FabSwingers.com forum: Things people say on posts and messages that are red flags

By *lackMetal OP Man
over a year ago

Centre

What are some of the things that people say on their posts and messages that are red flags and tell you they are toxic?

For me, one of those is “ if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you don’t deserve me at my best”

Why the hell would anyone want to handle you at your worst? It guarantees they won’t be around to see your best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bull

Dom

I'm I'm charge etc

Lick for hours

Reliable

All red flags if we're honest

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

" but we only go bare back" cya

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Negative profiles with a list of dos and donts.

The mr

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Profiles with lots of txt speak , really poor spelling and generally crude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that are basically just a rant and/or list of any grievances they have had with previous meets or people they have messaged.

It mediately sets a very negative tone for anyone reading it and for any header brave enough to message them.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Profiles that are very demanding about do this, don't do that, and often said in 'capital letters shouty' sort of way.

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By *lackMetal OP Man
over a year ago

Centre

"Profiles that are basically just a rant and/or list of any grievances they have had with previous meets or people they have messaged.

It mediately sets a very negative tone for anyone reading it and for any header brave enough to message them. "

Agree.

Not exactly putting their best foot forward, is it? Defeats the purpose of making a good first impression

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I think people are entitled to put what they want on there profiles and shouldn’t be called out for it just because it may not appeal to you. You just move on past

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

'xyz TO THE FRONT OF THE QUEUE'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that are too long some of them go on for pages and pages.

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Trying to get my wife into this

We’re a couple (sent from single guy profile)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trying to get my wife into this

We’re a couple (sent from single guy profile)

Always throw out the red flags

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By *ichard574Man
over a year ago

West of Dfs

Any profile that treats entire groups / sections of society as things to cross off their bucket list. Call me old fashioned, but what ever happened to fancying the PERSON, not their age, skin colour, accent......?

So "Really wanna try it wiv a [insert label]" is a definite stopper for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 23/12/22 09:37:21]

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Any obvious wingnut shit. I’m specifically thinking of the account that only wanted to meet unvaccinated “purebloods”.

They actually used the word “purebloods”.

Hammer that block button, folks.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I want to push your boundaries.

You don't like it? You would if I did it.

Addressing a message just to one of us eg 'hiya gorgeous ' or 'does she swallow'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any profile that treats entire groups / sections of society as things to cross off their bucket list. Call me old fashioned, but what ever happened to fancying the PERSON, not their age, skin colour, accent......?

So "Really wanna try it wiv a [insert label]" is a definite stopper for me.

100% this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh offering money for Greedy...

Had that a few times.

Or just addressing one of us etc

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Ohhh offering money for Greedy...

Had that a few times.

Or just addressing one of us etc

Wow!!! We'd be tempted to report them..

And oh yes, couple's addressing Y only.. Delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ohhh offering money for Greedy...

Had that a few times.

Or just addressing one of us etc

Wow!!! We'd be tempted to report them..

And oh yes, couple's addressing Y only.. Delete "

We do, report and instant block

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

'Hi how are you?" message, fab ever single solo pic of Y and looking for a woman to join us..

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their status always complaining and moaning about the site and people on it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The we should do xyz people. Give me a timeframe location and I’ll whip up a gnatt chart

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature"

For your age!!!

Sorry, had to do it

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

People expressing a dislike for cheese

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By *lackMetal OP Man
over a year ago

Centre

"People expressing a dislike for cheese"

Really?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People expressing a like for cheese

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

Indeed fab pics, especially outdoor, at one with nature

For your age!!!

Sorry, had to do it

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"People expressing a like for cheese

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By *edstockings2Couple
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Couples profile that just have a few photos of the " Mrs" and none of the Mr.

To use it looks like a single man with few pictures of his Ex or off the internet pretending to be a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignorance :

-Arrogance ,

-sense of superiority ,

-red necks

That’s no mercy - No .

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Been here before was successful and came back yet bio blank several weeks or months later or only few lines

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Naming other profiles and slagging them off on status updates.

Moaning that nobody replies and they can't get a meet,usually from shadow profiles.

Can't add pics due to work ,really you can't add anything at all.

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By *lackMetal OP Man
over a year ago

Centre

Conflating black men with the BBC tag used in porn, thereby sexualising all black men in a pornographic sense without their consent whatsoever.

Big big red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

Yes, I get quite a few of those

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

90% of things, but each to their own and all.

If we don’t like it, we don’t chat.

