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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahh dude

rules of play i guess...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Not in real life or as a fetish.

I am very much turned on by my other halves adventures with others. Yet also a little jealous. Not jealous of her enjoying herself with others more jealous of missing out if that makes sense. But for me what's hot is I know and its consensual. The freedom and sharing everything together is hot for me. The opposite would be true for me if I thought she was cheating.

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By *ob.SkyeMan
over a year ago

Wisbech

Yeah man. I like the idea of married women cheating. I’m currently banging a married woman. It’s hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do guys like it? Yes they do.

Do I agree with it? Lying, ruining someone's life just so you can get off? Nah not really.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?"

Quite the contrary. Happy to hear from all perspectives as I try to understand myself, and why I am wired this way. Also wondering why, despite the emotional impacts, it turns me on (the thought of me cheating does jot turn me on though, being cheated on is the kink, as well as being turned on by unfaithful women cheating on their partners with me).

I absolutely understand the gravity of the emotional impacts. Which is kinda why I am questioning it and putting it out there to talk about.

Reasons for cheating are a whole other conversation.

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By *arried BifemWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the midlands

I’m 100% about the married me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do guys like it? Yes they do.

Do I agree with it? Lying, ruining someone's life just so you can get off? Nah not really.

"

Its not about ruining a life to get me off. The idea is to not get caught really. Though at that poi t one must consider the reason she is cheating. (Or he, in the case of a guy playing away). But thats a whole other conversation.

I know that some women like it too, either actively seeking married men for sex or being married themselves and wanting to fuck other men. So its not just guys.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?"

Yeah this. There are a lot of things in life where the roleplay/fantasy aspect can be hot, sure, but is an entirely different beast when compared to the reality of such scenarios. Cheating being one of them. I'm of a mind where, as long as we're all consenting adults, fair game, go nuts, whatever floats your boat. But once you have someone who isn't consenting to the game, the absolute hurt and devastation being inflicted is just, well... immoral, unethical, wrong. My two cents.

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

I'm turned on by women cheating but then I find secrecy a turn on.

Iv cheated before and I'm sure i will again.

I used to be on here a few years ago but my wife found out. We got thru it and I left but then I returned during Covid just to perv on pics. Had 2 or 3 different acounts lasting 1 or 2 days.

But this last time i came back for 24hrs and perved on local women then found one with the same unique tattoos as my wife and with veris..

I felt betrayed and hurt which is crazy as I did the same to her. But although I hate the lies it turns me on.

I know I should talk to her and we wld probably have a much healthier relationship if we shared and were open with letting each other play away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm turned on by women cheating but then I find secrecy a turn on.

Iv cheated before and I'm sure i will again.

I used to be on here a few years ago but my wife found out. We got thru it and I left but then I returned during Covid just to perv on pics. Had 2 or 3 different acounts lasting 1 or 2 days.

But this last time i came back for 24hrs and perved on local women then found one with the same unique tattoos as my wife and with veris..

I felt betrayed and hurt which is crazy as I did the same to her. But although I hate the lies it turns me on.

I know I should talk to her and we wld probably have a much healthier relationship if we shared and were open with letting each other play away"

You found your wife on here? Thats interesting. Does knowing your wife has fucked others turn you on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to be best mates with a girl that deliberately went for married/taken guys. It was a power thing for her. Doing it to guys that just got engaged, just got married or who's wives had just had a baby. She got off on it.

Knowing they would risk it all for sex with her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Humans are complicated creatures.

All I would say is that if other people are potentially hurt by your actions you need to ask yourself if it's worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Humans are complicated creatures.

All I would say is that if other people are potentially hurt by your actions you need to ask yourself if it's worth it"

Oh absolutely. The definition of addiction is when your compulsions cause harm to others yet you continue, I guess.

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By *isser36Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Definitely turned on by it , a married woman choosing to give herself to you is a honour and a privilege. Knowing what's at stake but still willing to risk it for sex with you? Fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turned on by my ex hubby cheating after 25 years of marriage??? Not in the slightest I was hurt humiliated and found it hard to trust another man

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Definitely turned on by it , a married woman choosing to give herself to you is a honour and a privilege. Knowing what's at stake but still willing to risk it for sex with you? Fantastic. "

An honour and a privilege! That's an interesting take on it. Is it that it makes you feel you're better than her husband?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm turned on by it. For me it's a power thing, knowing that some boring old sexless wifey is at home, doing the hoovering or whatever while a much younger model is doing things to please her hubby that she'd never do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?"

