FabSwingers.com forum: Genuinely curious…

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m surprised by how many people make it blatantly clear they’ve not read my profile before messaging. For me, i can’t understand why you wouldn’t read the profile before deciding to message someone.

So, what I’m asking is:

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

We always read the whole profile before messaging.

We expect people to read ours as theres a lot in there and a lot of general questions answered.

Its frustrating to get messages we have already answered in our profile.

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
over a year ago

Hull

Personally I always read the profile, there is usually information you need to a least write a message. Even in yours miss D....

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By *a_fun_30_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We always read the profile before we message. We can’t decide if we even want to message if we haven’t read it. That said, definitely feel your pain. Of the 50+ messages we’ve received today I’d say over 40 of them haven’t actually read our profile.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

There’s only one reason I might not read a profile first - and that’s if I’m directly replying to a forum post for daft reasons that don’t need me to even know who the person is. Forum games etc. (To be honest, even then I’ll usually take a look though.)

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We would always read the profile before messaging. It would have to be like War and Peace for us to consider not going through it all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It just baffles me. People get arsey cause you’ve not replied when they’ve literally either done everything you’ve said you don’t want and won’t respond to, or they’ve not done anything you’ve said you require.

For example, without a face pic in that opening message, I won’t reply. I know not everyone wants to send one straight away, but if that’s the case, just don’t message me.

Or another example: I’ve stated i don’t do last minute meets so I won’t respond to “fancy a meet”. Then I get 20 messages a day saying “fancy a meet”.

So confusing!

But I get what you’re saying about forum game things, that’s different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m going to send a message to someone after coming across their profile I will always read the profile first, as it’s not only embarrassing To find out they only want 8” upwards bbc but it’s also a waste of time lol

I only have a 9” white one hahhaha I wish

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By *a_fun_30_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"It just baffles me. People get arsey cause you’ve not replied when they’ve literally either done everything you’ve said you don’t want and won’t respond to, or they’ve not done anything you’ve said you require.

For example, without a face pic in that opening message, I won’t reply. I know not everyone wants to send one straight away, but if that’s the case, just don’t message me.

Or another example: I’ve stated i don’t do last minute meets so I won’t respond to “fancy a meet”. Then I get 20 messages a day saying “fancy a meet”.

So confusing!

But I get what you’re saying about forum game things, that’s different "

Can only assume with things like that it’s either complete laziness or they’re playing a numbers game and hoping if they send out 100 messages, 1 might respond. If you throw enough shit some of it will eventually stick

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

For example, without a face pic in that opening message, I won’t reply. I know not everyone wants to send one straight away, but if that’s the case, just don’t message me.

Or another example: I’ve stated i don’t do last minute meets so I won’t respond to “fancy a meet”. Then I get 20 messages a day saying “fancy a meet”.

So confusing!

But I get what you’re saying about forum game things, that’s different "

We feel your pain.

We have specifically said ....cant meet at short notice yet we get message after message asking...."free now" so frustrating.

We do reply to all but some replies are short and abrupt.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Hell, I’ve had conversations lasting weeks before suddenly being told they didn’t realise I was married.

C’mon, it’s right there at the top of my profile. Make an effort.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Can’t fathom sending a message without reading the profile first, personally.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

"I’m surprised by how many people make it blatantly clear they’ve not read my profile before messaging. For me, i can’t understand why you wouldn’t read the profile before deciding to message someone.

So, what I’m asking is:

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

Always view images and profiles before I message anyone. I like to try and get a feel for an individual.

I suspect many will just view an image and message on the back of that with given the profile text any thought. That is a male type of response purely because they are physical and like images as opposed to women who are more emotional and wish to be more connected through profile text.

A profile really needs both to grab everyone's attention.

