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By *cottPillgrim2022 OP   Man
over a year ago

Roscommon

Mainly for the ladies but lads throw in some of your experiences aswell.

What is an ideal opening message that would actually make you want to chat? I dont send unwarranted dick pics or act like an ass if I don't get a reply. But I honestly don't know if my opening messages are crap or just plain boring ha.

Post up what makes you engage with another profile of their opening message

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

It may not be your messages, if I get one with no profile pic I don't reply.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As i am new to the site i to need some advice. Love to know what " make your message interesting " means

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Thought this was a thread about aliens, damn!

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make one of your pics your profile pic. As many automatically filter or delete messages from sillouettes.

Read the profiles, check you match the "looking for" part.

Better to send 2 or 3 tailored messages than a whole bunch of "Are you ready for Christmas" messages.

It is a numbers game too... Men massively outnumber women here.

So even if you are sending a nice message, it may be drowned out by 50 others.

Search the forums, you may find in the discussions that you have a common interest with someone. Then message politely about that.

Good luck

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Be yourself, everyone is taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at pics and read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Need help from the ladies, but anyone advice is wellcome.What is for you an " interesting message "? Or make your " message stand out from the crowd "? I read all the profiles that mor or less match mine. Message a few ladies and couple but no response. HELP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to the point, whip out that penis and ask to meet now.. guranteed winner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight to the point, whip out that penis and ask to meet now.. guranteed winner."

I think that is being pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A silhouette profile and two rather random public pictures that look quite old.

It probably ain’t the messages mate.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"Mainly for the ladies but lads throw in some of your experiences aswell.

What is an ideal opening message that would actually make you want to chat? I dont send unwarranted dick pics or act like an ass if I don't get a reply. But I honestly don't know if my opening messages are crap or just plain boring ha.

Post up what makes you engage with another profile of their opening message "

I've never sent a dick pic, been rude and have only been polite. Nothing really seems to matter. Genuinely think women are just sick of messages due to the ratio of men to women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Take me to your leader'.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh. Good key word in your question there is engage. Make a genuine attempt to engage with the person behind the pictures would be my advice.

Everyone is different. There's no one size fits all. Read profiles, make sure that they are what you're looking for and that you're what they're looking for. Be polite. Remember that every woman on here gets 100+ messages every day and even the best message can sometimes be overlooked or bulk deleted, and that's just something that has to be accepted.

Good luck out there.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Ask them if they cum in peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We look for good clear pics, but not ‘pro’ level pics. Solid veris from genuine profiles, good grammar, signs you’ve read our profile and a clear facepic attached.

Off putting aspects are:

Cock pic next to Sky remote

Using lol every 5 words

Mentioning 420 stuff and ‘sniff’

Baseball caps

Pestering

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