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By *unCoupleSouthWest OP   Couple
over a year ago

South West

So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Yep. It is the fab law.

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By *itIrishCplCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

So frustrating when no pics of hubby on profile.

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By *hosewhomgonakedCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

We try to post male ones every so often, but since she's the 'hot' one, it's just easier to have nicer pics of her.

We do get that couples like to see us both tho as we prefer the same.

In general tho, since we mostly met single guys, it's her they are after anyway.

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Equal amounts on ours,if you are a couple that's how it should be surely Xx

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By *ARKblondeCouple
over a year ago

london


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard"

Irony?

1 out of 9 aint bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the fab law, especially when the only person interacting on fab is the male part of the couple.

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By *loydyMan
over a year ago

British

I think personally that it's the bloke not the wife who really wants another woman very selfish

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By *reamers13Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"So frustrating when no pics of hubby on profile. "

Yes agreed, we want to see both people in a couple and not just a dick pick of the guy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re more interested in meeting guys than couples so just have a few of me to show what she likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours a pretty even

Mrs C

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By *dnman500Man
over a year ago

London

When there’s few or no pictures of the male half it looks like there’s something to hide.

I wonder if often it’s because the guy isn’t as body confident?

Shots of the couple together should help shyness. They don’t need to be mid coitus to be sexy and show why the pair of you are a great package.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes it's standard. It's a good filter

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Doesn't the ratio of photos rather depend on what each couple is looking for?

If they're seeking couples to play with as a couple, then yes, there probably should be parity of pics showing both her and him...

....and similar if they're seeking a single female to play with both of them...

....but if they're mainly seeking singles solely to play with the female half, then photos of the male half really aren't necessary, surely?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Doesn't the ratio of photos rather depend on what each couple is looking for?

If they're seeking couples to play with as a couple, then yes, there probably should be parity of pics showing both her and him...

....and similar if they're seeking a single female to play with both of them...

....but if they're mainly seeking singles solely to play with the female half, then photos of the male half really aren't necessary, surely?"

Probably. As I said it filters out people who are looking for different things. If photos of the man aren't important to them for any reason it's a good indication that they won't be compatible with those of us they are important for

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

We were just talking about this last night, I guess it’s all about what the couple in question are looking for, hotwife/ cuck couples the female is the main attraction.

I don’t understand why a couple looking to meet other couples wouldn’t have a few pics of the male that are not just cock pics though

Jack

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard

Irony?

1 out of 9 aint bad "

Just noticed that now haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, fucking annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes would like to see the guy covered in spunk.. ( if that's his thing) just saying what people are thinking

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Lots more of mrs than me, but I’m always the one with my phone charged and ready, also lots of the dildo play pics and portrait nudes of mrs are done by her to send to me when I’m at sea

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By *inkerbell_and_dadbodCouple
over a year ago

London

We've gone pretty 50/50 with some of us together so everyone has a decent idea of what they're letting themselves in for!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are trying to attract people not put them off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think we have a good mix of both of us!

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

We try to balance best we can,I have 0 idea how to pose most of the time and she will admit herself she has moments of ideas but very few haha, but we think we have a decent balance to tease (we really hope haha).

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By *igDave8Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard"

Women are just more interesting to look at I fear. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are trying to attract people not put them off "

That’s really telling

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard

Women are just more interesting to look at I fear. X"

Not for other straight women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to think we have a pretty even balance

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Absolutely know we are guilty of this but, Them the rules!!!!

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

We try…..but Jeni is just a bigger pull than me!!

M

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By *RANDMRSJAECouple
over a year ago

chester

We actively meet single men so more of Mr isn’t really necessary.

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By *r_North-EastMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Does it matter if the bloke is hiding in the cupboard watching?

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By *igDave8Man
over a year ago

Tonbridge


"We actively meet single men so more of Mr isn’t really necessary. "

Nice to know….

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"Yes it's standard. It's a good filter"

Totally this

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We’re more interested in meeting guys than couples so just have a few of me to show what she likes. "

That's a rarity on here lol

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard"
Well to be fair you only have the 1 picture on public of the male ..

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We actively meet single men so more of Mr isn’t really necessary. "

Fairly local to me but I doubt you'd be interested

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We come as a pair there's only pics of us both.

I don't respond to couples with only the female pics as much as I enjoy the females I don't want blind date when I'm expected to be with the Mr too. I know I can ask but I don't want to just the say thanks but no thanks.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Same applies if the only photo is of his cock.

