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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Going by your pics your not fake to me. Beautiful. XXX

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Often happens to me after a couple of sentences. Appears some folk are literally boiling with rage all the time and all it takes is one wrong word to set them off. God help anyone sarcastic or satirical they’ll be straight to block!

I never see the point of being unpleasant on social media, you don’t know who you’re chatting to, you’ve probably taken their words out of context and why not give everyone the benefit of the doubt. And if they’re unpleasant…..walk away, it’s easy.

Happy New Year to all anyway xx

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"
awwww hey guys get that all the time, people just block us for no reason, it plays havoc with your thoughts omg our last veri was from 4 years ago, are we a couple, age range, compliments etc etc

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We have been called fake as well.

Try and work that out with all the pics we post and veris lol

If we are fake what is real?

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"We have been called fake as well.

Try and work that out with all the pics we post and veris lol

If we are fake what is real?"
exactly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Doesn't happen so much at the moment, but yeah, I'm accused of being fake with some regularity.

I'd fake something more glamorous than me, tbh.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We've been accused of being fakes OP, but only on here as its difficult to be fake in real life, not that we've tried. It's why we prefer clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get accused of being fake probably 50% of the times we say ‘no thanks’

Best not to pay much attention to such things x

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

Thanks for messages folks. It is a weird one. Obviously some fake profiles are pretty sophisticated but to have multiple photos from different locations of the same people (admittedly a lot more of Mrs B than me) and verifications displayed so you can follow up to see who they are and if they are real

All we did was pay her a compliment too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was accused of being fake and having 'porno pics' on my profile. I just took it as a compliment. Sadly they now keep getting reported and removed by fabadmin.

Somehow even though it haa been removed , it's stayed on as my display pic. Strange.

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Doesn't happen so much at the moment, but yeah, I'm accused of being fake with some regularity.

I'd fake something more glamorous than me, tbh. "

Never put yourself down, even tongue in cheek. We have never met but over the last couple of years I have witnessed your personality and whit across the forums. You rock!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was accused of being fake because the skin tone on my penis is darker than my body... I had to laugh really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They where prob fake themselves

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I have been called fake before as well. It's not a problem to be with you it's a problem to do with them.

They probably just was surprised that they were approached by a genuine couple and felt it couldn't actually be legitimate so decided you are fake.

There are of course quite a few fake couples and singles on here and they may have had a bad experience in the past that lead them to not be able to accept your message in the intent it was intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get accused of being fake because I don't want to meet them lol.

Don't sweat it honestly people are just strange on here. I also got accused of being a pic collector because I asked if he had one that he could send, after he messaged me.

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By *exleypeteMan
over a year ago

bexleyheath

Their loss

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

"

Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.

We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

OP - you have multiple verifications from people who have met others plus you have a party verification. You meet pretty much the gold standard for ‘real’ on Fab.

We’ve been called timewasters because we wouldn’t send a single guy a face pic after three messages. Fab is a zoo

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By *iss.ddWoman
over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

Tbh, if they looked solely at your pictures I could understand why they thought you were fake.

Not many people* have nice photos on a couple profile on here, and if they do they are quite often taken from Google.

Take it as a compliment!!

*Don't come for me, it's true but there are exceptions.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I think, their opinion is their problem. You know the truth, thatb is all that matters.

Him x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congrats OP, you are finally a Genuine Swinger! Got to be called a fake to join the club.

Maybe Fake is a new hip term for the young uns. It will be a compliment like spiffing or jolly good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It upset me the first time, they sent abusive messages said they were going to report my profile as fake.

Then I realised what a sad little person they were and not worth worrying about.

Plenty of people on here can vouch for me.

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By *uyForeLadiesMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Out of the blue a couple winked me yesterday. I went to look at their profile and they'd blocked me.

Go figure

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

They're just being rude as they been rejected. Your profile definitely doesn't look fake to me. Nor does mind because it isn't but i get accused alot being fake. Men asking me to prove it etc

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton

Lots of positive vibes in this thread. Thanks all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone on here could be fake ... I’ve spoke to loads .. arrange a meet then there gone

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Out of the blue a couple winked me yesterday. I went to look at their profile and they'd blocked me.

Go figure "

Changed their mind? It happens alot

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Anyone on here could be fake ... I’ve spoke to loads .. arrange a meet then there gone "

Again changed their minds. Doesn't mean they're fake. Even after meeting and having amazing sex, people can still change their mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it all the time... yesterday it was because I refused to give my number to a random stranger

It's how they handle rejection .. its sad really

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By *esthetic21Man
over a year ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Wouldn't lose any sleep over it

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"Going by your pics your not fake to me. Beautiful. XXX "

I guess they decided it was too good to be true.

