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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

Your not odd your not weird there is a time and a place for that sort of thing preferably when you are " in the mood " if that makes sence

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

That sounds pretty normal to me (and I'm the bloke). It's often hard to get a normal conversation going and anything sexual tends to lead to pressure to meet up... which we do sometimes but not very often.

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By *mber and FireCouple
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

We get the same experiences. Honestly, though we've had some lovely couples message us, the worst messages we've had have come from couples, or specifically the guy in the couple.

It *always* turns to sex chat quick, and a focus on wanting a quick meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male dominated platform unfortunately. I find it helpful to establish which half of the couple you are speaking to (& if the other half is aware!) As early as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys are so crude it would put anyone off , but not all guys are like that

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Sounds like you’d be better suited to single ladies rather than couples to be fair.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "

Omg this could have been written by me !

I hate the chat , it bores me so so much

I don’t find it sexy talking about what we are going to do , what I’m expected to do or what I expect them to do

I have found in my 9 years of being on here very often what they are saying will happen is hyped up more than they deliver lol

I think this is why I prefer the clubs. Don’t talk the talk just come to a club and let’s see if we have that sexual attraction in person

So no , you def aren’t alone I’m with you 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not strange at all - I was exactly the same when part of a couple on here. And I totally get what you mean about the male half of the other couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for guys, that’s why male photos are friends only but we get so many but worth it if/when you find a decent one but it’s nearly a full time admin job! People think as you’re on here you want sex 24/7!

We’ve had couples message and even says on our profile social only as K doesn’t play and surprised how many couples still go on about “seeing what happens” or “lead to play”

Point is there’s a lot of bad accounts whatever but worth it when you find a good one, just depends how much you can tolerate til then.

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

Well the old saying, "the more they are talking about it, the less they are doing it" comes to mind.

From a now single male perspective, the more sex chat, the less genuine seems reasonably accurate.

I find a more flirtatious and teasing conversation with a few likes, dislikes and fantasy ideas discussed seems to result in more fun.

A porn script and an avalanche of graphic pics is quite often all a bit too much.

So no, you are not in the least bit weird. Unless I am too.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Not not all all

If someone was sending me filthy messages if I was at a match or when I was at work. It would be nice but not turned on

If they sent in me at say 9pm at night and I was doing Nothing then of course

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks all that's made me feel a little better, I'm glad it's not just me!

I think club/social meets maybe the way forward

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

"

I can handle a little sex talk and love a flirt, but from who we've chatted to couple wise it's not a little it's constant, I just want to reply f-off I'm trying to work/housework/sort kids, I just end up ignoring them. It is always the male half and constant, I mean a little mixed in with normal chat would probably be ok, but it just seems like everything at any moment should revolve around his cock and it's boring plus a huge turn off for me anyway.

It's kinda like if when we met you at the social there was no hi, what's your fab name etc..... you just opened your zip whacked it out and said "what you want to do with this" that's basically how I'm finding fab messages.

Mrs

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I hate sex talk on fab. I haven't even met you or even know whether I'm sexually interested in you and you go off on this magical fantasy world what you want to do in bed with me! To me it's illogical. I don't mind people saying I enjoy BDSM, talking about it briefly as it's a genre. But to go into graphic detail straight away is too much. The irony of it, once I find someone I like and actually fucked, I love phone and video sex. Just annoying some people jump to 10th base without even consulting me first about it! Lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

From my experience, most men go on here to help them wank so they get carried away with the sex talk. I just can't entertain this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

I can handle a little sex talk and love a flirt, but from who we've chatted to couple wise it's not a little it's constant, I just want to reply f-off I'm trying to work/housework/sort kids, I just end up ignoring them. It is always the male half and constant, I mean a little mixed in with normal chat would probably be ok, but it just seems like everything at any moment should revolve around his cock and it's boring plus a huge turn off for me anyway.

It's kinda like if when we met you at the social there was no hi, what's your fab name etc..... you just opened your zip whacked it out and said "what you want to do with this" that's basically how I'm finding fab messages.

Mrs "

Some want that. Some don’t and want something more towards the social side (like you). Its just time.

If you want instant hookup and instant gratification, it doesn’t take long to find it.

If you want something more, it takes a little longer get.

It’s the same for singles too.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "

I don’t think we’ve ever talked sex mechanics with other couples and more often than not our WhatsApp/telegram groups are taking the piss with the odd cheeky meme thrown in. Same goes for meeting in person, it’s just like going out with vanilla mates that may or may not naturally lead to play. We struggle with overly thirsty people x

Mr

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "
think you've come to the end of your swinging journey to be honest....... It was great while it lasted....... Bon voyage, bien venue, auf weidersein, caio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

I can handle a little sex talk and love a flirt, but from who we've chatted to couple wise it's not a little it's constant, I just want to reply f-off I'm trying to work/housework/sort kids, I just end up ignoring them. It is always the male half and constant, I mean a little mixed in with normal chat would probably be ok, but it just seems like everything at any moment should revolve around his cock and it's boring plus a huge turn off for me anyway.

