FabSwingers.com forum: Discreet

By *en30216 OP Man
over a year ago

york

Is being discreet wrong

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You mean is cheating wrong and I'm sure you know what many peoples views will be op.

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By *itonthesideWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Its gotten to the point if i read it on a singles profile i don’t even wait for the back story i just block now… seriously seriously depressed at the number of people that seem to think because i have a boyfriend i will help them cheat

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Is being discreet wrong

Just an air of creeping about I don't like. They're not for me if they want a discreet meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of guys on here that pretend to be single

Yet their profile as the word discreet

The divorce courts would be full if there partners found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yea it's not for me. It sounds creepy.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I prefer people who are discreet rather than those who talk about who they met or chat to and sometimes even share their personal information and face pics with others without their consent.

Apart from that I don't read anything more into someone having discreet on their profiles. In saying that I don't believe a lot who say they are discreet actually are anyhow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like discreet people as we don’t want the whole world knowing what we get up to. That’s being said we don’t condone cheating in any capacity and don’t want to be a part of helping someone cheat. AT ALL.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer discreet all day long

Unless I feel like showing off

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Ni, being discreet isn't wrong if you mean keeping your mouth shut rather than boasting to your mates about your sexual conquests.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I come from a kink background, so always used "discreet" to mean "I won't go down the pub and tell all my mates everything we did together."

Wasn't until I joined Fab I discovered that swingers use it as code for cheating.

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By *rSpriteandMsClitBangCouple
over a year ago

hadleigh

I agree, discreet in its usual sense is fine - I don't want to be gossiped about. But discreet meaning cheating turns me off. It's very hard to work out on Fab exactly what someone means by discreet, and I think a lot of times people don't know the swinger colloquialisms. I certainly wouldn't have known when I started out, that asking for discreet fun would have people assuming I was cheating.

It's a minefield!

Ms Clitbang x

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By *iren!Woman
over a year ago

leeds

"I prefer discreet all day long

Unless I feel like showing off

My profile states " discreet".

I am single and not cheating on anyone.

I just prefer my sex life as a dirty little secret

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

Anonymity is hard with my work, a ship with 70 crew so I always come up in proximity search (single cheating guy accounts. Not having a pop at single guys just saying I know these particular guys and they’re all married) , once one crew member knows the ship knows, once the ship knows , the fleet knows. So I’m open about it at work, but discreet at home.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Discreet" and "cannot accommodate" for me scream cheater. My idea of swinging was that it's a lifestyle for couples who enjoy swapping with other couples. Now it appears to be a cheaters paradise overrun by "single" men.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

""Discreet" and "cannot accommodate" for me scream cheater. My idea of swinging was that it's a lifestyle for couples who enjoy swapping with other couples. Now it appears to be a cheaters paradise overrun by "single" men. "

Those are the tells, what’s more despicable is guys using partners pics and couples pics to try and get a meet, no pic veri and all couples pics are clothed and all the male ones are nude. We know a few couples who’ve fallen for it and his partner “got sick at last minute” but he’s game to meet ! We’ve also had a couples profile again unverified message to ask us to meet them as a vanilla couple and persuade his wife to be a swinger

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By *layisbetterwithLaughterMan
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I have to admit, I have used the word discreet in messages and had no idea it was swinging 'code'. I assumed it was more about not letting everyone know we are hot wifing or any other swinging activity

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

Discreet or also anyone who says they are "looking for extra" has always ended up being that they are in a relationship where the other half doesn't know....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to admit, I have used the word discreet in messages and had no idea it was swinging 'code'. I assumed it was more about not letting everyone know we are hot wifing or any other swinging activity

so what this means

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By *itonthesideWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I come from a kink background, so always used "discreet" to mean "I won't go down the pub and tell all my mates everything we did together."

Wasn't until I joined Fab I discovered that swingers use it as code for cheating. "

I don’t really think it is swingers using it as code , it wouldn’t bother me on a couples profile.

But over time whats happened is cheating singles have clocked on oh these people want to be discreet , discreet works great for me because i have a partner at home.

When a single guy messages me saying ”exactly what i am looking for , need to be discreet” all the cheater alarm bells ring because if anyone saw him down the pub for a social with me why would they not just assume it was a date?

The whole not discussing your sex life or business with other people i don’t think should need to be mentioned , it really should just be common courtesy

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"I come from a kink background, so always used "discreet" to mean "I won't go down the pub and tell all my mates everything we did together."

Wasn't until I joined Fab I discovered that swingers use it as code for cheating.

I don’t really think it is swingers using it as code , it wouldn’t bother me on a couples profile.

But over time whats happened is cheating singles have clocked on oh these people want to be discreet , discreet works great for me because i have a partner at home.

The whole not discussing your sex life or business with other people i don’t think should need to be mentioned , it really should just be common courtesy "

You would think it would be common courtesy but it is far from it on here with the amount of info shared behind the scenes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We want to be discreet, as in we don't want everyone k owing who we are or this is what we like to do. Hence no face pics public (we have them on friends only and will and do happily send them to potential meets)

But like others, we're wary when it comes to single profiles that say this. 9 out of 10 they probably wouldn't turn up anyway

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

"We like discreet people as we don’t want the whole world knowing what we get up to. That’s being said we don’t condone cheating in any capacity and don’t want to be a part of helping someone cheat. AT ALL.

Mrs"

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

I usually take it that if you feel you need to say you are, then you're probably not.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"Discreet or also anyone who says they are "looking for extra" has always ended up being that they are in a relationship where the other half doesn't know.... "

It did say on the ops profile at the time of this post that he was cheating.

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