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By *atience178Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

Happens all the time. Usually they have just searched for who is online and just sent a copy and paste mail to all of them. It’s just a numbers game. Hopefully 1/30 might reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time. Usually they have just searched for who is online and just sent a copy and paste mail to all of them. It’s just a numbers game. Hopefully 1/30 might reply. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience there's two types of people on here. One who doesn't read it at all and the other who does read it but tries their luck anyway. It baffles me why someone would waste their time messaging someone who clearly has no interest in meeting anyone but that's fab! I'm very much in the same mind set now, if they can't be arsed to read it then I can't be arsed to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'll always read a whole profile to see if we're a match for someone.

Our profile clearly states we're not meeting and also that we don't live in the UK anymore but we still get a couple of messages a week asking if we'd like to meet up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

1 more often than not, no.

2. Because I’m more social than trying to get into your knicker. So as I’m

More like to talk to you from the forum, I’ll probably be sending you a Dm about something you posted. Why would I need to know you only like BBC to talk about your post? (Just an example)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From my experience there's two types of people on here. One who doesn't read it at all and the other who does read it but tries their luck anyway. It baffles me why someone would waste their time messaging someone who clearly has no interest in meeting anyone but that's fab! I'm very much in the same mind set now, if they can't be arsed to read it then I can't be arsed to reply."

It baffles me why we even bother popping text in our profiles at all.

Womens are ignored. And men send the first messages anyway.

You were generalising so I thought I’d join in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm terrible for reading profiles.

If you have a nice pic and a funny message and I'm in a sociable mood I'll reply. We could get about 20 messages in before I eventually read it and I see something that puts me off!

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

We always read their profile before messaging. Saves so much time wasting back and forth

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By *im67Man
over a year ago

London

So, what I’m asking is:

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

I always read the profiles but I got friendly with a couple while ago and after chatting for a bit I asked if they like some phone sex fun .The hubby wasn't too pleased until I pointed out it was in their list of interests and apologised for being a bit blunt with me and removed it from the list of interests

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

I always check profiles and click a few pics.

Learning a little about the people before messaging and being realistic about how your profiles match reduces the rejection and saves pissing people off.

Sadly many just seem to send of random messages to anyone.

The worst ones wont accept a polite rejection.

It is also true some profiles invite the wrong responses because of how they are worded.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Absolutely read the whole profile, we don't want to waste ours or anyone else's time!

If we initiate the conversation, we'll attach a face pic of us both for the exact same reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the profile. Some guys read profiles.

Many just browse pictures and the. Shoot they're shot. It is frustrating but also, s out the lazy. If they're to lazy to spend 2 minutes ready a profile, I assume they're lazy in bed

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I read profiles before I message and I read profiles before I answer any new message as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh a lot of profiles are as informative as a postage stamp, accompanied by 47 dick pics and a list of interests which may as well be the pornhub category list.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We’ll always read it in its entirety.

Only way to understand the person/people behind the profile.

A lot can be learnt from what’s in or not in a profile

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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago

SF, NY, London (in that order)

Read in it's entirety. And we hope others do the same for us too.

Many don't sadly, which leads to some frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh a lot of profiles are as informative as a postage stamp, accompanied by 47 dick pics and a list of interests which may as well be the pornhub category list.

Good point. Probably why so many men still message me when I have just a dot as profile text and 1 pic. Even though my profile clearly states gay and not looking for anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the whole profile, but then usually end up not messaging because there's something that suggests they wouldn't be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always read the WHOLE profile! Hate it when people skim read or don’t bother at all, it’s so obvious when they message us asking for something we specifically say we don’t do on our profile

The fun of fab though right?!

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I would like to know that too.

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

We always read profiles of potential people as our minds need stimulating first then it's easier to be objective about the attraction levels as if there's no sparks there's no point

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Tbh a lot of profiles are as informative as a postage stamp, accompanied by 47 dick pics and a list of interests which may as well be the pornhub category list.

Good point. Probably why so many men still message me when I have just a dot as profile text and 1 pic. Even though my profile clearly states gay and not looking for anyone."

Just goes to prove....

