FabSwingers.com forum: Dose anyone read verifications

By *cottish-sin69 OP Man
over a year ago

scotland

Hi guys im curious about something over the last few months ive had amazing meets one after the other after attending a club event and recieved some very flattering verifications, i wonder do people actually take the time to have a wee read or do you just look at the msg and photo and decide swipe left ?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Most veris read as a load of copy and paste smoke blown up someone's arse - honestly everyone is the best shag of someone's life!

We don't put too much stock in them until we get to know people, then we might have a nosey.

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By *ustincider888Man
over a year ago

Preston Ish

I read them now and again if there's a good chance of meeting the person/people and to be honest nobody is going to publish a shit veri anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, its like Google review.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's more than 4 veris showing I don't bother reading them as it's too many for me so we're not compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in.

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By *nicornExplorersCouple
over a year ago

north east

We do sometimes if we are curious if the persons genuine, as we have noticed a spike in fakes and fake veris now, so we check them out.

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Yes, absolutely we do. It's another way of filtering people. Some profiles can look great and then you see a verification from someone which basically suggests they will fuck anyone, which means they are coming nowhere near us.

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By *eecekydawn100Couple
over a year ago

Hedge End

I actfind the verifications a massive turn on when written well

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By *eecekydawn100Couple
over a year ago

Hedge End

I actually find the verifications a massive turn on when written well

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

If I am interested in a particular person joining us I will read up everything I can about them - the veri's are important (to us) as they will give me a mental picture of what 'he' can offer us physically.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Hi guys im curious about something over the last few months ive had amazing meets one after the other after attending a club event and recieved some very flattering verifications, i wonder do people actually take the time to have a wee read or do you just look at the msg and photo and decide swipe left ?"

I always write honest veri, always curious about how my meets see me on paper.

I actually met a guy based on his verifications but I try not to look at the people sending it as sometimes it's really off putting, if I don't really agree of their choice in sexual partners. So just read what they're like as a person and in bed is enough for me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I think as a single guy, you will need them as photos alone doesn't usually give men that edge and confidence for a woman or couple to want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve read some.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Always read them and then fall down a rabbit hole of who they are left by. Gives me an idea of what they're looking for. Don't use it as a final yes or no tool but we find them helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We read just to see that they’re not the “met at a social” sort.

Main thing for us is that they have some verifications by couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take them with a pinch of salt. We all have different experiences with people, so it's irrelevant what others say.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Yes, yes, yes it gives me an j dictation that they are real and not fake. I have a filter on which stops thise with no verifications from messaging me.

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By *urenutsMan
over a year ago

waltham cross/Harrow HA1

I do read them. Dates and how frequently they meet. Some people only meet at clubs some do tell you about the person

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By *reedyKWoman
over a year ago

Fife

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in. "

This

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

So if it is a single lady or couple - will have a look do they know mutual friends

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

"So if it is a single lady or couple - will have a look do they know mutual friends

This is what we do, as well as just reading a few of the most recent ones

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I read them as I'm nosy

I wouldn't base any decision to meet just on verifications though,as they can be very subjective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them and see them as an indication that the person is real. And likely to show up.

I won't meet unverified profiles.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

No I don’t read them as I don’t care about their previous meets , all I look at is the summary number.

as I will always require a video call chat prior to any meet anyway , that’s how I decide if someone is suitable or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate reading veris when u message a nice looking women and shes got a good few veris and she says no to u hut u see all the fat hairy ugky men shes had and think jesus christ i must be ugly so yeah veris are a mega downer sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes ....check who they have sex with ...lol

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By *icebigchopperMan
over a year ago

Hampshire

I read them to get a feel for the person or couple. Also I’m more wary if someone hasn’t met anyone yet, as there are a lot of time wasters on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

of course no one shows a bad veri but they are important to paint a picture of the person you might meet.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Personally we look at verifications and read more into them than "are they real and will they turn up". We also follow the verification trail and so many have fake verifications. OP, you're certainly well verified

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I read them. Not all of them.

But then I’m not playing the numbers and spamming everyone in sight.

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By *f.I.Like.It.I.Do.ItCouple
over a year ago

Keighley

We read them. If we are looking for a guy it’s important to us that they have experience with couple. We wouldn’t message a guy with no couples verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, absolutely we do. It's another way of filtering people. Some profiles can look great and then you see a verification from someone which basically suggests they will fuck anyone, which means they are coming nowhere near us. "

This

I use verifications a filter too.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"If there's more than 4 veris showing I don't bother reading them as it's too many for me so we're not compatible.

Don't understand this point of view.. 4 a week/month/year???

Veris are helpful in our opinion, especially those that give a description of character and humour..

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Verifications for us just show people meet in person and either at clubs, parties, holidays or 121.