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

OP, you’re guilty of the unwritten FAB rules by the looks of it. Loads of pics of the woman in different poses and only one of the man with just a cock pic, like there’s no other pose they can do

We’ve got 250 pics on show and I must feature in at least 30% of them. C’s pics get more attention, and rightly so but we meet together and both want to play (except if C’s meeting a female) so it’s important that people can see pics of both.

It is a filter for us. We steer clear of couples profiles with just all woman’s pics as trying to get the man’s pics are impossible. If people want to make FAB hard for them then so be it and/or use the woman as bait then so be it but C needs to be attracted to both so we’d never meet a profile without seeing the man.

K

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By *unCoupleSouthWest OP   Couple
over a year ago

South West


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard

Irony?

1 out of 9 aint bad "

Yep that's a fair challenge. Will get some more on there!

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By *orridgeCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Torridge

Our pics are fairly evenly split between us but the wife’s pics are more popular

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard"

Here's the daily question, and now the daily answer: People post whatever photos they like and whatever works for them. If others don't like it, too bad. Move on to another profile that's more to your taste.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s often the man using his wife as bait. It’s a common dynamic that I’ve noticed. Regardless of if they’re looking for a man or a woman, it’ll always be pictures of mainly the wife.

I’ve even spoken to couples before where the husband refuses to send photos of himself and suggested I “wait and see” or only show photos of their body. Whilst happily flaunting everything of the mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s often the man using his wife as bait. It’s a common dynamic that I’ve noticed. Regardless of if they’re looking for a man or a woman, it’ll always be pictures of mainly the wife.

I’ve even spoken to couples before where the husband refuses to send photos of himself and suggested I “wait and see” or only show photos of their body. Whilst happily flaunting everything of the mrs "

This is why I won't bother asking for any, it's frustrating.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s often the man using his wife as bait. It’s a common dynamic that I’ve noticed. Regardless of if they’re looking for a man or a woman, it’ll always be pictures of mainly the wife.

I’ve even spoken to couples before where the husband refuses to send photos of himself and suggested I “wait and see” or only show photos of their body. Whilst happily flaunting everything of the mrs

This is why I won't bother asking for any, it's frustrating.

Mrs "

We always have nore on our private of both of us and are always willing to send

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"It’s often the man using his wife as bait. It’s a common dynamic that I’ve noticed. Regardless of if they’re looking for a man or a woman, it’ll always be pictures of mainly the wife.

I’ve even spoken to couples before where the husband refuses to send photos of himself and suggested I “wait and see” or only show photos of their body. Whilst happily flaunting everything of the mrs

This is why I won't bother asking for any, it's frustrating.

Mrs

We always have nore on our private of both of us and are always willing to send "

You've a good mix on your profile too

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think personally that it's the bloke not the wife who really wants another woman very selfish "

Yeah cos women just go along with what they’re told to

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

Especially bi couples, never any pics of the guys playing?

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By *eterinpantiesukMan
over a year ago

southam

it is so great to see a couple posting together especially if hubby is shy or not well endowed. If he enjoys showing off his wife to other men he should step up and pose with her

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By *ifewantsmore777Couple
over a year ago

North West


"We try to post male ones every so often, but since she's the 'hot' one, it's just easier to have nicer pics of her.

We do get that couples like to see us both tho as we prefer the same.

In general tho, since we mostly met single guys, it's her they are after anyway. "

I think this pretty much sums up our thoughts too. We’ve tried to add every now and then

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By *nnocent and RaunchyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester /London

We tried to have an equal amount but he keeps telling me my pics are better than his, even though he's not camera shy!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

As I, Mr don't play with others, we don't feel the need to post pics of me.

Plus it would be unfair on all of the other men on fab if we did

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By *haznsteCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We try to keep ours even

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Each couple has their own reasons, but unfortunately the most common one is that women are perceived as a sex bait to bring interest to the profile, and it’s never okay.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We have a fair amount of photos of the husband on ours but there’s still way more of me purely because he doesn’t take pics that often. I’m always sending him naughty photos when he’s working etc but he rarely sends me photos and when he does it’ll be a gym selfie or a dick pic which many on here find off putting and he says is boring.

We choose not to interact with people who have zero photos of the male on their profile because this shouldn’t be blind date and that’s our choice. We also choose to share the photos that we want to share on here which is also our choice. Some people won’t like that most of our photos are of me and want to see more of him, others will say we have plenty of photos of him. Some will say we should have dick pics as public (and some times we do!) and others will say they should be in friends only. Everyone is different and has different opinions. You don’t like it, there are plenty of other profiles for you to look at.

