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By *teve oneil OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

Why is it such hard work on here for single males...are there really to many fellas on here compared to women!!!...or is it I'm ugly??... Some messages never get answered....would like some advice ...Thanku x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Hi Steve, you're not ugly and your profile sounds ok but unfortunately it is very difficult for single males because they are very much in the majority. Only being able to meet in the day time might be a bit of a problem for a lot of people too.

Good luck hope you are successful soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it fine, even tho i havnt got a pic up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience my friend.

Join the debates in the chatrooms, forums etc etc and you'll get yourself noticed.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

there are quite a lot of good adult clubs in your area that will be worth you visiting and getting to know people

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By *teve oneil OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

Ok thx

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if I may make a suggestion

I would take the bit off about there being some not so great guys and you are not one of them... too often people recognise others weaknesses to elevate themselves and you don't need to.

good luck and I hope your luck improves... all the best

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By *teve oneil OP   Man
over a year ago

manchester

Thx for the advice...may do that.

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By *exyLancs2Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Ditto the point re other males. How do you know who is and isn't an arse-hole?

You need more pics and the usual camera/phone flash obscuring your face on the solitary pic you have is poor. It's also out of focus. You spelled discretion incorrectly too.

Could do with more profile test too.

Yes it is hard for single guys but the 'numbers' on here probably reflects the attitudes and preferences to sex that Mother Nature has bestowed upon men and women in the human race. Years of evolution make men want to spread seed, without complication or consequence and women far less inclined to do so. There are, of course, exceptions.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

HI, echoing above comments, your profile is good ( apart from the arsehole bit) and pics are fine.

Just be patient and enjoy, some things are worth waiting for.

Good luck and stay safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daytime meets only?

Really, you don't get any nights off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lad" Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its difficult for me cuz its just really slim pickings in my neck of the woods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sure u will get there it's the same for me but maybe after Xmas things will change

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Hi Steve, you're not ugly and your profile sounds ok but unfortunately it is very difficult for single males because they are very much in the majority. Only being able to meet in the day time might be a bit of a problem for a lot of people too.

Good luck hope you are successful soon."

Thanks!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Why is it such hard work on here for single males...are there really to many fellas on here compared to women!!!...or is it I'm ugly??... Some messages never get answered....would like some advice ...Thanku x"

yes it is hard work...

you get out what you put in...

and that sometimes means showing that you are different to other people... giving people a reason to pick you as opposed to some else out there...

a lot of those guys will have gone down the social route.... just chatting to people at the various socials across the country does open a lot of avenues that just a profile doesn't do...

a lot of people will have gone to clubs, and again shown they are different (not the silent, say boo to a goose approach) and again, it opens up different avenues...

so say to yourself... what have you done to stand out? the site does give you the tools to make it work.... it is about how many or how little you use those pieces...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi Steve, you're not ugly and your profile sounds ok but unfortunately it is very difficult for single males because they are very much in the majority. Only being able to meet in the day time might be a bit of a problem for a lot of people too.

Good luck hope you are successful soon.

Thanks! "

Laughs and walks away shaking head, incorrigible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as a single guy you have to make the effort as _abio says by visiting clubs socials and get chatting to people you meet great sexy people and it opens lots of doors for party invites and so forth so get out there and mingle what's the worst rejection you can get "No thanks" good luck lee

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By *esmond70Man
over a year ago

tavistock

it is hard work for men just be polite i dont get much luk eithere cos im not a looker lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daytime meets only with no chance of an evening meet due to working just screams married to me and would instantly put me off, sorry if I am incorrect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is unintentionally good for couples and single women, Not single males .

If you are a genuine single male, it's even harder.

Like Lotto: if you do not play, you will not win. So, keep at it buddy .

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By *its The Spot AlotMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Yes i would agree there it's slowish down here in southwest but would rather have quality over quantity.

Just relax and have fun if a meet cums along have great sex the word will get around

Recommendation helps among the ladies

if you get stuck ask to share a "Fat Penguin" over a coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

steve...

i offer to meet day or night and i accom too and generally it makes no difference. i'm 100% single to. the mind boggles tbh.. hang in there and be petient. it will happen. and iff not be like most on here and be a pic collector

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it doesn't matter in the slightest what you do, you will never win. If someone wants to meet they will contact you, sending endless messages is pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it doesn't matter in the slightest what you do, you will never win. If someone wants to meet they will contact you, sending endless messages is pointless."

exactly my point ..... well put.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"it doesn't matter in the slightest what you do, you will never win. If someone wants to meet they will contact you, sending endless messages is pointless."

the only thing that matters is: your profile crafted by you, representing you and one that sells you to others who are looking for what you offer.

other than that.... all the reworking to try and please everyone usually achieves little.

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By *obertjMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

it is hard work, I have been stood up 5 times in 2013... but had a dozen fucktastic meets, and also met some nice ladies socially and we decided not to take things further

just stick at it !!!! it does work for blokes, and especailly with married women who are genuinely looking

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"it is hard work, I have been stood up 5 times in 2013..."

Have you been borrowing funky and viccis time machine?

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By *obertjMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

oops sorry, I ain't Dr Who, meant 2012... you are sharp-eyed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not dr who are you ? Would love to know how many times I am gonna be let down in 2013

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By *preadeagleCouple
over a year ago

hull

To be honest as a couple we have just changed our emails so we can receive them from single blokes but im finding them annoying already i try to always reply even if its a no thanx.But im sure some of them think this is a full time hobby and i should answer asap and other are just downright over bearing and pushy but i will perserve for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest as a couple we have just changed our emails so we can receive them from single blokes but im finding them annoying already i try to always reply even if its a no thanx.But im sure some of them think this is a full time hobby and i should answer asap and other are just downright over bearing and pushy but i will perserve for now "

I do that sometimes. Usually takes less than 24 hours and I(e had enough and I block them again. Don't feel bad.

Merry xmas. X

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