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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My fuck buddy and I tryed anal sex, its my first so i am inexperianced aswell, it hurt her lots, i used a condom and lots of lube,

i understand it would probably hurt the first few times, but weve tryed it a few times and still hurts, is their anything that can be used or should be done that i we didnt do i.e anal numbing that would help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only been one time when it didn't hurt me so I don't do it full stop

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By *ussexsteveMan
over a year ago

Horsham

try a Vindaloo first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find differe t positiona help me like if its doggy it hurts more on my back it doesnt as much , and warming ur arse up dirst helps fee fingers inside while being licked out gets me really going and relaxed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should just take your time do it slow. Well your profile name says it all. Sometimes that is the reason why it hurts.

Just ease yourself in slowly til your both comfortable, communicate and have a good time.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i find differe t positiona help me like if its doggy it hurts more on my back it doesnt as much , and warming ur arse up dirst helps fee fingers inside while being licked out gets me really going and relaxed x"

so probably best not to start with doggy?

and warm her ass up by licking and fingering?

should you clean/douche before anal?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I find reverse cowgirl the best position for me, you have more control over it

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd strongly recommend not using anything that would numb the area. Not only would it probably defeat the object but pain is natures way of saying stop, there's something wrong.

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

Patience, lube, more lube, communication, being relaxed ( both), perhaps an anal dildo...oh and more lube...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Firstly douche always for cleanliness. Use plenty of lube like Liquid Silk. Durex Play is often too tacky. Use one finger gently and slowly building up to more over a period of time. Perhaps slip in a small dildo or butt plug and play with pussy and clit at the same time. For actual penetration more lube. Ease in slowly and don't just ram in and hammer away. If you want more idea of what it feels like get her to do it to you. Then you will have a better understanding of what works and what causes pain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but is it normal to have pain on anal sex? i guess an ass wasnt made for a dick ramming it :S lol

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

" ramming it :S lol

and therin may lie the problem...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always knock before you go in (if you get my drift) Its a real tender area there,so it has to be a softly softly approach.And ALWAYS talk to your partner to make sure all is ok.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"but is it normal to have pain on anal sex? i guess an ass wasnt made for a dick ramming it :S lol

Ok how about I meet you to test that theory. I'll use lube then ram my largest dildo into you and see if its painful.

If that is how you treat a friend then how in earth do you treat women you've only just met?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

didnt actually mean RAMMING giving her hardcore, i ment i spose an ass wasnt their for sex/use..

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"didnt actually mean RAMMING giving her hardcore, i ment i spose an ass wasnt their for sex/use.."

You've been given a lot of good advice on here. Consider it carefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends on the person if you ask me.

some girls made for it and some arent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well I've done it a few times now sometimes it hurts and other times it doesn't obviously bigger the cock more it hurts, the best anal I had was when he entered me doggy very slowly after using lube, and easing in very slowly then instead of ramming he gently went around in a grinding motion, felt amazing to be honest and only time I've really enjoyed anal, I have tried poppers doesn't do too much I didn't think, but I do like to be rimmed before hand he he

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?"

Maybe try a blow up doll to practice on if you need your partner not to feel what you are evidently intent on doing regardless.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Give her lots of orgasms first to relax her, take it slow and listen to her body. If it hurts them stop, the last thing you want is to damage her isn't it?

I would also say no to numbing her.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?"

I just thought that.

If after lots of lube, building up to it and patience and relaxation it's still painful/making her gag etc then you might have to face it that she can't do it, some people just can't. Concentrate on other things you can do that are pleasurable for both off you. You might find that in a few weeks or months once the pressure is off her to do it then she will relax and it will come naturally.

And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?

Maybe try a blow up doll to practice on if you need your partner not to feel what you are evidently intent on doing regardless."

Try rohypnol , this should cause enough numbness for you to do what you like with her.

I on the other hand like my partner to feel the things we are doing together and most importantly to enjoy them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?

I just thought that.

And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X"

when i say numbing, i was talking about the lube you by from shops like ann summers, for anal sex,, anal lube that slightly numbs the ass..nothing crude that ive made or got from a doctor to numb her ass! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi - it usually hurts if the guy just tries to push his way in - the opening isn't meant to open inwards, and that's what hurts! It's like trying to push a door open the wrong way...

Just push gently at the opening, and then get her to push out, as if she's trying to go to the loo...

Give her full control and go slowly, and she should just slowly open easily and she'll be able to slide back onto your nice firm cock...

Any pain at all and stop! Wait a while and try later.

There's more than one part of the opening, and the inner part is very delicate and sensitive, because it can rip if you just force it to stretch too quickly. Never use anything that numbs the pain - the pain is there for a reason!!!

Just go slowly, give her control, and she'll slowly stretch - then it's a lovely feeling once it's inside you!!!

I love it - just can't say no!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"You seem very keen to numb this poor girl up whether it's her mouth or her as what's the point if she's getting no pleasure from it?

I just thought that.