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon

One couple accused us of lying about our ages saying we were a lot older than stated , they were adamant and acted like they were outing us.

If you can't say something nice just say nothing at all .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Doesn't happen so much at the moment, but yeah, I'm accused of being fake with some regularity.

I'd fake something more glamorous than me, tbh.

Never put yourself down, even tongue in cheek. We have never met but over the last couple of years I have witnessed your personality and whit across the forums. You rock!"

Thank you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't worry we're fake too apparently, didn't want to video call someone we weren't interested in meeting so we are fake

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

I think we get shelved a lot as we don’t do the whole speed dating right now meets, Mr is away with Merchant navy a lot and a bad last meet put us off for a spell when he was shore side last, I think that people that react poorly to genuine real life reasons for not playing are a blessing in disguise.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Never been accused of being a fake, but had pics declined but fab as apparently it wasn't me in the picture...... Apparently my bum is not mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned a guy down who then said that I probably didn't even exist (I checked with a quick look in the mirror and I'm pretty sure I do)....confusingly amusing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"

We got called fake because we wouldn’t chat via Kik, despite having two green ticks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.

Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Fake or not there is no need for them to come back with attitude. They should have said thank you for the reply and leave it at that.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

amazing what others think once told no thanks or zero interest

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare


"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.

Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx"
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Cheers for the fans guys, would return them if we could

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Someone just told me he was grumpy, I told him not to worry, the other 6 dwarfs would arrive shortly.

He told me I should try harder and then I'd get a shag then blocked me...bless his little heart

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield


"He told me I should try harder and then I'd get a shag then blocked me...bless his little heart "

The rejected narcissist

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are loads of fakes on here but the OPs profile doesn't look fake to us, although the lack of a recent veri would raise a slight question mark.

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire


"amazing what others think once told no thanks or zero interest"

There's a difference to being told no thanks you're not for us as apposed to being accused of something and being blocked tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.

Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx.

Cheers for the fans guys, would return them if we could "

You’re very welcome - lovely pics especially the one of you two together clothed xx

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

I was accused of being an old man trying to hook up with young lads!

When nastiness is someones best line of defence, they've done you a favour by showing their true colours early on.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"

We've been called fakes only from people we don't accept as friends.

Our rule is, if we haven't met, we don't do friends request.

We always respond to requests with a message explaining our reason.

TBF it's only couples who complain, never a single guy, they tend to take it in good grace.

Best just move on, no loss.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I was accused of being an old man trying to hook up with young lads!

When nastiness is someones best line of defence, they've done you a favour by showing their true colours early on.

"

Tragic.

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints"

We have had a specific email address for swinging since we started out on this together over 15 years ago. We watermark our pictures with it to help stop fakes stealing and using them (they still can but it helps).

The long profile text may grate you but that is a totally different topic and I don’t really understand how that could be construed as fake?

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare


"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints

We have had a specific email address for swinging since we started out on this together over 15 years ago. We watermark our pictures with it to help stop fakes stealing and using them (they still can but it helps).

The long profile text may grate you but that is a totally different topic and I don’t really understand how that could be construed as fake?"

We also have a specific email for swinging, we’ve been meaning to watermark all our pics with it l, soooo much fabmin

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints"

I have a swinging email address. Occasionally it's useful

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"OP - we can totally empathise. We’ve had it more than once, usually because we won’t give out Smoke’s personal number so the “lady” or “couple” can speak to her to prove she exists. Our attitude is that we’ve got now (and have had in the past) enough verifications by meeting in person to attest to the fact that we’re real. We’re always open about the fact that we’re in a long distance relationship as well, so more often that not it’s either me, or her, on here alone. We just find it laughable.

Plus - if you two are fake…… we don’t wanna be real xx"

awww thanks

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.

We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people! "

This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.

That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.

I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.

Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.

The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.

Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"To be honest, I don't doubt that the OP is fake, however there are some clues that may make others believe think why others may think so.. such as why does the pics have email addresses on them? In a lifestyle where people wanna hide their world outside fab, it does raise questions although to each their own really, put whatever you like is my answer. Only thing that grates me is the very longwinded list of things they may or may not be looking for. I get it's nice to be specific but not everyone has time for combing though legal reading and small prints

I have a swinging email address. Occasionally it's useful "

We also have a separate phone (burner lol) just for swinging.