If we really don’t like it, we block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accounts that claim to be a couple yet only have a few candid shots of the mrs who clearly isn't aware they've been taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics or text on profile anything over a couple of weeks old. Shows a distinctly lazy attitude to trying to get laid.

Compounded by replying with ‘well, what would you like to know?’ when told as much

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

-Refer to themselves as a Brat

-Asking strangers to buy them site supporters

Yeah goodbye

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The dom/sub/master/Sir thing does nothing for us.

Lazy boring clichés like if carlsberg did swingers etc ... they do bang average lager. We don't bite unless you want us too, yawn...

The whole ropes making parts of your body red. No

Extreme close up open pussy and cock pics. Yak

Demanding and negative profiles put us off.

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Being given choice of dom or sub... some of us are neither!

Anyone asking for a hung guy... sorry but my cock is not the most important thing.

Lastly bit red flag for me is anyone who mentions hard drugs.. immediate block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'xyz TO THE FRONT OF THE QUEUE' "

Yeah I don’t like that. You get some profiles that are racist too like “no xyz sorry that’s my preference” like common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shy?

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

Not sure about 'Toxic' but I immediately delete messages that refer to:

Taboo

Money

420

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By *arkhorse12345Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hilarious ?? lol.

I have come across plenty such..I will say . Pass on my number to your missus and I will get her into this ??

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By *arkhorse12345Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Lines that give away

- bareback ( block)

- BBC ( narrow minded thinking all black men are same )

- ranting on status and profile

- profile is full of negative stuff about others

- no profile pic still asking for face pic with first message

- cock pic as profile pic even for a couple ( just yuk)

- disrespectful

- desperate

- impolite towards certain race ( I know everyone has sexual preferences, doesn't mean to stage others)

- no humour at all ( not sure I am going to spend an hour in the same room with them )

-arrogance

- how big is your cock ?? as first question..I will send it by post ??

- just chatting ( penpals lol)

- and so on

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Profiles that are too long some of them go on for pages and pages."

Like mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Asking to take communications off-site.

Fab has a perfectly good messaging system.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Copy and paste messages like "hi guys, hi Mrs"

Sex photos and videos

"Here to have fun" I really don't like

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Asking to take communications off-site.

Fab has a perfectly good messaging system. "

Can't phone or video call on fab?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Any indication that they're someone who takes pride in annoying and upsetting other people.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

People who vocally state on forum posts that bareback is the best thing ever and the only way they play, yet have safe sex listed as an interest and tel you in messages they always use precautions.

Yeah....OK.......

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We appreciate messages that say 'you look great'. The ones we don't appreciate have 'for your age' tacked on the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be on here as a couple and we arranged a few gangbangs occasionally.

We used to get replies from men who declared they were "VERY experienced gangbang veterans" but on viewing their profiles they wouldn't even have gangbangs selected as one of their interests.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Not meaning the above, but profiles which say “we used to be on here before but profile got deleted” and the only pic is a dick pic, and they want men to come to their glory hole.

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By *ampire69Man
over a year ago

Birmingham West Midlands

when your based in birmingham or anywhere and you get meet request from london penzance manchester glasgow,do you think i am going to jump on my bike and start pedalling to get to you come on FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot put me off haha not necessarily red flags but for me it's a no.

Bareback forum threads

Bareback pics

Entitled/rude people

Racism selected as a preference

Sex chat . Yes it's a sex site but I don't know you and don't know if I want to have sex with you yet.

Dom, bull, daddy crap. Honestly loads more, it just gives me the ick.

My status are usually ranty lol and my profile is pretty long

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

Ones that demand a "clear face pic" in first message when their profile has no pics at all, rudeness is a big no as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m “sassy”………..cringe

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By *andWnwcplCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

The " hi just the male here" message from couple profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male only playing for a while. Ffs

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Hi!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unhappily married

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By *d_deeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

In the description

" will fill this out later" means can't be bothered

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Lol

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By *lackMetal OP Man
over a year ago

Centre

Messages from people that just says “Hi”.

Thanks for putting your best foot forward, ya lazy ba***rd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab user status: "site is full if timewasters. Are there no genuine people on here?"

Also fab user: Ignores messages, either doesnt read them or reads and ignores.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ones that demand a "clear face pic" in first message when their profile has no pics at all, rudeness is a big no as well. "

Hahahah yes this. "Face pic or no reply" on a profile with no pics. Usually accompanied by a shitty ranty bio that leaves nothing whatsoever to actually make you want to message in the first place.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

Here to dip our toes in

Member for over a year no pics no veris

Just loved all the pics of lily nude

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