It's kinda like if when we met you at the social there was no hi, what's your fab name etc..... you just opened your zip whacked it out and said "what you want to do with this" that's basically how I'm finding fab messages.

Mrs "

If they start with any sex chat at all I won't be meeting them. I always have a social first. I want normal conversation like human beings. If they try to start sex chat at the social I won't be meeting them again.

I probably come across as a massive prude and I really don't care. They will never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hate sex talk on fab. I haven't even met you or even know whether I'm sexually interested in you and you go off on this magical fantasy world what you want to do in bed with me! To me it's illogical. I don't mind people saying I enjoy BDSM, talking about it briefly as it's a genre. But to go into graphic detail straight away is too much. The irony of it, once I find someone I like and actually fucked, I love phone and video sex. Just annoying some people jump to 10th base without even consulting me first about it! Lol "

Same !

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

I can handle a little sex talk and love a flirt, but from who we've chatted to couple wise it's not a little it's constant, I just want to reply f-off I'm trying to work/housework/sort kids, I just end up ignoring them. It is always the male half and constant, I mean a little mixed in with normal chat would probably be ok, but it just seems like everything at any moment should revolve around his cock and it's boring plus a huge turn off for me anyway.

It's kinda like if when we met you at the social there was no hi, what's your fab name etc..... you just opened your zip whacked it out and said "what you want to do with this" that's basically how I'm finding fab messages.

Mrs

Some want that. Some don’t and want something more towards the social side (like you). Its just time.

If you want instant hookup and instant gratification, it doesn’t take long to find it.

If you want something more, it takes a little longer get.

It’s the same for singles too. "

I could have hook ups and instant gratification 7 days aweek, morning noon and night on fab. Finding anything else is like looking for needle in a haystack. But i still have faith as I met afew wonderful men and made friends from fab .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am exactly the same OP!

I don’t do sex chat (I can’t stand it) it puts me right off. And usually why I don’t end up meeting people, especially couples as it is the male half that starts it.

It’s not just you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same, I hate it!!!

Only time I like it is with a guy I've already had sex with. So that narrows it down drastically!

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By *nsatiablebutfussyCouple
over a year ago

Stoke


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "

We're exactly the same, we don't like to chat too much before hand tbh just a quick one get a general vibe and then meet for a social, too much chat before meeting definitely ruins the "magic" for us

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Omg this could have been written by me !

I hate the chat , it bores me so so much

I don’t find it sexy talking about what we are going to do , what I’m expected to do or what I expect them to do

I have found in my 9 years of being on here very often what they are saying will happen is hyped up more than they deliver lol

I think this is why I prefer the clubs. Don’t talk the talk just come to a club and let’s see if we have that sexual attraction in person

So no , you def aren’t alone I’m with you 100%

"

Totally on the same page with you both, could have written this myself.

Every time I found myself doubting if I belong to this lifestyle, I keep reminding myself it’s all about me, and not what everyone else thinks. There were times I went along but regretted afterwards immensely.

We are definitely built for the swinging world, it’s others that are not built for us x

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Maybe.

My mind is pretty sexy, but it’s not all sex talk. I chat about this and that (mostly that).

But it’s fun when things DO turn sexy, and your in the same mood as who your talking to. The fire starts.

It’s easy to become jaded from Fab, but there still reasons to think this might still be a place for me to meet some good people.

I can handle a little sex talk and love a flirt, but from who we've chatted to couple wise it's not a little it's constant, I just want to reply f-off I'm trying to work/housework/sort kids, I just end up ignoring them. It is always the male half and constant, I mean a little mixed in with normal chat would probably be ok, but it just seems like everything at any moment should revolve around his cock and it's boring plus a huge turn off for me anyway.

It's kinda like if when we met you at the social there was no hi, what's your fab name etc..... you just opened your zip whacked it out and said "what you want to do with this" that's basically how I'm finding fab messages.

Mrs

Some want that. Some don’t and want something more towards the social side (like you). Its just time.

If you want instant hookup and instant gratification, it doesn’t take long to find it.

If you want something more, it takes a little longer get.

It’s the same for singles too. "

Woody's definitely right. It's not just the case with couples.

We mainly meet single guys and can spot in a heartbeat the ones who'll switch from charm, wit and humour in messages to the graphic 'I'd love to....' BS in a matter of minutes. Couples we generally only really engage with in clubs so there's never a situation where we're chatting with one half.

That's the main issue.

On here you'll never know if it's one half of a couple (and which) or both that are actively contributing to messages. If one seems the dominant party when it comes to online contact then that can often indicate how a physical meet will go. At least with singles you know what's written is all down to them.