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I had a 9 month relationship from a guy I met from here. He told me he’d been separated for 3 yrs , blah blah. He moved in changed all his ID docs did change of address, change of GP everything . Then out of the blue I had a phone call from a woman , we need to talk about bleep bleep, turned out it was his wife !!

The absolute torment and damage that man caused is irreparable I will never never trust anyone again . He totally devastated me and his wife . The lies that man told were absolutely incredible , even telling me he had cancer .

An absolute arsehole. Cheating is just pure and simple selfish, disrespectful behaviour !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm turned on by it. For me it's a power thing, knowing that some boring old sexless wifey is at home, doing the hoovering or whatever while a much younger model is doing things to please her hubby that she'd never do.

"

One day you could be that boring old woman sat at home while you Hubby/partner is out shagging about

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'm turned on by it. For me it's a power thing, knowing that some boring old sexless wifey is at home, doing the hoovering or whatever while a much younger model is doing things to please her hubby that she'd never do.

"

Lol that's what they tell you

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

couldnt care less what others do i look after me and my life im not here to judge how others live there's ... im here to have sex with others and swing if others are doing ''so called wrong'' then thats there drama not mine..

the only way you can 100% be sure your not meeting married people is not to swing its that simple because if you are swinging you are meeting married but you just dont know it .... there are alot more married but single on this site and others and the scene than people realise ... at local swing clubs seen plenty of married men and women playing without the other halfs knowing

i never see the question being asked in clubs or dogging and in truth its only a thing thats been asked in the last 10 ish years because before that i never seen the question being asked anywhere on older sites or old chat groups ..

also from a womans point of view alot of women {NOT SAYING ALL) prefer the guy being married as its so much less hassle

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this. "

My friend, you're a cuck.

If your partner sleeping with someone else turns you on - you're a cuck.

If you know about your partner having sex with someone else and it turns you on - it's not cheating either.

It's a mutual agreement on each others wants and limits.

Cheating is when you betray your partner and lie to them while disregarding the fact that if they would find out - it would completely break their world apart and they would never be able to trust another human being.

I will never in my life be able to respect or not judge a cheater.

They make my blood boil and I choose to stay as far away from them as I can.

Missus

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"I'm turned on by it. For me it's a power thing, knowing that some boring old sexless wifey is at home, doing the hoovering or whatever while a much younger model is doing things to please her hubby that she'd never do.

"

Ew

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning "

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on. "

Now that's not nice ....

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By *weetiepie99Woman
over a year ago

cardiff


"I'm turned on by it. For me it's a power thing, knowing that some boring old sexless wifey is at home, doing the hoovering or whatever while a much younger model is doing things to please her hubby that she'd never do.

Lol that's what they tell you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on. "

In that case you must be ugly because you got cheated on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this.

My friend, you're a cuck.

If your partner sleeping with someone else turns you on - you're a cuck.

If you know about your partner having sex with someone else and it turns you on - it's not cheating either.

It's a mutual agreement on each others wants and limits.

Cheating is when you betray your partner and lie to them while disregarding the fact that if they would find out - it would completely break their world apart and they would never be able to trust another human being.

I will never in my life be able to respect or not judge a cheater.

They make my blood boil and I choose to stay as far away from them as I can.

Missus "

Label it as you like. It is not the cuck aspect that turns me on, thought I was pretty clear on that. Interesting you called me friend and then tell me I make.your blood boil though.

What is it about cheating that gets people so angry I wonder? For me, I dont for one second presume to have ownership over a partners body. I am not entitled to sex with her, her body her choice. She could deny me forever. So why would that then extend to me being able to have a say in who they do fuck? Its an interesting thing, within a relationship people so often default to the assumption of ownership over anothers body. Yes yes we say its a out the honesty and integrity but if they then said "I am sick of having no sex, its been years, we tried.sex therapy and couples therapy and you still dont want to have sex with me, so I am going to have sex with someone else." it would be game over anyway. Really curious about what it is that makes us tick with this one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

Now that's not nice ...."

