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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My wife has one guy she sees now and then, hes a friend of her brothers so she only sees him when she visits her brother which is normally every other month she goes and stays for the weekend, she had a bit of a thing with him before we was married, anyway this has been going on for a few years but they had never actually fucked,they had done everything else but not that, until last night i got a message telling me she had fucked him but she said she wishes she hadnt and regrets it and feels guilty. Is this a normal feeling for a women ?

Hes the first guy to fuck her in 20yrs apart from me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Did she have your consent to sleep with him, it's a little difficult to answer with no context.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes ive always said she could if she wanted too

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Then maybe as it's the 1st time she just feels guilty, it can be normal or it just may not be for her sleeping with others.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then maybe as it's the 1st time she just feels guilty, it can be normal or it just may not be for her sleeping with others.

Mrs "

Sounds about right, is she OK with you doing this?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him"

If it’s ruined what she had with him this sounds like a different feeling than guilt. Unless I’m misunderstanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him

If it’s ruined what she had with him this sounds like a different feeling than guilt. Unless I’m misunderstanding. "

Just reread original post. Apologies. She’s feeling guilty and regrets it (because it’s ruined what they had. ) Prob normal to feel guilt if he’s the first guy after 20 years and though you consented you were not there. Maybe that will pass. What feeling makes her regret it more though, the guilt or she thinks it’s ruined it for them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him"

They've been fooling around for years but never had sex. Sounds like one of them is a shit shag.

If she doesn't want to fuck him again don't pressure her into it.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I would say everyone's normal is different, especially where feelings are concerned.

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By *94meeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him"

Maybe he was a shit fuck!??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is what i have said that she just feels guilty as its the first time and to try again but she says its ruined what she had with him

Maybe he was a shit fuck!??"

*fist bump*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive not found out the full story yet as to why she feels so guilty as she not home until Monday so might do it again and feel better but she says shes not planning too

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I'd simply wait till she's home

And don't push.. let her tell you at her pace..

Things may come out all on Monday or through the week

Just listen

But ultimately reassure it's changed nothing between you and her

And she can make her own decisions on the mate and you'll support it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, good advice

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sounds like she had feelings for him even if only on a platonic level, if she feels it has ruined their relationship. Perhaps playing with a stranger may have been a better idea for her as there would be no ‘friendship’ to ruin?

You say they’ve played before but not fucked. How did she feel then? Would she not feel guilty if just giving oral?

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