And it's not always the men. Over the years we've had some pretty cringey messages allegedly from the female half of couples.

I guess the easiest solution is to switch to verbal/video chat as soon as any interest is established or just leave detailed conversations to a F2F social. That way you'll see/hear both parties.

A

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

If I am honest I am pretty crap at “sex talk” on a mail message and couldn’t actually write anything even if I wanted to. I also find that messages that want to “talk dirty” usually don’t lead to a meet so I just like to chat to get a general feeling for them and leave the real talk for real life.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I am exactly the same OP!

I don’t do sex chat (I can’t stand it) it puts me right off. And usually why I don’t end up meeting people, especially couples as it is the male half that starts it.

It’s not just you "

Thanks I'm pleased it's not just me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Omg this could have been written by me !

I hate the chat , it bores me so so much

I don’t find it sexy talking about what we are going to do , what I’m expected to do or what I expect them to do

I have found in my 9 years of being on here very often what they are saying will happen is hyped up more than they deliver lol

I think this is why I prefer the clubs. Don’t talk the talk just come to a club and let’s see if we have that sexual attraction in person

So no , you def aren’t alone I’m with you 100%

Totally on the same page with you both, could have written this myself.

Every time I found myself doubting if I belong to this lifestyle, I keep reminding myself it’s all about me, and not what everyone else thinks. There were times I went along but regretted afterwards immensely.

We are definitely built for the swinging world, it’s others that are not built for us x"

I like the last phrase, maybe I need to be more specific in the profile bio, I have already put no cock pics.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We have had a similar experience. It makes meeting with couples difficult.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Mrs Knights..

not weird at all. We don’t mind some sex chat with well established friends but usually that only happens when we’re about to meet.

When looking for couples, we gravitate toward the ‘normal’ people. After all, we need to be able to talk about something other than sex at some point.

When or if looking for a single guy, if their first or second message has sex talk, we’ll decline.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

To add, a shared or common interest outside of swinging are usually a good start..

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

To be honest it is probably gut feelings and red flag territory.

Shows a complete lack of respect to women...

What would he be like in the bedroom?

Nope, no thank you...

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We don’t do the sex chat, it gives me the ick if people send messages on how they think it will sexually play out, it always reads like a set thing they do or want to do with everyone and anyone, we are more see how the night takes us people then a scripted play out, I can’t say I recall a couple doing this though only guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am exactly the same OP!

I don’t do sex chat (I can’t stand it) it puts me right off. And usually why I don’t end up meeting people, especially couples as it is the male half that starts it.

It’s not just you

Thanks I'm pleased it's not just me "

Well I was pleased it wasn’t just me either

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We find this too! It can be really cringey when a conversation feels like it's been crowbarred onto sex chat when you were previously having a spirited discussion on the best breakfast pastry!

I often think we friendzone ourselves with some couples by our lack of sexy chat

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"I am exactly the same OP!

I don’t do sex chat (I can’t stand it) it puts me right off. And usually why I don’t end up meeting people, especially couples as it is the male half that starts it.

It’s not just you

Thanks I'm pleased it's not just me

Well I was pleased it wasn’t just me either "

Jack, you were definitely an exception to the norm..

Happy Christmas and NYE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am exactly the same OP!

I don’t do sex chat (I can’t stand it) it puts me right off. And usually why I don’t end up meeting people, especially couples as it is the male half that starts it.

It’s not just you

Thanks I'm pleased it's not just me

Well I was pleased it wasn’t just me either

Jack, you were definitely an exception to the norm..

Happy Christmas and NYE. "

Ahh thank you! Happy Christmas to you both and NYE x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I feel you.

So many people put me off with the sex chat. I absolutely hate it, we have not even arranged a social and your asking me about my limits and what i want to do to you or vice versa.

Its just rude and a huge turn off.

Yes it's a sex site but mutual respect is a thing unfortunately it seems to be dial a fuck on here lately

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

To me it's the same issue with rubber and any online dating. Your just speaking to too many people too easily. Without getting their voice and seeing their reactions.