I was clearly being sarcastic and calling out a stupid thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask a genuine question to those (probably not many) this has happened to.

Is it different if they cheat with a member of the same sex - ie : your wife / gf has a lesbian affair or you hubby / bf has a gay affair.

Just curious as to whether that changes the thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

In that case you must be ugly because you got cheated on "

Not gonna argue with you on that point, I am not all that handsome. But I thought it was very clear sarcasm calling out a stupid thing to say. Should have been clearer.

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By *mateur100Man
over a year ago

nr faversham

It makes no difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I ask a genuine question to those (probably not many) this has happened to.

Is it different if they cheat with a member of the same sex - ie : your wife / gf has a lesbian affair or you hubby / bf has a gay affair.

Just curious as to whether that changes the thoughts ?"

Well for me I think it would have been harder if he had cheated with a man

I'd feel as if our whole marriage was a lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

In that case you must be ugly because you got cheated on

Not gonna argue with you on that point, I am not all that handsome. But I thought it was very clear sarcasm calling out a stupid thing to say. Should have been clearer. "

In that case I apologise for my comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

In that case you must be ugly because you got cheated on

Not gonna argue with you on that point, I am not all that handsome. But I thought it was very clear sarcasm calling out a stupid thing to say. Should have been clearer.

In that case I apologise for my comment"

You dont need to apologise. You are right on the money, haha! But my comment should have had an eye roll after it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?

Was your ex blind because you are stunning

Yeah good point. Only ugly people should get cheated on.

In that case you must be ugly because you got cheated on

Not gonna argue with you on that point, I am not all that handsome. But I thought it was very clear sarcasm calling out a stupid thing to say. Should have been clearer.

In that case I apologise for my comment

You dont need to apologise. You are right on the money, haha! But my comment should have had an eye roll after it. "

Yes it should have lol

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"Not in real life or as a fetish.

I am very much turned on by my other halves adventures with others. Yet also a little jealous. Not jealous of her enjoying herself with others more jealous of missing out if that makes sense. But for me what's hot is I know and its consensual. The freedom and sharing everything together is hot for me. The opposite would be true for me if I thought she was cheating."

Fomo

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this.

My friend, you're a cuck.

If your partner sleeping with someone else turns you on - you're a cuck.

If you know about your partner having sex with someone else and it turns you on - it's not cheating either.

It's a mutual agreement on each others wants and limits.

Cheating is when you betray your partner and lie to them while disregarding the fact that if they would find out - it would completely break their world apart and they would never be able to trust another human being.

I will never in my life be able to respect or not judge a cheater.

They make my blood boil and I choose to stay as far away from them as I can.

Missus

Label it as you like. It is not the cuck aspect that turns me on, thought I was pretty clear on that. Interesting you called me friend and then tell me I make.your blood boil though.

What is it about cheating that gets people so angry I wonder? For me, I dont for one second presume to have ownership over a partners body. I am not entitled to sex with her, her body her choice. She could deny me forever. So why would that then extend to me being able to have a say in who they do fuck? Its an interesting thing, within a relationship people so often default to the assumption of ownership over anothers body. Yes yes we say its a out the honesty and integrity but if they then said "I am sick of having no sex, its been years, we tried.sex therapy and couples therapy and you still dont want to have sex with me, so I am going to have sex with someone else." it would be game over anyway. Really curious about what it is that makes us tick with this one. "

Difficult to say why other people get angry, although I suspect it'll be similar for most who are.

When I was younger I was engaged and got cheated on, it changed my world. For years I then cheated on every partner I had until I really broke someone's heart. I realised what I was doing was indefensible, regardless of how it started. You can't honestly say you love someone, then disrespect or dishonour them like that. The well of disgust and revulsion I have for cheats is spectacular.

The volume of people talking openly about cheating on their partners here is amazing, and they all want to be validated. To have their view shared by other equally weak and contemptible people. If you're going to be that evil, that vile to someone you profess to care about, at least don't try to claim to be a victim of circumstance, or badge it as a kink. It isn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this.

My friend, you're a cuck.

If your partner sleeping with someone else turns you on - you're a cuck.

If you know about your partner having sex with someone else and it turns you on - it's not cheating either.

It's a mutual agreement on each others wants and limits.

Cheating is when you betray your partner and lie to them while disregarding the fact that if they would find out - it would completely break their world apart and they would never be able to trust another human being.