Some folks can't resist a challenge lol

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

When they don't read the looking for bit & still message you really f+=:s us off. Usually has us reaching for the block button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbh a lot of profiles are as informative as a postage stamp, accompanied by 47 dick pics and a list of interests which may as well be the pornhub category list.

Good point. Probably why so many men still message me when I have just a dot as profile text and 1 pic. Even though my profile clearly states gay and not looking for anyone.

Just goes to prove....

Some folks can't resist a challenge lol

Good point. I should take it as a compliment.

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

We read the profile, saves time messaging I they don't have same interests or just read not to our liking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a man is there actually a profile is it not just pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do read them. Usually clear it’s not worth messaging or simply can’t.

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Always read the profile, then decide if I'm going to message or not.

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By *entlemanPMan
over a year ago

Grantham

I always read the profile as otherwise you could be wasting each others time. I'd rather send 3 good considered messages to people I like and feel I may have a connection with than 30 random 1 liners that nobody wants and don't deserve a reply.

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We think some just look at pictures and get horny and want to fuck you so they just message without reading the profile.

Also if the profile has large amount of text people struggle to read through or can't be bother to read through.

We like the profiles with lots detailed text as it makes it easier for us to compose a message to them, because we get a glimpse of what the personality is like

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By *wistedsoul35Man
over a year ago

cumbria

I usually have a read as it gives some kind of talking point, rather than just a random message about nothing. And that you've taken the time to learn as much (as you can from a little bio) about the people you are hoping to talk with.

Now as I say this, I really need to put more in my profile so people have a reason to message me.... Yeah I'm gonna go with that as the reason I don't get many messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely read the whole profile, we don't want to waste ours or anyone else's time!

If we initiate the conversation, we'll attach a face pic of us both for the exact same reason."

I love your profile. Yes had a snoop. Just how one should be written x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We always read profiles in full, and we’d hope people read ours too. If you are genuine about meets, it seems essential.

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I see tits and message. 100% success rate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, what I’m asking is:

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

Miss delight

I will always read a profile

After all want to make sure that you are a match before you start chatting to save being disappointed

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I always read the profile before messaging. Almost nobody reads mine. Their message will have absolutely nothing to do with my interests.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

We always read profiles and its gets frustrating that others don't.

I, vix, get messages from men asking to be my sub... I usually don't bother replying when it's obvious they've not read it at all x

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

I always read them. But then I can read so that makes sense to me

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Like others I'll always read someone's profile,I get frustrated when people clearly don't read mine & are then surprised when they find I'm half a couple or are shocked when I just delete them as it's obvious they've not read a bit of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I like to see what they’re about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always read a profile, it let's us know if they will potentially be compatible or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles because a) I want to be interested in anyone I play with, even casually, and b) I am rubbish at random small talk, I am much better at responding to specific things in someone's profile than at generic openers.

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By *b72Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

I regularly don't message people because I'm a smoker (giving up in the new year) . It's just polite to check. Take the op for example, she does but she's also miles away so there is no point, unless I'm coming to Cardiff again

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

"We always read profiles in full, and we’d hope people read ours too. If you are genuine about meets, it seems essential."

And yet they still don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before anyone asks, it wasn’t me

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

So, what I’m asking is:

1) do you read someone’s whole profile before messaging

2) if you don’t, why not?

Just curious

Most guys never make it past the pics if titsbor pussy are on show lol.

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

I always read a profile before messaging although some profiles lack a lot of context so they’re not really useful in making a choice.

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By *anielpiercedMan
over a year ago

by the seaside

In order I look to see if they're seeking single men, then check I'm in age range then read whole profile to get a feel for what they're like. So yes I always read full profiles.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

"Tbh a lot of profiles are as informative as a postage stamp, accompanied by 47 dick pics and a list of interests which may as well be the pornhub category list.

Good point. Probably why so many men still message me when I have just a dot as profile text and 1 pic. Even though my profile clearly states gay and not looking for anyone."

You eat and take photos of butterflies? That's just wrong

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By *lephantisMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I always read profiles. It's why I almost never message anyone.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

1) yes

2) n/a

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