As a side note, there may be more pics of me than him but we are very even with our participation on here (other than the forum, that’s almost always me because he can’t be bothered!)

C x

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By *tarryeyes500Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Most of our pictures are of him or both of us, there isn't one of me on my own.

Mainly because we would like to meet a women or couple interested in him - doesn't stop the men/couples messaging expecting to meet just me though

T x

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By *lipandSlide777Couple
over a year ago

Bideford

Our profile is mainly both of us.

There are a few of just me .

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By *unCoupleSouthWest OP   Couple
over a year ago

South West


"As I, Mr don't play with others, we don't feel the need to post pics of me.

Plus it would be unfair on all of the other men on fab if we did "

Best answer so far ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve quite a few of hubby and as he’s the one taking the pictures… there’s more of me obviously

X

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Like a lot of other couples we have more of Mrs than Mr

but we do try to have some of Mr in there too

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We have a good mix of both but still a bit more of Mrs due to the variety of outfits/lingerie available to women.

Main thing is we think it should be mandatory that a couples profile pic should be of them together.

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By *anPsurreycoupleCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Don't think our profile is to bad and fair amount of both of us

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"We’ve quite a few of hubby and as he’s the one taking the pictures… there’s more of me obviously

X"

Orgasmaddicts, awesome pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve quite a few of hubby and as he’s the one taking the pictures… there’s more of me obviously

X

Orgasmaddicts, awesome pictures "

Thank you and happy new year x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"We’ve quite a few of hubby and as he’s the one taking the pictures… there’s more of me obviously

X"

A great selection of pics, and very stylish too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We’ve quite a few of hubby and as he’s the one taking the pictures… there’s more of me obviously

X

A great selection of pics, and very stylish too."

thank you. We truly appreciate positive feedback xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only post a few of him as we are a hotwife couple, although would love to find that elusive unicorn to change the dynamics x

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By *poolfunswingcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

There’s more photos of Mrs Lpool on our profile, but that’s because I (Mr) initiate taking photos more than she would. Also, our experience has found that it is her photos that draw more attention to our profile. Saying that though, there are a sufficient number of photos of myself on there so that couples can see what we are like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been pretty even matched from the offset. Usually put mine ie males picture as profile when using the forum as I'm the only one of us that frequents this joint.

If we are going to put them off, best do it early

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Guilty of this 100%

Mr has identifiable tattoos and also a job where it’s better to keep them set to friends only for professional reasons.

We do have loads of us both on friends only if anyone is interested haha. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guilty of this 100%

Mr has identifiable tattoos and also a job where it’s better to keep them set to friends only for professional reasons.

We do have loads of us both on friends only if anyone is interested haha. X"

We've got quite good at airbrushing tattoos away ha ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guilty of this 100%

Mr has identifiable tattoos and also a job where it’s better to keep them set to friends only for professional reasons.

We do have loads of us both on friends only if anyone is interested haha. X"

^ professionals hehe

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands


"Like a lot of other couples we have more of Mrs than Mr

but we do try to have some of Mr in there too

"

We are exactly the same.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"

^ professionals hehe "

You got blocked months ago for unsolicited messages so nothing funny there.

To the poster above re: airbrushing, you can do that on small tattoos but it’s really difficult when you’re almost covered in them haha.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

^ professionals hehe

You got blocked months ago for unsolicited messages so nothing funny there.

To the poster above re: airbrushing, you can do that on small tattoos but it’s really difficult when you’re almost covered in them haha.

X "

Then yes, that could be quite hard ha ha.

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted.

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

I'm not as confident as her

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted. "

On one of those photos of MrP he looks a hell of a lot like me so maybe he will accidentally get me caught

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon


"

I wonder if often it’s because the guy isn’t as body confident?

"

That's probably the case with us if I'm honest.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So frustrating when no pics of hubby on profile. "

We agree very annoying especially as if going to meet want to see both parties to see attraction etc

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted.

On one of those photos of MrP he looks a hell of a lot like me so maybe he will accidentally get me caught "

*adds to hotlist immediately*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think ours are roughly mix of us both

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By *ravefuncplCouple
over a year ago

Durham/Newcastle

there is a couple of me on ours but i find Mrs K is definitely more photogenic

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border

We decided that as this is a couple's profile, all pictures should contain both of us.