Not really interested in content as very doubt someone would post a verification saying they are boring, sexual inept, smelly and ugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I read them and use them to help inform my picture of that person.

Good veri’s mean I’m more likely to message. Bad veri’s often lead to a block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate reading veris when u message a nice looking women and shes got a good few veris and she says no to u hut u see all the fat hairy ugky men shes had and think jesus christ i must be ugly so yeah veris are a mega downer sometimes"

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in. "

We do exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To check they are real, not to read about how hot they are or to treat them with the respect they deserve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you look like Tom Hardy. He's not attractive to me but some women like him.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in.

We do exactly the same."

And me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there's more than 4 veris showing I don't bother reading them as it's too many for me so we're not compatible.

Don't understand this point of view.. 4 a week/month/year???

Veris are helpful in our opinion, especially those that give a description of character and humour.."

4 veris showing - any time scale.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

Easy to say with ur abs and 18 veris pretty sure if u didnt have ur six pack ud have no veris like most of us

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in.

We do exactly the same.

And me "

Yep. Who matters more than what they said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

Easy to say with ur abs and 18 veris pretty sure if u didnt have ur six pack ud have no veris like most of us "

The right attitude is sexy.

A bad attitude is not.

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By *cottish-sin69 OP Man
over a year ago

scotland

Lad im not an drop dead gorgeous guy but i got a few veris and tbh if your photos wherent all cock pic you would prob get more attention with the effort

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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in.

We do exactly the same.

And me

Yep. Who matters more than what they said."

Yes this is what we do as well.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

Easy to say with ur abs and 18 veris pretty sure if u didnt have ur six pack ud have no veris like most of us "

Easy? You think getting and maintaining that body is easy? The effort guys put in to maintain that is not easy. I don’t have a six pack and I don’t compete directly but I can say this much, to suggest it’s easy to say what he said when he clearly works hard to have the body he has is just short sighted. Sammi doesn’t care about abs and toned bodies but some women do and if you’re not willing to put that effort in, you’re not going to get any attention from women who do want that.

Not having a go, just think people forget that side of it.

I went to the gym once and almost cried myself back home lol

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I love reading people's veris. I'm not a fan of the crude ones, but I love seeing if people engage socially before I message them. I love the social side, so it's key to me to see what kinda person you're gonna be meeting and if they're up for a social.

Plus, I can have some awful dad joke, so I need to ensure that they won't just abandon me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

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Easy to say with ur abs and 18 veris pretty sure if u didnt have ur six pack ud have no veris like most of us "

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Honestly I disagree.

If you had a six pack, do you think that would get you meets?

I strongly believe it’s all about your mindset and attitude. It’s not all about looks.

You can look whatever your perceived ideal is. But if they have no personality or a bad attitude, then I can tell you one thing, it won’t go any further…

Nothing is easy btw. Not everyone likes abs or muscles and that is the beauty of life. We all have different perceptions of attraction

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Lad im not an drop dead gorgeous guy but i got a few veris and tbh if your photos wherent all cock pic you would prob get more attention with the effort "

Exactly....sick of people thinking that waving a cyber cock in someone's face will get you laid!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oof.

I haven't even looked at your pictures but I can guarantee it's not just the aesthetics that are putting people off.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

If you look you can often see thinking like.

Some have 20 verification of the just chat.

Red flag

Some people claim to be straight but are verified by TVs and single guys

Red flag

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I absolutely read verifications. Give me an indication of who they meet and what they like. Helps me judge for myself if I should message them.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Please come test your dad jokes on me. Let me know if I need to grow my tummy or reduce it. Lol.

"I love reading people's veris. I'm not a fan of the crude ones, but I love seeing if people engage socially before I message them. I love the social side, so it's key to me to see what kinda person you're gonna be meeting and if they're up for a social.

Plus, I can have some awful dad joke, so I need to ensure that they won't just abandon me. "

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By *otBrunetteHimCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Yes for a few reasons, to check if it can prove they are who they say they. It shows their level of respect towards someone the way they talk about them, especially if it’s overly vulgar

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By *uxuriantCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall

Yes. They’re vital for us in choosing someone new to play with. So far they’ve not let us down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they help me decide if I want to meet that person or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously?

In the world of swinging it’s not ideal to have that mindset.

Those men were obviously her type and you weren’t, as simple as that.

Don’t compare and put others down.

Easy to say with ur abs and 18 veris pretty sure if u didnt have ur six pack ud have no veris like most of us

Not having a go, just think people forget that side of it.

I went to the gym once and almost cried myself back home lol"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet.

