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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Have a look at some social events or club nights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try sending dic pics telling them how you fancy smashing their back doors in while hanging out the boot of your Ford Sierra

If no reply within 30 seconds send a abusive message telling them what they are missing out on

Before you know it you will be mass deleting messages

I am glad I could help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, that’s a good idea!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hahha brute force might work

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

How do you approach women outside of fab? It's not an awful lot different. Send a message introducing yourself, possibly mention something about their profile you liked.

Do you approach women in bars with your cock out? Have a think about how that might come across

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you approach women outside of fab? It's not an awful lot different. Send a message introducing yourself, possibly mention something about their profile you liked.

Do you approach women in bars with your cock out? Have a think about how that might come across "

This made me giggle!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the nearest cash point withdraw 80 quid, head to the nearest club as advised, be mindful its no different from this site other than the membership is a tad more than here but 80 quid should cover it.

If the club is not to your liking, go back to the cash point withdraw 80 quid ..................

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

We talk to so many tyre kickers, I think events and clubs are the way ahead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly, that is so true! Thank you for your advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking that way, I’m just more of a shy guy haha

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

If I got a message from you, ignoring factors like distance, the profile pic would make it an instant no thanks from me. The Sydney University nonsense on the profile would also be an instant no from me.

But everyone is different.

Clubs are by far the best way to get into swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you approach women outside of fab? It's not an awful lot different. Send a message introducing yourself, possibly mention something about their profile you liked.

Do you approach women in bars with your cock out? Have a think about how that might come across "

To be fair I have just done a search of single ladies in my locale and over half have their breasts on show?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So take out the Sydney thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some better photos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you approach women outside of fab? It's not an awful lot different. Send a message introducing yourself, possibly mention something about their profile you liked.

Do you approach women in bars with your cock out? Have a think about how that might come across "
. You truly are a nice couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I got a message from you, ignoring factors like distance, the profile pic would make it an instant no thanks from me. The Sydney University nonsense on the profile would also be an instant no from me.

But everyone is different.

Clubs are by far the best way to get into swinging."

Just as an aside all legal disclaimers I have read on this site are total nonsense.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

my advice would be to work on your profile content,

especially the photographs.

There are so many men here chasing so few meets you need to make it work better for you.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compare your profile to the profiles of some more successful men on here.

How much more attention should you then expect?

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


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Clubs are by far the best way to get into swinging."

Depends on peoples social skills.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compare your profile to the profiles of some more successful men on here.

How much more attention should you then expect? "

Define successful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compare your profile to the profiles of some more successful men on here.

How much more attention should you then expect?

Define successful?"

Men that have lots of verifications are orwsumably getting lots of meets and so that could be used as a definition of successful on Fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks "

As a single guy you could have the best profile and the best message and still not get anywhere cos of the sheer amount of single men on here wanting it. It’s just a numbers game. Just send a respectful message and have a profile pic that isnt a dick pic

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

The braggery on the profile would make it an instant no from us.

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By *ad_buddiesCouple
over a year ago

London

Well you do have one verification, so have made a start.

Avoid approaching people like the d*unk arsehole found in every pub.

Be respectful, don't assume, and if the messages don't click, wish them well on their search.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks "
your profile is all about sex approach it differently you may get a meet

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By *lJay82Man
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"Hahha brute force might work"

I'm pretty sure thats an illegal act that sounds like pape and really not something to ever suggest

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland


"Hahha brute force might work

I'm pretty sure thats an illegal act that sounds like pape and really not something to ever suggest "

Calm yourself, Karen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing as there is a forum for the solitary topic of Covid it would be a good idea for Fab to introduce a “Woe is me” forum for all the blokes who post “woe is me” threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol I know right it was a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I know right it was a joke "

If you tap ‘reply+quote’ people know who you’re responding to x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks "

If you're honest on your profile, genuinley single, can do planned or last minute meets, can travel or accom in your own smart clean home and send face pics, it's not difficult if you have some banter. Another tip if you can do all of the above, if you can travel or accom after last orders, you'll get plenty of offers on a fri and sat night. Attach your mobile number to message to, gives coulples and fems more confidence that you are all of the above

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire


"Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks

If you're honest on your profile, genuinley single, can do planned or last minute meets, can travel or accom in your own smart clean home and send face pics, it's not difficult if you have some banter. Another tip if you can do all of the above, if you can travel or accom after last orders, you'll get plenty of offers on a fri and sat night. Attach your mobile number to message to, gives coulples and fems more confidence that you are all of the above"

For us, attaching a phone number straight out is more of a red flag. Not saying it is definitively a red flag for all - but may be err on the side of caution before doing this. It doesn't instill more confidence than an actual attentive conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for tip off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol I know right it was a joke

If you tap ‘reply+quote’ people know who you’re responding to x"

Haha such a noob thanks

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Change the dick pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey all,

Hope all is good with everyone. Just wanted to ask for a few tips on how to approach people, finding it hard to get my fab life onto a kick start. Would appreciate a few pointers thanks "

Perhaps go out to pubs and or clubs and chat up ladies who you fancy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep the dick pic's buddy, but add some clothed pic's.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep the dick pic's buddy, but add some clothed pic's.

"

Thank you I’ll shall add some

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

it wont matter what advice people give you it will still be very very hard the problem is your one of many looking for one of the very few ...

100/200/or more men per one woman / couple thats just the numbers side of things take into account that alot of women and couples accounts are fake ie single men too the it gets even harder then take into account the other person/persons have to like whom they see and what that person is about..

also bare in mind your asking for advice from the forums and that a tiny tiny tiny part of fab most who use fab to play never go to the forums..

all you can do is be you but dont be under any illusion that its not going to be very hard for you ..

#justmyopinion

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By *lJay82Man
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"Hahha brute force might work

I'm pretty sure thats an illegal act that sounds like pape and really not something to ever suggest

Calm yourself, Karen. "

Karen?

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