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ive read your profile and think im a good match

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset

so you get that message ''ive read your profile and think im a good match'' and you think wow ok then you read the message and think mmm ok this is good then you get to the bottom and theres a face pic and everything floods away ..

the face pic is bearded yet its so clear on my profile that ill not meet bearded men ??

so do you get these messages and what gets conveniently missed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed also though on the opposite side of things.

Some profiles are so negative and have so many exclusions it leaves no one to fit their profile. Lol

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By *ot - CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Yes we get it even although they are 400 miles away, a good match?!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

All the time...so depressing not to get a man I actually want. He seems not to exist on here

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Agreed also though on the opposite side of things.

Some profiles are so negative and have so many exclusions it leaves no one to fit their profile. Lol

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Only afew fit my requirements, I can live with that as only live once, so why waste it with someone you don't really want to be with just for the sake of sex?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You say the chances are high that you won't meet a man with facial hair. Not the chances are zero. This does imply to me at least that if all else matches there's a minimal chance you'll meet someone with a beard.

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset


"You say the chances are high that you won't meet a man with facial hair. Not the chances are zero. This does imply to me at least that if all else matches there's a minimal chance you'll meet someone with a beard. "

thats not the whole line tho is it ?? it states right at the end i simply find it a turn off

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By *ilffadMan
over a year ago

swansea

Beards are optional extras, they can always be shaved off

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset


"Beards are optional extras, they can always be shaved off"

i dont want a guy to shave off his beard just to get a meet ? sounds a little desperate

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Hmmm do I need to put on my profile I don't meet bearded women

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By *orrow my wifeCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I Find a blinkered approach ridiculous. Writing off too many categories.

it's impossible to know who you like until you actually meet though.

Beards can be shaved. Personality is surely mire important?

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By *ilffadMan
over a year ago

swansea


"i dont want a guy to shave off his beard just to get a meet ? sounds a little desperate"

Not at all, if you liked everything else about him and his face, but the beard was a deal breaker, it's not unreasonable to ask. I would shave. There are no perfect matches, life is full of compromise

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset


"Agreed also though on the opposite side of things.

Some profiles are so negative and have so many exclusions it leaves no one to fit their profile. Lol

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thats why i put my donts down so those that cant be bothered dont get in touch and i dont have to keep explaining everything to everyone i answer its there in black n white if that dont appeal to 90% of the site then its done its job ...

bearing in mind most of my meets are from off site

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You say the chances are high that you won't meet a man with facial hair. Not the chances are zero. This does imply to me at least that if all else matches there's a minimal chance you'll meet someone with a beard.

thats not the whole line tho is it ?? it states right at the end i simply find it a turn off "

Yep but you know that if you leave a tiny gap someone will try to squeeze through it

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset


"i dont want a guy to shave off his beard just to get a meet ? sounds a little desperate

Not at all, if you liked everything else about him and his face, but the beard was a deal breaker, it's not unreasonable to ask. I would shave. There are no perfect matches, life is full of compromise"

no way im asking a guy to shave its his life his beard im not going to insult him there are plenty of hot men without beards

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have two things on our profile that we don't do. We get a lot of messages from people who state that both those things are vital. We also get messages from people whose profile states that bi play between the women is very important.

People take a chance.

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset


"You say the chances are high that you won't meet a man with facial hair. Not the chances are zero. This does imply to me at least that if all else matches there's a minimal chance you'll meet someone with a beard.

thats not the whole line tho is it ?? it states right at the end i simply find it a turn off

Yep but you know that if you leave a tiny gap someone will try to squeeze through it"

yep thats true indeed corrected it now no more squeezin its now blunt and to the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things are rarely set in stone though .

Probably half our meets the couple show as wanting m (rather than mm)

We wouldn't have met them if we hadn't tested their real requirements

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I feel your pain regarding bearded men. I think the facial hair must obscure their vision.

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By *iss R. BelleWoman
over a year ago

Farnborough

Yes it get lots of messages from couples saying they love my profile and wanting me to join them for a threesome and my profile clearly says NOT a unicorn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a couple of things listed as must and must not. Doesn't make any difference, they don't read it, even if they do we still get a message from them. Frustrating....

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had many messages and winks off profiles that say no blacks

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Not sure how much clearer our profile could be that we're not looking for private. Meets in our local area but every weekend without fail we will get one or two guys or a couple. Idiot.

Club meets only!!!!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Lately we're getting lots of attention from full swap couples....wish there was a way they could block us from their searches!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had our couples profile on here for several years now and this one for a few months I’ve come to the conclusion it doesn’t matter what you put on your profile.

There will always be those that ignore everything and message.

I sometimes question if they’ve responded to the wrong profile because their message literally contradicts everything on mine

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

When we get that message it usually means it's pasted and and that they haven't read our profile.

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By *piritualSFCMan
over a year ago

london


"so you get that message ''ive read your profile and think im a good match'' and you think wow ok then you read the message and think mmm ok this is good then you get to the bottom and theres a face pic and everything floods away ..

the face pic is bearded yet its so clear on my profile that ill not meet bearded men ??

so do you get these messages and what gets conveniently missed

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Maybe they did not read the profile or could not read it.

I think we are a good match..

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By *oxy j OP   Woman
over a year ago

somerset

guys please keep it to the forums and stop private messaging telling me you think my profile is ok ..i know its ok and i never asked that anyway

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"so you get that message ''ive read your profile and think im a good match'' and you think wow ok then you read the message and think mmm ok this is good then you get to the bottom and theres a face pic and everything floods away ..

the face pic is bearded yet its so clear on my profile that ill not meet bearded men ??

so do you get these messages and what gets conveniently missed

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Daily and it's confusing as we have a small list of criteria. Apparently extremely short men generally can't read either!

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

All the time! My deal breaker is ‘must be tall and well built’, but I still get loads of messages from short guys. They either haven’t read my bio or think 5ft7 is tall

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

I had some "new potential acquaintances" message me in December telling me how I ticked their boxes etc

Naturally, I replied asked nicely to meet on neutral territory such as a club (Quest) as we were all around 5 miles from the venue.

Then I am told that they don't do clubs, followed by a block!

Ironically, the club I'd suggested is rather nice!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You could list the details 2 hundreds of things that you like or not but someone who, based on a very rough and ready analysis may seem a possible match, will still not do it.

I say it a lot -

Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people, despite potentially being almost there.

However well described who and what you're looking for is, someone else cannot know how well they fit the billm

And, with single men here being in proliferation, we still may find that the best, closest fit out of them, even with an abundance of compromises, doesn't actually fit the bill.

Some people are naturally optimistic. Others are just so attracted to someone that they blinker and kid themselves, that it must be a mutual match. They have limited or no evidence that this is the case.

We see daily the stream of somewhat deluded or misguided thinking that goes on for some people. It probably should be no surprise that so many have unrealistic expectations

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