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

We got a msg this morning saying “ sorry your a fake “ wtf ! Must be post Boxing Day blues for some today lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We choose not to share our veris, we've had creepy people message us before asking for info on previous meets. Doesn't mean we can't prove to others though that we are real. We can turn our verification summary on when asked or verify in other ways.

A good starting point though is being photo verified. Admittedly OP, I'd self question why your last veris are dated and your not photo verifed.

But I wouldn't assume your fake though. I would however be alittle reluctant to add as friends etc without confirming your still a couple.

(so many couples on fab split up and single guys keep the profiles running...)

Xxx

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.

We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!

This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.

That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.

I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.

Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.

The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.

Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression "

Good post and so true

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.

We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!

This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.

That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.

I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.

Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.

The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.

Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression "

As it's usually men message me, i get alot of angry men who don't like rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how these type of accusations feel and they do knock your confidence for a while, but if that's your only negative negative comment then I don't think you've anything to fret over. Just try and brush it off and get back into the swing of things. Personally, I get negative comments sometimes, but thatnkfully not too often. The last was concerning the fact I don't travel. A woman I was chatting to basically told me she supected I was a fake and timewaster because my profile said I didn't travel but I suggested to her we meet in Chester, which is a very short, cheap train journey for me. I never got the opportunity to tell her there's a difference in saying I don't travel and travelling the mere 10-12 miles into Chester.

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"We choose not to share our veris, we've had creepy people message us before asking for info on previous meets. Doesn't mean we can't prove to others though that we are real. We can turn our verification summary on when asked or verify in other ways.

A good starting point though is being photo verified. Admittedly OP, I'd self question why your last veris are dated and your not photo verifed.

But I wouldn't assume your fake though. I would however be alittle reluctant to add as friends etc without confirming your still a couple.

(so many couples on fab split up and single guys keep the profiles running...)

Xxx"

Very good point! We had forgotten about the photo verified thing! Guess we thought multiple veris covered it.

More recent veris needed too (just need to start meeting again).

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Don't get upset. I've been called a tease, a fake and other nonsense on here. It's one person that didn't appreciate your message, we don't know their backstory. It's their issue and not yours.

Thanks. It isn’t really that we are upset more that we are confused. We don’t take offence as that would be hypocritical. We don’t expect to be everyone’s cup of tea and not everyone is ours. However, we are always flattered by anyone’s interest (if they send respectful messages) and will always decline politely.

We didn’t even ask to meet or be “friends” (that old chestnut to see more pics). We simply paid a compliment. Yes we liked her and would have liked to meet but Mr B was over her limit and we respect that. Just seems like you can’t even be nice to people!

This is the problem these days...some people love to be offended and angry at everything or everyone. Glance in their direction, say "good morning", or try to be nice in any way, shape or form and you're their focus of anger-fuelled attention.

That "person" was probably fake, has issues or just clearly isn't suitable for a social site of any description.

I wouldn't even try to work out what makes some people tick...."the abyss" springs to mind.

Thankfully, most people on Fab seem to be decent and friendly (with the odd exception being overly angry and aggressive profiles). I understand that some users are sick of certain types pestering them, but then their "defence mode" profile makes them appear aggressive, which puts others off.

The kick of the pants is that in some cases, they might be the complete opposite, but the projected image has given the completely wrong impression.

Anyway, slightly off the main subject there, but it was a natural progression

As it's usually men message me, i get alot of angry men who don't like rejection"

Yes, I get that...and if you've let them down politely, they have a serious problem.

I get that they can be pissed off if someone's been nasty with their rejection (another group of people with serious issues).

It would be nice if everyone respected each other and behaved politely towards everyone else on here.

Unfortunately (and in reality) the nature of the beast means that we're never going to have that.

Still, if the majority behave in a respectful and polite manner, hopefully those others will give up and go away.

Until the next bunch join...

The never ending storyyyyyy....

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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago

East Devon & London

At least you received a reply!

We’ve been on the scene a while too and whilst Fab has always been a broad church we’re always surprised when a well meaning message is ignored or not replied to with engagement. In your case perhaps she just found you too perfect to be believable!

That’s why we just focus on club night these days, at least we can’t be accused of being fakes stood in front of them!

Good luck!

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

But to be honest, do we care?

Not in the slightest.

It's a swingers site on social media, a tiny little piece of our lives and a very private piece at that.

If someone messages us and say "you're fakes", who cares.

We know we are a genuine couple and don't care if others think we are fakes as the chances of meeting these people are almost nil.

Of all the social media sites we visit, this is by far the most catty, most angry, most angst ridden, but we've met the most lovely people too, but its a site of many parts.

We are delighted when folks block us as it saves time and effort.