Also, it gives me (Sean) a chance to show off about punching above my weight.

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted.

On one of those photos of MrP he looks a hell of a lot like me so maybe he will accidentally get me caught

*adds to hotlist immediately* "

Might have done the same

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Then yes, that could be quite hard ha ha. "

Inboxed you pics. You’ll understand haha.

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By *anilla-sinCouple
over a year ago

lancs

we have a good balance....

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By *d4funtimesMan
over a year ago

Cambridge


"we have a good balance...."

 _anilla-sin, beautiful pics to fab,

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By *S_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Near Leeds

Think that’s typically the case. She takes a better pic than me however we do try to have both in there. It annoys E when no pics of guys on profiles too to be fair. Need to see who we are chatting too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted. "

You have a public face pic.

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By *ngelLordCouple
over a year ago

Newport

We do have a few but mostly her as she looks way better

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Cos we're mainly looking for single men. As a Stag & Vixen we are after gb's and gg nights.

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By *peak and SpellCouple
over a year ago

Greenwich, SE LONDON

Mix of ours on our profile, but more of me as hubby is a better photographer

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I'd say we have about a 50/50 mix of individual photos and also a fair few of both of us together. We want people to see what we are both like as we like to see when we look at a profile.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"So many profiles with lots of pictures of ladies, but always rather limited of the guys. Is this standard"

All depends on play I guess.

Not all male halves play or even want to play

Some couples it’s just girl play

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

^ professionals hehe

You got blocked months ago for unsolicited messages so nothing funny there.

To the poster above re: airbrushing, you can do that on small tattoos but it’s really difficult when you’re almost covered in them haha.

X "

Yes and no.

I've a fair few and all custom so unique to me. Simple solution? You don't have to pose naked. Slightly harder solution? Airbrush out.

I really don't think it matters what job you do as it's ridiculously easy to post a photo that clearly shows body shape (what everyone wants to know really) whilst clothed/naked, from the neck down so you're 100% unidentifiable.

Nobody expects full face pics. Not everyone wants to see cocks. But since one person's definition of athletic/slim/average/large will differ from another's it's pretty important to show the physical stature of both parties in a couple. It saves playing message ping pong and then after interest is potentially established based on the looks of the female, some embarrassing backtracking or cutting conversations dead when photos are finally shared of the guy and it becomes clear all interest has gone.

Unless he isn't getting physically involved of course. But those are much rarer situations.

Nobody ever takes one for the team. Unless they're daft or desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find the “he has a job so won’t post pics” thing very baffling.

Can you imagine if a couple had no pics of the female half, because she has a “professional” job?

I reckon there are plenty of couples where the woman has a “professional” job but she still features in pics.

The excuse also implies women don’t generally have “professional” jobs which, pardon my language, is retrograde BS. Do swingers live in a weird 1950s world where women don’t work?!?

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others. "

Absolutely. I just find the excuses odd. It’s not that he’s a professional, or that women are just “better looking”, or that no one wants to see a man, or that only his phone was charged on that day, or that he’s a “better photographer”. Just admit you don’t want to post pictures of the man.

I personally find it dispiriting, but I accept it’s their choice. But I also think it furthers untrue stereotypes that women are there to be looked at and no woman wants to look at a man (hi, straight women exist); or that it’s not a man’s job to be attractive (and as a result swinging is full of low effort, scraggy men who think they don’t need to bother); or that only men have “professional” jobs (loooooool).

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree "

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

Absolutely. I just find the excuses odd. It’s not that he’s a professional, or that women are just “better looking”, or that no one wants to see a man, or that only his phone was charged on that day, or that he’s a “better photographer”. Just admit you don’t want to post pictures of the man.

I personally find it dispiriting, but I accept it’s their choice. But I also think it furthers untrue stereotypes that women are there to be looked at and no woman wants to look at a man (hi, straight women exist); or that it’s not a man’s job to be attractive (and as a result swinging is full of low effort, scraggy men who think they don’t need to bother); or that only men have “professional” jobs (loooooool). "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

**Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A"

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A"

If that's the case why does the word 'should' occur so often in threads like this: "There should be more pictures of him", "if it's a couple there should be pictures of both of them"... etc, etc?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A

If that's the case why does the word 'should' occur so often in threads like this: "There should be more pictures of him", "if it's a couple there should be pictures of both of them"... etc, etc?"

Because that's simply someone expressing an opinion, not issuing an instruction.