It gets rid of the personal element and feedback that a conversation should have

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By *nicorn97Woman
over a year ago

around the corner

I get this all the time and especially after I’ve told the couple clearly not looking to play with the male half yet they continue to tell me what the he going to do to me or what she wants him to do just show no respect and instant turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs "

Sex talk puts us off completely. We don't mind explaining dynamics or expectations, but once somebody starts with proper sex talk, that's us done and no more replies

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely feeling much better after all the replies, thanks all, I'm relieved to see I'm not the only one

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i hate the sex chat and if 100% puts me off and i end up blocking thers just no need to be graphic via messages and i dont know of any women that do like it ..

porn scripting i gonna do tthis to you and then this zzzzzzzzzzz ...

ive alway found male halfs of some couples the worse (far worse than some singles) and its the reason i /we no longer meet couples via fab and avoid quite a few in clubs ...there are far to many male led couples on fab where the guy half thinks hes the bees knees just because hes part of the couple and its normally couples when the woman has very little imput or interest ... and its worse in clubs some males think they are above any rules and that because they are part of a couple they think they are a rule apon themselves ...

and its amazing how many male halfs of couples want to play alone and with out there partners knowing too ..

but on the positive side the good far outweigh the no so good

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hate it when guys start telling me what they are going to do to me. Usually before I've even agreed to meet them. Not into sex chat in my messages. It's always good to discuss boundaries before meeting, buts that's many messages later. Not just after the first few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same! That's why I realised years ago clubs are more my thing.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Same! That's why I realised years ago clubs are more my thing. "

We're going to our 1st one in Jan, I'm thinking this is my way forward too.

Mrs

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

No, doesn't sound odd to me, OP. I don't chat to many couples as not really what I'm looking for right now, but I completely get where you're coming from.

I love a bit of a flirt, but long descriptive messages of who's going to do what to whom are just a bit dull.

I worry I chat a bit too mundanely and people think I'm not into them, but I'm genuinely just interested in how people are - good lord, I asked a friend how her boiler repairs were going recently! Dickhead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i hate the sex chat and if 100% puts me off and i end up blocking thers just no need to be graphic via messages and i dont know of any women that do like it ..

porn scripting i gonna do tthis to you and then this zzzzzzzzzzz ...

ive alway found male halfs of some couples the worse (far worse than some singles) and its the reason i /we no longer meet couples via fab and avoid quite a few in clubs ...there are far to many male led couples on fab where the guy half thinks hes the bees knees just because hes part of the couple and its normally couples when the woman has very little imput or interest ... and its worse in clubs some males think they are above any rules and that because they are part of a couple they think they are a rule apon themselves ...

and its amazing how many male halfs of couples want to play alone and with out there partners knowing too ..

but on the positive side the good far outweigh the no so good

"

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"No, doesn't sound odd to me, OP. I don't chat to many couples as not really what I'm looking for right now, but I completely get where you're coming from.

I love a bit of a flirt, but long descriptive messages of who's going to do what to whom are just a bit dull.

I worry I chat a bit too mundanely and people think I'm not into them, but I'm genuinely just interested in how people are - good lord, I asked a friend how her boiler repairs were going recently! Dickhead. "

Yeah see a bit of a flirt I love, telling me you want me to do this and this to your cock, nope not so much

Definitely feel better after posting this.

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"So the fab world, I find it super hard chatting to people, especially couples I'm starting to think maybe it's not for me? Or maybe I have too much expectation? But I'm always put off by the male half (sorry) the very few couples we've chatted to once it turns to sex talk (usually by the male half) and what he wants me to do, it's a huge turn off, I'm not interested in seeing his cock or discussing using it! Does that make me a bit strange to be in this lifestyle but so easily put off? We hardly chat to couples anyway due to lack of male photos.

We've met with some lovely women and I find it much easier to have normal conversations with them, but with a couple the cock pics start flowing and that's me out.

Plus sex talk while your trying to wash the pots and deal with the kids just isn't hot!

Am I just not built for the swinging world or are others the same as me?

Mrs

Omg this could have been written by me !

I hate the chat , it bores me so so much

I don’t find it sexy talking about what we are going to do , what I’m expected to do or what I expect them to do

I have found in my 9 years of being on here very often what they are saying will happen is hyped up more than they deliver lol

I think this is why I prefer the clubs. Don’t talk the talk just come to a club and let’s see if we have that sexual attraction in person

So no , you def aren’t alone I’m with you 100%

"

Totally, totally this. Face to face, checking eachother out physically and verbally. 5mins chat tells you whether you’re attracted or not….way better than random messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're definitely not weird nor alone. I may be a single woman on here but I struggle with explicit sex chat too. I find it a turn off especially when I've had a lousy day at work; someone I don't know tells me what I should wear if we were to meet; or, what they will do almost minute by minute.

It's definitely not all men that do this but there are quite a few x

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Similar here - but I'm the male half! Although I don't play with other women, I "run" this account as Char just gets bored and has enough dealing with her single account.

But I get fed up of "couples" where it's just the guy and he's always desperate to start chatting about how naughty we've been. Neither of us get anything from sex chat.

But then I overthink it and start to worry that people see *me* as weird because I run the account, don't play, but also don't want to talk dirty!

(Bry)

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We never sex chat on here or anywhere else it makes us feel ridiculous if I’m honest ..We’ll discuss boundaries etc but I let it know that if their hoping to wank off or get off on any kind of chat their wasting their time with us..

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