I will never in my life be able to respect or not judge a cheater.

They make my blood boil and I choose to stay as far away from them as I can.

Missus

Label it as you like. It is not the cuck aspect that turns me on, thought I was pretty clear on that. Interesting you called me friend and then tell me I make.your blood boil though.

What is it about cheating that gets people so angry I wonder? For me, I dont for one second presume to have ownership over a partners body. I am not entitled to sex with her, her body her choice. She could deny me forever. So why would that then extend to me being able to have a say in who they do fuck? Its an interesting thing, within a relationship people so often default to the assumption of ownership over anothers body. Yes yes we say its a out the honesty and integrity but if they then said "I am sick of having no sex, its been years, we tried.sex therapy and couples therapy and you still dont want to have sex with me, so I am going to have sex with someone else." it would be game over anyway. Really curious about what it is that makes us tick with this one.

Difficult to say why other people get angry, although I suspect it'll be similar for most who are.

When I was younger I was engaged and got cheated on, it changed my world. For years I then cheated on every partner I had until I really broke someone's heart. I realised what I was doing was indefensible, regardless of how it started. You can't honestly say you love someone, then disrespect or dishonour them like that. The well of disgust and revulsion I have for cheats is spectacular.

The volume of people talking openly about cheating on their partners here is amazing, and they all want to be validated. To have their view shared by other equally weak and contemptible people. If you're going to be that evil, that vile to someone you profess to care about, at least don't try to claim to be a victim of circumstance, or badge it as a kink. It isn't. "

Ah. I'm evil and looking for validation. Now I get it.

Nope, thats not it. Firstly I asked why I was turned on by unfaithful women, not turned on by being unfaithful. And I dont recall asking for validation either.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"Obviously this is a swinging site, so we have different ideas on monogamy.

Lots of people are vehemently opposed to people.cheating on a partner. Others dont seem to mind. Some are even turned on by it.

I am in the third camp, I am hugely turned on by unfaithful women, and never judge or question their reasons for being unfaithful, whether they have permission or not to play away.

Do many people get turned on by this taboo? Or is it a minority kink? I am curious as to why I am turned on by this. I remember finding out my ex was cheating and was insanely horny because of it and made a thorough job of "reclaiming" her. Yet I am definitely not a cuck, I do not get off on the humiliation side of it, it is very much an animalistic primal need to "punish" and "reclaim" her. But the unfaithful thing works for me even if it is my partner who is being unfaithful, or if I am having sex with someone being unfaithful.

Curious to hear others takes on this.

My friend, you're a cuck.

If your partner sleeping with someone else turns you on - you're a cuck.

If you know about your partner having sex with someone else and it turns you on - it's not cheating either.

It's a mutual agreement on each others wants and limits.

Cheating is when you betray your partner and lie to them while disregarding the fact that if they would find out - it would completely break their world apart and they would never be able to trust another human being.

I will never in my life be able to respect or not judge a cheater.

They make my blood boil and I choose to stay as far away from them as I can.

Missus

Label it as you like. It is not the cuck aspect that turns me on, thought I was pretty clear on that. Interesting you called me friend and then tell me I make.your blood boil though.

What is it about cheating that gets people so angry I wonder? For me, I dont for one second presume to have ownership over a partners body. I am not entitled to sex with her, her body her choice. She could deny me forever. So why would that then extend to me being able to have a say in who they do fuck? Its an interesting thing, within a relationship people so often default to the assumption of ownership over anothers body. Yes yes we say its a out the honesty and integrity but if they then said "I am sick of having no sex, its been years, we tried.sex therapy and couples therapy and you still dont want to have sex with me, so I am going to have sex with someone else." it would be game over anyway. Really curious about what it is that makes us tick with this one.

Difficult to say why other people get angry, although I suspect it'll be similar for most who are.

When I was younger I was engaged and got cheated on, it changed my world. For years I then cheated on every partner I had until I really broke someone's heart. I realised what I was doing was indefensible, regardless of how it started. You can't honestly say you love someone, then disrespect or dishonour them like that. The well of disgust and revulsion I have for cheats is spectacular.