If we block folks it's not any reflection on them, it's just for one reason or another we will never meet.

Paul finds it funny when we get a nasty mail or accusations of being fake, I not so much.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"But to be honest, do we care?

Not in the slightest.

It's a swingers site on social media, a tiny little piece of our lives and a very private piece at that.

If someone messages us and say "you're fakes", who cares.

We know we are a genuine couple and don't care if others think we are fakes as the chances of meeting these people are almost nil.

Of all the social media sites we visit, this is by far the most catty, most angry, most angst ridden, but we've met the most lovely people too, but its a site of many parts.

We are delighted when folks block us as it saves time and effort.

If we block folks it's not any reflection on them, it's just for one reason or another we will never meet.

Paul finds it funny when we get a nasty mail or accusations of being fake, I not so much.

"

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Did you bruise someone’s ego? I’m often accused of being fake or called names when I say ‘no’ to someone.

People can’t take it when you turn them down and then they just turn nasty.

Personally, I think you’ve got a great profile, fabulous pics and totally understand why you’ve no verifications since 2019.

Block them and move on. Hope you have a fantastic 2023 when it comes.

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton

We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us.

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us. "

Probably a silly teenage boy with a false profile, wanking off to profiles in his bedroom...then reacting that way when faced with reality (in your case, a genuine compliment).

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

nuneaton


"We got called fake by a single guy last night, he messaged and paid L a compliment, we replied with a thank you. His next message baffled us. He said you do know I’m straight you’re obviously just a bender and not a real couple. Wow that was definitely a new one for us.

Probably a silly teenage boy with a false profile, wanking off to profiles in his bedroom...then reacting that way when faced with reality (in your case, a genuine compliment)."

Definitely a strange one , but provided us with a little giggle. blocked and moved on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeh 100% , its obvious, i mean couldnt get a more blatantly fake profile if you tried. Come on guys if you going to fake it try a bit harder

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters."
I guess it's being accused of something you're not. In this case, it shouldn't matter but it still hurts them.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I get accused of being fake if I decline to reply/ engage in convo/ meet that person.

It bothers me not one jot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"

We’ve had the same a while ago , funny game this swinging thingy

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?"

We have had the same also, just because we wont meet on a weekday night at 11pm with no notice. Some people don't realise some of us have to work! xx

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By *irldn OP   Couple
over a year ago

Brighton


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters."

“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.

“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird!"
its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Mr B has been swinging since 1999 and Mrs B has been swinging since 2005. The vast majority of people we have met and played with were at parties and clubs rather than through websites. However, on the websites, apart from a few people who didn’t take polite rejection well, we have never been told we were fake...until today.

We sent what we thought was a nice (certainly polite) message to a single woman. Mr B was out of her age range so we didn’t ask to meet we simply paid her a compliment and wished her a happy new year.

We were surprised to get a message back almost instantly but all it said was “fake” and we were blocked.

This has never happened before and we are a bit confused.

Our best guess is that our newest verification is from 2019. There is a good reason for that...we stopped playing due to a global pandemic and we have yet to get back into the swing of things because of life stuff!

I guess the only way around that is to start playing again (though being thought of as fake may hamper that lol).

Anyone else got some odd stories or catch 22 situations?

We have had the same also, just because we wont meet on a weekday night at 11pm with no notice. Some people don't realise some of us have to work! xx"

You mean you won't disturb your personal life and family commitments at the 11th hour, then go to work looking and feeling like extras from "The Walking Dead", just to satisfy the whims of someone who may or may not be genuine?

Why, how rude and inconsiderate of you

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.

“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake "

I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again

In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.

“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake

I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again

In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't "
I don't... it made me laugh to be called a fake.. especially when I've been the first face many have been introduced to at clubs and events across the decades.

And I hope I stop feeling like this soon xx

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley


"Why does being called fake bother you? If you know you are genuine, that’s all that ever matters.

“Bother us” is probably too strong. More than anything it confused us. We weren’t even asking to meet, just paying a compliment. Just made us wonder if we are thought of as fake. It was weird! its okay I'm apparently a fake too ... as not meeting at the moment due to a multitude of personal reasons ( not least I'm feeling about as sexy as a wet blanket) and that apparently makes me a fake

I hope those personal reasons get resolved soon, and you feel sexy again

In the meantime, don't worry about the opinions of rude, inconsiderate people....I'm sure you don't I don't... it made me laugh to be called a fake.. especially when I've been the first face many have been introduced to at clubs and events across the decades.

And I hope I stop feeling like this soon xx"

Xx

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