FabSwingers.com forum: Too local?

By *harpDressed Man OP Man
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

We all see many profiles from people who only want to meet people from within a certain range - 40 miles seems quite common. But is there a point at which people are TOO near?

Obviously I don't mean people on the same street, but where is the line drawn? 5 miles can be quite a long way, however prominent you think you are in the community...

Note - this is not prompted by anything specific, and no criticism of any person, persons or institutions should be inferred. At all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv never played with anyone from my local area considerin i live in the sticks thats why!! there was a guy messagin me who lived 3 streets away but thats just too close! i prefer a wee bit distance just my choice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We draw the line if they live in the same oap home as us. Otherwise we dial a ride.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The closest person to me that I have met lives just 2 streets away. The next closest is about 2 miles.

Suits me just fine

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

We have some really lovely friends about 1/2 a mile away! and we don't care where people live when they are that scrummy!

We also have a couple about 4 miles away that we used to play with, but they are both suffering health problems so are not playmates anymore, just good mates.

We did meet a couple a lot closer! Their garden backed onto ours!! But that was a social thing only lol....

If you like em and you all get along and you can keep it real, who cares where they live?

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Been told half hour drive (in London) is too close. also been told by another lady (in East London) that am too close (thought am in South West.. hence at least 45 mins drive away).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been told half hour drive (in London) is too close. also been told by another lady (in East London) that am too close (thought am in South West.. hence at least 45 mins drive away)."

south of the river mate ... thats got to be 2 hours away on a good day - 45mins what are you driving a sherman tank or a moped????

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

4 miles away was the closest but hes been stationed else where now and two people from a town 8 miles away.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Been told half hour drive (in London) is too close. also been told by another lady (in East London) that am too close (thought am in South West.. hence at least 45 mins drive away).

south of the river mate ... thats got to be 2 hours away on a good day - 45mins what are you driving a sherman tank or a moped????"

Lol - that's if all the traffic pulls over to one side to let security escort through

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"4 miles away was the closest but hes been stationed else where now and two people from a town 8 miles away."

diamond what is it with you and ticket collectors - which station is he at now? can you get us a reduction on a ticket to edinborough if we stop over at york on a weekend super saver ticket?

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By *hristalCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We had a couple contact us and they lived less than two streets away from us. We didn't have a problem with it at all - unfortunately they did and went into panic mode!

Christal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol

We have met 2 people of our street, one we had fun with, other we didn't as married.

Never to close for us as long as they understand they can't just turn up any time they like incase we have family/friends around.

Tony

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By *ebzStarWoman
over a year ago

Notting

Being as my first meet was someone who worked in same company as me - dont think if i found out that a potential

meet living two streets away would really bother me much.

So long as they didnt expect that i would be seeing em more often than anyone else.

My closet playmates only live about 2 miles away

My furthest at the mo - 96 miles

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"4 miles away was the closest but hes been stationed else where now and two people from a town 8 miles away.

diamond what is it with you and ticket collectors - which station is he at now? can you get us a reduction on a ticket to edinborough if we stop over at york on a weekend super saver ticket?"

pmsl what you like, he was in the raf. Has its uses living near three bases

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

nothings to close as long as discretion is the key factor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had lots of mail from guys who live really close to me, i wont meet people if they are really close, simpley because i dont want to bump into them while im out with my kids

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By *ayc_BigballsMan
over a year ago

Derby

would freak me out a little if someone was near me, but at the same time it would be cool!. i do live in a small place though so that would be a bit dangerous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we try not to meet to local due to our jobs etc and also the added possibilty of our kids all going to the same school, but even now if we meet couples miles and miles away we still get the 3rd decree from the kids how do you know them ?etc so maybe a local couple is better then you can say i know them from ??

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By *andWnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Ohhhh local playmates, hell yes, mind you thats just cos we are lazy and don't like having to travel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we tend to not meet peeps who we might bump into in the local tesco, i think you have to keep playing away from everyday life,

shame because its so easy to meet local couples,

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

We didnt think there would be many swingers local to us, but a quick search on the postcode search option of the browse menu soon put us right!

We dont meet local cos we live in a very small town, more like a village, and Jayne's job would be at risk if someone got a bit snotty for some reason and decided to "out" us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There does not seem to be anybody local to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can a hot swinging bi cpl move in next to us? please next doors is empty and we wont bite honest... helen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am afraid they are moving next to me to replace the idiots that livethere
"can a hot swinging bi cpl move in next to us? please next doors is empty and we wont bite honest... helen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I avoid peeps from the same towns where I live and work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 3 cpl playmates all within 2 miles of where I live BUT they know if I ever "bumped" into them while in Tesco's they would get nothing but 100% courtesy from me.

Discretion is the key always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never meet anyone from the same town as me - its tiny everyone knows everyone and if things didnt go to well after the coffee things may come back and bite me on the butt!!

Shona

x x x

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

We will not meet people from are home town the nearest we will met 12 miles.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

We have always avoided playing close to home and its worked well for us, but as with most things on here......each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At one time if anyone was near me I never replied or would reply and say NO too near. Now ive met a bloke a few streets away we have met twice in about six months.... our paths NEVER cross and never will .... we move in totally different time zones and travel in different directions. If he lived on mars we could not be further apart. He and I do what we say on the can. Neither is a needy stalker. Guess it's WHO you elect to meet and not WHERE they live that matters.

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By *umcoveredpussyCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

claire met a bloke about 6 doors away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At one time if anyone was near me I never replied or would reply and say NO too near. Now ive met a bloke a few streets away we have met twice in about six months.... our paths NEVER cross and never will .... we move in totally different time zones and travel in different directions. If he lived on mars we could not be further apart. He and I do what we say on the can. Neither is a needy stalker. Guess it's WHO you elect to meet and not WHERE they live that matters. "

Only if nothing changes

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We not played with people to close to home, put have gone to the doctors and seen two couples, that was a bit scary at first that shock of seeing two couples you know sitting in the waiting room.

But we had only been swinging for a couple of months.

Have people come into work that i know swing, some juast smile while others have full conversation and you just hope no one else listening in on it.

Must get a new job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We bumped into Son's best mates dad at a club last year,didnt bother us but did him as he had left his wife at home and she obviously didnt know he was at a swingers club,everytime i see him he goes red.

If we saw anyone we knew at a club meet ect again,we wouldnt have a problem with it and most of our meets are with local people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

local is great...always on hand, never too far to travel...its fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The distance has to be greater if you're married. 5 miles would seem safe for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For most of us if you are married then the distance is not the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bumped into my boss in the foyer at chameleons on Monday evening. It was a surreal moment we just said hello like we would at work. It was only as I was getting changed that the bizarreness hit me. I left the company not long afterwards (amicably). We sometimes discussed work in the club but never vice versa!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're hoping our new next door neighbours play, they move in inna a few weeks time.... we can live in hope !! lol, you never know we may come home to find them in our tub one night pmsl

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