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By *LUFFER200Man
over a year ago

North Devon

I put a lot of trust in veris to the point where I have even checked out couples by asking their verifier how things really went (most people are too polite to leave bad reviews). Usually I apply this when I know the verifier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No .. more interested in the conversation

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Don’t think so being honest

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

"Please come test your dad jokes on me. Let me know if I need to grow my tummy or reduce it. Lol.

Plus, I can have some awful dad joke, so I need to ensure that they won't just abandon me. "

Its all about personality for me. Body shape can change at any time.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet."

You just wouldn't show one, right? Lol

I read in between the lines with verifications too. But what I want to know is if they're reliable and a gentleman in and out of the bed

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Please come test your dad jokes on me. Let me know if I need to grow my tummy or reduce it. Lol.

Plus, I can have some awful dad joke, so I need to ensure that they won't just abandon me.

Its all about personality for me. Body shape can change at any time. "

Yes I was seeing a guy for years. We didn't see eachother for 1 year and then I found out he put on nearly 2 stones since I first met him. Looked so different and yes, I didn't like the sex anymore

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I didn't meet anyone for ages and just did webcamming with fabbers, some people asked do I actually meet people as I didn't have a meet verification. I said I would if I found the right person, plus we been in lockdown and had a pandemic for 2 years lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet."

I don’t think people would verify each other, after a meet that didn’t go too well

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

We do.

We ask ppl we met to leave a honest veri for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet.

I don’t think people would verify each other, after a meet that didn’t go too well"

Exactly! Hence why I don't like to see any showing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet.

I don’t think people would verify each other, after a meet that didn’t go too well

Exactly! Hence why I don't like to see any showing.

I get that…

I think really it’s just to say yes he’s the man in the photos and he turned up to meet us…

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We do but tend to take them with a rather large pinch of salt!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I read some of them. But I don't take what is said as a guide to what the person is like. I've found one person's perfect meet can be anothers disaster meet. Or when getting the odd abusive message on here the veris tell me the person is so lovely and a gent. So ye veris are taken with a pinch of salt as far as I'm concerned.

I do look more at who has veried them and of they are people I know to be involved in background shit stirring on here I'll avoid them as no meet is worth the drama they can bring after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet.

I don’t think people would verify each other, after a meet that didn’t go too well

Exactly! Hence why I don't like to see any showing.

I get that…

I think really it’s just to say yes he’s the man in the photos and he turned up to meet us…

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By *indful indulgenceMan
over a year ago

Wymondham

"We read them and also we look to see who sent them so we can work out if we'd be someone they maybe interested in. "

this is what I do. Which can lead to finding someone different

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I think it helps guys get noticed more if they have a continuation of veris.

We look at veris received and also veris given and how they write them. If it’s just porn and graphic then we know that’s not our style.

Veris are often more revealing than a profile.

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By *indful indulgenceMan
over a year ago

Wymondham

"Yes, it shows they are more likely to be genuine and gives an idea of the people.

Having said that I have never seen a bad verification yet.

I don’t think people would verify each other, after a meet that didn’t go too well"

I've verified people when there hasn't been that click from a social. it's still good to say they're a genuine fabber and turn up.. or am the only one who does that?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You know people read forum posts as well as messages and verifications, right?

For us a fee visible verifications is all we need to see. It's not an accurate record of each and every shag someone's had via the site. It's not a definitive number count of previous partners.

It's just basic feedback to show they turned up or that they met someone in a club, or a coffee shop, or elsewhere and didn't cause the other party to run for the hills, call the police or jump out of a twentieth floor window.

You can keep your 'she sucked like a dyson' and 'he has a magnificent ,huge, throbbing member' remarks. Keep that shit private. But a few lines saying someone was pleasant company goes a long way when deciding whether to make contact.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We read them, yes.

We don’t read to far into them but it reassures us the profile is genuine and gives a hint as to what they’re about.

Most of ours are from the chatrooms to be honest.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I think it helps guys get noticed more if they have a continuation of veris.

We look at veris received and also veris given and how they write them. If it’s just porn and graphic then we know that’s not our style.

Veris are often more revealing than a profile.

Very much this

One caveat...some couples want the “total cock slut” thing and at times the veri from a single guy reflects that dynamic, ie “she gagged on my cock yadda yadda”.

But as you say, when checking out a profile and looking at who they have veris from we always go to those profiles and see what was said in return.

People are free to do what they want and there is no right or wrong approach but it does help to filter out people we might not click with.

Personally wish profiles could not hide veris but I get why some may prefer to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely do now. Having got myself into a couple of interesting situations, always on spur of the moment meets, I now do read through verifications. Although to be honest I normally meet at a club or from a social so get a chance to get to know them safely first there instead.

I do have to say I enjoy well written, non graphic veri's as others have said.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Im always honest about my veris but I don’t really go into detail as like don’t kiss and tell

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