And numbing her ass is a crazy idea, pain is the bodies way of telling you to ease up! You don't want her tearing! Ouch!! X

Yeah I know what you meant I've seen it in there. I still think that it's a crazy product. If you can get it in there without numbing stuff I think you should give up trying. Lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah im seeing her tonight, think ill let her try 1 thing at a time obviously, she wants to try anal, so perhaps somthing like having some oral sex, getting her horny wet and relaxed, give her some intercourse..obviously not cum because ill be finished :D lol.. and squeeze lots of lube on her ass and let her all most of the work :d

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"yeah im seeing her tonight, think ill let her try 1 thing at a time obviously, she wants to try anal, so perhaps somthing like having some oral sex, getting her horny wet and relaxed, give her some intercourse..obviously not cum because ill be finished :D lol.. and squeeze lots of lube on her ass and let her all most of the work :d"

What a lucky girl.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Sounds delightful...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well what wud u be doing then? u tell me what a plan would be thats nice and a way to try somthing we both want to try

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"well what wud u be doing then? u tell me what a plan would be thats nice and a way to try somthing we both want to try"

try a finger, then 2 and then work up to a smaller dildo, then and only then try your big cock... take your time

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

umm should she douche first? :S

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"umm should she douche first? :S"

what do you think?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"umm should she douche first? :S

what do you think?"

well yes, but i dont no if everybody douches...

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"umm should she douche first? :S

what do you think?

well yes, but i dont no if everybody douches..."

if they consider their partner, yes

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"well what wud u be doing then? u tell me what a plan would be thats nice and a way to try somthing we both want to try"

It's not that. It's just the way you've written it, it just reads funny. 'Give her some intercourse' lol.

I'm sure it's not the case but from the way you type it it seems like you are way more into this than she is, it's hard to communicate what you mean by just typing it out. I sometimes type things and delete them coz it sounds nasty/sarcastic/funny when I don't want it to be x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

sure no way meaning it rude or anything, just genuinly wanting advise i do have trouble making sence, in a clean sensible way rather than it sounding rude or somthig, my bad

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"sure no way meaning it rude or anything, just genuinly wanting advise i do have trouble making sence, in a clean sensible way rather than it sounding rude or somthig, my bad"

softly, gently and slowly. I'd def try a finger or two and maybe a small dildo or something first. But I have met people that literally cannot do it and if you are VWE you just might have to face that you can't x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice realxing all over body massage may also help x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"umm should she douche first? :S"

You've had all this advice on this thread already.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Ask her to lie on her side with her knees bent - it's the position doctors use when doing a rectal exam.

It has the added bonus that you can have eye contact so you can communicate better.

As everyone else has said, lots of lube, the silicon stuff is great, and warm it up with fingers, your tongue if you fancy it and possibly a toy - but use a soft coated toy and be aware that internally it curves/bends so no ramming!

You will have to be rock hard - anal doesn't work if he's a little soft - and go really slowly till you've worked all the way in and let her choose the pace.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone recieving anal should have douched first out of self respect and respect for their partner too.

Also take it easy, use plenty of lube and finger/s first then, when you have the end of your cock in, stay still, let her get used to it and let her continue with any moving.

If that fails........get a guy with a smaller cock to smash her back doors in!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My fuck buddy and I tryed anal sex, its my first so i am inexperianced aswell, it hurt her lots, i used a condom and lots of lube,

u just have to be patient and go really slow at the start,she will mite used to it tho sum girls just dont like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it hurts, then maybe you need more lube, go slower.. little by little, and she needs to relax and open the anus, if you rush her, it'll slam shut and shove you out in the freezin cold, and hurt her!!

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

tell her to take laxatives 24 hrs bfor just in case lol hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say for me it's all about my mind. If I'm in the mood I can take a cock in my arse with a little gentle easing. Yet other times I can't even get a finger in

So sometimes it's not about the physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's at times like this that an Ikea type instruction leaflet may come in useful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A loves it in the spoon position, maybe give that a go?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"try a Vindaloo first

Oh God, lol!!! This made my night!!!

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

I have two words for you - passion and communication!! Take it from guy who understands this and has made women cum from anal sex! My claim to fame, lol...just joking.

As said previously, start with normal sex, get your partner relaxed, maybe give her what she wants - orgasms and be unselfish!!

Then lots of lube, one finger and in my experience not more than one.. Lots of lube and communication, kissing, touching and then the tip of your cock. Don't push suddenly! Should be gradual, lots of lube, and as said before, let her push out like she is in the loo whilst you push gently. It's like a choreography, lol!!and when you finally get in, stay there momentarily and let her move. Use lots of lube and then enjoy. But it should always be gentle, not hard! Remember it's not about you, but her! And if it hurts, stop ASAP.

Hope you both enjoy!

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By *o-jCouple
over a year ago

Outskirts of Notts

"A loves it in the spoon position, maybe give that a go?"

I find thats best for me

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By *ornyyoungwifeCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I love anal makes me very horny and dirty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but im sat here almost wetting myself reading this guys threads and the replies from fellow forumites.

Having spent most of today tidying and getting bits ready for tomorrow ive had a real good giggle.

My only question is ... Is he for real ? xx

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By *riggsboy123Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Be careful though-one wrong move and youre in the shit. Go for it-destroy her farter!

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By *riggsboy123Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Aka her jumpstarter = her jimmy carter = her star and garter.

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By *preadeagleCouple
over a year ago

hull

I like to use a vib to distract the pussy and ease it in lol much more enjoyable

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By *obertjMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

i think anal is over-rated

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Have chuckled at the comments.

My question is... how was it.

Did she get to fuck your ass to see how it felt and did she like having hers done?

Fruit x

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