It's all in how you read a sentence.

Personally I feel that couples should post pictures of them both. They're a couple after all. Whether one party plays and one watches, both get involved, they're looking for just single men or single women or whatever....they've chosen to set up a couples profile and will both be involved in any interactions with others. So why should one be effectively 'anonymous' and hidden from view - usually the male.

So I used the word 'should' as part of my personal belief. Not as a demand. Not as a statement of fact. Just my opinion.

Others will of course differ.

A

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A

If that's the case why does the word 'should' occur so often in threads like this: "There should be more pictures of him", "if it's a couple there should be pictures of both of them"... etc, etc?

Because that's simply someone expressing an opinion, not issuing an instruction.

It's all in how you read a sentence.

Personally I feel that couples should post pictures of them both. They're a couple after all. Whether one party plays and one watches, both get involved, they're looking for just single men or single women or whatever....they've chosen to set up a couples profile and will both be involved in any interactions with others. So why should one be effectively 'anonymous' and hidden from view - usually the male.

So I used the word 'should' as part of my personal belief. Not as a demand. Not as a statement of fact. Just my opinion.

Others will of course differ.

A"

Unfortunately the English language is what it is, not what you choose it to be:

Dictionary definition of 'should'

verb

used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.

"he should have been careful"

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I repeat my point. Everybody posts the pictures they want to post, and why shouldn't they? The surprising thing is that so many question their choice, and so many feel they have to justify their choice to others.

I agree

That's taken as said though surely? Of course people post what they want, much like they write what they want in profiles, forum posts and messages. Much like they decide on their own preferences and interests, and which segment of site users they look to meet and allow to message them via filters on gender and/or age.

Nobody is ever actually saying people can't do what they wish.

What people can do and are doing is asking questions to help understand what motivates people to do things. It's not unreasonable surely? Nobody has to answer or justify anything. But if they do it gives people insight, which doesn't require approval or acceptance, but offers their thoughts behind an action or belief.

Never ceases to amaze me that people can't see the difference between someone asking a question and someone demanding an explanation......

A

If that's the case why does the word 'should' occur so often in threads like this: "There should be more pictures of him", "if it's a couple there should be pictures of both of them"... etc, etc?

Because that's simply someone expressing an opinion, not issuing an instruction.

It's all in how you read a sentence.

Personally I feel that couples should post pictures of them both. They're a couple after all. Whether one party plays and one watches, both get involved, they're looking for just single men or single women or whatever....they've chosen to set up a couples profile and will both be involved in any interactions with others. So why should one be effectively 'anonymous' and hidden from view - usually the male.

So I used the word 'should' as part of my personal belief. Not as a demand. Not as a statement of fact. Just my opinion.

Others will of course differ.

A

Unfortunately the English language is what it is, not what you choose it to be:

Dictionary definition of 'should'

verb

used to indicate obligation, duty, or correctness, typically when criticizing someone's actions.

"he should have been careful""

Semantics.

Are you honestly saying that every poster should pre-warn any readers that any comments, remarks and opinions stated on a post are exclusively the view, opinion or belief of the person typing it, rather than fact, rule of law or 'the way everyone should behave' ?

Because I suspect most grown adults would realise that without there having to be a disclaimer posted each time anyone contributes to a forum thread.

It would make for seriously dull forum threads if every comment started with people having toi explain that they're just giving a personal opinion don't you think?

Besides......

As a modal verb it can also be used when something is either probable or possible.

So in no way restricted to 'obligation, duty or correctness'

"This should be interesting" - doesn't mean it will be.

"You should try this" - a suggestion, not an instruction.

"We should agree to disagree"........ doesn't mean we will or we won't - it's just a suggestion of course

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted.

You have a public face pic. "

I don't think anyone would recognise me from that photo to be fair

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I don't think anyone would recognise me from that photo to be fair "

I’m pretty good at recognising women by their arse on club nights

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By *tsalwaysthequietonesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs


"

I don't think anyone would recognise me from that photo to be fair

I’m pretty good at recognising women by their arse on club nights"

Mine would be hard to miss, it needs its own wide load sign

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness


"We have lots of both on our friends only but we're both quite large so it's hard to get classy and sexy photos of us neck down plus the whole thing about getting spotted.

You have a public face pic.

I don't think anyone would recognise me from that photo to be fair "

.

You guys take fab pics and MrsP looks fantastic in her sexy lingerie, so...

keep on taking as many neck down pics as you like, they are Hot!!!

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