really click with, i'll usually include that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a message while I might say Hi I might also reference any status update they've made or alternatively just send them a compliment such as having laughed out loud at their profile or how good they looked in their pictured. Nothing vulgar. Just polite and respectful.

Sometimes I get a response, more often then not I dont

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It all depends on if we find them attractive or not. If we do, they can write what they like for an intro. If we don’t, nothing written will change that.

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"We're ok with people who just say 'hi, how are you' on first contact.

We definitely look for a bit more signs of intelligent life once the conversation gets flowing, but we don't think it is reasonable to expect the first contact to be essay length.

What about you?

How do you make contact? With a one liner, or a few pages of auto-biography?

And how do you like to be contacted if you are being contacted for the first time? A simple hi? Or do you need more to perk up your interest?"

Hi, how are you? Lol!

Seriously though, I try to include at least one word of more than a syllable to give some idea that I’ve got a brain…., although looking at your profile might make anyone tongue tied!

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

"It all depends on if we find them attractive or not. If we do, they can write what they like for an intro. If we don’t, nothing written will change that."

Pretty much sums it up

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

I find a polite hi how’s you guys .. interests eg. Maybe a nice compliment on hot pics

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

I find a polite hi how’s you guys .. interests eg. Maybe a nice compliment on hot pics

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"hi,

Read your profile, I think I may fit what you are looking for, why not look at my profile and see?

Happy fabbing"

Normally elaborate on the details a bit more, but that's a basic opening message format

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

I've tried everything, some people can be extremely rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find that get your knickers off usually works! You know when they’ve come through our device….it’s a sure fire yes

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