The volume of people talking openly about cheating on their partners here is amazing, and they all want to be validated. To have their view shared by other equally weak and contemptible people. If you're going to be that evil, that vile to someone you profess to care about, at least don't try to claim to be a victim of circumstance, or badge it as a kink. It isn't.

Ah. I'm evil and looking for validation. Now I get it.

Nope, thats not it. Firstly I asked why I was turned on by unfaithful women, not turned on by being unfaithful. And I dont recall asking for validation either. "

Not specifically you, cheats generally. You asked for others takes on this. You got what you asked for.

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?"

Exactly this. It hurts like hell, not so much the act but the constant lies and deceit that goes with it.

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By *ig rig hullMan
over a year ago

Hull

Loyalty is sooo hard to find nowadays! Most people say this but I can honestly say that I have never cheated whilst in a relationship! Iv been close to cheating but never gone through

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
over a year ago

folkestone


"I’m guessing you only want to hear from those who agree and share your view, but I’m here for balance.

No. I was devastated by my ex partner cheating on me. Being lied to, humiliated and having my trust shattered… and someone else benefits from it and calls it a kink?"

Same here, was in a non fab 16 year relationship, she had a 2 year affair about 6/7 years into it with one of our "friends" (he's married, 2 kids), and

both still secretly chatted to each other in the background the whole time after. At the time I saw recent messages between them, him mocking me, her joining in and then laughing along. Ouch! I'd always wanted and tried for a more exciting, kinkier, fun sex life over the once a fortnight vanilla dullness, it was soul destroying discovering they would go book a room, or go park up somewhere and whatever else, all the things I'd always wanted to do with her and would suggest, only to be knocked back and rejected.

It hit me so hard im pretty sure i had an actual nervous breakdown, having your whole perception of whats your reality/life torn apart is mentally devastating. Those ideas about getting married, starting a family, your future....nope!

I'm very much over her, but still recovering from the damage it all caused.

The lies and backstabbing from the person you trust the most! It's avage! If only there had been honest talk and mutual respect, Id have been open to joining in and make it a thing rather than such betrayal....I've forgotten what the question was and why I'm having this rant, but yeah, that's the shortened version.

Be good to each other everyone, be honest, be respectful, don't be a c*nt

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um. I like my partners to have other partners. But I don't like anyone to be unfaithful, which is the phrasing of your question.

I don't fuck with Cheaters, but I'll fuck one of my partners with his wife's full consent, and the consent of my other partner, who has my full and enthusiastic consent to see other people too. I would want any of it to be unfaithful or behind anyone's back.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Um. I like my partners to have other partners. But I don't like anyone to be unfaithful, which is the phrasing of your question.

I don't fuck with Cheaters, but I'll fuck one of my partners with his wife's full consent, and the consent of my other partner, who has my full and enthusiastic consent to see other people too. I would want any of it to be unfaithful or behind anyone's back."

This. It’s the deception and lies that causes distress.

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By *owestoft ManMan
over a year ago

Lowestoft

My Ex was cheating on me and me on her lol since before we even got married. I knew she was a slut and she knew I enjoyed other females. Married females cheating is a big turn on for me.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

surprise surprise swingers cheat too i know many cswinging couples who have split due toone of them cheating ... and ive had many messages from couples profiles saying they would love to meet but dont want thje other half knowing real couples too who ive met in clubs ..

im here for me and hubs im not here to judge others on how they live their lives i dont know them and i dont know why they are like they are but also because people lie so if you a swinger who wont meet married but cheating then sorry but you more than likely already have..

not sure taboo is the right word either ???

#justmyopinion

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By *andC1000Couple
over a year ago

Ashford


"Um. I like my partners to have other partners. But I don't like anyone to be unfaithful, which is the phrasing of your question.

I don't fuck with Cheaters, but I'll fuck one of my partners with his wife's full consent, and the consent of my other partner, who has my full and enthusiastic consent to see other people too. I would want any of it to be unfaithful or behind anyone's back."

The main thing here is the consent. With consent it’s perfectly acceptable if that’s the dynamics of the relationship.

When one partner still playing away secretly it’s so hurtful and deceitful to someone they supposedly love but the only ones they are thinking about is themselves. They have no care for the risks involved mentally or physically for the ones they hurt especially those so called straight men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jackie cheated a couple of times and as heart wrenching as it can be, I was so hard and wanked so much. Strange contradiction of emotions

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